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So here's my issue - My husband started this journey with me and has only agreed to eat a select few veggies (broccoli, lettuce, and cucumbers) - to be honest, I think that there are a lot of options that he is missing out on because of this unwillingness to try something new. I want to add more flavorful veggies to our diet, but I don't want to make more than one meal to accommodate what I feel like is someone being stubborn. It was kind of funny, the first day we started this, he sent me a picture of his salad he had for lunch that was half eaten to prove he did, in fact, eat a vegetable. I know that he's trying to change, and I know that it is and will be slow going, but I feel like I'm missing out on positive experiences that we could have with foods that are healthy, and I want to experiment with. We've agreed on a few things but it's been kinda difficult when it comes to healthy food. Our definitions of healthy are vastly different, and can cause a clash when it comes to dinner. He's someone who grew up with unhealthy choices in the home (I did too, but mine was interspersed with the occasional healthy food) and it definitely bled over into his adult eating habits. If he could he'd completely live on fried chicken, hamburger helper, pizza, mac and cheese and soda - and never have to look at a vegetable. Which I can't do, because I have always known to add veggies to my diet and honestly feel a slight twinge of guilt each time I actively choose not to add them, but I just never took the time to make it a point to have them at every meal, and it got easier and easier to eat like crap. It would be nice to be able to hide veggies in the foods that we do eat, but I can't even be seen preparing them for dinner or there'll be an argument over me making him try something he doesn't want to. So, for now, I feel like I'm stuck, and I'm a little worried that all this work that I've put into this will fail because I am going to get frustrated and give up. TL:DR - If anyone has a way to make veggies not so scary to my picky husband, I'd be grateful.

When 2013 began my wife and I decided to take part in a 90 day “The Biggest Loserâ€-style weight loss challenge amongst our friends and family. She was doing great at first and was on the top of the leaderboard for the first month. Then she lost motivation. She had a bad week of eating and it completely derailed her and when she fell out of the top three it’s like she gave up altogether. My wife is naturally pessimistic, which is in stark contrast to my generally positive attitude. When it came time to take our measurements at the beginning of March, she said that she doesn’t want to take her measurements and that I upset her by bringing it up (even though it’s something we had done at the beginning of January and February). She didn’t want to take the measurements because she had fallen off the wagon and was sure she didn’t lose any weight or drop any number of inches. She’s also disgusted with the way her stomach looks after having two kids within 13 months of each other between 2011 and 2012, both via c-section. She’s convinced that she’s doomed to be overweight (she actually calls herself obese, but I disagree with her self-assessment) and I find it very difficult to motivate her because she counters my attempts at motivating her by saying I’m ACTUALLY insinuating something else that makes her feel worse. For instance, I said to her that if her and I get active and healthy then it will set a good example for our kids as they grow up. She countered that with, “That means you think I’m a bad mother.†After assuring her that was not the case, she asked me for some other words of motivation that wouldn’t make her feel bad and we just went back and forth with me trying to give her some positive motivation and her countering it with what she says I “really†meant. For as long as we’ve been together I have been trying to tell her that I don’t speak in subtext and that what I say is what I TRULY mean, but she thinks what she’s going to think. I finally got one that she liked, (Workout because it’s fun!) but it wasn’t enough to get her motivated and she finally just gave up on relying on me to motivate her and half-hearted a work out. Finally, I think that seeing my continuing success and how my body is changing for the better is making her feel bad about giving up and in some roundabout way has sapped her of any motivation. Has anyone had experiences like this with their own spouse? I’d like her to get back on the horse. I want her and I to get more fit and more comfortable with our bodies TOGETHER. But given how she has reacted to my attempts at motivation I have no idea how to even broach the subject without making her feel like I’m calling her a big, fat, fatty (which is what she would think I mean when in fact I said nothing of the sort). Any suggestions would be appreciated.