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Just heard that Mr_Willes has left us and has passed. I dedicate my thread to his memory! ❤️ lets be there for each other and do great stuff while we can! This challenge will be a simple one where I learn to be consistent and treat myself well while hopefully not being bored out of my mind. As you probably know I got sober during the last challenge. Im 12 days in and can happily report that I was lucky not to have been physically addicted. I have had no withdrawal symptoms or urges yet. Still, I used drink in a maladaptive way and have for a time been wondering whether life without my daily bubbly could still be an adventure with lots of fun to be had. You know, I used to drink for the buzz. I didnt want one glass, I wanted 4. If I had kept this up and added a little bit more consumption every year( being at a point where I consumed a bottle of bubbly every night) I would probably need 2 bottles of wine in 4 years. I want to stop before I fuck up my good life and my relationships. Im hearing lots of stories in the SMART meetings I attend online, about people having to rebuild their life from zero who dont have friends anymore because they turned into asshats without realizing. I dont like the word sober though and certainly dont want a life that is boring and where I can't enjoy myself. This challenge I want to go on finding the exiting bits of sobriety. A nice side effect of not opening wine at 6pm is that there is way more time in your day. Im going to use it to take a second walk with my dog child every day. Up to now I have done one walk a day ( 4k) where she could run without leash. Thats simply not enough and I have been quite ashamed of not moving Lara enough. She has a garden to play in at least, but I want to do better. So I commit to walking her around noon and in addition in the early evening. Ive already started this and am currently walking about 8k a day. ( which has the great side effect of melting my blubber as well!) Another thing that has popped up in my newly sober brain is that I want to make more effort again to look nice and well dressed every day. I have a ridicioulusly small budget, so I will not be able to buy nice new clothes. What I can do though is make an effort to look nice. I can have fun with nail polish and a tiny bit of makeup?? maybe find some summer clothes in a charity chop? Thing is: I dont want a partner in the near future because I enjoy being single so much.. that resulted in me not trying to impress people. I dressed nice only when I had work or important appointments. Mostly I would just not care much about what I put on in the mornings or if my hair looked nice. Now I feel like taking better care of myself and even though I wear jogging pants often, I can make some kind of an effort to look kinda well kept. goals: stay sober no matter how you feel and find the fun parts of not drinking. Use the SMART meetings 1 to 2 times a day to check in. Work on some worksheets every week, journal through this phase here and on the SMART website. read quit lit as if your life depended on it. It may depend on it, babe! walk Lara once around 1 pm and a second time in the early evening every weekday. You may do less on weekends. One of those walks has to be without her having to be on a leash. Dont worry about anything else ( Fitbit, time, running intervals) except moving your body in a way that feels good and makes you and the dog happy and exited. Try to be in nature as much as possible. Use your cheap monthly bus/ local train ticket to explore more nice places to take Lara. shower and dress every weekday. You may be a slob on weekends if you dont leave the house or get visitors. Try to combine the shitty clothes you have in a way that makes you look kinda nice. have regular mani/pedi sessions. Explore the joys of nail polish and a tiny bit of makeup. If you have enough money go to some charity shops and see if you can find some nice vintage dresses or short pants for summer. you are not doing this for someone else. You may look nice for yourself, darling!