spezzy Posted December 28, 2017 Report Share Posted December 28, 2017 This challenge I need y'all more than ever. This likely should be a druid challenge, but I'm overthinking where to put it and I'm a warrior, so here I am. My grandmother, who pretty much raised me alongside my mother, is currently in hospice and we don't really know how long or anything. She's 95 and had a good 90-93 healthy years, and is not in pain, and she's ready to go see my grandfather who passed over 50 years ago, so it's not tragic or unexpected, but I'm really not okay. I will be, but right now I'm just very heartbroken. And that's normal and okay. This challenge will be a lot of travel, grieving, and my lifting is not a priority right now. And that's okay, too. But alongside this, I need to make sure that my health stays a priority. This week, I've maybe eaten 2 actual meals and I've made it to the gym once, and sleep pretty much hasn't happened at all. And she would be so extremely upset to find out I haven't been taking care of myself. So this challenge is going to be simple: 1) Move every day, at least 20 minutes. This can be a walk, a yoga class, or a lifting session. Numbers don't matter. I might even drop in on some crossfit classes. I just need to move and keep up some fitness. Lifting will always be here for me to come back to. 2) Eat at least 1 full, solid meal every day, with a vegetable. 3) Meditate 3x a week. I know this has been a goal for a while, and I've failed at it, but I think it's super important right now as a part of the grieving process. And that's it. No crazy numbers, no meets, no wilks goals. Just getting through this and healing. 4 5 Quote Current Challenge - Instagram “There's only one rule that I know of, babies—God damn it, you've got to be kind.” Link to comment
Ravis Posted December 28, 2017 Report Share Posted December 28, 2017 ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Quote Ravis Dons the Hood Again Ravis: An Intro IG: @m.r.shealy Link to comment
CourtnieMarie Posted December 28, 2017 Report Share Posted December 28, 2017 you already talked through and hit on all the points that a supportive NFer like me would say. you're right. it's okay to be heart broken, it's okay that lifting is not a priority, and yes you're grandmother would be upset to find out you weren't taking care of yourself. go eat, sleep, and meditate <3 Quote Instagram | pinterest read harder challenge | Battle Log | NROLFW Challenges: 13-1 | 13-2 | 13-3 | 13-3.5 | 14-1 | 14-2 | 15-1 | 15-2 | 15-3 | 15-4 | 15-5 | 16-1 | 16-2 | 16-3 | 16-4 | 16-5 | 16-6 | 16-7 | 16-8 | 17-1 | 17-2 | 17-3 | 17-4 | 17-5 | 17-6 | 17-7 | 17-8 | 17-9 | 17-10 | 18-1 | 18-2 | 18-3 | 18-4 | 18-5 | 18-6 | 18-7 | 18-8 | 18-9 | 18-10 | 19-1 | 19-2 | 19-3 | 19-4 | 19-5 | 19-6 | 19-7 | current Link to comment
Tanktimus the Encourager Posted December 28, 2017 Report Share Posted December 28, 2017 I can't imagine how difficult this is for you. When I saw that picture on FB I had no idea what it represents. I'm here for you. Quote Current Challenge "By the Most-Righteous-and-Blessed Beard of Sir Tanktimus the Encourager!" - Jarl Rurik Harrgath Link to comment
spezzy Posted December 29, 2017 Author Report Share Posted December 29, 2017 6 hours ago, Ravis said: ❤️❤️❤️❤️ <3!!! Quote Current Challenge - Instagram “There's only one rule that I know of, babies—God damn it, you've got to be kind.” Link to comment
spezzy Posted December 29, 2017 Author Report Share Posted December 29, 2017 4 hours ago, CourtnieMarie said: you already talked through and hit on all the points that a supportive NFer like me would say. you're right. it's okay to be heart broken, it's okay that lifting is not a priority, and yes you're grandmother would be upset to find out you weren't taking care of yourself. go eat, sleep, and meditate <3 <3! 3 hours ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said: I can't imagine how difficult this is for you. When I saw that picture on FB I had no idea what it represents. I'm here for you. Yeah. That was from a few years ago, but I love how happy she looks. She's a very important lady to a lot of people. and thank you!!! <3 2 Quote Current Challenge - Instagram “There's only one rule that I know of, babies—God damn it, you've got to be kind.” Link to comment
spezzy Posted December 29, 2017 Author Report Share Posted December 29, 2017 starting now because I need to start now 1) We went to the gym here in Virginia, did: Deadlifts: 325x8 then muscleups: 5 3 2 1 then handstand walks toes to bar and some one arm kettlebell floor presses today for food I had: protein pancakes for breakfast then broccoli, sweet potato, and chicken thighs for dinner RxBar as a snack so food has been good. 7 Quote Current Challenge - Instagram “There's only one rule that I know of, babies—God damn it, you've got to be kind.” Link to comment
