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5 minutes ago, Stribs said:

 

You got this!!!!!  Gym gym gym!!!

 

 

I always feel exhausted in the morning, i cant remember the last time i felt refreshed when waking up?? That makes it so hard to get up and out to the gym. How do you guys do it? Or is it just a habit? 

 

Maybe i should try it, and see if it wakes me up a bit! x

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1 minute ago, Salinger said:

 

 

I always feel exhausted in the morning, i cant remember the last time i felt refreshed when waking up?? That makes it so hard to get up and out to the gym. How do you guys do it? Or is it just a habit? 

 

Maybe i should try it, and see if it wakes me up a bit! x

That's really it.  The waking up at 5am part, not my favorite, but once I'm IN the workout, I feel AMAZING.  And the harder I work, the better I feel.  If I'm still tired when I finish, I know I didn't hit it hard enough.

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29 minutes ago, Stribs said:

That's really it.  The waking up at 5am part, not my favorite, but once I'm IN the workout, I feel AMAZING.  And the harder I work, the better I feel.  If I'm still tired when I finish, I know I didn't hit it hard enough.

 

Right, tomorrow i will try to get up early and go in the morning. x

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11 minutes ago, Salinger said:

Right, tomorrow i will try to get up early and go in the morning. x

The other part is that you have much more energy for the workout because you haven't also been through the days stresses. I'm really a fan of early morning workouts. 

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7 hours ago, Salinger said:

 

 

Again, im starting to panic about life/work/play and balance. Basically, if i am planning to drink alcohol, i tell myself there is no point exercising that day or tracking my food. And i go drinking a lot...so im running out of days to work out!!!?? Its so frustrating and i could sob actually about it. 

 

Really, i should go to the gym in the morning on the days i say i will go. Then it is out of the way!! Regardless whether ill be drinking or eating out or anything. UGH. 

 

x

 

I'm not sure I understand you correctly.

 

are you saying that sometimes you FEEL like if you are planning to do drink alcohol you Should NOT exercise?

 

well.... that feeling seems OFF to me.  Understandable!  but as you say it could make it VERY difficult to make things better.  you need exercise to feel good, build strength and work towards losing weight.

 

... we all have a tendency towards "all or nothing" behavior that is IMHO very bad.  Either " I will be VERY healthy, not eat one chocolate bar, have a craving,  go to the gym, and make a very healthy (elaborate) salmon dinner, and def telling your friends that you will NOT drink at the bar"

 

then opps!  a chocolate bar gets eaten  (OR whatever).  :self hate!   now you are eating pizza, not working out, and drink till your dizzy.

 

IMHO; Resist this thought!! first of all, we ALL get cravings; sometimes eat a chocolate bar, occasionally eat pizza and drink a few*.  you can do this AND workout at the gym!  The key to ALL this (and more ) is Moderation.  if you get caught with a craving.  Think.  ooops!  I need to make today BETTER by spending the rest of day being healthy.

 

a LITTLE pizza really isn't the end of the world and Non-stop salmon dinner's-- Who could afford that anyways?

 

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*ok.  well, truth be told I don't drink.  so I'm not being ENTIRELY honest when I say that "we all"....if you want to talk about that - we can.  but its not really relevant to what I'm trying to say.

 

PPS.

and the OTHER problem with morning workouts (that I've seen) is that By mid-day you are DONE trying to workout, cuz' ... its too late now!

 

:(

its never too late to work on being healthy!  its cool to try to go, but if you miss, I would urge to KEEP trying!!

 

you have a flexible lifestyle where you CAN workout in the afternoon, you even have a CAR now!!  thats awesome.  as you workout you'll be stronger and stronger and soon it will be a habit.

 

THAT is when you can start getting strong and losing weight.

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ofc

not saying that planning to go tomarrow morning is Bad.

Not at all.

 

but I've struggled some with early morning workouts, myself and I would urge you NOT to allow that desire to ruin your workouts.

 

 

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While I don't like waking up early, I've always found when I do manage to get up and get to the gym that I'm more refreshed as the day goes on. It's the "perfect" way to start your day :) 

 

That being said, I'm experimenting with evening workouts and so far, I'm enjoying those too. I just have to be more purposeful with eating and the timing of it all. 

