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Well, I tried a 4 week challenge before and it did not work out to well. I made it about a week before my motivation dwindled out (which was a week more than I was expecting!).

 

So, I redid my Quests worksheet and thought about why I did not succeed the first time.

 

I geared to try this again starting next week but I will be choosing less to focus on. I have the bad habit of not following through because I overwhelm myself. That is not to say I won't work on my other side quests, I just won't focus on them:

 

Dun Dun! I, Mae, for the next four weeks will focus on:

 

1. Video record myself while practicing the violin

 

      I start my first lesson on Saturday so I think this is the perfect time to record my practices so I can go back and see a progression on my learning.

 

2. Submit all my paperwork for my CPA License by the end of the four weeks.  

 

     Yes, a big goal with a lot of steps but I am *so* close to finishing after four years and yet I am stalling at the finish line. I can complete this by the deadline, I know I can. I just need to sit down and do the work. If you are wondering, the steps include:

         - Complete the ethics course and take the exam

         - Complete and give my boss the paperwork to sign off on my work experience

         - Request my college transcripts

         - Complete and submit (with check) the application for a CPA license.

 

3. Stick to my schedule    Battle the Schedule Monster

 

     A major problem I have is in my schedule. I write on my calendar times to run, study, work, practice, etc and I end up not doing it if I don't have to meet up with someone or no one is on me to complete the task. I need more self-discipline on sticking to what I have written down. Once it's down, it must be done.

 

Three. Done. Even as I type this I want to add more but...no.  

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22 hours ago, Sylvaa said:

Welcome back!

 

I love your approach to making this challenge successful - a lot of us have a habit of biting off more than we can chew, so you are not alone there! Do you have any thoughts on how you are going to make yourself more successful sticking to your schedule this challenge?

 

Thank you!

 

That would be a good question. A few things I will keep in mind: 1. Keep it simple 2. write it down, and, here is an important one, 3. don't say 'yes' to someone until I check my calendar. I've gotten in trouble with double booking because I didn't do this.  

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Welp, I am already in trouble with #3. 

 

'Stick to a schedule' seemed so simple at the start, but last night I realized that I don't have a scheduling problem.

 

I have a Scheduling Monster.   

 

Four years ago, life was care-free with very little responsibilities. My schedule and I were young. We were able to do things on a whim just because I felt like it. 

 

Go on a hike? No problem. Explore a new town/state/country? Just a matter of filling up the gas in the car. 

 

Then, I made the decision to go for my CPA. 

 

I don't regret my decision. I learned a lot about my profession from studying for the CPA exams. And it's a huge accomplishment getting this far. I'm proud of what I have done these past 4 years. Unfortunately, the downside was that I was very self-contained: ('Sorry I can't do this. I have to study.' or 'Mae is late but she's probably studying') This wasn't right but everyone was expecting it when I started this mission.

 

Last month I passed my last exam.

 

The Scheduling Monster is no longer contained and it is ANGRY.  

 

Everything that I put on hold during the exams (running, hiking, climbing) is conflicting with everything I did during the exams (Toastmasters, side job, socializing) which is conflicting with everything I wanted to do after the exams (violin, writing). It's exhausting and keeping to the status quo from BC (Before CPA) is no longer feasible because I am not that person anymore. I have more responsibilities. I have more I want to do but with less time to do them. 

 

So Day 1 on this Challenge and I'm already making a change: 

 

3. Stick to my schedule   Battle the Scheduling Monster

 

I don't want to kill it. I want to control it. I want to soothe it and calm it now that we are in the AS (After Score) era.  

 

I need weapons: 

Calendar

Phone

 

I need armor: 

Confidence to say 'no' when necessary 

 

Most importantly, I need to be more prepared:

Get ready for the day the night before

Declutter my environment (get rid of the static)

Think hard about what my priorities are and what they should be

 

 

I am also open to advice. Any tips/suggestions as I head out to battle this monster?

 

 

 

 

 

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1. Video record myself while practicing the violin (1/1)

 

Did my first rendition of 'Twinkle, twinkle little star'. It was as you'd expect for a beginner (aka horrible) but I did it! I may also be practicing in the basement so my neighbor doesn't hear...

 

2. Submit all my paperwork for my CPA License by the end of the four weeks.  (0/1)

 

Nope. I was working on a Toastmasters speech on Sunday so that took most of my time. The speech is tonight so that will be done soon.

