Diadhuit takes it easy

[Diadhuit]

I want this challenge to be less stressing but as a rebel I always want to do too much.

 

Main goal: don't stress

 

The multiplier is a thing to help me tracking the goal during the challenge: I calculate the percentage (e.g. I ate vegetables 2 days out of 4 passed = 50%) then multiply for it to get the final result (50*1.2=60%).

60% is the passing grade

90% is the loot grade

 

Passing the challenge => all quests is 60% or more

Getting the loot => all quests is 90% or more

 

Food:

 

keep the log, aiming for min 4 veg, min 2 water, max 9 crap per day. The only exceptions the two Sundays where I have crochet. I want to have a really strict policy about it, as lately I am up and down. If I fail one of the three, all are failed.

 

multiplier 1.3

 

As I had been slacking off on food preparation, aiming to cook for the week at least once per week (starting today).

Portioning frozen veggies and nuts on the weekend is important to remember, I'll link it to preparing medicines for the work week.

 

One off: book (if possible as well do it) a cooking class

 

Exercise:

1

Keep Walking to Mordor (min 7km per day, covered by work on working days, go for walks/runs on weekends), tracked by app and spreadsheet.

Remember to do the sitting fix exercises to stretch before going out!

multiplier 1.1

 

2

Exercise each day choosing from :

Darebee hero's journey - Edit: I wanted to start carbon and dust as it should have started tomorrow, but has been postponed again [emoji20]

Running (at least Saturday)

Pilates (Thursday)

Darebee Abs anywhere (in the office toilet when busy day)

 

Tracking with habits, multiplier 1.3

 

3

Physiotherapy (cat-cow, plank, warrior pose) Ideally to be done before the meditation

Tracking with habits, multiplier 1.2

 

One off: Trying a class or workshop or

 

Mindfulness:

These are already part of my routine:

- morning acclamation (Good morning, I love you, God loves you)

- weekdays morning payg while walking

- lectio on Sunday

- dance on wednesday,

- lunchtime 2 minutes (may I be well counting on fingers)

 

1

mbsr formal meditation every day

Reminder: before starting breathe out as much as possible and then relax the muscles 3 times

Tracking with habits, multiplier 1.3

 

2

evening examen while walking back from work, while going to bed if I didn't walk in the evening (e.g. weekends)

This failed multiple times, but when it worked it was amazing! So I'm chaining it to the walk back from work as a destresser too.

Potentially I would like to have 8 points so I can count with the thumb on my other fingers to keep where I am:

left 1) Ask God to be present and to guide me

left 2) Think of the best moment of the day, feel it and thank God for it

right 1) Think of people, places and things done, search for God's presence

right 2) Where was I more open to the unexpected?

right 3) Were there moments in which I turned away from God? (note: do not ruminate on this)

right 4) Was there space for kindness to myself or others today?

left 3) Make a resolution for tomorrow. Do I need something from God for this? Ask

left 4) Glory be

Tracking with habits, multiplier 1.2

 

One off: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/hwansan-sunim/how-to-meditate-at-work_b_6630652.html

 

Do less:

I am already kind of doing this:

Write down TODOs in the bullet journal

For each week find top 3 in the Saturday planning

 

bi-weekly check what to remove from bullet journal (Tue eve before leaving work and Sat planning)

no real tracking for this, just do it [emoji4]

 

following a max 5 people here, otherwise I waste all my time checking... always available if you @ me though!

 

One off: Set up a reading night in

 

Level up my life:

Even if I am not sure I want to buy a house (I want to stay here, so it is rational to, but I see it as the end of my youth, so maybe not yet?) I want to start the process. I want to have the mortgage approval in principle by the end of the challenge, and I want to have contacted some agencies.

 

 

Week 0 top 3

- Set up habits and reminders for challenge

- clean the bathroom

- wash the running jacket

 

[Wobbegong]

Here and following! 

[zeroh13]

Good luck!!

[Bean Sidhe]

I am here to follow as well. Good luck

 

[Siferiax]

That's a lot of goals. Good luck  

[Diadhuit]

Tip of the day:
"Don’t stress over the things you can’t control."

[shy]

Super organized and very well thought out! Awesome!! That all sounds amazing! I'm excited to see how it goes!!  

