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Been following along! Love the beginning story, and just love how you write put everything. Sorry you have to live in the unsafe areas, but helped give me a better view of my own stuff. Really hope your husband finds a job soon to make it a bit more structured.

 

May I ask how getting off gluten (or was it dairy??) helped your sinuses, or how you figured that out? I've never thought too much of diet related to my allergies and nose sensitivities before.

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On 7/13/2019 at 6:05 PM, Elastigirl said:

Glad you had some down time, and a  chance to sleep in.

It was much needed and I didn't do anything other than basic chores (washing, dishes, cooking, feed the pets)

18 hours ago, LovelyBouncer said:

Been following along! Love the beginning story, and just love how you write put everything. Sorry you have to live in the unsafe areas, but helped give me a better view of my own stuff. Really hope your husband finds a job soon to make it a bit more structured.

Thanks, I haven't written a story or imaginary scenario for a challenge in a long time. I'm a bit out of ideas w.r.t. challenge themes, so I thought the story would do.

I found that if I pen down my feelings and things happening, it helps me not to become overwhelmed with everything going on, and also to sort out the thoughts and feelings tumbling through my mind :).

18 hours ago, LovelyBouncer said:

May I ask how getting off gluten (or was it dairy??) helped your sinuses, or how you figured that out? I've never thought too much of diet related to my allergies and nose sensitivities before.

How we figured it out... I'm going to squeeze the long answer into a couple paragraphs. If anything is unclear, just ask ;)
 

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About 8 years ago our whole family (me, hubby and our two boys) went totally off gluten due to the two boys (then 4 and 2 yrs respectively) developing severe asthma where they could hardly move without their chests closing, and them struggling to breath. They were on daily and emergency pumps (inhalers), but I also had to make use of a nebulizer and at a stage had to use a humidifier every day as well. And there were this white powder I had to sneak over Rocco's food every day. When the pediatrician examined the boys he said it wasn't true asthma, he thought rather food based, but signed off on the GP's suggestion to use asthma inhalers/pumps to enable the boys to breath, and get their lungs stronger. The boys also constantly had bronchitis or some or other chest infection. He and another GP (2nd opinion) then suggested that we go off milk and gluten for a while to see whether it made a change. My youngest also got some skin rashes at times (changed washing powders with no effect). We got the boys off milk first (two or three weeks), and I noticed that there was a notable difference in my youngest. He wasn't as hyper as before, so the paed suggested using raw milk. They never wanted to do allergy or intolerance tests, said it was too traumatic a treatment for little kids, and it wasn't accurate enough.

 

For most of my life I've had very bad sinus. My nose was almost always blocked, I had bronchitis almost constantly, and struggled to stay healthy. As child, the GPs always just said I was sickly. GP no.2 from above suggested I go off gluten myself (thus the whole family basically cut out gluten to make it easier to manage) and check what the results were. So first we changed milk to raw (cow's). Rocco was noticeably less hyper active, but it didn't do much for his chest. We all then went off gluten and within three, four weeks the boys were totally off all asthma meds, no inhalers, respirators, etc. A while later I realised that they hadn't had a chest infection in a very long time, and GP2 told us to stay off gluten for as long as possible. The only time they had gluten was at birthday parties, and visiting family who weren't happy with how we were handling things, and gave the boys toasted sandwiches or cookies/biscuits behind our backs, and then they would have asthma attacks or some kind of chest problem before the end of that day. So within hours after eating food with gluten. At some point I realised that I wasn't using sinus meds everyday anymore, neither did I have chest problems - no bronchitis, no coughing, no sore throat. The moment I had gluten, I would have a runny nose, hay fever or blocked nose.

 

So we continued on this gluten-free road until about a year or two ago, when it became more difficult to keep gluten totally away, and the boys had it whenever they would visit friends, birthday parties (still), family... I realised that the boys weren't getting bad reactions anymore, so we slowly brought gluten back in. The problem is that it became more and more and we ended up eating gluten almost daily. In the last couple months I realised that my sinus was bad again. I normally react from pollen, dust, mold, and sometimes dogs' and cats' hair (but I think it is the dust in the hair, and not the hair itself), and then almost always react from smoke (cigarette and fire), and it was becoming worse. I would try to cut out gluten for a week or so, and it would be a bit better, less sinus reactions. Now we've cut out gluten about 99% and my sinus is so much better, except on days when there are smoke/dust in the air.

 

I've also read a lot of articles over the years, and these three more recently, which is why I thought (on GP/homeo's suggestion) to just cut out gluten again and see where it gets me/us.