 

3. Battle the Schedule Monster (0/1)

 

The monster is stronger than expected. I woke up late on Sunday. I was so very tired from the week so that as an excuse. Then, I was late for a meet up. On the plus side, I did clean and worked on prep by servicing my car and grocery shopping for the week.

 

Lessons learned from battle 1:

- Go to bed at a decent hour

- It is a mental game - try meditation

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I'm going to count today as a win!

 

1. Video record myself while practicing the violin (2/2)

 

I got further into my lesson book. It's all about the D string, folks!

 

2. Submit all my paperwork for my CPA License by the end of the four weeks.  (1/2)

 

I had some time before my TM speech so I went through some sections on the ethics course. The thing that annoys me is that I just went over all this ethics info in the CPA exams already. They set you up just to do it again. 

 

3. Battle the Schedule Monster (1/2)

 

Yahhhh! I was on time for my meeting at Toastmasters.

I have also started something today at work where I schedule blocks of time in my calendar for items on my to do list. This may be motivating in focusing myself to do the work and get my stuff in on time. I must repeat the experiment tomorrow.   

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On 9/14/2017 at 1:26 PM, Mae45 said:

Even as I type this I want to add more but...no. 

 

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Welcome back @Mae45! I'm really glad you're here. Sometimes it's best to keep it simple, especially when you have a lot going on. We're here to support you. Let me know if I can help in any way.

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On 9/17/2017 at 0:08 PM, Mae45 said:

I am also open to advice. Any tips/suggestions as I head out to battle this monster?

 

You have already talked about prep and priorities.

 

Here are other things that help me:

1. Separating the schedule, at least mentally, into HAVE TOs and WANT TOs. This is part of prioritizing, but it goes one step further and gives me the mental ok to totally knock things off of the to-do list if I can't get to them or if I don't feel up to them. This helps me quickly identify items that can be omitted or postponed, and gives me the mental grace to allow myself fun time after the have-to's are done; sometimes the "want tos" are really only on the schedule to serve as reminders. Maybe I don't get to them, but they at least stay on the radar. 

2. Recruiting help from when I need it / delegating to willing parties

3. I try to calm down about it. So long as I get the most important things done, what's the worst that will happen if I can't make the rest?

4. Try to have realistic expectations - I can personally get wrapped up in doing something perfect, and then it takes me forever to get it done. Usually, in retrospect, I really didn't need to be that picky and could have done it in a fraction of the time. (I wasted all day Saturday trying to do something perfect. Realized I was overthinking it, went out to try again Monday, and got it done in 20 minutes. Grr.) Minimizing distractions (usually in the form of internet, office chat, or dogs, for me) also saves me time. 

5. Look for little things that can make existing repeated tasks quicker and easier. For some people that means ordering groceries online and picking them up in the drive-through service. For me that means putting the things I am going to use for a task all together in one spot, easily accessible, so I don't have to compile them later (Steve calls this "Customizing your bat cave").

6. Schedule in buffers if you are able to. If you think it will take an hour, schedule an hour and a half for it, etc. If it's due on Friday, tell yourself it's due on Weds, etc. This makes room for emergencies and unexpected problems, and creates useful elbow room if all goes well. 

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On 9/14/2017 at 1:26 PM, Mae45 said:

A major problem I have is in my schedule. I write on my calendar times to run, study, work, practice, etc and I end up not doing it if I don't have to meet up with someone or no one is on me to complete the task. I need more self-discipline on sticking to what I have written down. Once it's down, it must be done.

I have a habit of doing this as well with scheduling.  I need to just push threw. I overschedule and then fall behind so I need to find a decent middle ground of what I can *actually* accomplish. I need to remember the 'A' and 'R' in SMART goals:  specific measurable ATTAINABLE REALISTIC trackable.

 

 

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7 hours ago, CallunaTook said:

4. Try to have realistic expectations - I can personally get wrapped up in doing something perfect, and then it takes me forever to get it done. Usually, in retrospect, I really didn't need to be that picky and could have done it in a fraction of the time. (I wasted all day Saturday trying to do something perfect. Realized I was overthinking it, went out to try again Monday, and got it done in 20 minutes. Grr.) Minimizing distractions (usually in the form of internet, office chat, or dogs, for me) also saves me time. 

 

This. I overthink all the time. What really gets me is when I think, think, think, deadline! do! do! do!  And then I rush and screw up because I rushed. 

