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Novaurora

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  1. I did that a few summers ago when my cousin came to visit. It was both ludicrous and entertaining
  2. So, yesterday was a bit interesting. It was pretty boring until about 8:30. Story in spoiler because it turned into a novel. Nothing bad, actually kinda funny. So, GOALS....I need to be better. I need to use this week to really get back into it. McGonagall Consistent sleep and wake times In bed between 10 and 10:30 Awake between 5 and 5:30 Consistent House Upkeep We have a list, just do the list Consistent Use of Calendar (very good at this, need to keep this up) TAKE MEDS EVERY DAY Cook at home x5 a week Bianca Belair Consistent Workouts (I have been doing well with this) 100 Kettlebell Swings and 50 goblet squats x4 a week (working up to doing this every morning) M/W: Heavy Lifts 5x5 at home T/Sat: Bootcamp class Doing a combination of any 2 of these in a week is considered a win Consistent Calorie Intake 1800 a day IF 7:30am to 5:30pm (I eat my emotions, including boredom...so gotta get this under control) Tiana Finish grad school application Write 200 words a day (1400 a week): 0/1400 Choose one of the following" Read/edit my work 30 minutes Read/edit others work 30 minutes Grade 1 hour a day (yes, even if you don't want to) Visit a "Wilmington Bucket list" place (I have lived here a decade and there are so many things I haven't seen) Plan a lone summer excursion
  3. Thank you!!! I love our chats!! Welcome!! Hopefully I'll last longer than a week this time, ha. Thank you! I'm going to need it! Hell to the yes I am!!!! Thank you!! Welcome! I'll take whatever support I can get! We had some animal wrangling to add to the crazy tonight. More on that later, but DANG I need a break. Thanks! I'm always trying to control things that I can't control, so hopefully this will be less stressful. A bit all over the place, but I'll get to that in a second, ha
  4. Same on my desktop, but not on my phone. I'm so sorry to hear you are struggling. And if we fall of another challenge, at least we fall off together. ALL THE HUGS!!!!!
  5. Oh girl, I'mma be all over your ass now that I know you have that shit at the house! I do too! We can be lifting buddies!!!! You and me both!! You got this!
  6. I love a straight forward challenge. I'm here for it! (hopefully more consistently this time)
  7. So, I had this whole intro written out and then a transformer blew at my house and OF COURSE I was on the desk top so I lost it, so, the tl;dr of that (because I'm not typing it again) was that I'm having a really hard time lately (hence my ghosting of the forum) and I have to put a lot of my financial goals on hold due to things outside my control (*cough* A not paying his share of the shared bills that are also in my name *cough*) SO this challenge will focus EXCLUSIVELY on things that are in my control. So, what are those things? What I eat How I spend my time My own emotional response to things The last few weeks, my foundation and structure were not in place at all, so the first step is getting those things back Here are the goals for the end of this challenge in that regard, paired with the appropriate bad ass bitches Daily Routine Professor Mcgonagall : Let's be honest, when it comes to consistent and dependable, this ya girl. She keeps Hogwarts running as smoothly as possible and is sassy to boot. I just need her tough love in my ears constantly. Consistent sleep and wake times In bed between 10 and 10:30 Awake between 5 and 5:30 Consistent House Upkeep We have a list, just do the list Consistent Use of Calendar (very good at this, need to keep this up) TAKE MEDS EVERY DAY Cook at home x5 a week Food and Fitness Bianca Belair: So, the WWE is 100% my guilty pleasure, and Bianca Belair is known as the EST of the WWE (StrongEST, FastEST, etc...) but I mean, she can lift who dang PEOPLE over her head, and I'm here for it. I want to be STRONG! She also is as confident as she is strong and I'm here for all of that too. She takes care of herself and knows her worth and works hard. Consistent Workouts (I have been doing well with this) 100 Kettlebell Swings and 50 goblet squats x4 a week (working up to doing this every morning) M/W: Heavy Lifts 5x5 at home T/Sat: Bootcamp class Doing a combination of any 2 of these in a week is considered a win Consistent Calorie Intake 1800 a day IF 7:30am to 5:30pm Working Toward Personal Goals: Tiana from Princess and the Frog: While I don't intend on attempting to work myself to death, I do need to borrow some of her insane drive. She knew what she wanted and she went for it. I know what I want and I think about going for it. I have taken a few solid steps in some directions. I started my grad school application, I joined a writing group, I let go of being a perfectionist at school. So, goals: Finish grad school application Write 200 words a day Choose one of the following" Read/edit my work 30 minutes Read/edit others work 30 minutes Grade 1 hour a day (yes, even if you don't want to) Visit a "Wilmington Bucket list" place (I have lived here a decade and there are so many things I haven't seen) Plan a lone summer excursion Here's hoping that having control of all this shit will help me let go of everything else. Have a great day, everyone!