 

https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/food-allergy-and-intolerance

https://www.livestrong.com/article/542031-wheat-intolerance-skin-problems/

https://www.livestrong.com/article/543837-gluten-sinus-problems/

 

When the boys were changing milk I of course also went off cow's milk (we went through rice, soya, goats' milk etc. at that stage), and I realised that my sinus was also better, but not totally gone. It causes a lot of phlegm for me. So cutting down on milk now, is more just to help lessen the trouble. I'm still getting in cow's milk, and realised that the almond milk powder I was using contained cow's milk casein. Goats' milk is also a bit different, but also has casein and whey protein (maybe a different kind?), but gives me less phlegm. Cutting out gluten has made the most impact on my sinus problems. My husband hasn't had any health problems at any stage, but he mentioned one time while we were off gluten, that he hasn't had flu or a cold ever since cutting. He got a couple bouts of cold, and flu since we went back on gluten these last +- two years.

 

Around 2017 when we slowly started introducing gluten again, I saw from time to time that my son Rocco would get a reaction (eczema - hard/dry patches of red skin) on his right arm. I thought at that stage it was related to the insect bite he had had on his foot (the year before), which had been infected and he got a white rash that didn't want to go away, even with treatment from a skin specialist. I eventually made up my own concoction of ointments, etc. which led to the rash and infection stopping in it's tracks, and going away. The specialist said that Rocco will always have the infection in his blood, and it could come out when his health was poor, thus me thinking that it was maybe the cause.

 

Anyway... so finally our current GP/homeopath said that the rash on Rocco's arm wasn't related to his foot bite/infection as far as he could see (none of his meds and gels worked for long either), and he thought we should revisit the gluten situation. We went for allergy tests which came out all negative, and he said that he didn't have enough faith/trust in intolerance testing to give us a clear result so I should just (if I'm up to it) start cutting out food again. In all honesty, he suggested cutting out food last year already, but I just wasn't up to it, due to other stressors in my life.

 

It's been two weeks that Rocco has been 99% gluten free and the eczema/rash on his arm (which had spread to his thighs and tummy at times) is almost totally gone!

My sinuses are much better, except for days when there are a lot of smoke/dust in the air, then it takes another day to clear.

 

In short: if you cut out gluten at least 90% for two, three weeks, and you see a noticeable change, then you can be reasonably sure that gluten is the culprit. I'm just going to try and keep us all away from gluten as much as possible now.

 

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Mom Dear Diary:

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My mom phoned this weekend again. Brandt answered, spoke to her a bit, but when I said "nope, not going to talk" (because I suddenly became all anxious again), he told her no and said goodbye.

Also got a message from my aunt (aunt in law is mom's brother's wife) again, this morning, asking whether I couldn't just take my mom out for cake and tea, because they think she is missing us a lot and that I could at least do that little bit. I was immediately upset, which Brandt noticed. We spoke some which came down to me doing what I'm able to and wanting to do about the situation. He did point out however that a part of me is always worrying whether things are ok at the home, whether she needs something (not emergency related), and that I do care, and that minimum contact might ease these worries that I do have.

 

I phoned my mom's social worker and after listening she said that firstly, she agrees that no one, not family, not friends, not my mom herself, should force me into acting quicker than I'm willing to, IF I'm willing to try and work on the relationship again. And secondly, she can assure me that on an emotional front, my mom isn't lacking anything from not having contact with me, so I shouldn't feel pressured from that side either. She said that she would however, seeing as I reacted worse this time, suggest I NOT increase any contact with my mom (or that side of the family) until I feel absolutely no anxiety even thinking about contact. And if it stays as is for the foreseeable future, that is also acceptable. My mom currently phones me once a month on our house phone. I've been able to handle that these last two months. As you know I don't really want any contact with my mom, but there will always be a situation that crop up where I might have to be in contact with her, and I can't always rely on the nursing staff to help with communication, and I want to be able to handle that.

 

I then sent a message to my aunt again stating that this is now final. They should please stop pushing me. Just because they think I should act, or my mom suddenly professes to missing me, doesn't mean that my emotional or psychological position has improved or changed in any way, and that them pressuring me like this is making my situation worse. I will act at my pace, in good time. She replied, ok, they won't mention it again. I doubt that.

 

Nothing @Tanktimus the Encourager and my friends here, hasn't said over these last three years. Anyway... just wanted to get that off my mind.

 

 

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Good job sticking with your boundaries. Your mom didn't necessarily want more contact with you, she wanted sympathy points from the Aunt in question. Being able to make the aunt reach out to you makes your mom feel powerful. If you contact her that's a bonus. If not, she gets more sympathy points playing the "woe is me" card.

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37 minutes ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

Good job sticking with your boundaries. Your mom didn't necessarily want more contact with you, she wanted sympathy points from the Aunt in question. Being able to make the aunt reach out to you makes your mom feel powerful. If you contact her that's a bonus. If not, she gets more sympathy points playing the "woe is me" card.

Brandt's mom first sent me a message, then decided to rather phone and talk personally about the same time you typed here, I think.