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1. Video record myself while practicing the violin (3/3)

 

A family friend just randomly gave me an electric violin...because that happens. It's actually kind of cool (thank you!) and I want to get it fixed up. I can start practicing more without worrying about my neighbor next door hearing my screeching by plugging in some headphones. 

 

2. Submit all my paperwork for my CPA License by the end of the four weeks.  (2/3)

 

I got through 2 out of 5 modules today on the ethics course. It is bad when hearing a voice drone on about ethics just wants me to become unethical for the sheer fact that I have to do this?

 

 

3. Battle the Schedule Monster (2/3)

 

Not too bad. Not too bad indeed. I was up earlier than usual just so I can have a jumpstart on the day. Got to work on time (I'm usually cutting it close) and got to a conference call meeting just as the boss was dialing us in. I slacked a little on the 'work blocks' on my calendar but still managed to get a few tasks done.

 

Winning!

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11 hours ago, Mae45 said:

Winning!

 

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Who am I? -- My NF Character

Current Challenge: WolfDreamer Reads Harder, Breathes Harder, and Journals More

Past Challenges: 

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Winter is ComingWolfen Strengthens His Heart, Body, Mind, and Spirit, Wolfen Becomes One of the PeopleWolfen Strengthens His ChakrasWolfen Welcomes Summer and Gets Primal, Soulcon and Spartan, Wolfen Develops Mental ToughnessWolfen Joins the Wander SocietySoulcon, Spartan, School, and Stranger ThingsWolfen Becomes a Warrior EliteWolfen Goes Here and There and Back AgainWolfen Becomes a Soulcon Warrior EliteWolfen Returns to His RootsWolfen Wanders in Soul, Spirit, and BodyWolfen Owns the DayWolfen Searches for His Wild Heart, Wolfen Runs for His LifeWolfen Hits the TrailsWolfen Becomes an Explorer and Joins the ResistanceWolfen Goes Back to the SourceWolfen Begins the Hero's JourneyWolfDreamer Returns to the People,  WolfDreamer Pushes BackWolfDreamer PrioritizesBurpees, Books, and BrainworkBurpees, Books, Brainwork, and BodyworkWolfDreamer Masters the Four ElementsWolfDreamer Continues to Master the Four ElementsWolfDreamer Returns to SpartaWolfDreamer Returns to Middle EarthWolfDreamer Continues His Middle Earth AdventureWolfDreamer and the FallWolfDreamer Forges His Own PathWolfDreamer Has HopeWolfDreamer Returns to Middle Earth

I'd rather sing one wild song and burst my heart with it, than live a thousand years watching my digestion and being afraid of the wet.” -- Jack London

“I wanted movement and not a calm course of existence. I wanted excitement and danger and the chance to sacrifice myself for my love.” -- Leo Tolstoy

"I feel love rising in my chest again
Rising like a burning sun into the day..." -- Gungor, "Hurricane"

"...wherever the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom." 2 Corinthians 3:17b

 

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1. Video record myself while practicing the violin (4/4)

 

I had a busy day but managed to run home to practice a bit.

 

I can hear the cat running away as soon as I start playing...everyone's a critic. 

 

2. Submit all my paperwork for my CPA License by the end of the four weeks.  (2/4)

 

I was celebrating a friend's birthday so there wasn't much time to sit down on a module. And since this is my least favorite task, this is the last thing on my daily to do list. 

 

How does one get motivation to do the tasks they really don't want to do? 

 

3. Battle the Schedule Monster (3/4)

 

I did okay. I didn't have much in scheduling so there wasn't much of a challenge today. I have trivia on Wednesday nights and can arrive at anytime before 8. Plenty of time to be on time. 

 

I did say 'no' to an invite. This is my biggest problem and my hardest thing to do. A friend wanted to go climbing, but I have my trainer scheduled that night. I could have done both (I would have done both) but climbing would have tired me out and my training session would suffer.

 

That's one thing I haven't considered when I first started battling this monster: it's not just about how I schedule, it's also about how I focus on my schedule.

 

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7 hours ago, Mae45 said:

2. Submit all my paperwork for my CPA License by the end of the four weeks.  (2/4)

 

I was celebrating a friend's birthday so there wasn't much time to sit down on a module. And since this is my least favorite task, this is the last thing on my daily to do list. 

 

How does one get motivation to do the tasks they really don't want to do?

 

I'm definitely going through this too - I'm so close to being done with my Master's! 