 

Oh and thanks for mentioning Darebee. I had to look it up but it looks awesome. I'll read more when I have time. Thank you!!

[Diadhuit]

Super organized and very well thought out! Awesome!! That all sounds amazing! I'm excited to see how it goes!! [emoji3] 
 
Oh and thanks for mentioning Darebee. I had to look it up but it looks awesome. I'll read more when I have time. Thank you!!

Thank you.
I am in love with Darebee! Last challenge I did the daily dare, and it war amazing. There is/might be a group on nerdfitness doing that this challenge too. If I have time I'll have a look for you

[Siferiax]

Checked it out as well. Super interesting. Might consider trying the foundation light programme

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[zeroh13]

Yep, Darebee is great. I was introduced to it through the daily dares awhile back (and getting back into it is a goal for this year). They have a pretty good exercise video library that I used a lot to figure out how to do various exercises in their workouts, cause just looking at the picture isn't all that helpful for me.

[Diadhuit]

@Shy here is where the darebee daily dare thread was:

https://rebellion.nerdfitness.com/index.php?/forum/189-pvp-challenges/

It looks like it's not run this challenge, but maybe in the future?

[Diadhuit]

Tomorrow I'll give a more complete update on week 0, but for now it looks I am quite good at all challenges but pt and top 3.

And last challenge I was searching for openess to unexpected. Doing the examen each day coming back from work, counting on the fingers seems to be appropriate and works for me (as for now).
To the point that today loads of unexpected happened.
At 1pm it became dark at work: all power went off. At 3 it was not back and we had to call for a shorter day. On a sunny Friday afternoon, it was so refreshing! I needed it! Because of this, I called a person I wanted to talk to and we set up to meet. He mentioned a shopping centre and to kill time I went there, got fit and bought a bra, thing I was always postponing. Then we had a lovely talk, and I went home to eat a frozen pizza and have a lazy night in. But... the guy I am texting with lately (longer story about him in last challenge thread, dubbed 'the guy who broke my heart' ) asked if I was ok to meet tonight as tomorrow he wouldn't have had time. You see, I did ask if he would go out tomorrow... So with 20m advance I turned off the oven with a half baked pizza and wasn't clear if I was going on a date or not! Aaaand I'm still not sure. He came out tonight as it's the least effort as he was already in town, and he paid, and we joked about sleeping at my place (please, put the stress on sleeping). We talked for 3h, I very much enjoy his company and he says he would come to my city of origin. And he says he will be there for me and that if I get sick he will bring me food. But also that he is busy and that he (as myself) doesn't see having a family as the only purpouse in life. And that he guaranteer I'll find someone for me soon. And that he can't think of not being alone in his house, that he enjoys that so much. And that the city is the place he goes on a Sunday (he lives and works around 20-30min driving). He also says he is busy/stressed.
I think that my take away is that he put the idea of a family behind himself (I was in that situation before, so I understand) and that he does like me, but not enough to make an effort? I wanted to ask straight, but I lacked the balls.
I am relieved and ok on one hand, but also a bit sad, and also a bit curious if it could lead somewhere still? It looks like I'm here to get another heartbreak (why can't I convince myself that he is not ok for me?!?)
Oh, and for a moment I thought to have seen my ex in the cafe. That would have been awkward af, as I have been texting him too (with friendship offers) for the last few weeks. It turned out it was just a middle eastern person and I hope the issue was darkness and a bit of hoping/daring that the two would meet more than that I turned racist suddenly (lately I see my ex in all middle eastern men, not as they all look alike but more they all look like that specific person, so I wouldn't exclude sudden racism)
To conclude this long brain dump: I dunno what to make of it all, but I am ok for now.

[Wobbegong]

I'm glad to hear you're ok! Sounds like you're dealing with a lot on the potential romance front, but good on you for welcoming new and unexpected things into your life! Sounds like overall you had a busy but maybe pretty decent day? 

[Diadhuit]

5 hours ago, Wobbegong said:

I'm glad to hear you're ok! Sounds like you're dealing with a lot on the potential romance front, but good on you for welcoming new and unexpected things into your life! Sounds like overall you had a busy but maybe pretty decent day? 