  8. I have been sleeping SO GOOD. Very happy. We had a workday today which was also very helpful for my soul. Another 4 day week next week too. Spring break is on the horizon as well. Living for these breaks. Look at me, updating two weeks in a row like I'm keeping my shit together ha. So, I'm behind on all sorts of shit, but I have started making moves to move forward on the important shit. 1. I have a lawyer and A and I have started talking about and working out a separation agreement. 2. I borrowed some money from my parents to pay for this lawyer catch up a few bills we had perpetually been paying late so I could stop paying late fees and panicking about one mistake ruining my credit 3. I paid my car registration that hadn't been paid since 2020 (small miracles that I never got pulled over) 4. I have continued decorating and organizing parts of the house 5. I got Diamond a surgery that she has needed for a long time (blurry picture of large tumor in spoiler, but also a cute doggo after picture) Actual Goals: BEAU 2 gym sessions per week Can replace with a home session of at least 45 minutes as needed 1800 calories a day (I wanted cake today and let it happen) Yoga x3 Meditation after yoga (1 minute, with a 30 second build each week) AMY Meal Prep With HelloFresh Use the wall calendar and COMPLETE the daily and weekly chore lists AM: PM: Daily Chore: (OOOPS) Take my meds EVERYDAY: Make preparations where I can for financial independence in March (Now, REALISTICALLY, April...due to A) Put things on auto draft (by end of month) Set up a summer saving account to help bulk up my savings without having to think about it Turn in Direct Debit form (by 2nd of week 2)
  9. Thanks for the pokes, guys. I'm okay. Work and life have just been very busy. When I got sick at the beginning of the month I got really behind and I have been doing a lot to get caught up. The dogs are also being super needy with the transition, so I'm spending a lot of time with them. I currently don't have a laptop, so if I'm on a computer, I'm ignoring dogs in the office on the desktop...they are not fans of this. I'm currently updating on my phone with a dog in my lap and another snuggled right up on me. I'm trying to keep busy, so between Girls nights, county equity meetings, therapy, and grading essays every morning for a while, I just haven't made it back. Though, to my credit, I have been pretty consistently taking my meds, I have been working out at least once a week and eating well overall (down 6 pounds), my house has stayed reasonably clean without too many days of ignoring dishes (just don't look in my sink today), I have rearranged a few things and cleared out some stuff, and really started claiming the space as my own. I have secured a lawyer and A and I are getting together Friday to create a separation agreement, hopefully getting both of us what we want as best we can and making everything very easy moving forward. I haven't been nearly as sad lately, just exhausted. I'm ready for it to all be over. Focusing on my job has been hard, hence why I am behind, but I'm letting myself be okay with that as best as I can. I almost updated a few times this week, but just didn't know where to start. I'll be gone this weekend too. Diamond and I are taking a trip to my uncle the vet to get a tumor removed (a big sac that hangs off her belly). I'm very excited and am sure she will appreciate it once she realizes it's gone. Case as point, I just fell asleep on the couch. I will do my best to be more consistent, but also...I love sleep
  10. Thank you! I have lots of great support IRL too. I'm hoping everything will work out, but we haven't even scratched the surface really because he has been out of town for 2 weeks (and its only been a month since we decided) This is a really good point. Thanks! This is the right answer. Haha. I would only get into it if I thought I could make the system better, but its really just too broken. I like my equity gig, that's close enough for now. Good morning, nerds! Yesterday was pretty good. School was uneventful. Had a really good conversation with one of my co workers (who is also a neighbor) about divorce tidbits (mostly housing because he too bought the equity from his wife). He had some good advice and some ideas that were less complicated than what I had been thinking, so that was good. A stopped by the house while I was at work to check on his motorcycle, and he will be back today. I just texted him to let him know I would be home early for a telehealth appt. It's not that I care if he's around, I just don't want him around during my therapy session. I have been noticing small changes in the dogs' behavior lately. I think they are starting to realize that daddy is gone for good, and they are responding by (gently) resource guarding ME. I had friends over yesterday, and Piglet climbed into my lap (50 pound dog) and curled up on top of me. Generally, she just sits on her "pillow throne" or harasses my friends for love. She has also been following me to the bathroom and sitting in front of the door while I pee. They all have to touch me while I sleep. Even now, Diamond is under the desk on the dog bed (which is normal) but her head is resting on my foot. It's kinda sad for them, but everyone is getting EXTRA LOVE. It was good to have my friends over, but did mean that my daily chore didn't get done and I was over calories, and I didn't write....oops. But today is make up day, so I can still catch at least the chore up. BEAU 2 gym sessions per week Can replace with a home session of at least 45 minutes as needed 1800 calories a day Yoga x3 Meditation after yoga (1 minute, with a 30 second build each week) AMY Meal Prep With HelloFresh Use the wall calendar and COMPLETE the daily and weekly chore lists AM: PM: Daily Chore: (can get this check if I do the chore by Friday...that's catch up day) Take my meds EVERYDAY: Make preparations where I can for financial independence in March Put things on auto draft (by end of month) Set up a summer saving account to help bulk up my savings without having to think about it. (by end of Month) Turn in Direct Debit form (by 2nd of week 2) Track spending: ELSA Let go of who we thought we had to/should be at 33, and welcome who we CAN BE Try a new (or forgotten) hobby or gym class Visit somewhere in town I’ve never been WRITE daily for at least 15 minutes (finish draft 3 of Children’s Book, revisit your novel, or one of the million short stories on your drive) Keep a journal about new adventures and self discovery and write in it at least once a week (does not count toward writing goal).