Tanktimus the Encourager Posted December 29, 2017 Report Share Posted December 29, 2017 The still on that video is one badass deadlifting pic. I love the camera shake when the weights come down. 1 Quote Current Challenge "By the Most-Righteous-and-Blessed Beard of Sir Tanktimus the Encourager!" - Jarl Rurik Harrgath Link to comment
miss_marissa Posted December 29, 2017 Report Share Posted December 29, 2017 <3 sorry to hear about your grandmother. It sounds like you're doing all the right things to take care of yourself though. Here if you ever need to talk! Quote Current Challenge # 39 | #38 | #37 | #36 | #35 |#34 | #33 | #32 | #31 | #30 | #29 | #28 | #27 | #26 | #25 | # 24 | #23 | #22 | #21 | #20 | #19 | #18 | #17 | #16 | #15 | #14 | #13 | #12 | #11 | #10 | #9| #8 | #7 | #6 | #5 | #4 | #3 | #2 | #1 | Battle Log Instagram | Goodreads Link to comment
Gemma Posted December 31, 2017 Report Share Posted December 31, 2017 (((virtual hug))) Your goals are amazing. I'm sure your grandmother would be proud to know that you have grown the wisdom to take care of yourself even in grief. That is a hard thing to do. Quote “Then something Tookish woke up inside of him, and he wished to go and see the great mountains, and hear the pine-trees and the waterfalls, and explore the caves, and wear a sword instead of a walking-stick." -J. R. R. Tolkien 2022 Challenges: Push, Core, Simple, Pooh, Timebox, NaNoWriMo 2023 Challenges: 20SOC, Travel, Battery, Song n'Dance Link to comment
spezzy Posted December 31, 2017 Author Report Share Posted December 31, 2017 On 12/29/2017 at 7:48 AM, Tanktimus the Encourager said: The still on that video is one badass deadlifting pic. I love the camera shake when the weights come down. haha I love that too. My main gym that doesn't happen anymore and it's sad. 1 Quote Current Challenge - Instagram “There's only one rule that I know of, babies—God damn it, you've got to be kind.” Link to comment
spezzy Posted December 31, 2017 Author Report Share Posted December 31, 2017 On 12/29/2017 at 2:49 PM, miss_marissa said: <3 sorry to hear about your grandmother. It sounds like you're doing all the right things to take care of yourself though. Here if you ever need to talk! Thank you!!! <3 Quote Current Challenge - Instagram “There's only one rule that I know of, babies—God damn it, you've got to be kind.” Link to comment
spezzy Posted December 31, 2017 Author Report Share Posted December 31, 2017 2 hours ago, Gemma said: (((virtual hug))) Your goals are amazing. I'm sure your grandmother would be proud to know that you have grown the wisdom to take care of yourself even in grief. That is a hard thing to do. Thank you! I think that I very much follow in her footsteps when I take care of everyone else first, and then myself, which is a conversation her and I had many times (I'd always tell her to take care of herself too!). So here's to trying to make it work, hah! Quote Current Challenge - Instagram “There's only one rule that I know of, babies—God damn it, you've got to be kind.” Link to comment
Raxie Posted January 2, 2018 Report Share Posted January 2, 2018 So sorry about your grandmother That is a really lovely picture of the two of you. Glad you're making sure to continue to take care of yourself during all this, though. Quote forty-seven: Raxie and the Joining of Unlike Things << previous challenges >> >> instagram || goodreads << Link to comment
Cataleya Posted January 2, 2018 Report Share Posted January 2, 2018 My grandmother passed away this past summer, sounds like somewhat similar situations. Had a pretty good 80-85 years of life, but my grandfather passed away almost 20 years ago now and she's been ready to go since then. Developed dementia, spent the last few years in a nursing home, and then had a stroke this past summer and just... went. Grieving was difficult because there were a variety of emotions, including happiness that she passed away and was no longer suffering, and just sadness that she spent so long without my grandfather, who she loved more than anyone or anything. But according to her belief system, she is now with him. But yes, lots of complicated and not okay feelings. If you need to talk, I'm happy to listen and/or provide insight, though our situations aren't exactly the same. Quote Cataleya Tries to Regain Her Balance Instagram | MyFitnessPal Link to comment
