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Recap of the last couple challenges

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It's no secret I'm not a patient person. One of the hardest things for me to deal with is I didn't get this way overnight, and I can't fix it overnight. Fixing it takes consistency, building habits that will last, not just get me to the goal and then going back to what I was doing and losing all progress made. I've learned a whole lot about what DOESN'T work for me lately, I've also learned that I can't abuse my body the way I used to when I was younger, recovery takes too damn long now! :lol:

I've been following a couple podcasts, one is Not Your Average Runner, the other is Phit-N-Phat, NYAR talks about running at any size and age, realistically. She also stresses the importance of not quitting on yourself, habit rather than motivation, and other types of good stuff. Phit-N-Phat is a woman that lost over 100 lbs and kept it off 24 hours at a time. She's where I stole the line "I didn't die or get pregnant" from. She talks about being realistic, making a 24 hour plan and sticking to it, (if you're going to have 12 hershey's kisses for breakfast, put it on your plan! LOL) and a lot of don't follow a diet unless that's how you're really going to eat...make it sustainable. If you want to eat Paleo or Keto for the rest of your life, fine, but don't do it to get to a goal weight and then go back. Pay attention to how you feel, are you really hungry? Are you bored? Are you eating your feelings? A lot of other good stuff from her too but I'd be here all day and I do have to work at some point ;)

The goals...

Lose 50 lbs (total) by October, 31st, that's 5 lbs a month

January - Done!

February - Done!

March - Done!

April - in progress

 

The Plan....

1. Three interval runs, and one strength training a week. Look for someplace to make one of these runs outside.

2. Continue making the 24 hour plan, eat on plan when hungry, stop when full.

3. Three times a week (at least) take time for me, this can be journaling, crocheting, or time to read.

 

Yes, baseball season is in full swing, I'm trying to not disappear here but mid last challenge my marriage fell apart, granted, it was only hanging on by a thread to begin with...

Things are really up in the air with that right now, we're still living together, we are trying to be civil and be friends...it's tough, not gonna lie, not looking for sympathy it just is what it is.

 

So more than ever I need to meet my goals,  running and training help keep me sane, I really miss when I don't do it...where I struggle most is finding me time, especially now.

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Hugs @RES. From what you've said I think in the long run this will be good for you, but i'm sure it sucks like hell right now

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Hey RES, thinking of you, and hoping you can find a way to make living space more comfortable. Sending love and following along xx

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Surprised this hasn't been posted yet

 

Sendin virtual hugs your way. Here if you need to talk. Also here if you want to make-believe we fly to Iowa to meet @T2sarahconnor and get wasted on tequila :P

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4 hours ago, DarK_RaideR said:

Sendin virtual hugs your way. Here if you need to talk. Also here if you want to make-believe we fly to Iowa to meet @T2sarahconnor and get wasted on tequila :P

 

I would like to get in on this too. 

 

RES - I am not sending you any kind of consolation over your situation. You are getting the highest of fives and cheers. You are awesome and have been dealing with crap and I hope you two can stay friends, but good riddance. 

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Here to cheer you on as you move forward with your life.

 

I'm proud of you for sticking to your goals in the face of discouragement from your wife. I hope you can find places to take breaks for yourself in the chaos that is the busy season at work.

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Following too! I know you had talked about your marriage being in a tough place before. I'm sorry you're going through that. My own experience with getting out of a really long relationship was that even if you know it's coming and it's for the right reasons, you are still going through a loss. Letting yourself feel what you need to while carrying along mightily is important. *hugs*

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On 4/17/2019 at 4:06 AM, DarK_RaideR said:

Surprised this hasn't been posted yet

 

Sendin virtual hugs your way. Here if you need to talk. Also here if you want to make-believe we fly to Iowa to meet @T2sarahconnor and get wasted on tequila :P

Somehow I knew it would be either you or my twin that posted it ;) I was going to but that would have been too obvious...

I'm all for actually going to Iowa and getting wasted on tequila...where the fuck is my twin anyway????

 

On 4/17/2019 at 8:50 AM, Sylvaa said:

 

I would like to get in on this too. 

 

RES - I am not sending you any kind of consolation over your situation. You are getting the highest of fives and cheers. You are awesome and have been dealing with crap and I hope you two can stay friends, but good riddance. 

You are absolutely welcome to join us!

 

I appreciate and will take all of the high fives and cheers...this has been a long time coming for certain. I believe we will remain friends, it's just going to be rough right now.

 

Everyone (the forums will only let me quote so many in one post so consider this all inclusive) Thank you...from the bottom of my cold, black, heart...

 We've had a few conversations this week, our saving grace has likely been it was a Mon-Fri homestand so I haven't been home much. I've broken down what we need to pay splitting it according to our income for if she stays here, or if she gets the job in Tampa (oh yes, the job she's wanted for years just opened up, she applied for it). We've started the process of splitting the finances, updated direct deposits, etc...We've fought, a lot, she brought up a conversation from almost four years ago (right after we were married) that she said upset her, I've brought up the multiple conversations we've had over the very topic that brought all this to a head, and pretty much demanded to know how long was I supposed to put up with it...we still love each other, but we know it's not going to work out like it is currently...she doesn't want to change and I don't trust that any changes she makes will be lasting because it's happened before...I'm also enabling her to not do better, which is not the first I've heard I do that...anyways...