 

FOLLOWING! :D 

 

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Drinking alcohol and not going to the gym is always gonna be worse than drinking alcohol and going to the gym IMHO - treading water always better than letting yourself backslide! Don't let your brain tell you a workout isn't worth it! <3

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I like that you are still here, and still trying even though you feel like you aren't achieving your goals. Achieving your goals isn't completely in your control, (though we all might like to think it is) but choosing to keep going and try again is in your control, and you are doing it.

Also, if you feel it would be helpful, go ahead and move the goalposts in a bit. I did that last challenge to keep myself from getting overwhelmed and I feel like it helped. I also understand if you feel like that is cheating. Challenges are supposed to be challenging, but they should also be doable.

 

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On 5/22/2019 at 12:19 PM, jonfirestar said:

The other part is that you have much more energy for the workout because you haven't also been through the days stresses. I'm really a fan of early morning workouts. 

 

Thats true Jon!! x

 

On 5/22/2019 at 2:37 PM, TGP said:

 

 

... we all have a tendency towards "all or nothing" behavior that is IMHO very bad. 

 

 

Oh yes, i definitely fall under this all or nothing behaviour. So annoying. Thanks for some great advice in your post. x

 

On 5/22/2019 at 4:58 PM, SheriffWolfpool said:

While I don't like waking up early, I've always found when I do manage to get up and get to the gym that I'm more refreshed as the day goes on. It's the "perfect" way to start your day :) 

 

That being said, I'm experimenting with evening workouts and so far, I'm enjoying those too. I just have to be more purposeful with eating and the timing of it all. 

 

FOLLOWING! :D 

 

 

 

Wolf

 

Yes it does SEEM like a perfect way to start a good day...!! xx

 

On 5/22/2019 at 5:53 PM, shaar said:

Drinking alcohol and not going to the gym is always gonna be worse than drinking alcohol and going to the gym IMHO - treading water always better than letting yourself backslide! Don't let your brain tell you a workout isn't worth it! <3

 

Thanks Shaar, thats definitely it isnt it....allowing my brain to tell me it isnt worth it. You have just hit the nail on the head there! xx

 

On 5/22/2019 at 6:54 PM, GoodDoug said:

I like that you are still here, and still trying even though you feel like you aren't achieving your goals. Achieving your goals isn't completely in your control, (though we all might like to think it is) but choosing to keep going and try again is in your control, and you are doing it.

Also, if you feel it would be helpful, go ahead and move the goalposts in a bit. I did that last challenge to keep myself from getting overwhelmed and I feel like it helped. I also understand if you feel like that is cheating. Challenges are supposed to be challenging, but they should also be doable.

 

 

Thanks so much GD! I will turn up and try each month...keeps me going really xx

 

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Hey everyone. Wow...i am an IDIOT. De ja VU. Rubbish. Drank a bit too much last night so getting up to go to the gym didnt work. In fact ive done nothing today except doze on the sofa. What a fucking WASTE of a day. I ate crap (chicken nuggets and chips) drank coca cola and basically disgraced myself. 

 

I was meant to be going out to a gig tonight as well, but ive let my friend down by cancelling. :( i just cant drink again tonight, i dont have enough money and plus i need a break. Instead ill have a bath and an early night. I feel really guilty for letting him down though. I could cry actually.

 

Tomorrow i have a meeting at midday with a gallery director and curator from Backlit, in Nottingham. They are coming to Manchester to meet with me. Then meeting a friend for lunch, THEN there are gigs on through the night. Worrying about my drinking habits at the moment. Cant cancel this one because my housemate bought me a ticket for Christmas, for this...!! Bit stressed out. 

 

Balance, fucking balance. HOW?! If only i had zero social life, i may lose weight then :(

 

Anyway. I feel crap and sad and ashamed. What a rubbish day. x

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had a feeling you were having a time of it.

Please . be nice to yourself. AS MUCH as you CAN

 

I know what its like to struggle. we all do!  we all have our Feel like crap and I can't believe I'm doing so badly moments.  I'm kind of in a rough place myself, with my exericise all screwed up- so I more than sympathize.  I have some of the same challenges...

 

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Just as a question.  What IS balance exactly, do you figure?

 

 

I adamently believe you CAN lose weight and do gigs/hang out with friends

though I agree that beer and other brew is calorie rich.