My mom phoned us Saturday evening. Saturday evening she started sending Brandt's mom messages too! Now she sends Brandt's mom messages every morning and every evening. So m.i.l. phoned me to ask "What's up? Did something happen?" When I told Brandt this he started laughing and said my mom's on a new mission. So yes... it hit me just now that this all is probably part of a new manipulation "challenge" she has going. My aunt is being manipulated just as much.

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Thanks for sharing about how removing gluten has helped you and your family. I was similar to you, only I also had joint paint. As a kid, I was always sick. One time, I was even put in a hospital because I had a heavy cough that the could not diagnose. As an adult, every year, I would get super sick with a cough and sinus headaches.  I still do have some allergy issues, but not like it was. And if I get a cold, I get  sick for a few days and then I'm better, instead of it getting in my chest and lingering for months. 

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Your intro is like the best thing I've ever read. I could totally imagine the whole scene in my head and the whole experience was so much fun! I love it!

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13 hours ago, Elastigirl said:

I still do have some allergy issues, but not like it was. And if I get a cold, I get  sick for a few days and then I'm better, instead of it getting in my chest and lingering for months.

The same here. I do get sick, but are better within a few days. It very seldom lingers.

10 hours ago, Hansjay said:

Your intro is like the best thing I've ever read. I could totally imagine the whole scene in my head and the whole experience was so much fun! I love it!

Thanks :redface-new: I'm glad you liked it. The one author who I proof read for is trying to persuade me to write, but when I try, I just block up and can't get words out. Worse, I have to ask my boys for the English words, because I then only remember Afrikaans :D.

 

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Woot! Woot! 25x burpees (basic) last night, and I did strength workout this morning!

Blood donation is sending me a text every single day asking me to donate blood. Guess I should have gone already, but... I'll try to go on Friday or Saturday this week.

 

Rocco's dancing started yesterday for this term, and his dancing instructor is now helping in his endeavor to loose weight. He wants a Predator mask when he looses 5kg (11 lbs). And the gauntlets when he looses 5kg after that. She said he did about 10 laps around the hall, and she is making him do handstands against the wall for now, to help him build up his strength.

It's going to be a busy week with the new schedules starting in full.

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That is SO FANTASTIC to hear that being gluten-free has helped so much and so quickly!  It's amazing.  

 

And great job on the burpees! 

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Quick update: Adam started getting a tension headache again late Tuesday afternoon, which was still giving him trouble Wednesday afternoon - so no going to Lego classes. Thus also no walking for me. I think the headache is caused by the way he sits: slouched and looking down on to his tablet. I've also limited his allowed time with tablet and computer, so we'll see whether this improves.

It has been so hot here, we are forgiven for thinking it is summer. Today for instance is 36C here in Pmb! Water is going good.

Adam's head was finally ok this morning, so we went for his riding lesson, just to find no teacher! I sent a message, no answer. Left a message, no answer. It's now 5hrs later, still nothing. I hope she is ok, because this is not at all normal behaviour for her.

We only had a little bit of school work this morning, where after I helped Eric with the change I want. He did most of the heavy lifting, but I did help later with a lot of the smaller rocks, most of the planting, and final decorations. I've put something sort of hidden that you can only see from one side, so that there is a surprise "new" decoration depending on where you look from. This is now the flower bed right in front of our home. No more high, bushy plants.

 

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30 minutes ago, Lightning said:

That is SO FANTASTIC to hear that being gluten-free has helped so much and so quickly!  It's amazing.  

 

And great job on the burpees! 

His skin is looking so much better, and my sinus was much better, until all this smoke came in.

Thanks! Brandt is so far behind, I should have made a bet to win something :D

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That garden looks like it has a story...

 

Thank you for sharing how going gluten free helped! Definitely gives me a new goal of going gluten free. The idea of losing my hay fever symptoms (or at least knocking down them a bit) by going gluten free would be amazing... Dream world type stuff.... 

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22 hours ago, Elastigirl said:

Your garden looks so amazing!

Thank you! The dogs have been good, they only tried to take some of the sea shells once... I scolded them, they dropped the shells, and they now just look at it longingly... as far as I could see.

17 hours ago, LovelyBouncer said:

That garden looks like it has a story...

 

Thank you for sharing how going gluten free helped! Definitely gives me a new goal of going gluten free. The idea of losing my hay fever symptoms (or at least knocking down them a bit) by going gluten free would be amazing... Dream world type stuff.... 

Yes, there is a story behind a lot of the things that are decorations. The green truck cabin for instance was a wooden truck my husband's dad made for him. His dad died young, my husband was only 9 yrs old. When the truck couldn't really be played with anymore, I used it in the garden for plants, for sentimental value. Now only the cabin is left, but it is still a sentimental reminder, which my husband appreciates.