 

What has been working for me is that I schedule a block of time (30 minutes a night) to work on school stuff and reward myself with a treat once I'm done (it's generally a cup of tea and a few squares of dark chocolate). 

 

Also, for me, recognizing that the end is in sight is so helpful. Yes, you don't HAVE to finish your current ethics module tonight, but if you do, you'll be one step closer to submitting all your paperwork! And then you will be done! 

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You can probably tell from the lack of posting that I have fallen off the wagon (on? I can never remember). Honest truth is that I've been in a sour mood for about a week. I'm not sure why or how to get out of my funk but I do not want to give up on this challenge this time round. 

 

I won't, I say! 

 

1. Video record myself while practicing the violin (5/10)

 

I have practiced but I did not record my practices: no checkmarks for me. I also had my second lesson this past Saturday and I am just as excited on the second class as I was on the first. This could be my new favorite thing.

 

I'm still hung up on disturbing the peace around my condo so I ordered a violin mute to help with the volume. It should be coming in tomorrow. 

 

2. Submit all my paperwork for my CPA License by the end of the four weeks.  (2/10)


Yeah... this has not taken off very well. All I have done is complain about this task and it is only an eight hour course.

 

I think deeper fears are coming into play here. I have devoted some much into this and the big 'what now?' is looming over. I do not like this looming cloud. 

 

Get your head in the game, Mae. Okay, the laptop is coming with me tomorrow to work. I can work on it in between work and trivia.

 

My goal is to have it done by Sunday.  

 

3. Battle the Schedule Monster (6/10)

 

I forgot about an appointment yesterday so I lost that battle. (Ack! vanquished!) It was a weekly training that was usually on Tuesdays moved to Monday this week. I wrote in my calendar, it had an alarm...and yet I still managed to drop the ball on that. :-(

 

Today wasn't too bad. Someone was asking about my work schedule this week and I checked my calendar before assuming my day was clear. It was clear but I didn't *assume* it was. 

 

Small victories. 

 

 

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On ‎9‎/‎21‎/‎2017 at 2:45 PM, Sylvaa said:

 

I'm definitely going through this too - I'm so close to being done with my Master's! 

 

What has been working for me is that I schedule a block of time (30 minutes a night) to work on school stuff and reward myself with a treat once I'm done (it's generally a cup of tea and a few squares of dark chocolate). 

 

Also, for me, recognizing that the end is in sight is so helpful. Yes, you don't HAVE to finish your current ethics module tonight, but if you do, you'll be one step closer to submitting all your paperwork! And then you will be done! 

 

:-D on your Master's! How much more do you have to go? 

 

I might consider the treat idea. I got a bottle of my favorite port wine one weekend when I was studying the CPA exam and told myself I wouldn't open it until I was done with what I needed to get through. That was my longest and voluminous study jam to date. 

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1. Video record myself while practicing the violin (6/11)

 

The violin mute came today and the volume is now down to 'scratching might disturb' from a 'scratching definitely will disturb' level. Now that I have that, I am enjoying the sawing away much more.

 

2. Submit all my paperwork for my CPA License by the end of the four weeks.  (2/11)


I had all the purpose of sneaking some time to work on the ethics course. Went to a local deli, ordered some food, and got set up with my laptop.

 

The place didn't have wifi.

 

That killed my intent. I can't work on the course without internet access so it was a 'No Go' day.

 

I did realize that I ordered season six of Simon & Simon, an eighties TV show that I got hooked on many years ago when it was available on Hulu. They are no longer on Hulu and Amazon only recently carried the later seasons... so I made the purchase. <---- This is going to be my incentive. I can't open the DVDs until I finish my ethics course. If that doesn't make me move, I don't know what will.

 

3. Battle the Schedule Monster (7/11)

 

Since I couldn't work on #2, I worked on #3. I am in Toastmasters and they have a 'leadership' program geared towards improving your leadership skills. I happened to have the book with me and so I went over the 'Time Management' section of the book. Wasn't late for anything (right on time, in fact) so it's a battle won.  

 

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On 9/27/2017 at 12:08 AM, Mae45 said:

 

:-D on your Master's! How much more do you have to go? 

 

I might consider the treat idea. I got a bottle of my favorite port wine one weekend when I was studying the CPA exam and told myself I wouldn't open it until I was done with what I needed to get through. That was my longest and voluminous study jam to date. 

 

About December! I've got one more class and my Capstone to complete and then I'll be official!

 

Not opening the DVD's does sound like a great incentive to finish! You can do it!

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