 

It was a wonderful day! And couldn't be any better. The potential romance front is a lot for me who had her first maybe date (coffee and chat with this guy above) at the age of 31, kissed the first time at 33 (the "ex") and never seen that guy again, and that's it. Oh, yeah, and flirted with a guy in a pub two weeks ago. That's all I have been interested in my whole life. I had a lot of support from you in relation to asexuality and data would suggest that I am gray A, but... I want to be a late bloomer?

[Diadhuit]

Week 0 - Diadhuit's stress is lower, and she enjoys unexpected

 

Main goal: don't stress

 

Food:

 

keep the log, aiming for min 4 veg, min 2 water, max 9 crap per day. The only exceptions the two Sundays where I have crochet. I want to have a really strict policy about it, as lately I am up and down. If I fail one of the three, all are failed.

 

multiplier 1.3

 

Progress 2/7 --> 37%

Food preparation was ok, but I haven't been drinking enough water... I thought I was faring better as most of the days I had only 2 craps and 8 veggies...

 

One off: book (if possible as well do it) a cooking class

 

Exercise:

1

Keep Walking to Mordor (min 7km 5km per day, covered by work on working days, go for walks/runs on weekends), tracked by app and spreadsheet.

Remember to do the sitting fix exercises to stretch before going out!

multiplier 1.1

 

Progress 5/7 --> 78%

It has been very cold, so I have taken public transport sometimes. Aiming for 7 is too high, changing to 5km

 

2

Exercise each day choosing from :

Darebee hero's journey - Edit: I wanted to start carbon and dust as it should have started tomorrow, but has been postponed again

Running (at least Saturday)

Pilates (Thursday)

Darebee Abs anywhere (in the office toilet when busy day)

 

Tracking with habits, multiplier 1.3

Progress 5/7 --> 92%

 

3

Physiotherapy (cat-cow, plank, warrior pose) Ideally to be done before the meditation

Tracking with habits, multiplier 1.2

 

Progress 0

Ups, was too tired for this...

 

 

One off: Trying a class or workshop

 

Mindfulness:

These are already part of my routine:

- morning acclamation (Good morning, I love you, God loves you)

- weekdays morning payg while walking

- lectio on Sunday

- dance on wednesday,

- lunchtime 2 minutes (may I be well counting on fingers)

 

1

mbsr formal meditation every day

Reminder: before starting breathe out as much as possible and then relax the muscles 3 times

Tracking with habits, multiplier 1.3

 

Progress 5/7 --> 93%

 

2

evening examen while walking back from work, while going to bed if I didn't walk in the evening (e.g. weekends)

This failed multiple times, but when it worked it was amazing! So I'm chaining it to the walk back from work as a destresser too.

Potentially I would like to have 8 points so I can count with the thumb on my other fingers to keep where I am:

left 1) Ask God to be present and to guide me

left 2) Think of the best moment of the day, feel it and thank God for it

right 1) Think of people, places and things done, search for God's presence

right 2) Where was I more open to the unexpected?

right 3) Were there moments in which I turned away from God? (note: do not ruminate on this)

right 4) Was there space for kindness to myself or others today?

left 3) Make a resolution for tomorrow. Do I need something from God for this? Ask

left 4) Glory be

 

Tracking with habits, multiplier 1.2

Progress: 6/7 --> 100%

 

Linking to walking home works so well! And it allows me to see unexpected/kindness in the evening too. I think it really changed my week for the better.

 

One off: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/hwansan-sunim/how-to-meditate-at-work_b_6630652.html

 

Do less:

I am already kind of doing this:

Write down TODOs in the bullet journal

For each week find top 3 in the Saturday planning

 

bi-weekly check what to remove from bullet journal (Tue eve before leaving work and Sat planning)

no real tracking for this, just do it

Progress: Done this week

 

following a max 5 people here, otherwise I waste all my time checking... always available if you @ me though!

Progress: Done

 

One off: Set up a reading night in

 

Level up my life:

Even if I am not sure I want to buy a house (I want to stay here, so it is rational to, but I see it as the end of my youth, so maybe not yet?) I want to start the process. I want to have the mortgage approval in principle by the end of the challenge, and I want to have contacted some agencies.

 

Seen a mortgage advisor, saved some houses to view... Next week compile the papers

 

Week 0 top 3

- Set up habits and reminders for challenge - done

- clean the bathroom

- wash the running jacket

 

Progress: 1/3 for now, but I'll allow myself today to do it too.

