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  1. On 1/24/2024 at 8:49 AM, Jarric said:

     

    I, too, would like this. For me it's Discord, though maybe one day I'll delete 90% of my Facebook contacts and make the place palatable to spend time at :lol: 

     

    On 1/24/2024 at 9:26 AM, Rookie said:

    Wow an NF without spezzy 😧 that's crazy. Honestly you are a big reason I joined all those years ago. I saw what you accomplished and felt inspired. At least I still get to follow your Insta and live vicariously through you. 

     

    I got laid off from my job I've had for 10 years at the beginning of this year. Quite frankly it sucked and hit me far harder than I thought it would have. My biggest advice is to listen to what your head and heart are telling you that they need. Take it one day at a time. And overall, everything will be okay. 

     

    Thank you for everything you've done! I hope with these changes comes a new grand adventure for you. 

     

    On 1/24/2024 at 12:29 PM, DaemonCorax said:

    I'm on FB very little - I just keep it for Marketplace and Messenger. But I do give brain cells to Instagram pretty frequently.

     

     

    On 2/4/2024 at 11:32 AM, Ahyar Dreamspark said:

    Just caught up your thread and...😕 Sad to see you go. Your story is initially what drew me to NF, and this place won't feel the same without you.

     

    On 2/4/2024 at 12:45 PM, WolfDreamer said:

    Losing you and @Tanktimus the Encourager on the forums... dammit... 

     

     

     

    But I honor both of your decisions to move forward with your lives. Thank you for all the love and inspiration, but most of all thank you for your devotion to seeing other nerds redefine their boundaries and fall in love with health and fitness again. I will miss you both, but I am also proud of you both for seeing this as an opportunity, as the next chapter in your adventure, and for keeping your heads held high. You continue to inspire us.

     

     

     

     

     

    Thanks, everyone. I'm going to miss this place, too. To be honest, I've cried most days since I got laid off.  Not for the loss of the job, that will end up being. a very good thing, but for the loss of this place and everyone here. This place has been my home for so long, and having something that you built over the last 14 years just... gone... I just can't do it. 

     

    Me leaving here isn't my choice, and it's been really hard having people act like it is. The company had mass layoffs, I was affected.

     

    I wasn't allowed to tell my clients this, I had to lie to them and tell them I was leaving on my own accords.  Even my clients that I've had for over 6 years.  So even though my clients wanted to continue to work with me, I had to lie to them and tell them I didn't want to work with them anymore. I cried before and after every single video I filmed for them. 

     

    And I can't tell anyone here the truth, either. I can't talk about my life or anything going on, I haven't been able to in years. 

     

    The mental turmoil that I've been put through over the last bit to protect NF isn't something I can continue to put myself through.

     

    This isn't a healthy place for me.  If anyone wants to keep in touch, I'd absolutely love that - my contact info is in my signature. 

     

    Thank you for being such a big part of my life for so long.  It's been one of the greatest joys of my life, and I found the greatest joy of my life here (hi @Rurik Harrgath) , 

     

    But I need to go. 

     

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  2. On 1/23/2024 at 12:53 PM, Rhovaniel said:

    I am only just catching up here and finding that all of my quiet thoughts about the forums are shared and now Spezzy's news. It's alot!

     

    Honestly - THANK YOU. I am definitely someone who hasn't said it enough, but thanks for everything. For being an amazing coach who made my workouts Lord of the Rings themed and helped me figure out what I really, really wanted out of my fitness journey, and when to let it take a back seat to mental health, encouraging me and never judging. On here, for being plain awesome. Problem arises, you fixed it, often before I realised it was broken. Cheerleading us all and sharing your time and energy with us. 10000% going to miss your presence around  here Spezzy, but I get needing to step away completely.  You are incredible, Staci. I hope you never forget it.

     

     

    thank you ❤️❤️❤️ 

     

    On 1/24/2024 at 8:47 AM, Jarric said:

     

    Just wanted to echo others and say thank you for all of the amazing work you've done for this place. You really are an inspiration to a lot of people here, and whatever's next for you this place is better for having had you.

     

    Thanks, Jarric!

     

    On 1/27/2024 at 7:12 PM, fitnessgurl said:

    I just returned to the forums after several years & am saddened that you are leaving; but also happy that you're taking time for you.

     

    Thanks - it's not really my choice and I'm very saddened, too. I'll miss this place a lot. 

     

     

     

    On 2/4/2024 at 10:12 AM, Athaclena said:

    @spezzy and @Tanktimus the Encourager I wish you the best of luck for the future. You will ABSOLUTELY both be missed here. DON'T BE STRANGERS!!!!!

     

    Thank you!

     

    Once my last few loose ends are cleared up, I don't have any plans of coming here again - but I'd love to keep in touch outside NF sponsored avenues. 