 

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perhaps if you think through the big-picture you're take some comfort to find that you Can make progress on this long term goal.

 

remember,  even if you do a tiny bit better- you still gain , err lose.   eat a little less than you use and its Impossible to stay at the same weight.

 

 

 

 

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Mistakes happen mon amie - instead of beating yourself up, try to look at what happened and why and learn from it as best you can. tell yourself "I will make a better choice now" or "Today will be better", and work through it one good choice at a time? If you make a misstep, you can still follow it with a right step. a 90% is better than a 0%. I'm well-acquainted with snowballing into self-sabotage after my worst days, "I already messed up, so why bother the rest of the day...now i won't have a perfect week, might as well give up til monday...won't have a perfect Month now, better wait til next month to really start" but without fail it's always better to get up right away and start trying again.

 

i believe in you! you are strong and you can do it :)

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11 hours ago, TGP said:

 

Just as a question.  What IS balance exactly, do you figure?

 

 

 

 

 

I guess, being able to work hard on my art, exercise three times a week, drink enough water, eat healthy foods, go out with friends and socialise....x

 

8 hours ago, Miaulin said:

 

 

i believe in you! you are strong and you can do it :)

 

Thank you Mia <3 yes i fall off the wagon and hit the ground hard. I can waste a whole month because ive had  a few days 'off' :( xx

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3 hours ago, Salinger said:

 

I guess, being able to work hard on my art, exercise three times a week, drink enough water, eat healthy foods, go out with friends and socialise....x

 

 

Thank you Mia <3 yes i fall off the wagon and hit the ground hard. I can waste a whole month because ive had  a few days 'off' :( xx

well, that sounds good to me too!  (good goals ;) )

 

so how FAR out of balance are you?  from Snowden/Venice*, for example.  HOw many days have you exercised?   how many days/meals were healthy??

 

my advice is to be very objective about it.

we all have a problem sometimes with our feelings, and you might FEEL out of balance when , actually, things aren't all that bad.

 

But wherever you at, Your at.

 

the most you can do- is to do Better and make improvements. 

 

 

* and there's ALSO the fact that you've been Liz!, international traveler, too!  travel always throws me for a loop.  and traveling far away via jets- doubly so.  (triply, quadruppally??  flying is a PIA and VERY disruptive on anyone's time and routine.)

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so IF you really Can't tell me so much about where you're at- cuz your schedule was Just so wonky , before-during-after Snowden/Venice....THEN. Relax! its not so bad!!  you've done very well just to travel to all that!  the next idea would be to plan-  when to exercise and when to cook healthy meals?  make the plan and make them as real as you can.

 

 

 

 

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18 hours ago, TGP said:

 

so how FAR out of balance are you?  from Snowden/Venice*, for example.  HOw many days have you exercised?   how many days/meals were healthy??

 

 

 

 

Well i didnt go to a gym but i did walk a bit in both places.... food is difficult though when away....especially in Venice as i cant really cook much...bluergh. 

 

18 hours ago, TGP said:

 

so IF you really Can't tell me so much about where you're at- cuz your schedule was Just so wonky , before-during-after Snowden/Venice....THEN. Relax! its not so bad!!  you've done very well just to travel to all that!  the next idea would be to plan-  when to exercise and when to cook healthy meals?  make the plan and make them as real as you can.

 

 

 

Thanks TGP, yes i need to sit down and plan plan plan. I go to Venice next Friday but when i am back, i can start to really hone in my life (!!)

 

 

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Morning all, it is 7.40am. Yesterday was a LONG day. I had a meeting at midday, with the Nottingham gallery people, it lasted almost 3 hours and was kinda exhausting. But went well too, such massive hard work to be done now but i cant complain. Its work...

 

Then i met my good friend, Jess. We had a lovely lunch (i had a chicken salad sandwich with paprika mayo and sun dried toms! so good) Then it was the festival thingy. I saw one amazing band called Squid. The rest were pretty average. Had a few drinks but didnt go overboard. Also ended the night playing table tennis?! how random HAHAHA

 

Got home around midnight, went straight to bed. Didnt sleep very well but feeling ok. 

 

The back door is open, as its mega sunny, its a little chilly this morning but the bird song is so nice to listen to. 

