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[Severine]

On 9/5/2017 at 8:48 AM, Sylvaa said:

Part of my "issue" with the idea of mental toughness, is that I don't believe it can be trained. 

 

I'm pretty close to this opinion: I think it's mostly formed so early on in life that by the time you're old enough to think about it you can't do much. And also I think a lot of what helps with developing mental toughness as a kid is either fairly shitty to go through or fairly hard to artificially create for the average parent.

 

I do think it can be augmented with habit and mental outlook, though. Sort of how you can't necessarily do much about brittle bones if you have certain disorders, but you can make sure you have strong muscles and ligaments and connective tissue and that can do a lot to compensate.

 

On 9/5/2017 at 8:48 AM, Sylvaa said:

And I got hit on one night by a co-worker. But it was weird and awkward. 

 

Dislike.

 

On 9/6/2017 at 0:57 PM, Sylvaa said:

Tonight, we are going to the local Y to sign up for a family membership. My brother is planning on signing up at some point too. It's only slightly more expensive than our previous gym, but has a pool, so it'll be definitely worthwhile (I'll be able to get a swim or two in a week!). I would like to start semi-training for a triathlon (I've got a training plan, but I can't commit to it until I have better access to a pool through the week - hotel pools aren't usually the correct length to be useful). The Y is right across from the high school and at least my son is interested in working out (and he's old enough to do so without a parent). I'm hoping that if he starts, my husband will be better about going after work because he'll have to pick up my son. 

 

This sounds amazing. My family always went skating (fall/winter) or swimming (spring/summer) together on Friday nights and I loved it so much.

 

22 hours ago, Sylvaa said:

Look, it's frustrating when you have a child that is overweight. I know this personally (my son has been on the high end of the curve since he was young and crossed over into being considered overweight when he hit about 13). It's even more frustrating when you work hard to try to keep your kids healthy and they are still showing up as overweight. But how about you take 5 minutes to think about how you want to address this instead of ranting on FB about how your poor baby is being accused of being overweight and the doctor doesn't know what they are talking about. 

 

This is sad for so many reasons. So stupidly defensive. And the worst part is that instead of sending the kids the message that weight is a straightforward biological situation that can be adjusted with diet and exercise as necessary without any weird emotional hangups, they're going to get the message that being overweight is bad and shameful and any sensible lifestyle changes have to be denied and avoided because that'd be admitting there was a problem.

 

Makes me sad.

[Sylvaa]

6 minutes ago, Severine said:

I do think it can be augmented with habit and mental outlook, though. Sort of how you can't necessarily do much about brittle bones if you have certain disorders, but you can make sure you have strong muscles and ligaments and connective tissue and that can do a lot to compensate.

 

This is a fair point! 

 

15 minutes ago, Severine said:

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And I got hit on one night by a co-worker. But it was weird and awkward. 

 

Dislike.

 

It was actually less actual hit on and more..... contrived? Like, if you are going to hit on me, just do it. Don't make it sound like a chore! 

 

15 minutes ago, Severine said:

This is sad for so many reasons. So stupidly defensive. And the worst part is that instead of sending the kids the message that weight is a straightforward biological situation that can be adjusted with diet and exercise as necessary without any weird emotional hangups, they're going to get the message that being overweight is bad and shameful and any sensible lifestyle changes have to be denied and avoided because that'd be admitting there was a problem.

 

Makes me sad.

 

I've been frustrated as the parent because, especially when my son was younger, our eating habits were really good - he was just big. But I wasn't denying that he was big, I was frustrated that the doctor assumed that we were eating junk and such. With my son now, we are at the point where he's not getting any bigger, he's just not getting any smaller either (we also have a new doctor that is much more on the, "encouraging to make better choices" than "judging" train). 

 

This is a case where it's common knowledge that the family isn't eating healthy, all the suggestions were aimed at making better choices, but we are automatically going to dismiss them because, "not my child". Like, I totally get that it's not all about weight with kids. But is it that bad to encourage your kids to make good choices? It's not wrong to educate that soda and juice should be had in moderation. 

[Sylvaa]

Unrelated - this conversation just happened:

 

The set up - talking about our LotR marathon plans for next weekend. My son tells my daughter that she can't watch because she's not a fan. She tells him she absolutely is and will be watching. He challenges her to name two characters....

 

Z: "Bilbo", "Gollum" "Fredo"

[she then explains that she enjoys watching the movies, but isn't good with names]

"that old wizard guy.... Hagrid!"

 

C: "you mean Gandalf?"

 

Z: "Gandalf the Great!"

[Severine]

1 hour ago, Sylvaa said:

I've been frustrated as the parent because, especially when my son was younger, our eating habits were really good - he was just big. But I wasn't denying that he was big, I was frustrated that the doctor assumed that we were eating junk and such. With my son now, we are at the point where he's not getting any bigger, he's just not getting any smaller either (we also have a new doctor that is much more on the, "encouraging to make better choices" than "judging" train). 

 

For what it's worth you are basically describing my brother's experience from about age 11 upwards. My mum was a health nut, so he had very limited access to junk aside from special occasions. He played on a couple (intramural) sports teams casually, biked to school, etc. but was still just on the bigger side. At about 14-15, he had a huge vertical growth spurt and suddenly instead of being on the chubby side he was 6' and looked like he could be a star rugby player.

 

Not sure of your son's age but unless he's stopped growing, there's a solid chance it'll sort itself out if he just stays active-ish and keeps eating reasonably.

[Sylvaa]

1 minute ago, Severine said:

 

For what it's worth you are basically describing my brother's experience from about age 11 upwards. My mum was a health nut, so he had very limited access to junk aside from special occasions. He played on a couple (intramural) sports teams casually, biked to school, etc. but was still just on the bigger side. At about 14-15, he had a huge vertical growth spurt and suddenly instead of being on the chubby side he was 6' and looked like he could be a star rugby player.

 

Not sure of your son's age but unless he's stopped growing, there's a solid chance it'll sort itself out if he just stays active-ish and keeps eating reasonably.

 

Yeah, in his case, I'm not too worried about it. We aren't that big of health nuts in our house, but we do limit junk (we don't buy a ton of it in general). He's already about 6'2" and hasn't gained much weight in a few years now. I'd rather encourage more activity (and have been trying!), but this is definitely his bigger problem.