Tanktimus the Encourager

Well done. I am very proud of you, amd as you suspect, finding the good that came out of a very bad situation is indeed a sign of progress.

Today is a good day. Work was good. It's cold here in Texas, like actually below freezing all day. It wasn't as bad as yesterday when the wind was blowing. There was some freezing rain in outlying areas, so I got to work from home and make phone visits till about 1030 when I got cleared to drive and do visits in person. It was nice. The other nice thing is we finally got to use our fireplace. Yesterday and today we've had really good fires going. I can watch the fire like a TV show. I went to the mailbox today all bundled up. Using my jacket and a scarf and a hat and gloves is a treat, like a sunny day in London. I also stretched. I cooked but don't feel like describing it. It wasn't bad, it wasn't great.

Thank you. This community is bigger than me, of course, and at the same time whenever any person no longer actively participates it's sad. Thank you for that. I really appreciate it. It's been fun reading about your life too. I've learned a lot from you. Thanks for the support. It is The Way, quite literally from a certain point of view.

Thank you for the support. Thank you so much. Same goes for you. Thank you. I'm so glad we got to meet last new years. That was a lot of fun. Can't say I blame you. Fortunately I have IRL connections through my church, which is why I'm finally ready to let go of online stuff. Sad things are sad. I feel peace about this. The post wasn't hard to write, which indicates this is the right decision. Thank you for that. Thank you, and the lessons I learned here will help me out in meatspace. Thanks, I'll miss you too.

Following.

It's been a great weekend. My Church thing on Thursday was a prayer session at a sister church that was incredible for me, then on Saturday I went to a conference that church is hosting as part of training for our church to give the same kind of prayer sessions. Some stuff from waaay back got knocked loose and I got an amazing sense of peace. Then at the conference I was able to make some important decisions, one of which affects my time online. I'm avoiding social media for a while, and I made the decision to eliminate my social media and imgur accounts (I left reddit several years ago) after the time is over. FB is going away forever, I'm not letting Zuck's algorithms try to rewrite my brain anymore. The other, bigger decision, and one likely you do not want to read about, is that this will be my final challenge on the forums. I won't delete my account, and I'll stay on the NF Forums discord, but I need to let the forums go. I've been feeling forum fatigue for some time, then Spezzy's news was hard to take, then I realized my time here is coming to an end. This has been an amazing community for me. I joined in 2012 in the midst of a toxic marriage, then participated for the first challenge of 2013, then went away till 2015 when the divorce was in process. Since then I've participated in every challenge except for the one that took place during my second wedding. This place (and all of you) have seen me through that divorce, my time single, my time getting married, my journey into parenthood, and through a career change. I'm very grateful for everything I've learned and every single time I've been supported. The challenge ends Feb 4th, so we have till then. The bigger part of this is I'm walking away from seeing the computer and my phone as sources of entertainment, and more as tools. I complain about not having enough time, but if I'm not wasting hours on interactive screens, I have more time to workout, maintain my house, work on marriage and parenting. This is the right decision, and right decisions are sometimes hard, like the one to step back from the forums. I love this community, and all of you, and as Tony Stark said, things end. Thank you all for being a part of my life.

I thought that was regularly implied after one is potty trained.

The rules are different in every state so you'd have to check to be sure but I would suspect once you were renting it would take a fomral eviction process to get you out.

That us not ok. Your mom is perpetuating the lie that you are not allowed either your own feelings or to struggle. It is ok foe you to have opinions and feelings and you are allowed to struggle.

Today is a good day. Work was fine. Dinner was out. Strength and stretch today.

Our honeymoon was in Barcelona, I strongly recommend it.

Setting boundaries are hard. You are not "the bad guy" you are settling boundaries that will ensure the health of the group. That makes you the good guy. If anyone has a problem with that, I suggest the one making the boundaries necessary is responsible for the situation.

Sounds good. Today is a good day. No fitnessing, I gave myself a pass. I had a church thing that was really good. I cooked before I left. I cooked some Italian sausage and set it aside. Next I toasted some ravioli in olive oil, then added some water to the skillet and covered it and walked away for a bit. I set that aside. next I melted 6 tbsp of butter and threw in some fresh chopped rosemary and minced garlic. Then I added some steamed wax beans, green beans, and carrots. Then I added the ravioli and sausage, and added in some parmesan. It was very good.

I hope you feel better soon and the work situation sorts itself.

All forms of dementia are cruel because they take your loved one before they are gone. I wouldn't be surprised if some part of you is already in the grief process.

Hugs friend. I support whatever decision you end up making.

Semantically the phrase functions more like "so to speak."

If plucking hairs caused more hair to grow no man would have a scanty beard and no one would go bald except for those who choose to shave their head, are undergoing chemo, or have alopecia.

It was. Today is a good day. Work was fine. Dinner was out. Stretch and stroll done.

So sorry. It's awful losing a member of the family.

You have made a wise decision. I applaud it and am proud of you.

I spent one night in Paris after a flight got cancelled as I came home from Spain. The less time you spend at Charlles de Gaulle airport the better, flying out of somewhere else if possible is recommended. The Mediterranean is beautiful, would make South of France worth it.

Sucks getting plugged back in. Hugs friend. I like the smooth way you set a boundary with your mom.

Could that reason be related to how hard it's been to get a helpful doctor with the chronic fatigue?

I'm glad you are still breathing. Hoping for good news.