     

     

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  3. 14 hours ago, Artemis Prime said:

     

    Hey, Spezzy. I'm sorry for all the personal upheaval that's been involved in this process. I hope you get a fruitful time of rest and assessment that leaves you in a good place moving forward. I know whatever you end up doing, it shall be done admirably. I hope our paths cross again sometime, or that you continue to pop into discord whenever you need some nerd chat. You have a permanent spot in the commune whenever you want to claim it.

     

    I also want to thank you for working so hard these past couple weeks to make the transition as smooth as possible. A class move from a class act. It's not easy when something we used to love becomes a burden. With all the talk of forum nostalgia, one of the things that stands out to me is that we used to have an active council of guild leaders who kept things hopping around here. But any community has turn over, and as leaders have phased out, we haven't done a great job of stepping up to replace them, and you were left to shoulder most of the load. I'm sure it wasn't said often enough, but all the work you did around here is greatly appreciated.

     

    Whatever happens around here moving forward, your name shall be toasted with honor in the meadhall. 

     

    May your battles be few.
    May your friends be many.
    May your heart be filled with joy.
    May your days be filled with wonder.
     

     

    Thank you so much <3<3<3 It's definitely been a tough time all around, and I'm going to miss this place terribly.

     

    I don’t want anyone to ever think that this place has become a burden on me.  It’s the opposite - I love this place with everything I have and have never minded taking on whatever I need to. We also used to have better systems to recruit guild leaders and encourage things like mini challenges and things like that, but over the years that's kind of slowly just gone away as participation has lowered. 

     

    I’m grieving, and grieving hard, along with being a bit limited in what I can say right now, so if my messages seem short or like I am annoyed, please know that I am just a bit numb right now and it’s not you (or you all collectively, either).  But please don't let what's going on with me ruin anything here for you all.  Part of the grieving is that I know that all of this (moving on job wise, and probably the forums) is the right next step for me personally, and a long overdue necessary next step, but not being ready to let go of what used to be.  My job was magical for a very long time, and it hasn't been for a very long time, and it's not going to magically turn around and be 2015 again.

     

    So it goes. 

     

     

     

     

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  4. 3 hours ago, shaar said:

     

    Same - this is my last challenge too. I just don't have it in me anymore if I'm not enjoying it. ❤️ 

     

    You are going through a LOT right now and that comes first!! But whenever you feel you can take a breath or two and actually feel like being social (v important, and something as a semi-introvert i understand 10000%), shoot me a DM on IG or Discord or something and we will make it happen!!

     

     

    Legitimately can't imagine how hard this is for you. Sending lots of love your way! 

     

    thanks, shaar ❤️ it's been the absolute craziest last few months, and my brain is still spinning like crazy. It honestly doesn't feel true still. .

     

    3 hours ago, Chris-Tien Jinn said:

     

    For me, it's Facebook.  I never got the hang of Discord.

     

     

    3 hours ago, shaar said:

    I'm still struggling with not being present here in the future too, it's just so wild to wrap my mind around. I'm used to change but this one just hits different. Facebook groups would be cool, and honestly I LOVE Discord and am very active there because of my gaming crap, but I wish the NF Discord had more tailored channels for chatting about different goals and fitness-related things instead of just one big lump where it's kind of vague. 

     

    2 hours ago, Sepherina said:

    So.  There is a  NF discord (NF ran). It’s called the Nerd Fitness Rebellion and it has lots of channels from fitness related things to nerd discussions and challenges. It’s fairly active. Then there is what used to be the Nerd fitness forum discord which is now Forum Friends (owned by Spezzy). It took me a hot minute a few months ago to figure out why I had two but I like it. Different groups of the same likeminded nerds. 

     

    2 hours ago, shaar said:

     

    HUH, this is news to me! Do you only get access to this as a part of something paid? (Like a NF program or coaching or something?)  I am now seeing I am in Forum Friends as I mouse over the icon, hahaha!

     

     

    I've been getting more and more back into FB and FB groups lately as it seems like FB isn't actually going anywhere, and it's actually been how I've managed to find most of my local farm connections/animals/etc. 

     

    There are a few NF Sponsored things:

    1) FB group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/NerdFitnessPrime 

     

    This is free and is open to the public, anyone. 

     

    2) NF Rebellion Discord - this is free and public to everyone:

    https://discord.gg/g8FakBG9

     

    3) Forum Friends Discord (name was recently changed as people were getting confused with the official one, and the name change actually had nothing to do with me leaving :)) - I told NF I would continue to keep this running and that I'd hand it over to them to manage if that changes:

    https://rebellion.nerdfitness.com/index.php?/discord/invite/general/

     

     

    I personally will not be in 1 and 2 (but obviously if anyone wants to join and participate there, please do), as those have the same overarching problem that staying here does, but will be in #3. 

