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Mae for May! (And a little bit of April)

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Hello all!

 

So I’m almost late to the game but I figured now would be a good time to reset.

 

My goals for the next four weeks:

 

- Shower first thing in the morning.

(I’ve been rushing in the morning because showering and getting ready is usually last on my ‘doing’ list.)

 

- Bed *before* 10:30 pm

(Experiment since “at 10:30” is not working. The hypothesis is that if I’m less strict on the exact time, then I’m more likely to stick to the scheduled goal.)

 

- No “rabbit holes” for the next four weeks. 

(I can use the internet i.e. YouTube, forums, e-mails, etc. but * I must have intent*. So no watching YouTube for hours on end unless I say to myself “I am going to watch YouTube for x hours” beforehand.)

 

Okay, let’s do this! 

 

 

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Day 1: 

 

- Shower first thing in the morning.

Done. I did it before my proclamation yesterday morning. Let me say, early morning showers are so much easier when you're not freezing. 

Lovely spring. 

1/28

 

- Bed *before* 10:30 pm

That's a big Nope. Although, I got to bed before midnight so...win-ish?

I have a theory that my inability to go to bed on time is due to my distain of facing the next day. There is nothing bad/stressful in my life right now but we are wrapping a busy season at work. 

I think I'm reaching the end of my endurance. I have vacation at the end of May, but it seems so far away. 

0/28

 

 

- No “rabbit holes” for the next four weeks. 

Speaking of avoidance...

Rabbit holes (youtube and fanfiction, especially) are my escape. Sometimes it's fine, but other times it impedes on other aspects of my life- for example, getting to bed on time. 

 

It did work in some ways. I barely checked Facebook because, looking at my phone screen, I realized I didn't *want* to check Facebook. Really, really didn't. 

 

YouTube is easy to avoid when I'm not on the computer, so I had no problem yesterday. 

 

Fanfic however...I got lost in a story and didn't finish until late. How is it 99% of the time I can never find one that presses all my Joy Buttons, but the one time I vowed to taper off, I suddenly find a nice long one? 

 

...so I'm not counting day 1. Darn. 

0/28

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Day 2!

 

- Shower first thing in the morning.

Done. I still ended up rushing to get to work. In the near future, I need to revamp my whole morning routine, but 'shower' is the first thing to work on. 

2/20

 

- Bed *before* 10:30 pm

Better. Much better but still didn't get there. I came home at 9:30 so that didn't leave me much time to do the things I wanted to do and get ready for bed. 

I believe I ended up in bed at 11. So it's a win in improvement, but not a win at the end. 

0/20

 

- No “rabbit holes” for the next four weeks. 

Honestly, I was busy so I didn't get much opportunities to visit 'Wonderland'. The times I did have, I read a book instead. 

1/20 :-)

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I am also a morning rusher (I hate getting up earlier and wait as long as possible to do so). Is your goal to actually get out of bed and go straight to the shower? I'm interested in hearing how that works for you.

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Personally, I function best on days I get straight into the shower. The warmth actually raises your body temperature and helps mitigate morning grogginess, which I struggle with when I shower in the evening. 

 

On the flip side, cold morning showers can shock you into consciousness. 

 

I often really wake up about 2/3 the way through my shower, especially in the winter. 

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9 hours ago, Sylvaa said:

I am also a morning rusher (I hate getting up earlier and wait as long as possible to do so). Is your goal to actually get out of bed and go straight to the shower? I'm interested in hearing how that works for you.

 

1 hour ago, Sciread77 said:

Personally, I function best on days I get straight into the shower. The warmth actually raises your body temperature and helps mitigate morning grogginess, which I struggle with when I shower in the evening. 

 

On the flip side, cold morning showers can shock you into consciousness. 

 

I often really wake up about 2/3 the way through my shower, especially in the winter. 

 

That is the goal. I didn't use to have any problems with the shower, no matter what stage in the process it was in the morning. idk... over time it became harder to signal my brain that the day was starting and I should get ready.

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3 hours ago, Mae45 said:

 

 

That is the goal. I didn't use to have any problems with the shower, no matter what stage in the process it was in the morning. idk... over time it became harder to signal my brain that the day was starting and I should get ready.

