maggerson

Hey, anyone considering a Madtown meetup?

Oh, you lovely beautiful people, I missed you all! I'm sorry I haven't been following the thread. Somewhere in the site update my email notifications disappeared, and that combined with a half ton of personal crap to deal with led to me accidentally ignoring NF. But don't fear, I'm BACK! It warms the cockles of my heart to see this thread has continued and is still super-welcoming and a safe space for everyone, thanks you guys.

Hey y'all, quick check-in: did everyone survive the apocalypse, or at least the huge-normous snow storm that happened? Further, does anyone have anything they want to talk about concerning holiday plans and/or family? I'm personally not looking forward to another round of questions from the Catholic grandma, coupled with the awkward permission-giving my parents like to do about coming out to her. Hope you're all enjoying the holiday time!

I'm way glad you didn't say "GBLT" because then I would be super hungry. Anyway, for me, my fitness goals aren't really influenced or affected by my sexual orientation, but I do often get the, "Oh, you're a lesbian and a powerlifter? Of course you are!" kind of conversations that honestly rub me the wrong way. I didn't pick weightlifting or being fit because I'm gay, and it really rubs me the wrong way when that's the assumption that seems to get made. I mean, it just sucks when the only response to the sports or fitness activities I've been involved with (soccer, rugby, and weightlifting) are all apparently extra-super-stereotypical. This is actually a really interesting question; I'm curious to see what other people's responses are. Big welcome to our new subscriber allies! You're all wonderful and thank you!

GUYS! This has been a woot-y week at the gym for me. I maxed at 125 on my bench press, and at 200 lbs on my deadlift! AND I LOST FOUR POUNDS I mean really. I feel awesome and I hope everyone else does too!

This is a supremely motivational woot! I'm glad you're not in danger of drowning in your own mucus anymore! Woot!

Quick (kind of late) reminder, today is the Transgender Day of Remembrance. Here's a bunch of things happening all over everywhere

Possibly the best thing ever said? I think the biggest push to come out is honesty. For me, it was a chance to not have to play the pronoun game about dates, or to not have to flat-out lie about what club I wanted to go to. The little things, you know, that come into play in conversation, about boyfriends and girlfriends, kind of got to be too much to keep being untruthful about, so I came out. And then I had to do it all over again because I moved to a different state for college. FUN!

First of all, congrats on your marriage - that's a long time to be committed to anyone, so well done! Second, you are absolutely totally welcome and I hope the rest of the folks on this thread will accept you as well. I don't know how well I can answer questions or give advice, but there's probably someone who knows someone that could help if you ever need anything. Welcome!

Man, my mom conveniently forgets that I am not living in her house, and then assumes I know things like when my grandmother falls or bad things have happened. High five for mommy issues? As cliche as this is going to sound, I'm getting the sense that it's not only her self-preserving denial factoring into this sort of thing, but it's her own odd way of looking out for you. I could be off-base there, but it doesn't sound like your mom is a terrible person, so that leaves the whole "she's doing the best she knows how" thing there. Side note - welcome to you, new people! Dear CaraStarbuck, your username is TOTALLY BOSS.

I dated a lady awhile ago whose mom did the SAME thing. That's not really relevant to much of anything, it just reminded me of that. I guess that means you're not alone in this sort of thing, which is good and bad at the same time. Anyway, I think if you and your mom are on good terms and you don't see yourself having to introduce a female companion at any point in the near future... Leave it be? It's not like you can really do much to actually make her accept what you're telling her - that part has to come from her and nobody else. I would save yourself the trouble of going through that again, while still making as many comments about attractive women as possible.

Ooooooh the Princeton Club! SHINY! Maybe we could just meet up and pretend to be gym buddies that way?

Man, I know EXACTLY what you mean about that second row of spark plugs. I'm fortunate enough to have a 4-cylinder 2002 Dodge Neon, but my girlfriend drives a '95 Buick Skylark. It's almost physically impossible to get those stupid plugs out. I think next time, just as a car nerd, I would recommend using some E3 plugs - they're glorious and have a killer warranty on them. They're a skoche pricier, but you also don't have to adjust them with the little size wheel. It's one less irritating thing to do on an already irritating project. I second the part about the wires, too - that will also help fuel economy. Oh, and WOOT!

Coming to you from Madison Wisconsin! Seriously though, I have a part-time sidekick and I gotta say, I think we're better off as friends. So I needs me a replacement, someone to keep focused with me through workouts and to push me to finish strong. I'm currently working out of Ford's Gym and I freaking love it. Baby steps - is there anyone in the surrounding area? McFarland? Stoughton? Sun Prairie? Middleton? HALP.

I think this, right here, is a really good indication that things are a bit unbalanced. If missing (I use that term loosely) a text upsets him as much as it sounds like it does, that's not a good thing. I think catspaw covered this pretty well - don't stay with him just because you're afraid of making him upset. Think of it this way: he's upset with you at the smallest of things, like not texting him at night. He's upset with you at mid-level things, like unexpected friend hangouts. Believe me when I say I understand not wanting to break up with someone. The queer dating pool, pretty much universally, is rather small, and that sucks and it's unfair. What's suckier and more unfair is that you're being forced to choose between your happiness and his, even though it seems like he's not really into being happy with you. I would really take a good look at the last couple of years. It sounds like you're not to blame for your unhappiness (or his).