 

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Life is going on as usual. A lot of crime in the area and neighbouring suburb again this week, but at least we slept well. Dog unit did a couple of patrol drive-by's through the area, which helped to calm things down.

Brandt's gone down to the south coast for a road race tomorrow. Not a dirt rally as I said last week. It is his birthday present to himself. (His birthday is only next week Thursday though). He'll be back tomorrow night, and Rocco is also having a friend over for a sleepover tomorrow. One of the neighbour's twin sons. The other twin chose to go to a ballet concert (?) with his mom as he's started taking lessons a couple months ago, and is totally enthralled with it.

 

I managed to finish everything I had to do, except laundry, but also managed to finish another proof reading book. I made a couple comments on some of the incongruous scenes the author had written. It was just too "dik vir 'n daalder" (just too unbelievable, even for a cyborg as hero). I don't know how she'll take it.

 

Anyway... challenge wise in a nutshell:

Bible/Quiet time: Not yesterday and today.

Water: Good!

Sleep: Good, except last night, and maybe tonight. I always have trouble falling asleep when Brandt isn't around.

Food: No gluten, but had chocolate. Bad craving.

Strength workout: Done today. No extra burpees though.

Finances: Up to date.

 

Learnt/Read about slavery "in the olden days" (part of our history lesson today) and had an interesting discussion with the boys. There is always good and bad about any situation, but often only the bad is highlighted, not the good. No race on this earth is innocent of doing bad things. But also, all races on this earth has done good things too! You always get idiots in all races. People are people the world over: The good, the bad, the ugly.

Stampy Cat is batting at my keyboard again. I think he wants attention. :cat:

Have a great weekend.

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What a sweet idea to put the truck in your garden as a special memory.

Sounds like a good discussion with your boys. One of the things I loved about homeschooling was the time to just discuss things with my son

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i missed that pic the other day.

how nicely chaotic! 

 

when it comes to that kind of feedback; they used to tell me in toastmasters (an organization dedicated to public speaking);  Sandwich things that didn't go well between 2 "good observations".

 

the idea is that YES ; maybe there is more than 1 thing 'wrong' about a given talk....  but people have a limited ability to improve upon stuff.  instead, they should be drawn to the most glaring problem; while being adknowledged for the effort they have made.

 

... and anyways.  I can barely imagine the effort to write an entire book.  I know it happens!  sometimes even people write book after book.   but its an HUGE effort to make any credible story longer than a few pages.

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16 hours ago, Elastigirl said:

What a sweet idea to put the truck in your garden as a special memory.

Sounds like a good discussion with your boys. One of the things I loved about homeschooling was the time to just discuss things with my son

Some other things, like the sea shells for instance: I love the beach, the ocean - Brandt, not so much, so even though we live within an hour's drive of a beach, we only go once or twice a year, when Brandt and his mom does cycling races to that area. The mussel shells are just common shells I've picked up at the beach, but there are shells that I've been gifted by friends (from beaches outside South Africa), which are precious to me. I also love the iridescence on the inside of the mussel and other shells. I also have three rocks that Francoisana gave me which came from Namibia, a country to the west of South Africa. It looks like ordinary rocks, but it is the sentimental value behind it. I'm a fool for sentiment.

 

One of these days I'm probably going to have to discuss bible topics with @Tanktimus the Encourager and you (all my NF friends) again, because the boys are gearing up for more difficult questions as we read more from the New Testament. Rocco seems to be focusing on one aspect, it seems: what were the people thinking when they did what they did? When they made their choices. For instance, what was Judas thinking when he betrayed Jesus? What did he think he could accomplish? What did he think would happen?

 

At the moment, when we do history, it's more political, and factual answers they want, which I have to admit, creates a lot of turmoil inside me at times. At least Brandt can sometimes help with a different or more informed perspective. But yes, all these discussions are keeping me on my toes, and also make me think broader at times.

16 hours ago, TGP said:

when it comes to that kind of feedback; they used to tell me in toastmasters (an organization dedicated to public speaking);  Sandwich things that didn't go well between 2 "good observations".

Unfortunately authors usually want the typos and "suggestions" in a very orderly fashion. In general we have to send typos/problems listed in a table format, consisting of 2 columns: 1st for chapter number, and the 2nd column for an extract piece where the problem was, highlighting and fixing the problem. So you use the strikethrough format option to show something is wrong, and then write the correction in [brackets] in the correct position. Because different e-readers use different page number/positioning systems you can't jump around, your list must be in order from the first page of the first chapter, to the last page of the last chapter.

 

What I did was to copy/paste the sections I had a problem with, and then tried to describe what and why I had a problem with that specific scene or section.

