new member My life needs a reform (or maybe a referendum?)

[SirPinguin]

Hi guys

 

First off: Happy new year!

 

I randomly found this site and the forums while i could not sleep and got stuck on my cellphone. So I decided to sign in here on the next day and get started, just to try if it helps me to stay on track. (It is actually a coincidence that I join in the new years eve, it is not a new year's resolution, so it has actually a chance to work and I have a good possibility to retrospect next year)

 

Some words about me: I am a nearly 29 years old dude living in Germany (Bremen to be precise) who needs a change in life. Right now I am unemployed, try to get along with ADHD and struggle to have some goals to achieve besides some undefined ones I will mention later. Also I am a quite creative and intelligent guy, much is happening in my head and i am a "thinker", i do think much an way too often before I do something. I would define it more as "Grübeln", I don't know the English word, google says it is "brood". Maybe this is the right one, maybe it is not. Generally I would consider myself to be kind of sporty: I dance Lindy Hop(Swing-Dance) regulary, go jogging and do some bodyweight-workouts about twice a week, I also did Martial Arts, played football (the soccer one) and tried lots of stuff like parkour, different dance-styles, yoga etc. Unfortunatly I am way too much injured from sports and need to change that. I shortly recovered from an ignited supraspinatus tendon, my bottom back is kind of hurting too. So I need to learn to train correctly and listen to my body. (Oh, and as everyone is mentioning wheight and height: about 80kg and 1,81m, also I am a vegetarian also denying eggs and most of milk (exept yoghurt and cheese... CHEEEESE)

 

So the "Do sports!" stuff is not so much a problem, it's more like: You started to do sports regulary, you keep on going for one year now, you are persistant and endurant... why don't you use those skills for the other important party in your life?

Why am I here then?

I want to learn from myself, I want to learn from others, I may help others.

 

I hope to find some help here, how and why I will point out now:

 

Initially i looked for some stuff to help me, like apps or routines to get some order into my life, which is quite a chaos right now. Don't get me wrong: I do love and i do appreciate chaos, there is just no balance, no counterpart. So I found this page and was quite interested, I liked the concept and thought it would be a good idea to try it out, especially as it is not all about sports and fitness here, it seems to be about the whole concept of . So now as I am here there needs to be some goals, something to achieve in short-term and long-term and this is a great start to think about those goals, here is my "concept":

 

Long-Term Goals:

- Find the right vocational training (right word again?  )

- Have a dog

- get back my individual responsibility (right word again? ^^)

- feel obliged to me, I say I do and I do!

- be happy with myself and my life

- live healthy and stay fit, become even more fit!

- care for myself, there is just one me

- be self-aware, know my skills, abilities and traits and be able to communicate and use them

- handle my finances in a better way

- live and work in France

 

 

 

Short-Term Goals:

- do some internships

- get a side job

- go back to my Muay Thai Gym, also doing yoga there

- join the tough mudder in summer (Hamburg)

- keep on running, dancing and doing sports

- keep going to the social dance parties

- learn how to train healthy

- get some regeneration and relaxation habits

- become defined

- special running goals until february: 15 km in one run (i do 12 right now), 5 km run in under 5 minutes per kilometer (i do about 5:20 right now) 

- improve my eating habits

- travel and camp in the Carpatians and on the Irish coast

- be more kind and fair to myself

- sleep healthy

- look into the mirror and smile (every day)

- generally more caring for my mental health

- find a way to structure the week

- get some new input from others

- improve my French

 

And especially for this forum:

Plan and do my first 4 Week Challenge, also log it for myself and maybe others!

 

So this is a lot, I sometimes think it is too much, I have to add another short-term goal then:

Prioritize and focus!

 

Well, thank you if you read this, it is hell of a lot and more than I first thought it woud be. As I really need to change something and I am the only one who is able to do it for me there needs to be a start, and this start shall be today If you have any questions or remarks feel free to ask or message me. I am always happy if I get tips, help or hints, may it be lifehacks or tools, or even some small things which change little. I know i have to take small steps to improve and get better, too often I was greedy, took the big step and fell.

 

I would also be glad to find a wingman (or sidekick as it is called here). I know it helps if feel kind of obliged to someone else with my tasks.

 

Best Greetings, Sir Pinguin

 

P.S.: Oh, and I nearly forgot a short story which always drives a tear into my eye and is basically all I wrote extensivly in a comprimised, but nearly perfect form:

 

There is a story about a pengiun told by the German doctor Eckart von Hirschhausen. Well, I am not that penguin and I will never be, but this story is still inspiring my and teaches me what I want to achieve: I will always be myself, a penguin. I wont fly to the moon and reach for the stars, i will never win a rally in a desert and I will never reach the highest tree. But when I finally reach my element, I will swim like noone else, I will dance in the sea and keep those warm who are close to me... and most important I will be happy with what I got.

 

[Jean]

You are definitely in the right place, welcome!

 

Also, you're not alone and you probably have the tools to turn your life into whatever you want to so go for it.

 

As a Swiss person, I can't help but ask: why a referendum? The choice seems to be already made, now it's time to enforce that law into your life (which is why many of us are here so, that's great).

 

And also, what do you mean by "get back my individual responsibility"? Is it a decision you are taking toward yourself (you're not feeling like an adult) or has it been taken from you IRL?

 

[SirPinguin]

Hey Jean, thank you for your answer, well I know I have the tools, I just need to be aware that I have them and use them, i think here lies the dog buried :p.

 

Referendum maybe because I still need to figure out what is most important to me and a look from outside is helping sometimes, it was more or less an exaggeration I guess.

 

Well I have my individual responsibility de jure, but I kind of became passive in many ways in my life. like "I don't like how I act right now, but I still do it because it became a habit. Maybe because I don't have the right goals or I don't believe I will achieve them or I don't have a real plan. It is kind of difficult, so I think it is more of a metaphor.

[Jean]

2 hours ago, SirPinguin said:

I don't like how I act right now, but I still do it because it became a habit.

 

This is familiar ground. It's only when I've realised that though we have time aplenty, it isn't an infinite resource and that I was/am living life like something to endure, where moving a day forward was a victory by itself even though that only meant I had one day less to accomplish anything grand that I've started to think that the vision I have is something to actively reach for.

 

Seems like you are at the drawing board. Building healthy habits is a very good way to start. I know it's not easy every day but have fun on the way.

 

[SirPinguin]

Well thank you, I hope so

[Guzzi]

Cheeeeeeeeeese!!!!!!  

 

 

Ahem. Sorry, got a bit carried away there. Welcome on board, how are you finding it so far?

[SirPinguin]

 

On 1/28/2019 at 4:54 PM, Guzzi said:

Cheeeeeeeeeese!!!!!!  

 

 

Ahem. Sorry, got a bit carried away there. Welcome on board, how are you finding it so far?

 

To be honest I did not really work myself into the forums, a fashortcoming I think I will change in the near future. I try to "persuade" myself to be more journaling and more inspired by others here.