     

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  5. Hi everyone, 

     

    As many of you know, my last day at NF was last week, and I've also stepped down as admin here on the forums.

     

    I don't have more information for you right now for a big announcement post with all of the info of who will be taking over, but it also appears that there's a lot of anxiety over the future of the forums, so I wanted to say something here. 

     

    I've left them with everything they need and the challenges should continue along as normal, and nothing should be changing that I know of except that I won't be here. 

     

    Once a new community manager has been appointed by NF, and everything is sorted, they'll make a bigger post to the entire community introducing themselves. 

     

    That's it for now. Hope y'alls challenges are going well!

     

     

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  6. On 1/21/2024 at 3:30 PM, DarK_RaideR said:

    I'd like to preface this update by saying I'm quite tired, on the inside. It's been a long weekend of long, hard talks with the family trying to mend bridges in a healthy way and also introduce them to the Masterplan. On top of that, I saw @shaar's update the other day and it really resonated with me about how it might be nostalgia, but the forums feel like a shadow of their former glory, how keeping up with people and updating one's challenge feels like a drag and talking to one's self. I've felt like that for a while, although I haven't considered departing.  But then I realized that mention of "layoffs" on @Rurik Harrgath's thread means that  @spezzy is also moving away from these boards, now I noticed that this will also be the last challenge for @Tanktimus the Encourager and it all just... got to me. Feels like a mass exodus that compounds this deflated sensation, adding more names to a long (and growing) list of people who are no longer around. Anyway, here's the update, spoilered for size as it's a double feature.

     

    Challenge Day 19, Friday Jan. 19th

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    Challenge Day 20, Saturday Jan. 20th

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    11 hours ago, shaar said:

     

    I think for me it's a mix of both; nostalgia for the "good ol' days" but that energy just isn't here anymore - you are right and I agree I definitely feel like I'm talking to myself a lot of the time and it's just like, why am I putting my effort into this and prioritizing it over other things if no one cares? It's hard to think on honestly. I will definitely still lurk and pop in now and again but I just don't have it in me to keep spinning my wheels and keeping up a challenge when it honestly has very little benefit to me at this point.

     

    Which is SAD, and deflated, because this place has been so so important. But now... I just don't see it getting back there.

     

     

    Yes to this 100%.  I feel like at the start I'll really -try- and follow everyone and do my best but it just always falls into a predictable lull and I'm like, eh. Ok.

     

    11 hours ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

    I think for me I'm so burned out it's hard to comment on people's threads anymore, I don't know what to say that doesn't sound trite or repetitive. 

     

    8 hours ago, Shello said:

    SAME.  I try to keep up with other people but often just don't know what else to add so I like to show support.  At the same time I wish there was more interaction and I know I get out of it what I put into it.  But even if I am just talking to myself, having a challenge every time and reporting helps me keep trying.  

     

    It's so hard, especially since life has so much going on. Sometimes it feels like everyone is super active, and then others, no one. And we tried over the years making the challenges longer or shorter to increase or keep up the excitement over the second half, but it never worked. Shorter felt rushed, longer encouraged dropoffs. 

     

    I know my interaction on other people's threads started getting less and less when I started coaching. When you're talking to 70-85 people every single day, and helping them with their goals, I found it impossible as an introvert to want to interact more on the forums, I just started spending my time off work not talking to *anyone*, or with animals, and outside.  It was just total burnout from my work day from me - and I never expected interaction on my threads when I wasn't interacting a lot, which made it less fun or not as much of a reason to update. "hey havent updated in a week again," gets kind of old to update when I desperately want to be participating more. 

     

    I do think I plan on leaving the forums after this challenge. @Rurik Harrgath is up to making his own decision, but unfortunately he's seen some of the things that drove me away last year and are forcing me to make my decision now first hand, so it may be a difficult thing to come back to for him as well, but who knows. We were both SO excited about this challenge, and then the wind got taken out from under our sails when i got laid off. 

     

    I do know I'd love to figure out a way for us to all still keep in touch and maybe even support each other on our goals without the forum format, but I haven't had the brainspace to really figure it out yet. 

     

     

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  7. On 1/13/2024 at 4:47 PM, RES said:

    I understand that feeling, and selfishly hope you continue to come back. I already stalk follow you on Insta, and love seeing the collection of animals that you are gathering :) 

     

    On 1/13/2024 at 9:23 AM, Jarric said:

    That's a pretty major change after 13 years, I hope the transition goes well for you. I'd wish you luck on whatever you do next, but you're pretty awesome so I don't think you'll need luck for that.

     

    On 1/12/2024 at 9:12 PM, Kishi said:

     

     

    Thirding for the nostalgia and well-wishes.