In this case one scene was where the cyborg fighter hero was trapped under a rock "as huge and heavy as a car". His cybernetic leg was trapped under this boulder, the girl (a kidnapped Earth security officer - thus she could fight well) was standing in front of him. Now he sat there, trapped, yet was able to grab her around the waist (ok, that could be possible) and throw her up in to the air the equivalent of one/two building storeys? Nope, can't see that happen, because of leverage, physics, etc. except if she was short, and small, which she wasn't. I did say that it was more plausible that he boosted her up with his hands, and with his extra strength she could probably go quite high.

 

For me it comes down to would that be possible? And I do try to give leeway for futuristic possibilities, etc. Like in another book where she had the heroine sit on her boyfriend's (injured soldier) lap. Ok... maybe... but just moments before he had been shot in both thighs and were bleeding heavily. He couldn't even walk to the air-evac helicopter, and needed assistance. Now they were sitting in same helicopter, her on his lap (thighs)? Yikes! He must love her very much to let her sit on his aching, bleeding legs! Not gonna happen, and a girl who ignores her guy's pain like that...

Other problems I've encountered at times were things like the scene description being totally different: where they've changed it from one room to another (no beds in a dining room, so can't sit on the bed and chat, has to be changed to a chair), or the soldiers went to rescue a captive and they get away. Good, but earlier in the book the place where she (almost always the girl) was held captive was a certain number of hours' walk away from a certain point (river, rock formation, oasis, station...), now all of a sudden it was very close, or very far, but basically the information has changed, or it was described to have been in a tropic area with lots of trees, forest, small streams, but suddenly the scene changes to semi desert with no place to hide? Eeehhh, doesn't compute. Something's gone very wrong here!

The one thing I don't keep up with are descriptions of repeat characters. They could be blond or dark haired for all I know, never mind what colour eyes they have, but luckily this author has a proof reader who specifically checks up on character traits. The other author I read for, made a table listing all her characters and their traits, characteristics.

 

16 hours ago, TGP said:

... and anyways.  I can barely imagine the effort to write an entire book.  I know it happens!  sometimes even people write book after book.   but its an HUGE effort to make any credible story longer than a few pages.

I love proof reading. Sometimes it's irritating, sometimes it's hilarious, sometimes (lately) boring. These are obviously small, short stories compared to tombs like those of Tolkien, Cussler, etc. But a lot of thought goes into it. I've seen a pattern emerge in some authors' books (not talking trilogies). Your hero looks/acts like this, the heroine like this, there is a problem (and as I mentioned above, with one author the heroine is always captured somewhere and has to be rescued), there is a fight, someone gets hurt (oftentimes very badly now, but hey! it's in the future, they fix them in the time you snap your finger), but the couple lives happily ever after. The situation of what happened, the back story changes, the captive situation is different, different weapons, maybe same planet, same place on Earth, but there are just basic differences. I loved this author's first series of books, they weren't written to a pattern. The only thing you knew was the couple would have a happily ever after ending. But now she is contractually having to publish a lot of books in a year, and things are stagnating. For light fiction to relax with (minimal thinking involved), it's still ok. For something to become absorbed in and dream/fantasize about, not so much.

 

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Cold overcast day, and the water hydrant covering (a round top part that was protective covering over the pipe connections) has been stolen off the hydrant in front of our property. The cell phone towers are struggling to keep their towers supplied with deep cycle batteries, as they are being stolen frequently. Apparently it is the new "high crime" being driven by a syndicate, in the country. And other criminals are back to stealing telephone and electricity lines. And dogs are being poisoned in our neighbourhood again... Think I'll bury my head in a relaxing, don't need to think too much, romance.

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For the boys asking why people do what they do, remind them that sometimes we don't always know why WE do what we do, it's the same with people in the Bible.

 

As for Judas, some of the more kind theories suggest he betrayed Jesus to force Jesus' hand so he would have to reveal himself as The King. Most of the disciples didn't believe the Messiah could really be killed (even Peter), and the theory suggests Judas was tired of waiting. I don't agree with this theory, as there is little in the gospels to support it.

There are clues, however. The Gospel of John is the most critical of Judas; whenever he is mentioned John always throws in there that he was the one who betrayed Jesus. Once a different Judas is mentioned, and John is careful to point out this was not the Judas who betrayed the Lord. When the woman anointed Jesus' feet with oil before his trial and crucifixion, the Disciples objected because of how much the oil cost (it's equivalent to someone's life savings). In Matthew 26 immediately after that story it says Judas went to the chief priests to find a way to betray Jesus. John's gospel (chapter 12) points out Judas himself was the one who objected, not because he cared about the poor, but because he was in charge of the money and was embezzling. In the next Chapter John says Satan had entered into Judas. My own interpretation is that Judas' greed is what left him open to the influence of the enemy.

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On 7/19/2019 at 1:25 PM, ElizeElvinFoxRyder said:

Yes, there is a story behind a lot of the things that are decorations.

Oh that is so cool! 

