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1. Stop Hiding, Be Noticed. CHA +3 Now in a safe-haven, not out in the wilderness hiding from assassins and other hostile passers-by, it's time to stop hiding and become accepted by the crowd. Make friendly & confident eye contact with EVERYONE!Stand up straight (posture check at least 10 times a day, until I have 5 consecutive days of success at each check)Develop and use helpful mantras to build confidence (e.g. 'I know more than I think')Identify & make use of opportunities to build relationships with new peopleGive myself permission & feedback, rather than trying to seek it from other people (which may not be appropriate) 2. Become Fighting Fit. STA +2 After weeks of muscles atrophying, it's time to start over again. I'm larping (as my evil alter ego) 3 weeks into the challenge, and I want to be on top form! Go to gym at least twice a week. 3. Stop The Poison. CON +2 Addiction to underdark goodies is no use here, wean myself off sugar & aspartame! Potential exception is sugar during my birthday & larping weekend (fortunately, 3 consecutive days). By week 3, get aspartame consumption down to 0 per week.Immediately stop all sugary snacks at work. 4. Quieten The Troubled Mind. WIS +2 Too many worries about the future, regrets about the past, and noise from the present... the mind needs to be set free to find enlightenment and true joy! Do daily 2 minute breathing exercisesDo nightly back stretches for 5 minutesNo more using mobile phone in the bathroomLess forum & facebook checking 5. Live Happily With The High Elf. WIS +3 A Drow female brought up in a strongly matriarchal society and a male High Elf (say no more) is an interesting cultural mix. These two need to learn to get along without killing each other. Praise & recognise the elf when he is helpfulWin the elf's trust by letting him know what I'm upto & what I've doneHear the elf outWrite down requests from the elf so that these are not forgotten nor discardedUse outcome-oriented assertiveness techniques to communicate with the elf 6. Speak To Be Heard. CHA +3 Strangely enough, it seems that people are interested in my opinion. Now I just need to deliver it in a calm and confident way, not in the manner of someone being chased or afraid. Practice voice techniques 4 times a week:speaking slowerspeaking louderputting in frequent pausesclosing my mouth when not speaking I appreciate that these are a lot of things, but hey! they're all important, and there's no time like the present! I'll update some of these goals with metrics for SMARTifying later. On top of these goals, there's the following nice-to-haves... 7. Watch Yourself (no points) Start tracking how long it takes to do routine chores, tasks (e.g. putting away washing, cleaning the kitchen) and other things such as using the bathroom, internet usage, as I feel I waste a lot of precious time on all these. I imagine that, by tracking, I'll start trying to bring down these times in response but we'll see. 8. Always Improve, Always Better (no points) Do a weekly retrospective at the weekend on my new job: what went rightany obstacles I need to deal withanything I could have done better & howwhat I could do next to wow people