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  1. In all honestly, people are acting like COVID is done because they're tired of it, I guess, but it's NOT done, and the protests aren't even close to done, and then there's the election to worry about, and and and... Yeah, Sitting out 2020 at home seems like the only viable option to me anymore. From a COVID perspective alone, I'm planning to be in this house until we have a vaccine, and that's not going to magically appear this summer so... eff off, 2020, I didn't want to be your friend anyway, NYEH.
  2. I've basically talked myself into accepting that this entire year is fully a wash. It made me feel terrible at first, but now that I've sat with the idea a while, it's starting to feel "normal" enough that I've stopped stressing or counting down. I'm just pushing every thought of normalcy off until 2021, and weirdly this has helped me be a lot less anxious in the day to day right now. I don't know if that's helpful or depressing...
  3. Oh gosh, sorry, I've been soooooooooo absent, but things are okay! I've been walking a fair bit and am trying to drag myself back to IF land. I haven't lifted in about a week because my wrist got wonky again and my broken foot is bothering me, but I'm actually feeling pretty okay. I haven't had many spoons to spare and my presence here has suffered. I'll summarize at the end of the challenge and hopefully carry on next time.
  4. Yes, I've been donating, signing petitions, and emailing representatives. I started taking steps to educate myself on these issues a couple of years ago, so that has been an ongoing thing for me since before this specific incident. Thanks for the link - I'll check it out along with other resources I'm looking at.
  5. You can't see me, you don't know that.
  6. Flexibility class was cancelled yesterday, but I did get in a short afternoon walk with starlet. I benched this morning and felt twinges of wrist pain coming back, which is annoying as I thought the sprain had FINALLY healed. Still, I got through it. I've got a full day of conference calls today, about half on video, so I pulled myself together (make-up and all!) and it feels very strange to look kind of like a semi-attractive human. starlet is up to six teeth officially as of yesterday, which certainly explains some of her explosive fussiness over the last week. I'm feeling low and kind of hopeless about the state of the world right now, but aside from donating money to organizations that are out there doing good, I feel like I personally can't do much - protesting isn't an option for me for a whole slew of reasons. Given it's also Pride month, it's been an interesting experience watching the various queer activists I follow looking for the points of intersectionality to lend support both to the BLM movement and the continued push for queer rights - there is a LOT of work to be done for black trans folk especially, who are disproportionately impacted by violence and whose deaths are frequently ignored.
  7. Soul hugs are magical and can be given from half a planet away, while socially distanced. I'm sending some your way as well. Hope the yoga was awesome!
  8. The video is still pretty cool. Thanks for the good conversation yesterday, by the way. I appreciate you.
  9. I feel you on not wanting to be outside on toasty days... this has been an issue for me as well. I've had to shift my walks with the baby out - one very early (before 9:30 ideally) and one late (after dinner but before her bedtime, like after 5:30). It's annoying, but going out in the afternoon is just impossible. FWIW, the early morning movement, which I am historically very bad at, has actually been great when I get over the "don't wannas" and get out. Your campaign sounds FASCINATING, by the way.
  10. I did indeed take a walk yesterday afternoon - all three of us went, in fact! It rained on us at the very end, so I actually ran about a block home. It was predictably terrible and my broken foot is telling me this morning why I should not have done that. My dad came over in the afternoon to fix the broken gate and put up yet another gate because starlet is running now and we really don't want her taking a tumble down any of the multiple sets of stairs in the house. I made dinner for everyone, then after starlet was in bed, helped him pack up and sent him on his way. My wife and I then watched the new Iliza Shlesinger comedy special because we have finally given up on actually ever getting to use the tickets we bought at the start of the year to see her live. I once again wound up going to bed at 11... though the good news here is, I haven't had any anxiety wake-ups in almost two weeks, so I'm actually feeling pretty rested sleeping 11-7. I did not lift this morning because I woke up feeling super worn down and sore and in pain (thanks, foot). I did the last four days straight, so I think taking today off is okay - I might take an online flexibility class tonight after starlet is in bed instead. Back to lifting tomorrow.
  11. I hope you can get your brain in gear and do some amazing DMing. You are, as always, doing awesome in a whole range of ways.
  12. I'm super behind on everything after my time away from the internet, but I'm glad you're doing okay and continuing to work on the bath resistance. A+ in parenting.
  13. This is a pretty good summation, yes. Hugs, friend.
  14. Success on the moving front, yay! As for the rest, I wish you the best of luck. Bumble does have Bumble BFF as an offering...
  15. I want post-apocalyptic life, but it feels further away than ever. On the bright side, the photo session sounds amazing. I can't WAIT to see the results.