Never thought of finding memories and putting out in the garden... I personally found out last year I want to have a garden one day, but never thought of finding durable memories to put out with it. Especially shells, that's just a neat idea. 

 

7 hours ago, ElizeElvinFoxRyder said:

These are obviously small, short stories compared to tombs like those of Tolkien, Cussler, etc. But a lot of thought goes into it. I've seen a pattern emerge in some authors' books (not talking trilogies). Your hero looks/acts like this, the heroine like this, there is a problem (and as I mentioned above, with one author the heroine is always captured somewhere and has to be rescued), there is a fight, someone gets hurt (oftentimes very badly now, but hey! it's in the future, they fix them in the time you snap your finger), but the couple lives happily ever after

 

Thank you fro sharing your proofreading stories, had me inkling at maybe I should be working on the one that has been in my head for nearly 6 years now. Wondering what I would come up with now. 

 

7 hours ago, ElizeElvinFoxRyder said:

Cold overcast day, and the water hydrant covering (a round top part that was protective covering over the pipe connections) has been stolen off the hydrant in front of our property. The cell phone towers are struggling to keep their towers supplied with deep cycle batteries, as they are being stolen frequently. Apparently it is the new "high crime" being driven by a syndicate, in the country. And other criminals are back to stealing telephone and electricity lines. And dogs are being poisoned in our neighbourhood again... Think I'll bury my head in a relaxing, don't need to think too much, romance.

I hope the romance reads are extra good. 

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On 7/20/2019 at 4:17 PM, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

For the boys asking why people do what they do, remind them that sometimes we don't always know why WE do what we do, it's the same with people in the Bible.

 

As for Judas, 

Thanks! I read your answer to the boys this morning.

On 7/20/2019 at 9:34 PM, LovelyBouncer said:

Oh that is so cool! 

Never thought of finding memories and putting out in the garden... I personally found out last year I want to have a garden one day, but never thought of finding durable memories to put out with it. Especially shells, that's just a neat idea.

At one stage we had a Great Dane X dog. All our dogs sleep inside the house. Max (GD) would walk through the house and his tail would knock things off tables, etc. so I eventually gave up placing trinkets or decorations down. Then I used the wooden curtain boxes, but they are up high, so we hardly ever look at things there. So one day I decided to place some things out in the garden, specifically in flower beds that are close to the house so I could keep an eye on our pets. And that has worked. :D

On 7/20/2019 at 9:34 PM, LovelyBouncer said:

Thank you fro sharing your proofreading stories, had me inkling at maybe I should be working on the one that has been in my head for nearly 6 years now. Wondering what I would come up with now.

Oh I day dream stories very often, especially after I've read someone's story and I wasn't quite happy with the story line or something, then I dream by myself and change it in my head. Or I just dream up stories and live for a bit in my head. I'm better at fixing/adapting someone else's ideas than start my own ideas from scratch, thus why I prefer to proof read than write myself, but if it is something you really want to do, then go for it!

On 7/20/2019 at 9:34 PM, LovelyBouncer said:

I hope the romance reads are extra good.

:D Fell back on my old favourite: action-romance, but had a great relaxing time, thank you.

 

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Took Serenity (our Mazda station wagon) in to have her aircon (and the attached fans, condenser, and what not else) fixed and serviced. I must use Brandt's Uno to take Rocco to dance this afternoon. It only has the two front seats, and then the roll over bar in the back, up to directly behind the front seats.

 

Rocco's little friend was here from Saturday afternoon till Sunday noon (12h00)! I had a giggle when my phone rang over the weekend, and he gave Rocco this wide-eyed stare. (Back track) When I got this new cellphone beginning of this month, I added new ringtones for specific people or for when I get a phone call. I added one of Master Chief (Halo fans will know this one) calling base, and put it as ringtone for whenever I receive a message or phone call from Brandt. I also recorded myself singing "Lui, lui telefoon, telefoon, telefoon. Lui, lui!", (ring, ring telephone, telephone, telephone, ring ring!) which is the first line in an old Afrikaans song. So what happened? Brandt phoned Saturday evening to say he was on his way, so of course there was Master Chief calling base loudly from my phone. You should have seen little M's eyes! Rocco patted him on the shoulder and told him it was only his dad (Brandt) phoning. Then Sunday morning my phone started singing in my voice, which made M look at me, then realising it was the phone, and then started giggling saying "cool!" Obviously his parents use only the normal ringtones :D Did I mention our house is a bit different in a lot of ways from normal households? :D

 

Got a laugh from Brandt this morning too. He called (Master Chief to base rang out) and I answered "Reading you loud and clear, Master Chief, over". He was quiet for a bit then burst out laughing.

I declare: this is going to be a good week! :loyal:

Hope you have a great week too.

