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jtggodqos - detox Main Quest ultimately, I will achieve a body weight of 130lbs and a body fat percentage under 25. Goals Exercise: I vow to adhere to the following workout plan every day, with the rare exception.Mon, Wed, Fri: upper body (bench press, military press, seated row, bicep curl, tricep curl, lat pulldown)Tue, Thu, Sat/Sun: lower body (calf raises, squats, lunges)Diet: I vow to refrain from consuming more than 1700 clean kcal every day, with the rare exception.Alcohol: I vow to refrain from purchasing any alcohol, with the rare exception.Positivity: I vow to post one positive thing every day. My Motivation I vow to adhere to the above requirements, because I'm fucking sick of how I look, and I'm tired of this Depression.healthy eating and regular exercise are good for the body, alcohol is not; and positivity is good for the soul. Notes the "with the rare exception" clause must be validated by Brian -- if he deems it acceptable, then I can invoke it. this ensures I don't let myself "cheat" too much.I must input every day's progress on both my spreadsheet AND my NerdFitness thread. this ensures accountability. Alcohol Notes I'm going to look into going to weekly AA meetings.I am already permitted to purchase alcohol on the following days:Friday, August 1 - Monday, August 9 (MechaCon in New Orleans)Friday, August 8 (for the next day's TMNT party)Saturday, August 16 (long-planned Gurlz Nite Out)if Brian and I go out to dinner Links spreadsheetMyFitnessPalFitbitFitocracymy blog

OK, I've been lurking here for months, since I first started reading NF blog last year. I've wanted to try the 6-week challenge for a long time, and the weight of my health choices has become too much to bear. Time for change! *Deep breath* My most crucial and urgent health issues primarily stem from a personal struggle I've lived with my whole adult life - alcoholism. I'm sure any of you who've dealt with addiction before understand it's a difficult thing to speak openly about, and I must confess I felt a great deal of reluctance to share this. I'm quite a private person by nature, and I always try to deal with my problems on my own. But change and growth cannot be achieved without pain, so here I am, airing my dirty laundry in the interests of self-improvement. Public accountability can be a powerful tool for motivation I'm not a drunkard (I don't drink drive, or before work), but I always drink more than I should, after work pretty much daily. My excess consumption has led me to neglect many important aspects of my life - socializing, dental health, mental health, diet and exercise. So, for my first 6-week challenge, I fight my demon in a head-to-head deathmatch. And I will defeat the foul beast! My goals are as follows. - Reduce my alcohol consumption. Specifically, my aim is for at least 5 alcohol-free days per week, though my past experiences fighting this monster suggest complete abstinance will be a more viable long-term strategy. Attributes: CHA +1, WIS +2, CON +2 - Improve my dental health. Specifically, floss daily, and brush at least once per day (before bed). Also, during this 6-week challenge, I will get to my dentist for a check-up. Attributes: CHA +3, WIS +2 - Return to regular exercise. Specifically, I will return to my Wing Chun Kung Fu school, attending at least 3 training sessions per week. Attributes: DEX +2, STR +1, STA +2 I'll work out my A-F gradings later, but for now I just wanted to state my intentions.

For the most part I really lucked out in the In-Law lottery. I love my in-laws and enjoy their company. They quickly got over their initial judgement of me and have been nothing but accepting and encouraging since. Except one for one thing. One major thing. They drink. A lot. As the child of an abusive alcoholic this is not okay. So I try to limit it when I can. Obviously drink water, got to places/do activities where alcohol isn't a part of the landscape, only get limited quantities of alcohol for good dinners. It doesn't seem to help. This weekend they came down. We had a bottle of white among the 4 of us when they got in. I had a couple bottles for nice dinners through the weekend that were on the counter but put aside. After my husband and I went to bed they opened one of the bottles, and drank the whole thing. They also finished 1/2 a bottle of whiskey. Fast forward to the next day. We go out and have a great day wandering around an arboretum. Nice lunch out. They ask to stop at a liquor store on the way back. Being foolish I thought it was just to grab another bottle of white, since they drank the last bottle the night before. I should have known better. Vodka and tequila. As soon as we got home the bottles were opened (6pm-ish) and they started drinking. I had a gin and tonic, minus the gin. Mother-in-Law had a vodka and tonic, minus the tonic. I cook dinner and the husband opens a bottle of the nice red wine to go with. The four of us drink that like civilized human beings. After, the M-i-L goes back to the vodka and the F-i-L goes to the tequila with ice. The total damage? 1/2 a bottle of vodka, 1/3rd a bottle of tequila. I've talked to my husband about this in the past. He knows it really bothers me, but is non-confrontational about it. My sister-in-law is on the other coast and a bit preoccupied with toddler to really be able to help. I'm left feeling like this isn't my place to say anything but screaming inside that someone needs to do something. At this point I feel like I can only refuse to drink around them and hide all the adult beverages when they come visit. Start skipping family events (a major issue as they live 4 hours away so it isn't like not popping over for Sunday dinner, but would involve skipping holidays) and I don't know what. It feels very passive aggressive. They don't know about my alcoholic parent (who has now been dry for 17 years) out of my respecting said parent's wishes in keeping quiet about it. I'm just at my wit's end. This is clearly not okay behaviour and my hands are pretty tied. I'm beginning to wonder if I'm not going to end up spending the holidays alone on a beach in the Caribbean to make a point.