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So as I already wrote down in my introduction my first goal here was to join the first week challenge, here I am now. First off I think I will alter it in a way which is fitting to me, so don't judge me if I do it "wrong", I actually just do it in another way. In concept I think it still stays the same though Long-term-goals shortended down for this challenge: - Be happy with myself and what I do - find a job training for august/september - be self-aware, know my skills, abilities and traits and be able to communicate and use them - live healthy and stay fit, become even more fit! - going to an international lindy hop workshop How do I wanna reach them is part of the question why am I here. I love RPG's, I love roleplaying and while I was jogging an hour before a concept came on my mind. As I stated I am a thinker and a lot in my head. My intention now is, that I play it like a RPG, so I will create myself as a character who has traits, skills, abilities etc. and sort them into some categories. I plan on working on some of them in every 4 week challenge (of course just if I notice it helps my, it is still just a try out). I will look at this created character and look what I want to improve, what is ok and so on, like I would do it in Morrowind or another RPG, while Morrowind still has the best progression system, that's a fact! :p I will track my progression and it will also help me to see my progress and my achievements, which is a weakness of myself at all, also I think this way helps me to sort out where to start in the next challenge and so on. So this might seem a bit abstract, but if I visualize it it should be quite rational... I guess. For the first challenge it will be quite basic then. First off I want to create the character, where I sort in Skills and Abilities in some basic (attribute) categories: (this is just the basic first idea, I will alter it until the challenge starts I guess) Physical did some martial arts before Jogger some basic fitness Dancer weak arms food habits doubt on real training successes easily and often injured Mental Creativity Thinker (creative and logically) fast learner History Nerd (mostly) stay calm love useless knowledge bad in focussing persistance, it is hard for me to keep on track finding goals to achieve organisation and structuring low self esteem selfdoubts no job low mindfulness Social Talking (much^^) honest and direct forgiving dancing up to do some good things for those around you staying in contact with people easily distracted smalltalk money selfconfidence feeling the need to fit in concentration issues Traits here i will add things that are just there and I cannot really change, so stuff I can accept or decline, I can work with or deny ADHD Passionista Thinker Brooder (still dont know if this is the word^^) Mindhopper (i change topic faster than my shadow, in my head and while i talk) imperfectionist impulsivity Regular activities dancing (training and social dance parties) jogging bodyweight workouts cold showers meeting friends video games learning french 1 € a day into my savings-penguin 30 days push up challenge Shisha, but I reaaally reduced it! OK, those are some... but what will I do with them? As you have seen I color-coded them. Green means i think it is good / a strength and red stands for I think it is bad / a weakness, while yellow just says "dunno yet". So my task is the following: red: I think those are bad, but are they stopping or slowing me anyhow or anywhere? If yes they are important, so I need to put them on my priority list. Are they important and urgent? Then they are on top of my priority list. If no then they are there, so what? yellow: What is bad with them, what may be good? Then proceed like in red. green: Cool, you have strength and positive stuff! How could it help to improve yourself? And as they are my strength and I have fun while doing some of those, I should keep on working to improve and use them, implement them to my week is important! Regular activities: So those are the things I do (before the challenge). Are they helpful? Do I wanna keep doing them? So following my concept, this will be my first 4 week challenge: Physical - Goal: Improve Fitness! - continue 30 days push up challenge, but stop when my shoulders say so - one piece of fruit or vegetable a day, coke just on weekends - enter the muay thai classes again - go to bed before 1 in the morning Mental Goal: Work on your organization Issues - watch those 30 essential ideas about ADHD videos - do your CV (one tabular, one written) - find a side-job and look for some try outs - set a goal for every social dance, where do you want to improve? - get a calender and a pocket planner, work with them and use colours! Social Goal: Go into a group which is important for you and do your thing - muay thai classes - dance with at least 5 different partners every social dance - look if you can join a local political party What would be the long term idea? I would track what I do and achieve, maybe even here in the forum but at least for me in a journal. I can flesh out the caracter even more, find more strengths of mine, more weaknesses and in the end I think this could help me to keep track of my improvements and where are my real issues. Things I did before did not work really good so it is worth to give this a try. Feel free to comment, I am open for every kind of critics, ideas or whatever comes in your mind. Again thanks for reading, I try to keep it short the next time Greetings, Sir Pinguin