  11. Sorry you had a rough meeting! If you beat him 21-8 last time, hopefully you will get the chance to kick his ass again soon!!
  12. The new painting is shaping up nicely. I love the face close up! So precious!!
  13. My organizing strategy always makes a bigger mess than there was in the middle than there was in the beginning, so you're doing better than me, ha Great start!!!
  14. Functional fitness I'm glad you're able to be there to support your mom, and I hope you get a nap soon!!
  15. Thanks! He's back in town now, so, depending on his plan, we might be making some big moves soon (getting rid of furniture, feeling up more space, etc). Though we need to get in touch with a mediator just so we have a written agreement on paper. And YAY! MORE AJR! Thanks! These are great. I love me some Reba! Good Morning nerds, I just feel like everyone needs to know that Diamond is licking my foot so aggressively that she is currently licking my (slip on) slipper off my foot. Such a weird dog. Anyhoo, yesterday was fine. The highlight was attending another equity meeting for the county. The school board is in the midst of doing some strategic planning, and our equity group was tasked with coming up with a smart goal and some strategies to put things in motion. It feels good to be involved at a level that is outside of my classroom. I was able to make some really good points about community engagement/understanding about equity and a strategy I suggested got added to the plan, so that was cool. Currently, our local community does not trust our school board, BUT its not without cause in some respects, (I mean, I trust like 2 of them...but one of the 7 has tried to gaslight me about something I watched in a meeting THAT THEY SAID, sooooo). There's a part of me that wants to get involved in school politics, but there's another part of me that knows I would HATE IT because I'm an idealist who would not be able to work within the confines of the current system (and I HATE our current superintendent and would cuss him out the first chance I got, so there's that) After the meeting, I sat my ass on the couch and watched the Olympics. And it's so refreshing to admit that the main stress/anxiety I felt yesterday was watching the lower placing men's ice skating competitors in the free skate. After the first one fell twice, every time someone jumped I expected a fall. I should have been more productive, but whatever. A came back to town yesterday. I'll have to reach out this week and see if he wants to get together next week and start talking about what our timeline is moving forward. I'm not hopeful because he's already said things like "we have a year to figure this out..." (legally, in NC, you can't divorce until you have been separated for a year), but I'm going to push for at least a PLAN. I'm not going to throw his shit out on the curb, but I would like to know when the space will be mine to start messing around in without feeling like I'm pushing him out of it. Even if he said something like, "please give me until April to get X sorted out," I'd be down. He could always wait until March. I'll be gone for a week, so he would have free reign. I just want to see him start thinking about the moving forward process that he has been able to thus far avoid because of clients and trips. I likely won't start to do anything major (painting, building) until the summer anyway, as that's when I'll have the uninterrupted time. Also, question to the nerdverse: if we are splitting the equity of the house, should he have to split any repairs to the house that we do before it gets appraised? I can see it both ways. Yes, because that will raise the value of the home which benefits him, but also No because the appraisal price will most likely be lower than a selling price, so he is getting less by just taking the buy out equity?? I'm not sure. I'm trying to be fair because keeping the house is a big win for me, and he didn't have to be so chill about it. But I won't be dealing with that shit for a bit, so that's just some thoughts into the universe. I hope everyone has a great day!!! BEAU 2 gym sessions per week Can replace with a home session of at least 45 minutes as needed 1800 calories a day Yoga x3 Meditation after yoga (1 minute, with a 30 second build each week) AMY Meal Prep With HelloFresh Use the wall calendar and COMPLETE the daily and weekly chore lists AM: PM: Daily Chore: (can get this check if I do the chore by Friday...that's catch up day) Take my meds EVERYDAY: Make preparations where I can for financial independence in March Put things on auto draft (by end of month) Set up a summer saving account to help bulk up my savings without having to think about it. (by end of Month) Turn in Direct Debit form (by 2nd of week 2) Track spending: ELSA Let go of who we thought we had to/should be at 33, and welcome who we CAN BE Try a new (or forgotten) hobby or gym class Visit somewhere in town I’ve never been WRITE daily for at least 15 minutes (finish draft 3 of Children’s Book, revisit your novel, or one of the million short stories on your drive) Keep a journal about new adventures and self discovery and write in it at least once a week (does not count toward writing goal).