     

    I'm really sorry to hear you lost your job. :( That's hard. I think you're doing right to take it day by day. Whatever decision you make, I wish you well.

     

    On 1/12/2024 at 2:07 PM, Ranger Hal said:

    While I hope that you're able to stick around (I like having you here, even when you're not being the Amazing Fixer of Forum Bugs), I know you will make the decision that's best for you. Wishing you all the best, whatever you decide.

     

    On 1/11/2024 at 4:11 PM, Mad Hatter said:

    No it’s not just nostalgia, they used to be a super fun and active place. But like Spezzy I keep coming back because it feels comfy and a bit like home. 😄

     

    Whatever you choose I wanna thank you for helping to create such an awesome environment!

     

    On 1/11/2024 at 2:59 PM, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

    Hugs friend. I support whatever decision you end up making.

     

    On 1/11/2024 at 1:42 PM, Everstorm said:

    I will miss you if you decide to leave the forums -- you have been an institution in the 10+ years I have been here -- but I definitely understand and support you if you need a clean break.  I wish the very very best for you and @Rurik Harrgath both.

     

    On 1/11/2024 at 1:40 PM, Snarkyfishguts said:

    Holy crap, I'm catching up on your week and that's so much to process. No wonder you are struggling with feelings right now! I'm sitting here a bit stunned myself. Whatever you need and whatever you decide, you have my support 100%. 

     

    On 1/11/2024 at 10:58 AM, Sovalis said:

    I very much want to stay in touch with you if that is something you are open to. I understand thinking about a clean break; identity is a tricky thing and you will know best what you need to do to take the best care of you. Whatever your decision ends up being, I support you 100%. I am grateful for the care you have taken with this community and the inspiration and confidence that your accomplishments and perseverance have taught me. You’re pretty amazing, Spezzy. Wherever you land will be so lucky to have you. ❤️ 

     

    Thank you, everyone. These last few weeks have honestly been some of the toughest of my life and I've very much just focused on putting my head down and getting things done and focusing on getting everything in order, both personally and getting my clients transferred to their new coaches and getting everything ready for the new community manager here. 

     

    My last day was Friday and I haven't had much time to really do much else since then, things have been crazy. 

     

    I will likely be leaving the forums from a personal level as well as an admin level. This is something I'm really struggling with, and would love to figure out the best ways to stay in touch (how do people communicate outside of forums these days? discord? facebook?) and figure out a different way to even help each other hit goals, but to be honest a lot of the reasons why I needed a break last year are still really big reasons, I just decided to overlook them because I missed y'all. 

     

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  8. On 1/11/2024 at 10:58 AM, Sovalis said:

    I very much want to stay in touch with you if that is something you are open to. I understand thinking about a clean break; identity is a tricky thing and you will know best what you need to do to take the best care of you. Whatever your decision ends up being, I support you 100%. I am grateful for the care you have taken with this community and the inspiration and confidence that your accomplishments and perseverance have taught me. You’re pretty amazing, Spezzy. Wherever you land will be so lucky to have you. ❤️ 

     

     

     

     

    On 1/11/2024 at 12:59 PM, shaar said:

    Hi friend!

     

    Finally catching up and WOW, lots has happened. I'm really surprised at your work turn of events honestly. It seemed like lately you all were working together to get a better schedule for you and something that would work out for everyone. But, the world is a crazy place and we are in unprecedented times, so nothing really is certain..

     

    I totally understand your feelings on these forums.  The NF forums have literally changed my life and I have so many good friends and memories here! But if I'm honest, over the past year or so I feel they've really felt like a kind of afterthought to the whole NF brand, I guess you could say. Being a free to use resource is awesome but I'm sure there's obvs a cost on the backend to support this stuff, and there's really no revenue to be made here as opposed to the other actual paid NF products, soooo.... I feel lately it's just not what it used to be, a lot less engagement and advancement for forum posting.  And it feels like the people that care and want it to thrive (and moreso, have the "NF ability" to make it thrive") like you are becoming less and less.  To me it feels like the forums are a fraction of how awesome they used to be, and that may just be nostalgia talking.  It's still pretty cool here! I hope it continues to stay cool.

     

    It's a big part of your life that you're moving on from too! Whatever makes your heart happy will always be in your best interest. :) I'm right around the corner if you guys every need anything. ❤️ Much love!!

     

    Yeah, we had been working together on a lot of aspects, which is why this decision felt both like a huge surprise and not one at all. The truth is with the new contract, I knew I'd be looking within a year (it had a few terms in it I knew were okay super temporarily, but absolutely not long term), so this works out for me because while it's a surprise, I'm eligible for unemployment and can take some time to figure out what my next steps are and find the RIGHT next position. 