So that's where it stands now...it's better than it was last week, which is good because orange is not my color :lol:

 

So, I did a thing last weekend...for those that don't have me on Facebook or Instagram

 

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And one taken at work :) 

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Got paid a very nice complement when I was talking about my "big" birthday coming in October, and a guy said "No way are you going to be 40" LOL, did my ego good when I told him nope, was actually going to be 50! 

 

Oh yes, so challenge goals (one of which is to find and stalk follow all you amazing people!)

1. Three interval runs, and one strength training a week. Look for someplace to make one of these runs outside. Amazed to say I got 2 in! Even with the games. Think I've found somewhere to run outside but I'll check that out my next off weekend

2. Continue making the 24 hour plan, eat on plan when hungry, stop when full. Done every day except 1, my crew is amazing, and know when I need giant chocolate chip cookies covered in ice cream...my co-workers are also awesome with cheesecake bites...I did not stop when full, I regret nothing!

3. Three times a week (at least) take time for me, this can be journaling, crocheting, or time to read. I got this done this week...shocking. I'm amazed how at peace I'm feeling today.

 

Food prep and laundry is done, and I'm heading over to some friends for the holiday...xoxoxoxoxoxoxo to everyone! :D 

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Diggin' the new hair, especially if that red shirt is some kind of every day work outfit, they really match. Plus, you know, Red Eagle Spirit and all...

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2 hours ago, DarK_RaideR said:

Diggin' the new hair, especially if that red shirt is some kind of every day work outfit, they really match. Plus, you know, Red Eagle Spirit and all...

Red polo is Friday game days shirt (yes, we have a different color for each day of the week on game days) 

Of course, red being my favorite color is part of how Red Eagle Spirit came to be (my ex, Blue Wolf Spirit came up with it :lol: )

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*Wolf whistle* Damn you looking fine in those pics.

I know you are suoer busy. But you need to get this book asap;

Useful Belief by Chris Helder.

The concepts in this book helped me deal with my own marriage breakdown.

Basically, you just next to focus on the next most useful thing that you need to do.

Whether that is letting out the emotions within, sorting out financial issues, getting to work on time, or dying your hair.

Just do what is most useful for you to do next.

Sent from my CPH1725 using Tapatalk

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You are doing amazingly! You're going through a lot, and you're handling it with a lot of grace and a really good mindset. I know this can't be easy, but I (and everyone else following along) are in your corner and cheering for you!

 

And that red hair is rad. I love it! You look amazing -- and there's no way that you're approaching 50. I don't believe it. I believe you're one of those people, much like my own mom, who stopped aging somewhere around that nebulous age of 35-40 and has become essentially immortal.

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I love your hair color.

 

I'm so glad that you have good coworkers who understand the importance of cookies and ice cream. :D Also glad that you are getting relaxation time for yourself.

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On 4/22/2019 at 8:05 AM, Thom Stépan said:

*Wolf whistle* Damn you looking fine in those pics.

I know you are super busy. But you need to get this book asap;

Useful Belief by Chris Helder. 
 

Thank you for the complement :love_heart: and the book suggestion, found and downloaded to my kindle!

 

 

On 4/22/2019 at 9:40 AM, NicTheRugger said:

You are doing amazingly! You're going through a lot, and you're handling it with a lot of grace and a really good mindset. I know this can't be easy, but I (and everyone else following along) are in your corner and cheering for you!

 

And that red hair is rad. I love it! You look amazing -- and there's no way that you're approaching 50. I don't believe it. I believe you're one of those people, much like my own mom, who stopped aging somewhere around that nebulous age of 35-40 and has become essentially immortal.

Thank you so much, I have to admit I'm loving the hair too...and no, haven't stopped aging (though the immortal part is intriguing) and 50 will in fact be here in about 6 months...and I can't even attribute any of it to clean living :lol: 

 

On 4/22/2019 at 12:06 PM, Mistr said:

I love your hair color.

 

I'm so glad that you have good coworkers who understand the importance of cookies and ice cream. :D Also glad that you are getting relaxation time for yourself.

Thank you! I work with some amazing individuals :D 

 

8 hours ago, doctorake said:

Following along, interested to see how the 24 hour plan goes for you.

 

I hope you can deal with your relationship civilly.

I've been doing it for almost 4 months now, it helps to know what I'm going to do as far as eating, workout, I even make notes of what I need to get done for the day (because I love to check things off) keeps me from 'grab assing' on the food part and takes the guesswork (and the 'what am I forgettings") out of the rest!

 

Things have been oddly calm and civil since the big blowup on Saturday night

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7 hours ago, RES said:

and 50 will in fact be here in about 6 months...and I can't even attribute any of it to clean living :lol: 

A happy life contributes way more to it than a clean life. Just saying.

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