 

I hear you. I’m pretty sure I’m chronically sleep deprived, hence my perennial goal of 7+ hours sleep. 

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Day 3...WTH

 

Okay, first thing first

 

- Shower first thing in the morning.

Done. yah! 3/20

 

- Bed *before* 10:30 pm

I was so close. 10:35pm. Yep. I thought I had the time to get ready but turned out trying to finish the laundry pushed me over. 0/20

 

- No “rabbit holes” for the next four weeks. 

Meh. I'll call it as a win. I went on FB and watched one YouTube video but I have been more mindful of the descent into media madness.

 

I am also wondering: should this forum be considered a "rabbit hole"?  Because I have been enjoying these discussions.  2/20 :-)

 

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So, now my WTH moment this morning. I actually woke up in a panic. In my half-asleep mind, I realized I felt *good*. I wasn't having the groggy pull of 'awake' I usually feel and that was when the panic set in.

 

Because the only reason that could be was oversleeping. I rolled over to look at my clock.

 

'Noooooooooooo…..wait....what?' 

 

Nope. Almost 7. I have time. I'm good. 

 

Then, a double take. No.... That's not 7...that's 6am. My alarm hasn't even gone off yet. 

 

I woke up refreshed the first time in forever. 

 

And it's great. It's really, really great. 

 

Except for the fact that I don't know *why*. Why I have I done a complete 180 on my morning feels from one day to the next? 

 

It could be due to a million variables or maybe a combination of variables...and figuring this out is going to bug me. 

 

 

 

 

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9 minutes ago, Mae45 said:

I am also wondering: should this forum be considered a "rabbit hole"?  Because I have been enjoying these discussions.  2/20 :-)

 

I have to consider the NF forums a rabbit hole for myself, because I will spend way too much time here if I don't. The question would be is if being on the forums is in the spirit of your challenge or not. What made you choose having the internet be intentional? Are you trying to gain or lose something? 

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1 hour ago, Sylvaa said:

 

I have to consider the NF forums a rabbit hole for myself, because I will spend way too much time here if I don't. The question would be is if being on the forums is in the spirit of your challenge or not. What made you choose having the internet be intentional? Are you trying to gain or lose something? 

 

...Those are good questions. I really had to think about it over my morning coffee.

 

I believe it’s because it’s a crazy-busy time at work for me. I end up just ‘riding the wave of the storm’ so the idea of ‘Control’ becomes important to me during this time. Usually, my default is to control other aspects of my life like cleaning my place or journaling my thoughts.

 

But I didn’t do that this time around. 

 

I’m not stressed out about that. I’ve started karate so it may be a different take on gaining control. But I’m feeling uncomfortable from my lack of doing my usual comforts. 

 

So how can I do all of the above? (karate, cleaning, journaling, etc). By trying to control another out-of-control aspect of my life: my internet usage. 

 

I’m not sure how this will shake out. We’re pretty much done with everything at work now, so I can breathe again. 

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Okay, I have to gush about this instance at work because this made me so happy:

 

There's a group of our people from other locations visiting us today and I made an off-hand joke to someone: 

"I don't get the chance to talk to your boss much anymore. Not since we moved our reporting system on-line." (I always had to call when there was a problem with the reporting.)

She nodded her head in enthusiasm. "Things have been *so* much better when we went on-line."

 

That was two years ago and moving that system was my first major project after my promotion. This person didn't know the work that went into it or that it I was just me and our IT person working on it. She didn't know just how *desperate* I was to get the system on-line because what I had was broken and the employee we hired to help me suddenly quit. 

 

Two years later and it's good to be reminded of what I managed to accomplish. :-)

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Day 4

 

- Shower first thing in the morning.

Done. But I am noticing that it is taking me longer to get out of bed when I'm already awake.  4/20

 

- Bed *before* 10:30 pm

10:40pm. I'm noticing a pattern. I have thought to change the time but that would just make me go to bed later. 0/20

 

- No “rabbit holes” for the next four weeks. 