     

    Definitely a lot of nostalgia here, and you're not wrong, only if you say last year or so it's really been since about 2016. NF is perfectly happy to keep this up and running but there aren't current plans to change things and start pushing a lot of people here. I'm hoping bringing in a new community manager will help here, though I know he'll start with just the basics and getting a feel for things and making sure the challenges are up and running. 

     

    I won't likely be around here much - but would love it to actually meet up at some point - you are so close it's amazing to me we haven't yet 😆 

     

     

     

    On 1/15/2024 at 10:34 AM, Chris-Tien Jinn said:

    OMG.  I am very sorry to hear the news and hope you have great, fulfilling adventures in your near future.  

     

    I attended a workshop you gave at one of the NF Camps.  You are a great (fitness) teacher and motivational speaker.  

     

    Thank you so much! I really appreciate that!

     

     

    On 1/18/2024 at 5:20 PM, DaemonCorax said:

    I'm clocking around 10 years here on the forums, and your story about becoming a power lifter was part of what pulled me in. Whatever you decide, you built something big here. It may not last forever, but on a geologic timescale, we're all just little blips anyway. I hope you find interesting challenges and warm community where ever work and life take you next.

    If you do leave, I'll miss the lifts and the chickens, but I can handle it ;)

     

    Nah, y'all aren't little blips, you're an amazing community that I've gotten be best friends and my husband out of. 

     

    Regardless of if i'm physically here anymore or not, the forums and their influence completely surround every aspect of my life. Not little blips, big blips :)

     

    But also thank you :) 

     

     

    On 1/19/2024 at 10:51 PM, sarakingdom said:

    Thanks Thank You GIF by DINOSALLY

     

     

     

     

    thanks :) it's been a long 13 (or however many!) years!

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  9. On 1/19/2024 at 10:45 AM, Athaclena said:

    We have Titles? LOL.

    Also, I swear CSS is at least as bad at Word for move image one pixel to the right, screw up the entire layout.

     

    It's worse when you're dealing with custom code surrounded by forum software code that CHANGES EVERY TIME THEY DO AN UPDATE. I swear they were just trying to mess with me sometimes!

     

    On 1/19/2024 at 11:52 AM, Harriet said:


    Oooooh, I thought they were lost. But now they are found ❤️ 

     

    no the forum software just decided to "depreciate" them with an update so I had to move them back! Thankfully the titles were never lost. 

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  10. 2 hours ago, Scaly Freak said:

     

    @spezzy

    I have no idea if anything has changed or not, but this Follow button is now working as expected again. Since I also don't know whether someone was actively looking into this or not I thought I'd let you know that's no longer needed. :) 

     

    Thanks for letting me know!  I ran a general update on the forum but that's about all so far, so hopefully the general update fixed it :)

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  11. 4 hours ago, Sea-to-sky said:

    Hi, for some reason i cant get the edit avatar option to come up when i press my profile image in my profile (like the guide says). Have tried on both ipad and android phone, no joy. Is this a known bug? Am i just being dense? Any help/advice welcome

     

    Sorry about that, you should be good to go now. I had tried setting up something to prevent brand new members from creating an account, uploading an advertisement as their profile photo, and never returning to the forums again, and my query didn't work as intended. 

     

    Let me know if you still have any issues! 

  12. 7 minutes ago, Artemis Prime said:

    My Facebook Marketplace is flooded with gym equipment right now. It seems awfully early for so many people to be giving up on fitness goals -  but perhaps these are the remnants of past years' resolutions and their new resolution is to clear out stuff they aren't using. Either way, I am very tempted by a lot of it. I thought about raising the idea of a rack with my father again, but I don't think enough time has passed yet since he asked me to stop putting more equipment in the basement. I did message a guy about plates though, since that's not really going to take up additional space. It's 510 pounds plus weight storage for $400 USD. That's a lot more weight than I need, but it's such a good deal, and I figure there's no such thing as too many plates.

     

    Lots and lots and lots of layoffs going on right now, too, so a lot of people are going to be selling stuff just to make some money. And lots of financial goals in January, too :)

     

    Worth taking up the deal!

  13. 19 hours ago, Heidi said:

    Agreed.

    Making a plan now to connect via the discord chat (and to replicate discord if that, too, disappears).

    100% agree on this.

    Let's be calm and see what happens. The Universe loves us and wants us to be happy.

     

    23 hours ago, Sovalis said:

    I will reply to everyone in a bit, but I wanted to pop on to point out the latest post on Spezzy’s thread. I don’t want to be alarmist, but it seems like the future of our forums is in doubt, and Spezzy has been laid off which blows my mind considering how vital she is to NF. I am reeling a bit from this news. I want to encourage people to go over to Spezzy’s thread and offer support if you feel called to do so; it really seems like a rough place to be and hearing our appreciation for the work she has done and our support for the decisions she is going to make might make it less worse, maybe? I don’t know. I feel disempowered and want to do something to help, so this is what I have landed on. I respect Spezzy’s discretion and haven‘t pried for details so everything I know I know from her thread. I would encourage everyone to also stay respectful of privacy in this difficult time. We don’t want to get her in trouble, either. 

