Ensi Posted October 25, 2018 Report Share Posted October 25, 2018 14 hours ago, Tobbe said: Thanks for this way of looking at it! Makes it much less scary. Of course I want to be able to eat intuitively for the rest of my life. But if I jump in to it too early, I can always back out, and then try again later, when I'm ready (both mind and body). That's a very relieving insight. You can give yourself a time limit, and another thing is to recognize the diet mentality, and start working on your fear foods one at a time. If you're scared of eating pizza, hamburgers and ice cream, start with just allowing pizza. Recognize the thoughts, and work on them one at a time. This way, you won't get overwhelmed 14 hours ago, Tobbe said: Just a couple? I'd like to be able to not think about food for five hours at least. This is something that I'm a little bit worried about. I'm not ready to give up food as a hobby/an interest. But obviously I don't want to be as obsessed with it as I am now. At least not in the way I am now. I listened to a podcast this morning about Intuitive Eating and weight gain. One of the hosts, who has been doing IE for pretty long now, said that she had to buy new clothes about every six months because she kept gaining weight. And she was above 25 in BMI when she started with IE... Me, being skinny, not fat, will probably gain even more, even faster. And that scares the shit out of me. But I'm not 100% sure why. I mean, what would it matter if I was fat? Would anyone care? Would I feel so bad? I don't know... But I also don't want to "try" just to find out, because once you've gained weight it's much harder to get rid of it again! We're all individuals, and I'm sure it's possible to go five hours without thinking food, if you just eat enough. Personally, I'm good with eating a bigger meal every 3 to 4 hours, and an afternoon snack and an evening snack. It can vary from day to day, though! I also notice that the more I eat early in the day, the less hungry I am in the evening. Food can be a hobby and an interest, for sure, but what you're giving up is the unhealthy relationship to food - food's not meant to scare you! It's meant to make you feel energetic and healthy. Personally, I enjoy food more when I'm eating without rules and fears. I don't really know you, but it sounds to me that you are pretty tense around food and eating without rules. And that's totally understandable! You can take this as slow as you want, working one thought and food at a time When I started eating carbs, it was terrible! I was really scared about eating bread, but I was so done with being scared of and obsessed with food that I saw no other option than to try and see it for myself, instead of believing all the diet rules there are. Now I know that there's no specific food that makes me gain weight. Being stressed and unbalanced does. And I can't tell you what happens to your weight. I didn't gain weight like crazy, and I still fit in my clothes. My body composition changed, though, and I was really happy with that change (hellooo I have hips now ). But I also think that it's totally OK to have some guidelines about what to eat, and what not. I have my own set of guidelines, and I know which foods make me feel good and what don't. It's not like "whatever", but instead it's me who makes the rules, and not some outer force that tells me how to live. 14 hours ago, Tobbe said: Yeah, the mindset is a much bigger problem for me. And one that feels much harder to fix/heal Does any of these help you? I think the most important thing is to understand that life's messy, and your body doesn't need the perfect conditions at all times to function properly. Take it slow, and get to know yourself 1 Quote -:*~ Journal ~*:- Link to comment
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