  16. Your notebook looks amazing! I hope your sunburn heals quickly... lots of sunscreen, all the time. The current state of the world (and especially the US) is just so far beyond horrific that I hardly know where to begin. Just know that a lot of us feel that hopeless dread and grief right along with you. I've said a little on Facebook but have largely stayed quiet other than to express solidarity, because it's not my voice that people need to hear right now.
  17. Yeah, she really needed it and it helps me feel a little better about giving her the tools she needs to succeed. Plus it's great to tire her out, too. Baby B came over again this morning for playtime in the yard and it was really sweet. My dad helped me macguyver it into the right height so I have been using it and it's SUCH an improvement! I am getting a replacement part by mail in theory so hopefully I can fix it fully sometime next week, but it's functional for now and I love it. Hahahaha I didn't know people were so invested; whoops, SORRYYYYYYYYYYYYYY! I am here! Speaking of cliffhangers, I need to drop in some D&D updates: Let's see, other things... I took starlet on a walk after dinner yesterday. I went to bed at 11, which was not ideal. I did squats this morning before work, and starlet had another playdate with baby B between my morning calls. Further plans for today include another afternoon walk, probably.
  18. Thanks, everyone! I do feel pretty proud of myself for how much I've been moving, and I'm feeling hopeful that I am building a better lifting habit by taking it in such tiny micro workouts.
  19. Hey, guys! Sorry for being MIA. I really should have warned you that was going to happen... you know how I'm never around on weekends because I don't have to work, and thus I don't turn my computer on? Well, I was on PTO last week, and while it was hardly a fun vacation, I did get the time away from the virtual office, so my computer stayed off the entire time. I don't like using the forums on my phone so... I vanished. But things are actually going pretty well! As I said, it wasn't exactly a fun recharge, but I did spend a lot of time being a lazy couch lump, which wasn't my plan (as usual for me, I was thinking I would COMPLETE ALL THE PROJECTS and my brain and body were like, how about nope), but which I really apparently needed in order to recharge. Sleep was weird but a few really good developments did occur. I took starlet for two walks most days, so I was walking A LOT every day, which was pretty great actually. I spent time outside and got some movement in and did an activity with my kid that we both enjoy. I've been drinking a ton of water. And today was my fourth day of lifting first thing in the morning in the last 5 days! I did take my birthday (Friday) off from lifting, but otherwise I've located enough spoons somehow to talk myself into a brief workout first thing in the morning before baby wakes up (and now, before signing on to work). I do literally just one lift per day, either a 5x5 or a 3x8 depending on how much time I have. I did squats Thursday, bench Saturday (my wrist is finally allowing this!), deadlifts Sunday, and OHP this morning. I'll cycle back to squats tomorrow. It's not super sophisticated, but the simplicity is working for my brain right now. Hopefully I can keep it up now that I'm back to work. Today was a real test of willpower, but I did it, so hopefully that bodes well. Let's see, what else...... on my birthday, my two closest friends came over after starlet was in bed to hang in my backyard and eat cake. We sat a solid distance away from each other and we had to coat ourselves in bugspray AND burn citronella torches, but it was still a nice little hangout. On Saturday, we went to my parents' place for dinner and tea from the samovar, so I felt properly loved and celebrated this weekend. A few people dropped off gifts and I was really touched because starlet's birth mom sent me a small gift and a heartfelt text. It was really sweet. We've expanded our circle again to one of our mom friends who has a son 3 weeks younger than starlet. We had a couple conversations about it over the last week and all of the adults involved decided that we were being pretty careful in our everyday lives, but that we were seeing clear effects of the lack of socialization on our kids. So we had a little outdoor playdate (trying to keep everything outside for ventilation's sake, even though we're all also staying home otherwise) and will have another this week. It was really cute to see starlet and baby B together. They're both so unaccustomed to other kids at this point. She's walking really well and he isn't, meanwhile he's saying a handful of words and she isn't, so hopefully they can learn from each other and develop their social skills a bit too. Aside from that, I've been playing a fair bit of D&D (recaps coming later) and doing housework and yardwork. We have a little backyard garden now, starlet's playroom is done, and I unloaded a massive number of donations to the VVA last week, so I no longer have boxes of unwanted stuff in my basement. I'm doing pretty okay!
  20. To each their own form of caffeination. I have at least six (maybe more?) teapots with sleeping filters, plus one of those hassle-free plastic tea steepers, plus a few tea balls.....................
  21. In my opinion, tea infusers are inexpensive enough to justify acquiring one so you can have that little bit of joy back in your life. Then again, I am that person who cannot live without her tea, so please take all I say with a grain of salt.
  22. I'm right there with you. I always enjoy it when I'm doing it, but making myself start is such a misery. I relate. This is such a beautiful picture!
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