     

    I don’t want to lose this place. Argh, what a thought. :(

     

    23 hours ago, sarakingdom said:

    I would recommend taking a day to reconsider that post, at least the bits that are not about supporting spezzy. It's jumping the gun a little on what we know (and should know), and stirring up something that I don't think spezzy meant to imply; she's talking about herself and her relationship to the forums, given her life changes. It may cause difficulties for her if the forums heat up right now over that rumor. (Worse, it may be self-fulfilling prophecy, because it is truthfully a bit of a risky moment for the forums. The forums are losing their major champion and manager; if they start to look extra problematic or moderation-intensive right now, it's negative attention and a mark against the forums.) If/when there's a clear confirmation of major site changes, I think all this changes, but until then, we should probably go easy on the inferences and wait for clarity. It could hurt both us and spezzy to assume facts not yet in evidence about what's happening.

     

    hey y'all, first, thanks for the personal support. 

     

    On a bigger level, I don't actually know the plan for the forums and who will be taking them over.  That's not meant to be an alarmist statement at all, but it is the truth right now. There are a lot of moving parts at NF right now, and a lot of things being figured out, and the forums and who from the team will take care of them in my absence is one of those things.   The work that I do on the forums has always been on my own personal time, so they're now looking to see where it fits within actual roles on the team as the permissions needed for the updates mean we need for it to be a team member. 

     

    I can tell you I sent over all of the requirements and list of training sessions I need to hold with my replacement to my team earlier this week, and that I am doing everything in my power to make this be a positive change for the forums, or at least not a negative one.  As you can probably tell from the fact that I'm training people and still working with my clients and making sure they are taken care of that NF and I are still on good terms, regardless of the situation,  and we would both like to keep it that way. I have expressed the importance of the forums every opportunity I have been given. 

     

    Lastly, for the discord server that's connected to the forums right now, I actually own that server personally (I paid for the sync on my own and it's on my account, it's not something nf wanted to have to maintain but said I could do on my own), so if anything happened to the forums, I will keep that up and running, it just won't be connected here anymore, so @Heidi - you can of course make your own, but this one isn't going anywhere :) It's the one thing I DO have actual power over here!

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  14. 1 hour ago, Elennare said:

    While that is a good and valid point, it's still undermining everything they say when they tack it on, and makes it even more nonsensical.  "I have this data, so to speak"?  Still makes no sense!  They're not using it with analogies and stuff where it would make sense, it's more like "I know you're not going to like what I have to say, so I'm going to try to soften it by making it sound like it's my opinion when I am stating a fact."  Is that a broadly southern thing?  Or is it just a weird quirk of my coworkers?

     

    22 minutes ago, Everstorm said:

     

     

    I live in the South and I agree with all of this.  I have definitely heard the phrase "if you will" as Tanktimus described it, meaning "so to speak" or "for lack of a better word", but not overused and out of context like you are mentioning.  As Athaclena stated, Southern women have historically been taught to be indirect and inoffensive, although that is in decline.  Alabama is Deep South, though, so I am not surprised to hear it lingers there.

     

    It also may be that certain people just hear a common phrase and habitually over-apply it.  It has inspired many a drinking game: Drink every time you hear the phrase "and everything like that" or whatever.

     

    16 minutes ago, Elennare said:

     

    Thank you!  My sanity is now slightly less precarious. :)

     

    I have heard men and women doing it equally, and thinking about it, I don't think I've heard it outside of reporting to management (and again, it especially comes out when management is not pleased with what's being reported).  Given the history/context reported here, and the overall culture of the department, I suspect it's being used as a deference to authority phrase.

     

     

    I've lived all over the place and haven't lived anywhere I heard it used often, but I do hear it used a lot in oilder (pre 1930's maybe?) books, especially ones in american literature, though I can't think of an example off the top of my head. I think of it as older english. 

     

    My understanding is it's "if you will accept this" and is added to soften something if they are unsure of what your response will be, are unsure of what they are providing, or are unsure of if you will accept it", as well as "so to speak".  So in this case, agree on the above with women needing to be indirect and inoffensive. 

     

    It could be that the area you're in uses it a lot more - I found that with all of the areas I've lived in, each had its own unique dialect, especially in the south. The southern I learned to speak in Mississippi is a totally different language than what was spoken in Texas. 

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  15. Hey y'all - I'm honestly struggling a bit here.  These forums have been my life, and in many ways have given me my life (best friends, husband, a job of 13 years if you want to count my year of part time).