 

Today  i need to decide whether or not to go to Sheffield to see a friend, who just had a baby. Im tired and need some alone time really. But also, i promised her i would visit this weekend. I could go this morning and come back this eve...i just dont know what to do really. Or i could go tomorrow...stress!

 

Like i was saying to TGP, i really really really need to get a grip now, and sort my self out. I feel like i say this every challenge but i suppose i am slowly getting there. (very fucking slowly) i NEED to start exercising regularly, and i need to eat better. Simple bloody stuff. Surely?!

 

xx

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Hey again, its 1.30pm. Made a decision and im visiting my friend on Monday now, ill leave early morning and spend the day with her and her baby Orla!! Ive done SO MUCH WORK today... :) loads and loads... a million emails sent, research started etc just listening to music and feeling sleepy. 

 

I need to go to buy new windscreen wipers soon, ill maybe go in an hour. Its sort of sunny but a bit cloudy too...maybe ill read in the garden this afternoon. the sun may be out again around 5...

 

I have a little bit of stomach ache today - i think maybe due to not eating very well lately. I will cook something good tonight. Chicken and veg stir fry perhaps. With lots of broccoli. 

 

Ooooh i may have a bath later as well :) haha little things. 

 

Trying to self care. In a moment i will write my diary out for the next couple of weeks. (most of that is in Venice) but i feel a bit better when things are written down. 

 

xx

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Wall of text, sorry. I didn't realise I was piling that many quotes together when doing it. The short version is: Good diary writing and take care! :)

 

 

 

On 5/19/2019 at 10:45 PM, Salinger said:

I tend to have the SAME goals each month, and i wonder if thats ok?

 

That's the only way I know toward improvement: set your mind on something, do it, do it again. Your goals are oriented toward daily activities, things you have to do everyday like, you can eat one day but if you go toward it thinking "ok, I've eaten today, that's done, now toward another goal: tomorrow, I'll breath!", you'll be starving (and gasping for air before that). ;) Your goals are great, keep at it!

 

 

On 5/19/2019 at 10:45 PM, Salinger said:

I am a loser!

 

Losing may be what you are living, but it is not who you are. Even then, it's rather what you feel you are living more than an objective truth (depending on what we focus on, we can see a winning situation as a failure - I'm doing it all the time and have to take conscious care of looking at my situation from the outside, taking all the circumstances I can into acount as well as how people would be seeing me rather than how I see myself to turn it upward. Every. Single. Time. -).

 

 

On 5/20/2019 at 6:05 PM, Salinger said:

No gym yet, still writing proposals, not read either. But im thinking of going into the garden and reading for a little bit. Its sunny, and warm out. I feel guilty and horrible and hating myself. I am trying not to though. 

 

From what I've read, you've had a productive day. Not being perfect is okay, it happens to the best of us. Reading is on your to-do list, you were not only allowed to sit reading in the sun, you were furthering your goals doing so. You are your main tool toward your goals, taking care of yourself is as necessary as taking care of your car if you intend for it to keep rolling. It may not feel like it to you but, to me, it looks like you are doing good. :)

 

I like your website, also, if I may be allowed to quote one Lizz Brady:

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We want to work with people who are weird and wonderful, intelligent and ambitious, eccentric and unapologetic.

This may very well apply to you.

 

On 5/23/2019 at 9:16 PM, Salinger said:

Balance, fucking balance. HOW?! If only i had zero social life, i may lose weight then :(

 

Having zero social life would put you very off balance, though, we need to meet others in order to feel whole and meaningful. As the son of a father who drinks, we shall say, a bit too much, there are two things that are very destructive in his situation: getting exposed to alcohol in social situations and staying all alone on his own. Balance is hard but for some part of it, it is the name of the game. You may, of course, choose your exposure to social events (though, in your situation - as an artist/someone planing exhibitions for artists -, that seems somewhat difficult) but keeping in touch with other people is surely a good thing. In a word, this:

 

On 5/24/2019 at 10:36 AM, Salinger said:

I guess, being able to work hard on my art, exercise three times a week, drink enough water, eat healthy foods, go out with friends and socialise....x

 

I'm adding my voice to the "it's not a 100% or 0% situation" choir: you can get 3% further on the way and it will still be progress. Rome was built one stone at a time, it didn't crumble into dust everyday a section of a wall was looking funkier than the rest.