Hi guys First off: Happy new year! I randomly found this site and the forums while i could not sleep and got stuck on my cellphone. So I decided to sign in here on the next day and get started, just to try if it helps me to stay on track. (It is actually a coincidence that I join in the new years eve, it is not a new year's resolution, so it has actually a chance to work and I have a good possibility to retrospect next year) Some words about me: I am a nearly 29 years old dude living in Germany (Bremen to be precise) who needs a change in life. Right now I am unemployed, try to get along with ADHD and struggle to have some goals to achieve besides some undefined ones I will mention later. Also I am a quite creative and intelligent guy, much is happening in my head and i am a "thinker", i do think much an way too often before I do something. I would define it more as "Grübeln", I don't know the English word, google says it is "brood". Maybe this is the right one, maybe it is not. Generally I would consider myself to be kind of sporty: I dance Lindy Hop(Swing-Dance) regulary, go jogging and do some bodyweight-workouts about twice a week, I also did Martial Arts, played football (the soccer one) and tried lots of stuff like parkour, different dance-styles, yoga etc. Unfortunatly I am way too much injured from sports and need to change that. I shortly recovered from an ignited supraspinatus tendon, my bottom back is kind of hurting too. So I need to learn to train correctly and listen to my body. (Oh, and as everyone is mentioning wheight and height: about 80kg and 1,81m, also I am a vegetarian also denying eggs and most of milk (exept yoghurt and cheese... CHEEEESE) So the "Do sports!" stuff is not so much a problem, it's more like: You started to do sports regulary, you keep on going for one year now, you are persistant and endurant... why don't you use those skills for the other important party in your life? Why am I here then? I want to learn from myself, I want to learn from others, I may help others. I hope to find some help here, how and why I will point out now: Initially i looked for some stuff to help me, like apps or routines to get some order into my life, which is quite a chaos right now. Don't get me wrong: I do love and i do appreciate chaos, there is just no balance, no counterpart. So I found this page and was quite interested, I liked the concept and thought it would be a good idea to try it out, especially as it is not all about sports and fitness here, it seems to be about the whole concept of . So now as I am here there needs to be some goals, something to achieve in short-term and long-term and this is a great start to think about those goals, here is my "concept": Long-Term Goals: - Find the right vocational training (right word again? ) - Have a dog - get back my individual responsibility (right word again? ^^) - feel obliged to me, I say I do and I do! - be happy with myself and my life - live healthy and stay fit, become even more fit! - care for myself, there is just one me - be self-aware, know my skills, abilities and traits and be able to communicate and use them - handle my finances in a better way - live and work in France Short-Term Goals: - do some internships - get a side job - go back to my Muay Thai Gym, also doing yoga there - join the tough mudder in summer (Hamburg) - keep on running, dancing and doing sports - keep going to the social dance parties - learn how to train healthy - get some regeneration and relaxation habits - become defined - special running goals until february: 15 km in one run (i do 12 right now), 5 km run in under 5 minutes per kilometer (i do about 5:20 right now) - improve my eating habits - travel and camp in the Carpatians and on the Irish coast - be more kind and fair to myself - sleep healthy - look into the mirror and smile (every day) - generally more caring for my mental health - find a way to structure the week - get some new input from others - improve my French And especially for this forum: Plan and do my first 4 Week Challenge, also log it for myself and maybe others! So this is a lot, I sometimes think it is too much, I have to add another short-term goal then: Prioritize and focus! Well, thank you if you read this, it is hell of a lot and more than I first thought it woud be. As I really need to change something and I am the only one who is able to do it for me there needs to be a start, and this start shall be today If you have any questions or remarks feel free to ask or message me. I am always happy if I get tips, help or hints, may it be lifehacks or tools, or even some small things which change little. I know i have to take small steps to improve and get better, too often I was greedy, took the big step and fell. I would also be glad to find a wingman (or sidekick as it is called here). I know it helps if feel kind of obliged to someone else with my tasks. Best Greetings, Sir Pinguin P.S.: Oh, and I nearly forgot a short story which always drives a tear into my eye and is basically all I wrote extensivly in a comprimised, but nearly perfect form: There is a story about a pengiun told by the German doctor Eckart von Hirschhausen. Well, I am not that penguin and I will never be, but this story is still inspiring my and teaches me what I want to achieve: I will always be myself, a penguin. I wont fly to the moon and reach for the stars, i will never win a rally in a desert and I will never reach the highest tree. But when I finally reach my element, I will swim like noone else, I will dance in the sea and keep those warm who are close to me... and most important I will be happy with what I got.