Urgan

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  1. Urgan

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    FWIW, I assumed you meant you might be collateral damage. It's not a crazy possibility, but what can you do but your best not to actively step your foot--or both feet--into the bear trap. May you have the wisdom to avoid becoming a casualty of other people's (bad) choices.
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    Urgan Shows Up, Does the Thing

    You know why we had money? So work could say 85% of my shirts are off the table now!
  3. Urgan

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    This one is all about him and his insecurities, regardless of who you specifically are. GOOD NEWS, tho--it's not your problem! Just do this and move on with your bad self...around all the volatile people acting weird at you that you can't do nothing about. Far enough away to prod them with a yardstick. You have more valuable places to spend the time you'll never get back. I'm sorry, that is a really hard thing to have handed down. Was it a sudden diagnosis? Any chance you can arrange to spend some more time with him now, or has that bridge kinda been burnt?
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    Urgan Shows Up, Does the Thing

    5/17/2019 - 5/19/2019 Because Skeletor, apparently 武士道 (ぶしどう) Justice/Rectitude Within: Samurai Don't Complain (in fitness) - Without: Giri Buy New External Harddrive Update Resume Clean kitchen counters Clean shower Clean kitchen table Clean toilet Clean sinks Clean microwave Mop floor Courage Within: Crying in the Dojo Class Technique Review - 4/8 Video Technique Review - 4/8 Buki Waza Review - 4/8 Without: Keep heizen and carry on Gun Research Laptop Cleaning Research Automated Testing Research Audit Grocery Bill - $780 ($880), $589 ($742), $486 ($550) Audit Power Bill - $116, $108 Benevolence Within and Without: Love Learn first-aid - 79% Dad Programming Dad Training - 2/4 9:00 Dinner - 4/8 Cat grooming - 1/4 Politeness Within: Rēsetsu Curse Count - 0 Silence is Golden - 6/19 Without: Do 道 Watch Shodo Lesson - 50% Drawing Japanese Characters - 2/4 Honesty Within: Shinjitsu for Me Marksmanship - doubled the requirement for buki waza - I still expect myself to check cat food/water, brush teeth, floss, and spray down the shower on the regular Without: Matomo for Thee Liar Liar - 8/27 We have some money, which is unusual. I bought some more workout clothes and that external harddrive since now seemed the time. Our new chairs came in, so we put those together and cleaned off the kitchen table--that space has a new lease on life. Watched some more shodo video and practiced that. I'm feeling a bit better in the gym than I have in a while, let's see how long that lasts. Forgot to brush the cats. Whoops.
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    Onward

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    Brogo

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  7. Urgan

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    Whatever it takes, right up to straight up no thank you, I don't want to do that thing. BOOM. You like to help people and you have insecurities. Welcome to humanity. No but seriously, for the purposes of this topic you don't need to change who you are at your core, just your foreign policy. Although we are all works in progress and that's cool. I didn't mean that to come off condescending, I just meant friends look out for friends, it's what we do. If they were to backstab, it would probably come from them getting in trouble and trying to save themselves. * slaps forehead * This is totally it. This is the issue. Stupid human tricks strike again.
  8. Urgan

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    Don't agree to spend your resources on people who don't want to be around you (forecast calls for blue skies with a chance of crazy busy with literally anything else). That includes probably-unstable divorcee lady. What you doin' to yourself, man? Go do some karate with people who like you. Shampoo your apartment floors. Buy a "really needy" pet cat. Visit your parents more often. Donate your time to people who appreciate it. Sit around your place in your PJ's watching edutainment. Whatever is believable, true to you, and shows you're unavailable for shenanigans. "Oh gee, was that gig tonight? I have a really important hair appointment that I put off twice already!" People are jerks. People are also often awkward AF in groups, if you want to put a slightly more innocent spin on it. Just an explanation, not an excuse. If he acts like he cares then, well. That's news to you. I know it's awkward in that you're mixed up with him in a side business, which is why I didn't just tell you to punt his ass to the curb like a dead rat. Maybe you need to back up on that, too. The people involved are not acting like they are looking out for you even a little. I don't mean that in a needy diva way, I mean that in a stab-you-in-the-back way. Like if it doesn't work out, just how entangled are you going to be?
  9. Urgan

    Urgan Shows Up, Does the Thing

    You can absolutely do it with just olive oil, for sure.
  10. Urgan

    Urgan Shows Up, Does the Thing

    Lol, you smuggle it in the house, make the eggs, THEN tell him about it afterward. If you have another tasteless oil lying around, that might do just as well?
  11. Urgan

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    Social connections and other people's problems do not write them a license to abuse you. A pattern of wasting your time is disrespectful and abusive. Never mind the waste itself. So the thing is, he may be the most pitiful human on earth, if he habitually flakes out on people based on the right people not being present (an implied 'screw you, you are worthless to me' to the rest...), then there's only two rational responses to this: Passive, stop showing up to any events that are his idea (you have literally thousands of other things that could suddenly become ironclad commitments in a heartbeat, this shouldn't be a reach), because the guy's a liar. Active, call him out, basically. Respectfully, but all the same it's communication to let him know that he is hurting your ability to care about what's going on in his world. It has the conjoined twin virtues of getting clarity of both parties and he has no excuse of ignorance later if he persists. At which point you know it isn't your meds, at least. You may not think he merits being called out on grounds of social entanglements and not needing the drama when you aren't sure you have the whole picture or are being negatively tinted--that's totally understandable to the extent you are able to effectively go the passive route without being backed into a corner that forces you to confront him or allow him to run roughshod over you. These manipulators tend to have a way of getting you in that position by their nature, and we've already covered how they are looking for people just like you who want to do good at your own expense often. Maybe he's not that interested in messing with you specifically and is totally oblivious to the damage he does, who knows. But that's one reason why everyone might be finding excuses not to go, aside from the quality of the time they might have should he show his face, they don't like his behavior and have elected not to go the active route because it's all messy and direct.
  12. Urgan

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    And there it is. I would, uh, make my thoughts known. Particularly about the "friend" part.... There's a reason he isn't getting any, but I just can't put my finger on it....
  13. Urgan

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    Hmm. Seems like there's a pattern emerging. Interesting word choice, in light of his past behavior...
  14. Urgan

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    I'm sure it is water weight, almost nobody gains two pounds of fat in a day. Especially not when they did boxing AND pavement-pounding the same day.
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    Urgan Shows Up, Does the Thing

    Yeah every Sunday I make a bunch of fried eggs for the next morning (because I ain't about that morning cooking) and I often make a few for a meal right then, depending on how many calories. It's dead simple. I just dump the oil in such that the pan looks a bit like a vinyl record with more coconut oil than sesame (zero measuring has been done, it's just a thin layer...), turn on medium high, wait a minute or two until there's a hint of a shimmer in the oil, then I crack my eggs in and turn it down to low and slap the lid on the pan until they are the desired level of cooked. Minimum exposure to popping. If you are really terrified you can crack them in before the oil starts shimmering and wait until it starts to look like it will pop to turn the heat down. However. The hotter you let the oil get, the more likely for a thin, wispy, crispy egg white with that caramelized sesame-tinted goodness. But perfectly edible either way IMO. It's a balancing act.