Getting Married, Getting in Shape. Is this fairly normal?

[SuperUnison]

Hey! First time back here in a little while. I kinda slipped off the fitness bandwagon a bit, had a super busy year last year with a house move which left me exhausted so my fitness goals tailed off.

 

Anyway, a year on and I'm getting married in August (eek) so I'm trying to get back into shape, I'm about the same weight but I've lost a little muscle mass and definition, the past week been sticking to a plan and my numbers are climbing up again. (Deadlifted 160kg @ 65kg fairly easily on Weds which is only 20kg off my PB) 
Having a timescale to aim for though has given me a lot more motivation.

 

My SO is working hard at the moment, she's training at home rather than the gym doing HITT and she's really seeing results. I'm so pleased she's doing strength training too, she asked me about getting a heavier weights for squats the other day.

 

We're both fairly driven in getting towards our ideal body shape with the wedding as the catalyst- has anyone else found this?

[Silo]

When I was engaged, I was pretty in shape already and I didn't feel the pull to be more so for my wedding. However, that was a very long time ago and I think that I hear about this phenomenon a lot more now. I see "shredding for the wedding" type posts on My Fitness Pal on a weekly basis and I know that many of my friends have done it as well. I never actually paid attention to see if their male counterparts did it though. But I do think that there is a tendency to see one's wedding day as a peak day, so to speak, so wanting to look good for it make sense. Especially since there will likely be photographic evidence of it for years to come. That way when your younger relatives look at your pictures 20 years from now they might laugh at your color scheme and clothes but they'll also be thinking "Whoa, young SuperUnison and Mrs. SuperUnisoon looked good!"

 

Also, I think that wedding planning seems to be pretty stressful for a lot of people. Maybe the extra exercise helps people deal with that.

[SuperUnison]

 But I do think that there is a tendency to see one's wedding day as a peak day, so to speak, so wanting to look good for it make sense. Especially since there will likely be photographic evidence of it for years to come. That way when your younger relatives look at your pictures 20 years from now they might laugh at your color scheme and clothes but they'll also be thinking "Whoa, young SuperUnison and Mrs. SuperUnisoon looked good!"

 

Also, I think that wedding planning seems to be pretty stressful for a lot of people. Maybe the extra exercise helps people deal with that.

 

Completely! Being back training again I feel a lot more able to cope with things strangely. Maybe it's a subconscious confidence thing.

I've not asked Mrs SuperUnison how much she's lost in terms of weight, but her body composition is starting to change, it's really noticeable! I think people who haven't seen her in a bit will think 'woah!' 

[jaex]

Congrats on the pending wedding.  I too am getting married (November) and that also is motivating me to get in my best shape.  

[Frost of the Gloaming]

I got in shape for my wedding; wow almost 11 years ago.

[Raincloak]

A lot of people work to get in shape for their weddings. The trick is maintaining (or continuing to improve) AFTER the wedding. On average, married women are more overweight than single women, whereas men who marry get healthier than those who remain single. evidently men are a bad influence on their partner's health, on average... So don't be average

Anyways. Exercise in appropriate amounts is bound to do your relationship and your selves some good, so by all means, do so. Better yet, commit to doing so in the years ahead. You want to live long and be healthy together, right? And if offspring are in your future, believe me, strength will be especially needed.

I hope your wedding is as lovely as a dream, but it's just one day. What matters more are the 25,000 or so days that follow it. May they all be happy ones.

[Grifball]

As talks with my girlfriend get more serious, I've made it clear to her than I'm not letting her have a honeymoon with a chubby husband if I'm that guy. She's already much more fit than I am, but she's putting in some work, too. We're not engaged yet, but trending that way, and we both kind of expect that in another six months or so, we could be making things official, which would put us on track for a wedding around this time next year.

[TheOtherScott]

A lot of people work to get in shape for their weddings. The trick is maintaining (or continuing to improve) AFTER the wedding. On average, married women are more overweight than single women, whereas men who marry get healthier than those who remain single. evidently men are a bad influence on their partner's health, on average... So don't be average

Anyways. Exercise in appropriate amounts is bound to do your relationship and your selves some good, so by all means, do so. Better yet, commit to doing so in the years ahead. You want to live long and be healthy together, right? And if offspring are in your future, believe me, strength will be especially needed.

I hope your wedding is as lovely as a dream, but it's just one day. What matters more are the 25,000 or so days that follow it. May they all be happy ones.

 

Nailed it.  Shredding for the wedding is all well and good, but don't sell your spouse a false bill of goods and give up on self-improvement once the photographer goes away.

 

I lost a bit of weight before the wedding (which I gained back during the honeymoon), but kept that trend going and I think it's the best post-wedding decision I've made.

[jaex]

My plan is to build good habits for the long run.  Once I get that amazing body I want to keep it