     

    And I have no idea what the future of them is. And that's scary. Getting laid off (along with many other members of the team) is abrupt and difficult to process, but also moving forward from this job is long overdue and I'm very excited to finally get a break and to focus on some things that I'm excited about again. But moving forward from this place is where I'm really stuck. This place has been my home for so long.

     

    Goals feel weird, and I feel almost suspended in this weird limbo of just wanting everything to be done so I can move on, but also feeling like everything is happening so fast. I have so much to do but can't do it yet (like apply for unemployment or health insurance) and I feel like I'm both slammed busy and sitting here waiting.

     

    I can say that if I don't continue to come back, it's not because I don't want to, it's because I need to make a clean break, and would love to figure out other ways to stay connected. 

     

    Goals update:

    Daily Walk - I'm hitting about 75% here. I need to figure out a better option for these snowstorms/rain and ice storms - I live on a main road, and I have to walk down that road for about 3-4 minutes to be able to get to a side road that is safe to walk on. It's windy, dark, narrow, and every single person on my road's mailbox is in a concrete bucket post because they get hit so much (ours has, too), so it's actually not safe when it is bad weather. That only leaves me really with the option to stomp around the woods, which have been pretty flooded lately so hard to go far. Figuring some things out to make some better paths and add some bridges maybe!

     

    Strength - Yeah. I haven't felt up for strength training this week. Truth be told, I didn't go to bed Monday night (well, I did, but I didn't sleep), and ended up just getting up at 415 and went to work and was wide awake till I crashed at 9 and slept for 12 hours straight. I think it was my body's response to the last week and all of the emotions (saying goodbye to clients I've worked with for years is just always so sad). 

     

    So anyway, my body hasn't really felt up for anything heavy. Gonna aim to get in my next strength workout tomorrow. 

     

    I have forgotten about the rowing goal until I went to update it, so I'll do that. 

     

    Schedule wise, we haven't really been doing spellbooks or anything because it seems silly to try to make a schedule work when it's ending in a week. I have been getting up by 8am every morning, except the crazy sleep day I mentioned, and have been awake before the lights turn on (I do that instead of an alarm), so it looks like for the most part my body is adjusting. 

     

    Other than that, spending lots of time with the animals and lots of time outside dealing with the storm stuff, so those goals are going well!

     

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  16. 2 hours ago, Sepherina said:

    Sounds like a goo week to do it.  

     

    And who is the beautiful animal companion you have?

     

     

     

    Sir Huckleberry! He's my 10 month old English Shadow Shepherd

     

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    Here's the other one:

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    Though he comes out with me less often as he's less brave and significantly smaller (and let's be honest, much less adventurous 😂 ). Though he did go out on the ice today when he probably shouldn't have 😂 

     

    50 minutes ago, Sovalis said:

    I hope that this is happening in a way that is good for you. 💜 Will we still see you here after the 19th? 

     

    Unfortunately all I can really can say right now is that my last day is the 19th. I want to have more to say or to know the answer, so for now I'm just gonna keep focusing on trying to hit my goals each day and next steps and keep going as if everything is normal(ish) ❤️ 

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  17. life never sits still, does it? 

     

    My last day at work is 1/19,  and I have a lot to figure out between now and then. It's been crazy, but I have been keeping up with things the best I can.

     

    Last week:

    Daily Walk - hit all days but one. have been counting shoveling yesterday and today as walks also.

    Strength - trained one day, and then was going to get in a second yesterday but decided to shovel snow for 5k instead. I missed my mid week workout due to the feels.

    Rowing or yoga at night - yeah, I did great at this the beginning of the week but not the end after I found out the news. I'll add this back.

     

    Spellbooks/Schedule - I've actually been doing really well with this, especially considering.  Not perfect, but I give myself a B here.

     

    Outdoor life: 

    Havent been doing breathing/meditation. Definitely should.

    break from work with animals - check, this has been easy.

    get outside - hit this all day but 1, and that was the day the excrement hit the air conditioning. 

     

    It's funny looking at this last week's pictures - these are 2 days apart 😆 

     

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    And we'll probably be looking like the first again by the end of the week. 

     

    Anyway, this week is about regrouping. Still going to try to hit most of my goals here, regardless of everything else. 

     

    Onward!

     

     

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  18. 18 hours ago, DarK_RaideR said:

    Good to have an update and good that you're taking the blows with a cool head, but it sucks for you two and I'm really sorry about @spezzy's news. Keep on keeping on, I suppose.

     

    Thank you! It does suck, but honestly in the long run will be good :) I have another 2 weeks to close things up so just working through that. Honestly telling my clients is the hardest part. 

     

    On a totally unrelated note, there's a big uphill battle i'm fighting right now.  I might be recommending this combined with this soon.

