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  1. Wolfen Develops Mental Toughness

    WOOO! More work and responsibility for Wolfen! Thank you, though, seriously.
  2. Wolfen Develops Mental Toughness

    Literacy Education. Basically, in addition to a salary increase I will be certified to be a reading specialist. But my long-term goal is to be accepted into the Leadership Studies program. With this Masters, I could become a school administrator (among other career options). Always great to have you.
  3. Challenge complete (plus bonus): @Wolfen and @fleaball total = 10.97 miles
  4. Korranation Gets Spirited Away

    Late, as well, but I'm here. Following for the bears.
  5. [Sylvaa] Music Medley

    Any chance you can wake up early? It's really helped me feel like I have more "me" time (although my first priority in the morning is God time, then "me" time). But I'm very much a morning person, so not sure if that's true of you, as well. I usually have my phone off, and I don't think about work stuff. I just enjoy time to myself; sometimes that includes doing nothing but soaking in the quiet morning, meditating, reading a book, listening to music, just something low-stress before everybody else is up and the chaos of my day begins. I know that won't help much as far as getting work done, because that's not the point, but it would help you feel like you have more "time" for yourself.
  6. Wolfen Develops Mental Toughness

    I'm finished with my shift at 2:00, so I'll probably be prepping for my Sprint around that time. But I'll do my best to look for you and cheer you on. I don't know how the race will be structured yet, but maybe I can be at the starting line or the finish line.
  7. Wolfen Develops Mental Toughness

    Always welcome. I have two stories to share. I have been trying to register to start a Master's degree program, but some hiccups with my financial aid stretched this process out almost two weeks. Hours spent on the phone, listening to hold music, trying to explain my situation to people I've never met, nearly losing my temper. My advisor did everything she could on her end, making calls and sending emails. Needless to say, my temper was flaring yesterday and I snapped at my wife when she questioned my efforts to solve this problem. My wife and I have been happily married for 17 years. We don't talk to each other like that. When I saw her get teary-eyed, I realized what I had done. I immediately apologized, held her tightly, and we cried together. I didn't offer any excuses or explanation. I just asked her forgiveness, and she graciously gave it. She encouraged me to try calling again. So, I attempted to call financial aid again and a much more friendly and helpful young lady (Raven was her name--I will never forget that) answered. She promised to speak with one of the financial aid counselors and get my problem resolved. She said, "You will hear from me before 5:00 today. We are going to figure this out." We. Not You, but We, as in she was going to do what she could to help me solve this problem. Every other person I had spoken with had repeated the problem to me and told me what I needed to do to solve it. I watched the clock and said more than a few prayers to God. Then I felt in my heart that God was asking me to trust Him. I sighed, and around 4:50 my phone rang. Problem solved. I am now enrolled at Marshall University Graduate School. Later in the day, I decided to take a quick swim in the river. It had been raining off and on that afternoon, but now it had settled. As I stepped into the river, though, a slow downpour began. It was magnificent. I swam on my back and listened to the drops fall all around me. I praised God and gave Him glory for this beauty. At one point the sun shone through the clouds enough that I could clearly see the rainfall up in the sky above me, the drops glinting in the sunlight. I laughed, I cried out in glory to God, and finished my swim across the river and back. Then (and I'm not making this up) as soon as I stepped out of the river the rain stopped. I gave God praise again as I walked back home and the sky started to clear away enough to see a beautiful sunset. Then, while running my test-out 5k this morning, I was close to quitting about a mile before the end when I heard an owl hoot "Whooo?" Still running, I listened, not sure if I had really heard it. Then it came again. "Whooo?" So I answered. "Jason Louis Lilly, adopted son of the One True God, beloved brother and friend of King Jesus, proud husband to Jennifer, father to Arabella, Gracelynn, Bianca, and Aryanna, warrior and servant, and I will not stop!" I didn't stop, and my finish time was 30:30. My test-in time was 35:27. I also didn't hear from the owl again. Here are my final Soulcon numbers: Age: 37 Height: 5'10.5" Weight: 176 Pushups: Test-in -- 20 Test-out -- 31 Sit-ups: Test-in -- 37 Test-out -- 37 5K: Test-in -- 35:27 Test-out -- 30:30 I have already joined up with another Soulcon tour, Team India. It begins September 11th. I will probably only incorporate and mention elements of Soulcon in my challenges here rather than build another challenge based on Soulcon.
  8. @fleaball, wanna partner with me on this?
  9. [Sylvaa] Music Medley