  16. BEAU trying to figure out what this week of fitness should look like coming off of COVID) 2 gym sessions per week Can replace with a home session of at least 45 minutes as needed 1800 calories a day Yoga x3 Meditation after yoga (1 minute, with a 30 second build each week) AMY (surviving this week) Meal Prep With HelloFresh Use the wall calendar and COMPLETE the daily and weekly chore lists AM: PM: Daily Chore: Take my meds EVERYDAY: Make preparations where I can for financial independence in March Put things on auto draft (by end of month) Set up a summer saving account to help bulk up my savings without having to think about it. (by end of Month) Turn in Direct Debit form (by 2nd of week 2) Track spending: ELSA Let go of who we thought we had to/should be at 33, and welcome who we CAN BE Try a new (or forgotten) hobby or gym class Visit somewhere in town I’ve never been WRITE daily for at least 15 minutes (finish draft 3 of Children’s Book, revisit your novel, or one of the million short stories on your drive) Keep a journal about new adventures and self discovery and write in it at least once a week (does not count toward writing goal). Also, I'm really digging this song right now, and kinda see it as me now talking to my younger self: I may have listened to it an absurd amount of times yesterday. Also This: Feel free to drop your best MOVING FORWARD songs Have a great day everyone!!
  17. I missed this post earlier, be all the smug! You go! Also, I love your pupper!!!!!! Good luck with your plan!!
  18. I like the step up, and your progress bars are neat!
  19. I hope your back gets some relief soon!!
  20. It's been pretty good so far! No complaints It's a really unique experience. I love it!! Thanks for the support guys!!!! Hello nerds!! My mental space has had a HUGE shift since yesterday. I think just literally seeing PEOPLE and not feeling isolated and alone revived my soul. I got all of my goals yesterday (except writing), BUT I made sure I did my 15 minutes this morning (editing a short story) so I squared that away for today. The biggest thing I did yesterday was transform "our" bathroom into "my bathroom." It wasn't anything big. I put his toothbrush and toothpaste, and his old plastic cup that housed our toothbrushes in his vanity drawer, I found a cute polka dot mason jar that was getting dusty on the shelf and put my toothbrush and toothpaste in it. And I put tampons and q-tips into stemless wine glasses for storage (instead of just having them sit around in the boxes), and put all my "bathroom accessories" into a make up bag I won at a raffle that now sits neatly on the sink. I stopped hanging two towels on the wall, and now I use one hanger for yoga clothes, and found a second mason jar for a drinking cup. I'm very proud of my organized make up bag (that holds no make up) so here's a picture There aren't before pictures because I was just trying to scrub the toilet, not have a hallmark moment with tampons and wine glasses. But hey, I'll take it. Also, be careful kids; wet colored hair will stain countertops! (see slightly blue smudge on my counter) The rest of my night was pretty uneventful. I read my book while snuggling dogs on the couch, ate WAY TOO MUCH DINNER (but skipped lunch and had a 130 calorie protein bar for breakfast, so made it well in under calories), I did some journaling and reflecting and my nighttime chores. I went to bed late, but sleepy time meditation for the win again. I could probably recite the first 10 minutes of that thing by heart. I got up at 5:15 this morning, did my writing and my yoga and my meditation. So, in terms of goals, we are doing pretty solid so far. Happy enough!
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