Mistr

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    Mistr wrangles weasels

    Thank you for the recommendation. I knew there had to be an app, I just had not gone searching for it yet. Some of my friends and regional dojos use FB as their primary way to send info on events. I don't want to block it completely so I can see those invitations. I know better than to listen to the "let me check one thing" impulse at home. I've been doing it at work when I want to avoid tedious tasks. That is stopping now.
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    Mistr wrangles weasels

    Mistr wrangles weasels My last challenge was about establishing a new sense of normal. I am happy with my progress so far. I have been getting more sleep, sitting zen more often and doing more spinning. Other things need more work. Having a checklist here worked well last challenge so I’m doing that again. The main thing I’m adding this time is dealing with brain weasels. Mine and my family’s. Cast of characters Starting with my own issues, I’m feeling a lot of imposter syndrome at work. Most days I am just getting the immediate pressing tasks done. On bad days those pile up. I am not planing ahead and taking time to actually check in on and coach the people I supervise. I feel guilty about not being more proactive. I have a nagging sense of dread that someone is going to notice how much I’m slacking off and I’ll lose my job, which is the main economic foundation of our household. On the home side of things, I have not been keeping up with budget analysis. I’m scared of what I think I’ll discover. I tend to do other good and useful tasks and let finances slip to the bottom of the list. Weasel wrangling round 1: Break my bad patterns at work - Wait until after lunch to check my non-work email. No FB at all. Get my support emails done early because they tend to drag me down at the end of the day. See how these three changes go for two weeks before adding anything else. Be selective about what I work on at home. I really don’t have enough time to cook, clean and take care of all the tasks I wish would get done. Rely more on frozen veggies and pre-packed salads for the next several weeks. Be patient and give Dumbledore and Elf time to do cleaning. Give positive feedback to Dumbledore and Elf for all the good things they do. Keep my temper and don’t expect anything. Even if we do consult and they agree to do stuff, the timing is likely to be slower than estimated. Know that this happens and roll with it. Watch out for the get-it-done weasel in the evening. Do prep for the next day early so that I can relax and go to bed on time. Last week at work there was an invited speaker who gave a management training. He talked about how to take control of one’s life and make positive things happen. A lot of things he said are familiar to everyone here - get enough sleep, eat healthy, exercise, have clear goals. The one part that struck me was about being positive with the people around you. I have been using my challenges as the place where I can vent my frustrations. I will continue doing that. I’m going to be very careful about sharing my frustrations at home. I will make a conscious effort to give positive reinforcement to at least one person at work and home every day. I already work on this when I teach aikido. I will keep working on NOT giving feedback when I’m not teaching. Non-weasel goals: Exercise: strength training twice a week yoga or bodyweight and mobility training once or twice a week aikido at least two classes a week (not counting teaching). My training partner had knee surgery a week ago and is ready to get back to gentle training this week. Lots more internal power work and weapons katas. Usually two days a week. Food: No caffeine. Minimize dairy. This is a test to see if my GI tract and joint inflamation gets better. Stick with 10/14 IF most days. Keep eating lots of veggies and save the desserts for at home. There will be exceptions - work on having fewer of them and not feeding the brain weasels. Tasks: file taxes budget analysis sand and oil bokken and jo take holiday lights off the bushes buy storage box, pack up clothes on top of dresser wash and store wool sweaters (already partly done) mail yarn samples to my friend in England All the other things can wait until these are done. In particular, worrying about the other things can wait. If something actually important comes up, I can add it to this list.
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    Osu

    Fascinating discussions on your thread. You and @Urgan might both appreciate the message at Unbreaking America.
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    The Meditation Chamber

    I love your weaving! I have been doing a lot of spinning. That takes even less mental effort than weaving. I've tried doing meditation at the same time as spinning. Not sure yet how that is working. I know that spinning is a great way to calm down my brain when I'm agitated.
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    Xena will be Under Pressure

    Yay for having a good first race of 2019!
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    Urgan Shows Up, Does the Thing

    I love the CPR ad. I hope the grocery delivery service continues to be feasible. Saving the time and frustration of grocery shopping would be worth a little extra to me.
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    ATLA: Treva vs the Fire Nation/Ozai

    Congratulations on getting into your #1 program! Your goals look reasonable, for an over-busy med student level of reasonable. I'm happy to see that you are giving yourself the flexibility of meeting some of them 75% of the time. Even that will be plenty challenging with the big things you have happening.
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    RisenPhoenix Begins

    Wow, you did all the adulting. Congratulations on taking care of your car repairs and vacation plans. The weekend at the brewery sounds amazing. Lucky you to have a cousin with a great business!
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    RisenPhoenix Begins

    Hakama become better behaved over time. I also find that I can tell what kind of day I've had by how easily my hakama folds. Polyester tends to hold creases, so you might want to let it hang or iron it to get rid of the packaging fold lines. You don't need to worry about the belt, it will be covered by your hakama. It will soften up quickly as you wear it.
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    Chemgeek runs in the swamps of Dagobah