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3 hours ago, ElizeElvinFoxRyder said:

At one stage we had a Great Dane X dog. All our dogs sleep inside the house. Max (GD) would walk through the house and his tail would knock things off tables, etc. so I eventually gave up placing trinkets or decorations down. Then I used the wooden curtain boxes, but they are up high, so we hardly ever look at things there. So one day I decided to place some things out in the garden, specifically in flower beds that are close to the house so I could keep an eye on our pets. And that has worked. :D

Aww, yeah this is my own life. I literally unconsciously walk into tables...

Good to know that's the main issue of great Danes, if I ever think of adopting one.

 

3 hours ago, ElizeElvinFoxRyder said:

:D Fell back on my old favourite: action-romance, but had a great relaxing time, thank you.

Your welcome, always good to have those fall backs.

 

3 hours ago, ElizeElvinFoxRyder said:

. Or I just dream up stories and live for a bit in my head. I'm better at fixing/adapting someone else's ideas than start my own ideas from scratch, thus why I prefer to proof read than write myself, but if it is something you really want to do, then go for it!

Good to know there are people like you out there, I feel I would be a terrible proofreader.... But knowing how people can be different proofreaders, I may look at it again. When I do find myself reading books for fun again, along with writing.

 

 

Glad to hear despite the annoyance of getting your car in, you do have extra laughs from your new phone.

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I had a bit of a close call this afternoon. Was sitting in the car (parked on the side of the street), waiting for Rocco's dance lesson to finish (he was inside the studio at the back of the house). This is the first time (in almost two years) that I've ever thought something fishy was going on there, and that I felt I might have to act. It is a poor neighbourhood, but not really bad, and it is close to a big police station (although that doesn't mean anything).

 

Anyway... was sitting in the car, facing the wrong way, because the lady wants all the cars parked on one side of the street, so that traffic can still flow. So my driver's side was next to the grass verge, with my door locked, but the window open. The street side passenger door was locked and window rolled up. I was reading on my cell phone, but keeping an eye on my surroundings by looking around every now and again. A big grey BMW SUV drove slowly down the street, which caught my attention. It was coming from behind me, and as it came closer, it got slower, until it crawled to a stop next to me. It actually drove about half a car length past me, then reversed a bit till it was nearly opposite me on the other side of the street. There was basically a little bit more than a car's width between us, as another car drove between us at that point. I looked directly at the driver, and he was watching me as well. He switched off his car, then got out and went to fiddle with the bonnet of the SUV, but he never opened it, didn't even really push his fingers in underneath the bonnet, but kept looking at me every now and again. Then suddenly he lay down on the ground and looked like he was fiddling with something underneath the car, but I could actually see his fingers clearly and he wasn't really doing anything. Still looking over at me every now and again!

 

I checked my cell phone for the time (to know how long before Rocco would finish), heard a door and saw that the passenger had gotten out and was starting to move around the man on the ground, but when I looked at him, he stopped dead in his tracks and turned to fiddle with the bonnet too. He and the guy on the ground said something to each other, looking at me again, at which point I decided that I'm rolling up my window and didn't take my eyes off them! The passenger came around the front of the car, still looking at me, but then bent and looked at the wheel. Then looked at me over his shoulder!

 

At this point I was in two minds: no way could I drive away, because Rocco was still in the building behind me, so my two options of defense were, switch the car on and ram the guy(s) if he/they came for me, or get my fire arm out of my purse. But my biggest fear is the police always warning you that you cannot shoot a guy in self defense if he doesn't have a visible weapon, so I put one hand on the key in the ignition and looked straight and hopefully very threateningly at the two guys, but I was nipping inside. The passenger said something again to the other guy (still under the car), as I could hear the murmur, but not the words, then suddenly got up, rounded the car and got back in the passenger seat. Then the guy under the car jumped up and got in and drove off. Not very fast, but faster than before they stopped.

 

I didn't read any further and kept my eyes on the road the whole time after that. Luckily Rocco came out about 10min. later, and we went home. When I told Brandt my suspicions (because maybe I over reacted or read the wrong things from what I saw?) he thought it was definitely two opportunists looking for an easy target, but my vigilance put a stop to their attempt. He told me that I have the right to defend my property with a fire arm as well, and that given South Africa's state of crime, I cannot be held accountable if two guys stormed me and I shot them in self defense. But this is South Africa, and well, with things going the way they are going, I am not that positive about my chances in court, in such a situation.

 

I seriously think I had a guardian angel who protected me, because why would they not take the chance being only one woman in a car? I can't get over the way they constantly looked at me.

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wow

how menacing!

 

yes.  I'm VERY glad to know you were armed  and Aware of the threat.  do Keep yourself Safe!

 

sometimes I think the that the sooner you get to New Zealand; the better!

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Sorry for being quiet. It's been busy this side.