 

 

10 hours ago, Salinger said:

Like i was saying to TGP, i really really really need to get a grip now, and sort my self out. I feel like i say this every challenge but i suppose i am slowly getting there. (very fucking slowly) i NEED to start exercising regularly, and i need to eat better. Simple bloody stuff. Surely?!

 

Emphasis mine, because I felt like it was worth it (and it's what progress looks like).

Also, the breakthrough, for me, usually happens when I manage not to see things in terms of needs "this needs to work so I'll make it!" but in terms of realistic "how"s or "what"s. The trick is not to focus on what I want to get rid of, or what disaster is waiting to happen if this or that doesn't happen but to focus instead on how I intend to get at some stage in a realistic way, and what I intend to do to do it.

 

"Need" usually doesn't care one bit about "sustainable" and "realistic". "Need" is a 100% or 0% switch. It asks that you give everything you have to fulfil it and doesn't care one bit if you had 0 chance to succeed in the first place. "How" allows you to accept that yes, you will take some beating on the way (because you won't reach 100% of what "needs" to be done) but you are getting there, and not reaching 100% doesn't matter because you know 100% was never on the table in the first place. What was on the table was that 3% that you can make compound into a better self if you reach for it. "How" allows you to aim for that "3%" without feeling overwhelmed by the way too big for you to handle "100%".

 

As they say: there's no point in wasting time worrying on things that are out of our control, our time is best spent focusing on what IS in our control. "Need"s are often out of our control. "3% further"s often are.

 

Good diary writing and take care! :)

 

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Hello @Jean wow. Thank you so much for taking the time to write your wonderful post to me. I feel a bit emotional actually haha and appreciate your words a lot. 

 

I tell you what, the main point is the quote by ME, (i am Lizz) i am all those things i aspire to work with...haha im kind of strange and a bit of a  loser actually but thats OK!!! Im also hard working and ambitious and intelligent. Maybe i need to work on being unapologetic, for my flaws?! Thanks a lot for bringing this to my attention Jean - i needed to read your post. 

 

xx

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Thank you for your kind words.

 

Also, +1 on the working on being unapologetic for your flaws part.

 

Rock on!

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Hey all, its 6.45pm - Ive had a decent day so far, got a lot done. I drove to the shops to get my window wipers, and they fitted them for me. I cant believe the amazing difference haha i can actually SEE when it rains now :o hahahahahah

 

I did work, i listened to Led Zeppelin, I watered the plants and repotted my tomato plant :D 

 

I really craved some sort of crap food but i made myself make a healthy dinner. This took about 10 mins to make. Chicken cooked and then mixed with a spicy fajita mix. Pre made Mediterranean rice (1 min in microwave) and salad. Healthy, tasty and im now full up....And feeling much better than if i had made crap/ordered in. 

 

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Now im drinking water, listening to Stairway to Heaven AGAIN and rocking out. hAHHAhAH

 

I had a cat visitor today, no idea whose cat it is, but absolutely beautiful, and very very friendly....! Was walking round purring and letting me stroke him :)

 

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My two cats weren't very happy though, Jules was staring at him from the sofa, and Jackson ran upstairs HAHA

 

Oh now Boys Don't Cry by The Cure is on *swoon* 

 

Ok so its 7pm now, i think i may read a little in the bath in an hour or so...which will be really nice. And relaxing. My bedroom is a right tip again, and its not relaxing to sit in there. I think tomorrow i will tidy it properly. And get to the gym or play tennis, depending on the weather. 

 

Oh now the Pixies are on...how perfect. 

 

Then Monday i will drive to visit my friend and her baby! And i said i would cook for her, i think i will make risotto... :)

 

xx

 

 

 

 

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*standing ovation for Jean the Wise* *waves a pompom around* *cheers*

 

aaaaaand cheer for Sal too! It sounds like you've been busy in a good way :D i agree about being unapologetic! even on the things you're working to change, you don't have to apologize for where you are at any point of your journey.

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7 hours ago, Miaulin said:

*standing ovation for Jean the Wise* *waves a pompom around* *cheers*

 

aaaaaand cheer for Sal too! It sounds like you've been busy in a good way :D i agree about being unapologetic! even on the things you're working to change, you don't have to apologize for where you are at any point of your journey.

 

Yes @Jean does deserve a standing ovation!! :)

 

Thanks for my own cheer as well, yes busy but good x

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