    I am soooooo with you on this. At this point I hope we would just keep daylight savings time all year. I would rather have it get light at 5:30am in the summer and 8am in the winter and have more light in the afternoon in the winter.
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    Sara Kingdom Learns From Firebenders

    I'm glad the fast is going well for you. I hope it clears up the unpleasantness in your GI tract. You are inspiring me to watch more Avatar this weekend. It would be a nice counterpoint to doing taxes and laundry.
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    Urgan Shows Up, Does the Thing

    Congratulations for getting through your test with you and all your ukes intact. I know what you mean about testing with other people. On the one hand you can hope that sensei was looking at the other person when you screwed up. On the other hand, you have a paranoid voice in your head wondering if it was you whenever sensei asks to see something again.
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    Mistr: New year - new attitude

    New Year - New Attitude Looking at the last year, some things have gone well and others are stubbornly the same. Time to look at root causes for the difficult parts. My initial thoughts on this were almost identical to last year. Been there, tried that. Secret of the Samurai #8: More of what's not working does not work. Change it up. Starting from the positive side: Exercise and training are going well. I started weight training last challenge and am enjoying it. Core yoga is still making my abs cry for mercy. Continue with the current mix of aikido, strength training and yoga. Doing evening prep earlier makes a difference. Keep up the good habits. Zen is getting better. Keep doing it consistently. Things that need to change: Stay off the caffeine. Repeated tests prove that even decaf messes with my sleep. I am avoiding tasks I don't want to do by saying that cooking is more important. Useful perhaps, but not important. Back off on the cooking. Keep working with Elf and Dumbledore on sharing responsibility for household stuff. We made a start and then dropped it. Get back on good eating habits. Give myself more time. I do not have to go to all the aikido classes and seminars. I can choose my social events. Our house is living proof that no one will die if the cleaning does not get done promptly. Sleep remains key to having energy to do things and a positive attitude. My overarching goal is stress management. I've spent a lot of time avoiding things and being frustrated about not getting stuff done. So I need to make better choices about what I decide to try to do. I get a lot more satisfaction out of tasks that have a finished product. Things like darning my socks and mending a pair of exercise leggings. They may need attention again, but I can wear them this week and probably for months. As opposed to cooking food and washing dishes. Having a clean kitchen and good food is far too temporary to be really satisfying. For right now I will track doing the positive things. Bonus points for every nagging task that I get done. For this weekend those should include: Replacing the tail light bulb on my car Putting up shelves and rearranging the laundry room so we have space for the treadmill that will be delivered on Monday Cook something for the zen potluck on Sunday Update Gnucash and do filing so I can see my desk
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    RES: Hard Work Beats Talent...

    Following!
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    Xena will be Under Pressure

    Following! I missed you while you were on your trip. Did you have a challenge last time? I looked but never found it. How was your trip? The coach sounds like he is helping you try different training strategies. Hopefully those will be just what you need to reach your goals.
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    Urgan Shows Up, Does the Thing

    You will demonstrate great aikido on your test. Go Urgan!
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    RisenPhoenix Begins

    Excellent goals. I am glad that you have dedicated self-care time during the week because you have events every weekend. You can always take extra junk food to work. Some of your coworkers will appreciate it. Everyone understands "I brought this to share so I wouldn't eat all of it".
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    Sara Kingdom Learns From Firebenders

    Excellent goals. I am doing some of the convict conditioning too. I started last week with squats, bridges and hanging leg lifts. I will be curious to hear how it goes for you. What are you making these days? (outside of cooking and gardening)
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    The Courtyard (Monk General Chat)

    I agree with @Toshimi. Having relative healthy snacks you like will help you avoid the really problematic foods. Play music as much as you can. You can put all the feelings into your playing. You know all kinds of dramatic music. Play that. You can also take out stress at the gym and by scrubbing the heck out of things. Keep breathing. You are awesome. You will do a great job at whichever place you go.
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    Mistr sets up the new Normal

    Setting up the new Normal The groundwork has been laid but there are lots of things to be done to get my life looking as I imagine it. There is always a lot of talk in January about setting your goals and steps to reach them. Dumbledore and I talked about this and agreed that for the most part we have a good life. We both want to rush less and have more time for creative projects. Foundations to maintain: Exercise routine of lifting Tues/Fri, aikido study Mon/Wed, Thursday open for yoga or make-up lifting, core yoga on weekend days when I don't do aikido. Aikido 2-3 days a week Drink tea instead of coffee or hot chocolate. I stocked up on Peppermint Bark tea when it was in the stores for a week this past December. Batch cook protein and veggies. My family is on board with this now. Prep clothes and food early in the evening so I can get to bed earlier. Life improvements: Do fiber arts instead of playing games on my phone. Ten minutes of spinning is enough to make me feel like I've accomplished something. Sit zen in the morning. My track record for actually making time later in the day is dismal. Mornings work well. Cycle through different kinds of tasks to feel progress and manage stress. Some things are really urgent, other just bug me. Rotate recurring cooking/cleaning chores with things that stay done and actual creative project and reading. Minimize white sugar and white flour. Part of me wants to cut these out until I'm back to my target weight range. Another part of me rebels and wants to eat all the sweets. Remember that I can't snack when my hands are full of yarn. Add 5 minutes a day of silk reeling to my routine. Right before bed might be a good time. Task list: - Take my summer clothes to the attic. I know I will need them in March. It is still worth it to put the bins away for a month. - Organize my sweaters in the closet - Drop off the dry cleaning - Finish filing the 2018 HSA reimbursements - Put together a file of tax info - Find missing tax info - Do the damn budget analysis - Take the ice cream maker to the attic - Clean the corners of the floor in the bathroom (technically Elf's job, but I want it done so I can put down a clean rug and have warm feet in the morning) - Scrub the bathtub (Elf and I traded for this one) - Mend exercise leggings - Finish turning the heel on my sock - Pack up my nylons and repurpose that drawer - Deal with the stacks of stuff by my desk. Points for each stack removed. - Find a drop spindle I can use for spinning silk. I can buy a new one if I get five tasks on this list done. - Finish spinning fine wool singles for my friend. - Send her samples of 2-ply and 3-ply to see how she wants it finished. I can add more if other things come up that need to be done or are really bugging me. Anything new has to be more pressing than the stuff listed above.
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    Mistr sets up the new Normal