 

Week 1 top 3

- Phone vhi

- compile paper for mortgage

- plan a night out to scene and heard

[Diadhuit]

Quotes of the day:

"When your heart is pounding with stress, you are going to think to yourself: this is my body helping me rise to this challenge"

"When life is difficult, your stress response wants you to be surrounded by people who care about you"

 

From here:

 

[Wobbegong]

7 hours ago, Diadhuit said:

I had a lot of support from you in relation to asexuality and data would suggest that I am gray A, but... I want to be a late bloomer?

I feel you. Sometimes it just seems like it would be so much easier to... not be a-spec. And not just that, there's also a strong desire to have the same connection to another person that so many other people seem to enjoy. I hope you find what you're looking for soon!

[Diadhuit]

I feel you. Sometimes it just seems like it would be so much easier to... not be a-spec. And not just that, there's also a strong desire to have the same connection to another person that so many other people seem to enjoy. I hope you find what you're looking for soon!

Yes, this! I kind of envy a friend of mine that after breaking up a 5y relationship because his boyfriend didn't want kids, went out date after date to find the right person and in less than a year they are moving in together. I cannot do that so quickly! And the difficult part is that while my desire is maybe to have kids and the companionship of a husband I am aware of the birds and the bees but no interest there
I kind of feel fucked up, but then I find that I am also ok with being how I am, because I would find exhausting dating and pobably also having a family? I love the freedom of going out, of having friends, keeping up communities... And I couldn't for the life of me be a stay at home mom, I would go mental!
So here I am, happy-ish.

[Butternut]

On 2/5/2018 at 5:38 PM, Diadhuit said:

9 crap per day.

 

What do you mean by this....? 

 

@Diadhuit your goals are a lot like mine. I particularly like the slow down one.

 

I wrote on my chalk board “It’s not how much stress I can take, it’s how I can handle it,”

 

definetly following! 

[Butternut]

15 hours ago, Diadhuit said:

"When life is difficult, your stress response wants you to be surrounded by people who care about you

 

Love this

[Diadhuit]

 
What do you mean by this....? 
 
[mention=63447]Diadhuit[/mention] your goals are a lot like mine. I particularly like the slow down one.
 
I wrote on my chalk board “It’s not how much stress I can take, it’s how I can handle it,”
 
definetly following! 

I took a shortcut and didn't explain well. I use a variation of this method to do food journaling:
https://www.precisionnutrition.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/pn-calorie-control-women-771x1024.png

My veggie intake is ok-ish, my protein/fat as well, but I eat too many white carbs, sugar etc.
So the crap is a portion of something I shouldn't have had:
- one cup of white bread, pasta, etc.
- one thumb of sweets
- one thumb of fried food
- one thumb of chips etc

[Diadhuit]

[Bean Sidhe]

Okay, I am caught up again.

You are finding the best quotes lately..

And the guy things. I dunno. I never really dated. All my boyfriends and Hubby were friends. In many ways, I took more of my life from the X-files even how to have a relationship. This quote was in our wedding program.

 

[Diadhuit]

Okay, I am caught up again.

You are finding the best quotes lately..

And the guy things. I dunno. I never really dated. All my boyfriends and Hubby were friends. In many ways, I took more of my life from the X-files even how to have a relationship. This quote was in our wedding program.
 

Aww, I love that quote.
Same here, my ex was an aquaintance/friend and this guy is a good friend. That's probably why I'm not sure I am out on a date or on a friendly 1to1 night... The fact is he is clear on 'I love going home to an empty bed', 'the city is the place where to go on a Sunday, I would never come any other day' but then he pays the bill, walks on the traffic side of a sidewalk (I didn't even know that was a thing? Then I discovered my dad does the same with my mom), writes 'I am very happy to keep you warm' and I feel I want to spend more time with him.
So, I'm afraid to admit that he has again my heart in his hands, ready to be squashed.
And that took away a bit of focus on my goals yesterday...
No two bad days in a row! Upward and onwards!

[Bean Sidhe]

Glad to hear challenge is going forwards if it has been a bit... distracted.

 

Hopefully you and him can get very clear on what is going on. I wish I had better advice there.