    I do. And it's been crazy busy. I haven't posted updates in my feed for a few days, either. I'll message you to get some details cleared up, but I don't know how much I can get done.
  10. Wolfen Develops Mental Toughness

    Thank you! I'm glad you stopped by. I'll post another update in the next day or so. Today was the first day with students, so I have been nuts busy and am exhausted.
  11. First things first: Soulcon will continue for the next two weeks, as will my training for the Spartan race. This challenge is not meant as a replacement, but rather a supplement in some cases and a renovation in others. This post is inspired by this quote: "You want to improve your mental toughness? Try this: Be tougher." The construction of the challenge is based on a post by SealGrinder PT titled "10 Tips to Increase Mental Toughness." So, without further explanation, let's do this! 1. Focus on the Present Be mindful of where you are and what you're doing right now. Focus on taking the next step and the next step and the next step. Make small present decisions that take you closer to your bigger goal. Don't stress about the future or moan about the past; be here now and do what you can right now (even if that doesn't seem like much). If you find yourself "lost" in the chaos, pause, take a deep breath, and focus your mind on the present. 2. Have a Short Memory Don't dwell on past mistakes; learn from them and move on. Forgive yourself and forgive others equally. Don't hold on to past hurts either inflicted upon or inflicted by you; learn from them and move on. 3. Stay Positive Take control of a tough situation by driving out negative thoughts reinforcing the positive. Laugh out loud even when you don't feel like it; as a bonus, make someone else laugh and join them. Watch a positive motivational video/movie. Listen to uplifting music, something that reminds you to stay focused and not quit. Read articles/stories about people overcoming negative situations by staying positive. 4. Become a Ritual-aholic Be faithful to your morning routine: 4:45 am wakeup (or earlier) Prayer/Bible reading/quiet time with God -- There is no compromise with this; it is THE most important thing on this list. Take Minnie outside Pushups or burpees (at least 30) Cold shower Brush teeth Get dressed Make bed Drink a tall glass of water Evening Routine (to be modified later) Write down at least 3 things from the day for which you are grateful. No cell phone/iPad/Macbook after 9:30 pm. Read every night. Brush teeth In bed by 10:30 pm with almost no exceptions (work, time with family, etc.) 5. Enjoy the Battle Find joy in the struggle. Like this: If you have to, tell yourself you are enjoying the struggle and force yourself to smile or laugh even as you sweat and grunt and push through your challenges. Listen to music that gets you fired up and helps push you along (see "Stay Positive" suggestions). 6. Visualize your Future Self Similar to Steve Kamb's Level 50 idea, imagine the self you want to be after this challenge. Create a full mental picture as detailed as possible, a full "character study" (physical, emotional, psychological, behavioral). Role play as your future self while completing your challenges, even if you aren't yet able to achieve all that you want your future self to achieve. 7. Hang Around Winners Spend time with people (irl more than online) who are either at or above the level you want to be; this includes both physical ability and spiritual walk Have mentors: men who are more mature and experienced with life's challenges; utilize these men as often as possible by asking questions and spending time with them to watch and learn how they navigate the trials of life. 8. Repeat Affirmations Memorize Bible verses that serve as promises and affirmations from God. Repeat positive affirmations in your mind or out loud that help you focus your heart or mind. Abba, I belong to you. I am a warrior, not a quitter. I am stronger than I know. I am the one Jesus loves. I am an adopted son of God, brother of Jesus, husband and father, teacher, friend, and mentor. I will do this. What we do in life echoes in eternity. When trouble smiles, I smile back. Read and memorize quotes by men who have come before you and overcome challenges and adversity 9. Read Good Books Read at least 10 pages total every day. Choose books that contain and/or teach examples of mental toughness, either fictional or real. Examples: Extreme Ownership -- Jocko Willink Fearless -- Eric Blehm The Way of the Seal and/or Unbeatable Mind -- Mark Divine Spartan Up! -- Joe De Sena Matterhorn -- Karl Marlantes Unbroken -- Laura Hillenbrand Don't Sweat the Small Stuff -- Richard Carlson A Thousand Splendid Suns -- Khaled Hosseini 10. Calm Yourself Meditate daily using the Insight Timer app. Practice breathing techniques (WHM, box breathing, etc.) Incorporate yoga and stretching into your day. Do at least one thing every day that brings you joy: sprint across the field, take a barefoot walk, go for a swim, hike deep into the woods and soak it up, sit in silence and do nothing.