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  19. On 1/4/2024 at 7:21 PM, Everstorm said:

    Moar chimkins???  How big is your flock up to now?

     

    Well, I have 11 from the original 18 left (7 were roosters), then a group of 17 from the summer, the 4 russian orloffs, another 2 to replace 2 that died from the group of 17 (originally 19) from the summer because the 2 that died were a specific breed and i cant have just one of that specific breed it would be cruel (actually), then there were the 17 babies for Chick or Treat on Halloween and the 17 babies for the 12 days of Chickmas so if we add that all up I have about 10 chickens. 

     

     

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  20. Alright, it's been a wild week with some hugely unexpected turns of events, but thankfully everything will be okay.

     

    Anyway, so far so good on the challenge.

     

    Walks have been every morning before work - every day

    Did deadlifts and pullups Tuesday, next scheduled strength day is friday

    yoga at night hit all nights but last night, yesterday's unexpected turn of events made me forget about this

    getting outside - check check check

    animals - check check check

     

     

    even made a new enclosure for my youngest chickens in my office (they outgrew the brooder!) one of the days. i like this because it lets me sit at the door and talk to them and they get used to people coming from the side and not just from above.

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    spellbooks - has been great, have been following the schedule and doing my best with staying focused given everything going on, and going outside when I need a few minutes. it's been helping!

     

     

     

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  21. On 12/28/2023 at 7:12 PM, Sepherina said:

    I love this challenge. As a fellow northerner I feel your pain around the dark cold days. It makes it hard to stay upbeat and motivated.  Following to cheer you on from SW Pennsylvania.

     

     

    It's so hard - hopefully you're seeing the increases already like we are? It feels like it gets dark fast, but the days get longer fast, too. Maybe it's just the hope that days are getting longer faster and it feels it, though 😂 

     

    On 12/28/2023 at 8:12 PM, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

    Hopefully no more surgery. Following!

     

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    On 12/28/2023 at 8:22 PM, Sovalis said:

    Here to cheer! 

     

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    On 12/28/2023 at 9:28 PM, Mad Hatter said:

    Fingers crossed for a speedy recovery! 
     

    What’s this? (ref: Use ADHD coping mechanisms - headphones, timers, do it up. )

     

    Thank you!!

     

    Really just meant using all of my normal things that I know that work that I don't always use :) So for me, that's:

    -noise cancelling headphones

    -music with no vocals for the majority of tasks (classical, soundtracks and video game music and different focus soundtracks are my most productive)

    -use timers throughout the day - I normally time every 5 minutes for basic tasks and 15 for larger tasks. The smaller chunks are a reminder for me to check-in to make sure I'm on task. 

    -work in my office with the door closed

    -sit/stand (though I need a new treadmill for under my desk, my old one broke :()

    -phone on other side of room

    -take my proper medication in the morning

    -if I just *can't*, get up and take a break and walk outside for a bit

    -force proper breaks

    -my own detailed to do list that is so extra and i don't even care because it helps me. 

     

     

     

    On 12/29/2023 at 8:11 AM, Everstorm said:

    Yay!  Outdoor buddies!

     

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    On 12/29/2023 at 12:40 PM, Rurik Harrgath said:


    This is the ideal body. You may not like it, but this is what peak performance looks like. 😂

     

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    On 12/30/2023 at 8:21 AM, Pyralis said:

    This year I've bought myself light glasses to battle winter blues and I have to say, they do seem to make a difference. You surely know it that you can sit in front of some  bright daylight lamp in winter for a while to improve mood but it's very impractical and I soon stopped doing it. These glasses I can put on (looks like a fancy space accessory :D) and do whatever. After 20-30 minutes, depending on chosen intensity, they turn themselves off and that's it. I used to feel much worse after a work day when it was dark but after 1-2 weeks of wearing them, I have more energy during the day and the evenings feel lighter and it's easier to do things/go out instead of wanting to lie in bed immediately.

     

    Thought I'd drop this here for anyone who might need it and wish you a great challenge and good health and all the best for 2024!

     

    That's super cool that they make it in glasses form! I'm in a weird situation where I'm pretty blind and am high risk for retinal stuff (I have blue light blockers in my contacts too which is cool but disqualifies me) so toys like this don't work for me, but I can see where it'd be useful :) 

     

    I have one of those lights at my desk and I work from home so I have it on most of the day and it definitely helps. 

     

    On 12/30/2023 at 9:18 AM, Sepherina said:

    We have a SAD light that does nearly the same thing. It helps a lot for the grey overcast months of Oct - Apr here in SW Pennsylvania.

     

    Mine makes all the difference, I even used it when I lived in Texas. It's one of the few things that's survived moving from tx-->va-->mi-->canada-->ma, it just goes in my backpack it's that important 😂 

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