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I need some advice, specifically from men, I guess... but everyone is welcome to comment. I would really like my relationship to move to the next level (get engaged, get married), but I don't want to be the one to propose. It's something I would consider, but I would prefer to be asked. So how do I "make it known" that I would like to be proposed to, sooner rather than later, but still keep it romantic? I don't want to make any demands or cry at him or give him an ultimatum. I would really, more than anything, like to be surprised and romanced by the whole thing.... but I have been kind of expecting it for a while now. Here are the facts: I'm 32He's 38We've been together for 2 yearsWe've been living together for a yearWe're not super romantic types. We're pretty laid back. We have talked about marriage and kidsWe both want kids (I specifically want 2. He seems cool with that)I have basically planned my future wedding on Pinterest alreadyMy "dream" wedding is maximum $4000. I also have a Pinterest board full of rings... most are under $200. He was really slow (imo) telling me he loved me. We'd been dating for 6 months. He mentioned the possibility of us moving in together BEFORE telling me he loved me (what??!) I have come to the point that the waiting is getting difficult and has caused tears & frustrationI have decided that if the proposal doesn't happen on V-Day, I have to say something. We've talked about our own personal versions of our life timelines before. At the time I think his priority was buying property, then the other stuff. Mine was marriage, baby, then property. I explained that for me, babies were a priority because it's easier to get knocked up when you're under 35. I live in Vancouver, which is the most expensive place in the country to live and the third most expensive in the world, I believe. So we CANNOT afford to buy property right now. Not even close. Mimimum for a mortgage on a decent place in one of the suburbs is about $300,000. Engagement ring and wedding, according to MY standards, is cheap and financially doable any time... We can afford babies too, with our current rent. So. Any advice? How should I bring it up? How should I approach this without taking all the romance out of it or making him feel pressured or guilty? Please help!