raptron Posted January 2, 2018 Report Share Posted January 2, 2018 On 12/31/2017 at 11:15 AM, spezzy said: Thank you! I think that I very much follow in her footsteps when I take care of everyone else first, and then myself, which is a conversation her and I had many times (I'd always tell her to take care of herself too!). So here's to trying to make it work, hah! Hugs. Best of luck with this. <3 Quote Raptron, alot assassin 67 | 66 | 65 | 64 | 63 | 62 | 61 | 60 | 59 | 58 | 57 | 56 | 55 | 54 | 53 | 52 | 51 | 50 | 49 | 48 | 47 | 46 | 45 | 44 | 43 | 42 | 41 | 40 | 39 | 38 | 37 | 36 | 35 | 34 | 33 | 32 | 31 | 30 | 29 | 28 | 27 | 26 | 25 | 24 | 23 | 22 | 21 | 20 | 19 | 18 | 17 | 16 | 15 | 14 | 13 | 12 | 11 | 10 | 9 | 8 | 7 | 6 | 5 | 4 | 3 | 2 | 1 Link to comment
spezzy Posted January 3, 2018 Author Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 Sooo the last few days have been rough. She passed on 1/1. I'm headed back to Boston Thursday-Monday for the services. I bought programming for the next few months so I don't have to think about it at all. I'm actually really excited about the programming. So that's a start. I've also gone this week every day so far. Monday was: Work up to a heavy power clean + 5 push press: 135 Snatch pulls: 5x5 at 145 Pullups - 4x10 Back Squat - 3x6 at 205 Knee to Elbow: 4x10 Today was: Bench Press 3x3 at 155 Incline Bench Press 2x10 Dips 3x8 Flyes 2x15 Waiter's walk 4x25 steps per hand Close grip bench 2x10 I also decided I think I want to try to get up and make the bed and get dressed and look nice every day because that was something that was really important to her. 10 Quote Current Challenge - Instagram “There's only one rule that I know of, babies—God damn it, you've got to be kind.” Link to comment
Cataleya Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 I'm so sorry spezzy *hugs* We are here for you. Quote Cataleya Tries to Regain Her Balance Instagram | MyFitnessPal Link to comment
Tanktimus the Encourager Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 So sorry Spezzy. 1 hour ago, spezzy said: I also decided I think I want to try to get up and make the bed and get dressed and look nice every day because that was something that was really important to her. That sounds like a wonderful way to honor her memory. Quote Current Challenge "By the Most-Righteous-and-Blessed Beard of Sir Tanktimus the Encourager!" - Jarl Rurik Harrgath Link to comment
Sloth the Enduring Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 I'm sorry Spezzy. Quote “We might as well start where we are, use what we have and do what we can." – Caitlin Rivers Sloth: The Man with the Hammer battle log Link to comment
Tateman Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 Sorry to hear. I saw you post on Instagram about it. Quote Tateland.com, Instagram, Fitbit Link to comment
CourtnieMarie Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 <3 so sorry spezzy. let us know if you need anything while you're in town. even if it's just a buddy in the gym. Quote Instagram | pinterest read harder challenge | Battle Log | NROLFW Challenges: 13-1 | 13-2 | 13-3 | 13-3.5 | 14-1 | 14-2 | 15-1 | 15-2 | 15-3 | 15-4 | 15-5 | 16-1 | 16-2 | 16-3 | 16-4 | 16-5 | 16-6 | 16-7 | 16-8 | 17-1 | 17-2 | 17-3 | 17-4 | 17-5 | 17-6 | 17-7 | 17-8 | 17-9 | 17-10 | 18-1 | 18-2 | 18-3 | 18-4 | 18-5 | 18-6 | 18-7 | 18-8 | 18-9 | 18-10 | 19-1 | 19-2 | 19-3 | 19-4 | 19-5 | 19-6 | 19-7 | current Link to comment
Raxie Posted January 4, 2018 Report Share Posted January 4, 2018 I'm so sorry I think doing something a little extra in the mornings in her honor is really lovely. Quote forty-seven: Raxie and the Joining of Unlike Things << previous challenges >> >> instagram || goodreads << Link to comment
Grumble Posted January 4, 2018 Report Share Posted January 4, 2018 Remember all the happy moments and know she's with your grandfather. It doesn't help the immediate grief, but it's a small step toward finding that light. I'm sorry for your loss. It's obvious you loved each other dearly. Quote "You're going to be amazing." Fantasy Football league 2019 The Grumble Battle Log Spoiler Books: Shows: Games: God of War, Kingdom Hearts 3, Destiny 2 Level 15 Wookie Warrior Link to comment
miss_marissa Posted January 5, 2018 Report Share Posted January 5, 2018 Sorry for your pain. I hope you have a safe trip. Quote Current Challenge # 39 | #38 | #37 | #36 | #35 |#34 | #33 | #32 | #31 | #30 | #29 | #28 | #27 | #26 | #25 | # 24 | #23 | #22 | #21 | #20 | #19 | #18 | #17 | #16 | #15 | #14 | #13 | #12 | #11 | #10 | #9| #8 | #7 | #6 | #5 | #4 | #3 | #2 | #1 | Battle Log Instagram | Goodreads Link to comment
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