I went on YouTube and watched a few videos but I was able to close out the computer to go clean my condo. 3/20 

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Day 5 & 6 

 

Okay, I am going to say right off the bat, I did not accomplish any of the items on the list this weekend. 

 

Not to say it was a bad weekend. My shower/bed/internet habits are 100x worse on the weekends because I usually don't have plans as reasons to keep them up. 

 

It was only...50x worse this weekend, so I'm pretty happy about that. 

 

- Shower first thing in the morning. 4/20

- Bed *before* 10:30 pm 0/20

- No “rabbit holes” for the next four weeks. 3/20 

 

I have been thinking about my morning routine a lot more lately. I have not been able to wake up any earlier (as is my hope someday), but I have been less...grouchy about it. I don't know if it's because of the weather or the Whole30 I'm currently doing or even something I'm not considering, but I'm happier than I have been in a long time. 

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Welcome @Mae45. Simple but important goals. I'm a cold shower guy, so it is definitely an important part of my morning "wake up" process. I don't take a shower first thing, but I definitely struggle on days when I don't shower in the morning. And yeah, 10:30 is my ideal bedtime, but most of the time it ends up being closer to 11:00. What time do you get up in the mornings? I'm an early bird (4:45). I also love that you refer to net addictions as "rabbit holes"; I feel this way about comment sections. :D

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Day 7:

 

Well...This is a turn. On Monday, I did one of my Big Three: the shower. And even then, I was struggling to get up and get in.

It's still chilly in the morning so I have chosen the warm bed over starting my day.

 

- Shower first thing in the morning. 5/20

- Bed *before* 10:30 pm 0/20

- No “rabbit holes” for the next four weeks. 3/20 

 

And the 'rabbit hole' was due to Endgame. I've been soaking up all forms of media I can about it because it was so good. I plan to see it again soon. I regret nothing.

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On ‎4‎/‎29‎/‎2019 at 1:00 PM, WolfDreamer said:

Welcome @Mae45. Simple but important goals. I'm a cold shower guy, so it is definitely an important part of my morning "wake up" process. I don't take a shower first thing, but I definitely struggle on days when I don't shower in the morning. And yeah, 10:30 is my ideal bedtime, but most of the time it ends up being closer to 11:00. What time do you get up in the mornings? I'm an early bird (4:45). I also love that you refer to net addictions as "rabbit holes"; I feel this way about comment sections. :D

 

It does feel like a rabbit hole, doesn't it?

 

I am debating on changing the 'shower' goal mainly because I am finding I am still having a hard getting up. I think motivation is my problem. I am *not* an early bird (4:45! yikes!) and all the sources on the subject of waking up early say that a key factor is finding something worth getting up for.

 

The shower is not that factor.

 

So then the question would be, 'what is?'. I've tried all sorts of ideas (morning cup of coffee; peaceful walk; exercise workouts). While they are nice and I enjoy doing them in the morning, the bed supersedes in the morning every time.

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3 hours ago, Mae45 said:

So then the question would be, 'what is?'. I've tried all sorts of ideas (morning cup of coffee; peaceful walk; exercise workouts). While they are nice and I enjoy doing them in the morning, the bed supersedes in the morning every time.

 

I don't know how spiritual you are, but I have made prayer and meditation a high priority. It is literally the first thing I do every morning, and I truly do look forward to it. The first thing I do as soon as I wake up is sit up and say, "Thank you." Then I go to my knees and say the Lord's Prayer and a more personal prayer. After that, I walk into the living room and listen to an audio prayer or devotional or I read scripture. And then I sit in silence for at least 10 minutes. I have to make sure so sit and not lay, though, because if I lay down I'll fall back to sleep. Then I do some breathing exercises (see my past challenges; I dig the Wim Hof method), and then I take my cold shower. It's become such a comfortable and familiar morning routine that I look forward to it. I may not get all of that done every single morning, but enough of it to stay disciplined.

 

And that's the key. You have to build a routine that works for you well enough to build the discipline required to get up and do it, even on days when you don't feel like it. I'll be honest, some days I crawl from the bed to the floor to my knees for that morning prayer, and my "Thank you" is more like, "Thanks." But I get up and do it because it's important to me.

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