    Challenge Wrap-up How did I do? Foundations to maintain: Success! I did all of these fairly consistently. I had some decaf and hot chocolate and missed a few days. Good overall. Exercise routine of lifting Tues/Fri, aikido study Mon/Wed, Thursday open for yoga or make-up lifting, core yoga on weekend days when I don't do aikido. Aikido 2-3 days a week Drink tea instead of coffee or hot chocolate. I stocked up on Peppermint Bark tea when it was in the stores for a week this past December. Batch cook protein and veggies. My family is on board with this now. Prep clothes and food early in the evening so I can get to bed earlier. Life improvements: The first three went well. I did a lot more spinning and knitting and that made me happy. I managed stress a lot better. I have sitting zen as part of my morning routine now. I am not nearly up to every day, but 20 minutes more than half the days is a big improvement. Do fiber arts instead of playing games on my phone. Ten minutes of spinning is enough to make me feel like I've accomplished something. Sit zen in the morning. My track record for actually making time later in the day is dismal. Mornings work well. Cycle through different kinds of tasks to feel progress and manage stress. Some things are really urgent, other just bug me. Rotate recurring cooking/cleaning chores with things that stay done and actual creative project and reading. These last two did not happen. I gave up on the white sugar/flour restriction in the first week and did not pick it up again. My weight is 0.6 pounds higher than it was at the beginning of the challenge. I did silk reeling a few days at the beginning of the challenge and then just dropped it. No motivation. Maybe next challenge. Minimize white sugar and white flour. Part of me wants to cut these out until I'm back to my target weight range. Another part of me rebels and wants to eat all the sweets. Remember that I can't snack when my hands are full of yarn. Add 5 minutes a day of silk reeling to my routine. Right before bed might be a good time. Task list: Many things done - Take my summer clothes to the attic. I know I will need them in March. It is still worth it to put the bins away for a month. - Organize my sweaters in the closet - Drop off the dry cleaning - Finish filing the 2018 HSA reimbursements - Put together a file of tax info - Find missing tax info - one piece still missing - Do the damn budget analysis - Take the ice cream maker to the attic - Clean the corners of the floor in the bathroom (technically Elf's job, but I want it done so I can put down a clean rug and have warm feet in the morning) - Scrub the bathtub (Elf and I traded for this one) - Mend exercise leggings - Finish turning the heel on my sock - Pack up my nylons and repurpose that drawer - Deal with the stacks of stuff by my desk. Points for each stack removed. - Find a drop spindle I can use for spinning silk. I can buy a new one if I get five tasks on this list done. The last two are close but not quite done. I made the samples of 2-ply and 3-ply yarn. The singles are coming along well. Another couple weeks of work, less if I keep at it. - Finish spinning fine wool singles for my friend. - Send her samples of 2-ply and 3-ply to see how she wants it finished. Having the list helped me focus on getting done things that I had previously identified as important. I got other stuff done too. This weekend I moved all the stuff off the bathroom counter and two shelves of the bathroom closet. I scrubbed the counter (boy did it need it!) and cleaned the shelves. Elf and I sorted the stuff and put back things we thought were still good. Including the old-fashioned red hot water bottle. I think it is probably a costume prop, but in theory it could be used. There was not as much expired stuff as I expected. I knew we overbought on fish oil capsules. There are three big bottles from a sale several years ago - all past their use-by date. Even if they are still good now, I don't think we would use them soon enough to be worth keeping. The counter and closet look much better. Bonus - Elf knows what we have and where it is. They put most of the things back in the closet. Dumbledore will have to search because he wasn't home to participate. I think he will figure it out. I also need his imput on some things that he might want to keep. The fitness side of my challenge is going okay. I miss my previous routine. I haven't quite worked out what I want to do which days with no aikido at lunch. By the time I come up with a new routine, my training partner will be recovered and I'll have to change it again. At least I feel good about all the exercises I'm doing now. I think I'm on the right track. Onwards to the next challenge!