Thanks for thinking of me (us). Brandt is absolutely certain that it was an attempt, but I'm thanking Father for protecting me. Yes, I think there was a huge Guardian Angel standing in front of the car! This was another reminder that (when in SA) you need to always be vigilant. I let the dance instructor know what happened, and she told the owner, and they'll keep their eyes open. They haven't had any 'complaints' from other parents who wait for their kids, but most kids are dropped off, then the parents drive off to do shopping or the like, and only arrive just in time to collect the kids again, so I'm the odd one out in that situation.

 

There's another scare in town, this time H1N1 virus (swine flu), specifically in one school. One little girl died within 3 days of showing the first signs of being sick! :( It's really heart breaking. Luckily my kids are mostly safe as they don't have that much contact with school kids, and none with that particular school. But the panic that went through town on Tuesday was rife! That was when the news article came out in the local paper, and the message spread like wildfire!

 

The week has been really busy with an extra-mural activity every day from Monday-Thursday. First Monday and Tuesday were cut short because I had to hand in our car (first thing in the morning) to have the air-con serviced (including fans and condenser replaced), then had to fetch the car again Tuesday morning. But now mechanically everything on the Mazda - Serenity - is fixed! Took us 3 yrs, but finally!

Then I've had to help the boys each build a cardboard box puppet theater (very basic) with curtains that open with the use of pulleys. That was their Lego assignment. Nothing fancy. It has to work once or twice, to show off the pulley system (that's what it was about). I sewed them some curtains (Rocco blue, Adam red/orange), helped cut the boxes (after they tried at first), we inserted the Lego pieces into the boxes... Rocco took his to Lego yesterday (with a sock puppet with two button eyes which I sewed on), and the teacher was very impressed with what he'd done. Adam will take his next week, because he is literally drawing characters then sticking it on kebab sticks as his puppets, and he wants a whole handful of characters, because they also have to make up their own story. The teacher has puppets available for use (Red Riding Hood, Goldilocks, Bears, Pigs...) but the kids still have to make up their own story.

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I've also been doing more cleaning than usual. I do have a domestic worker who comes in once a week to clean the house (no laundry, little to no dishes, just clean, dust, polish) but she has been doing less and less over the last couple months. [Rant follows:] In part that is because she is sick (has asthma, and been struggling with flu - and possibly TB! now), but mostly I've always struggled to get her to clean properly. I always have to clean up after her. Show her how I want things done, again and again. Anyway... it's gotten to a point where I'm fed up, because she pitches up, wants breakfast and money, but doesn't want to work. Then wants to leave early: "because she's sick," so I told her last week that it doesn't work that way. Brandt said I must make a final decision, and honestly, after both boys have now told me that they have caught her going through my cupboards (clothing and linen), when I was out and they were home (on separate occasions), I've decided to ask her to leave. But now she is sick again, phoned last night and said she can't come in, asked for a day's paid sick leave. She also works for my one neighbour, and hasn't worked there this week either. I feel sorry for her, I know life is difficult for her, but I can't go on like this either.

I've been contemplating this for a while now, and discussed it with the boys too, as they will have to help and do some things themselves. Yesterday, in the car on our way back from Lego, both boys said that they were willing to help. Adam also asked whether they could then maybe get a bit more pocket money for things they do extra, seeing as we'll be saving money (+-R1500-1800/month) if we let her go. Within no time they had worked out that they should do some things, because they are part of the house, and they have to help, but then maybe if I have another list that shows things they can do extra for extra computer time, or money, or maybe going out for a milkshake or cake or something? Apparently that is what a kid on one of the YouTube videos they watch, negotiated with his parents! Coincidentally I've had the same idea ;) .

 

Otherwise challenge wise:

Bible/Quiet time: some videos late evening. Almost no quiet time, just sitting, thinking, contemplating.

Water/Tea: Monday and Wednesday were good.

Sleep: Went to bed on time, Monday to Wednesday.

Food: Was good until last night. Brandt brought a coconut cake from work, which a colleague had baked for him for his birthday. I had some last night (gluten), and we're having some today on his actual birthday. Luckily he is taking most of the cake to work today.

Exercise: No strength workout or burpees yet, but I got a long walk in yesterday: 4.8km

Finances: Dailies done, and SARS (final taxes) finalised by accountant and paid.

Immigration stuff: Nothing further.

 

For today: Adam has riding lessons. We've made very sure where to meet the lady. Rocco has to go with; he can't stay home alone. I have another book I have to proof read by Sunday. I also need to make an appointment to have mine and the boys' hair cut again. Sometimes I feel like putting a clipper through it, like Brandt does with his hair.

Weekend: Brandt is home, and we have shooting club on Sunday, which I asked Brandt to please attend with me; I'm uncomfortable when I'm (usually) the only woman there. He cancelled the marshaling he had on, on Sunday.

 

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