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I realise it is the 03/10 and that it is almost exactly half way through the current challenge period, but screw it.  I want to get started.  I am very new to the forum, if I can knowck off the "first time challengers" round this time I can find a suitable guild prior to the next challenge period and start a full challenge then.

 

In all honesty, at the moment I feel really positive about the way things are going.  I am progressing nicely with some diet and fitness goals and I currently feel like I have way more energy and positive feelings than I have in a while.  I want to continue to ride this wave and not crash and burn as has been the case so often in the past.  I have a way to go to get to where I want to be but I am on the journey and, I think, the right path.

 

I'm going to split my challenge into 4 areas;

 

Diet

I mentioned somewhere else on the forum that my daughter has just started school (what has that got to do with diet you say?.. Just hang on!)

 

As a result my wife has changed her shifits at work to finish at 3.00 rather than 5.00 so she can pick our daughter up.  This has literally changed our lives!  Whereas before it would often be gone 6.00 before we were all back home and nearly my daughters bed time - now she and my wife are home from about 3.30.  Wife is cooking some bad ass, healthy meals and when I get home we are all sitting at the table, putting on some music and enjoying time together.  This is my favourite time of the day.

 

I'm having a good healthy breakfast of fruit, yoghurt and oats.  Usually a sandwich at lunch time and something awesome for tea.  I dont feel the need to snack at all, which in the past has been my biggest downfall.  I am finding that my current level it kind of doesnt matter what foods are involved at each meal, as long as I can keep to that 3 meal structure I am losing weight.

 

Target for this challenge:  Keep on Keepin' on

 

Which may sound a little vauge but if it isn't broke don't fix it!

 

Fitness

I am not fit.  I play sports and walk a bit but I am not where I want to be.  Time to fix that.  I could start going on about past glories and compare myself to others but for me that's not helpful.  I tell people all the time that we can't do anything about the past so focus on the future and making everyday the best it can be or some such shite, so time to take that on board myself.

 

Targets for this challenge:  

  1.   Be accountable to yourself - don't miss a traning session, own your own performance and walk off the field knowing you gave everything
  2.   Walk, one trig point per week
  3.   Run, one 5k run per week - get faster each time
  4.   Strength, settle on a bodyweight routine and start it (new to me - research required)

 

Social 

I am not a particularly social person, I am very happy in my own company.  I am also aware that this sometimes comes across to people in my life as offish, moody, socially awkward.  I meed to make more of an effort to be a better, friend, husband, brother, son.

  1.   Be available, say yes
  2.   Organise some time with my wife, just us, out of the house
  3.   Reach out to someone I've not seen in a while
  4.   Don't forget the personal time 

 

Work

Work is OK, but just OK.  I recently finished a large project and I'm now sort of thinking "What's next".  Going back to the day to day I was doing before isn't it and besides, my awesome team have stepped up brilliantly and to waltz back in and take over again would destroy that.  I need to refocus, reprioritize and get some productivity back into my day.  Time to tear things up.

  1. Speak to my boss, work out where priorities should be  
  2. Aim for more productive time in the office, less procrastinating
  3. Put a plan in place for my next twelve months and execute  

 

So nothing to difficult to stay on top of, and no metrics to worry about.  Just a nice healthly set of goals which if I can stay somewhere close to, I will continue on the journey, on the right path.

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4 hours ago, Onorexis said:

Hello, fellow late-starter!  Loving your targets, and definitely if it ain't broke don't fix it!

 

Hello!

 

Thanks, I am hoping that they are specific enough that they focus me but vague enough that they don’t stress me out!

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Yesterday was OK! 

 

  • Diet, on point.
  • Fitness, Very little.  But I did get out for my short walk at lunch time which is good for both Productivity and Fitness
  • Social, Yesterday Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds released their latest album and I went a release listening party.  It was great.  I think the album will take a few listens to really get into but I enjoyed the social aspect of going out, sitting with other people (I didn't know any of them - I went alone) of sitting for an hour and a half and really focusing on the music and the lyrics.
  • Work, I need a routine.  I'm currently slipping from non-task to non-task, half doing things, checking the internet.  I am not allowing myself to get into a state of flow with my work.  If I can motivate myself to get started I know I'll be able to find that state, but starting is not easy.

I love Ted Talks, todays pertinent one is this..

 

 

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Procrastination is pretty much my perpetual life state.  If I can put it off I absolutely will!

 

Good start yesterday, the social stuff is exciting!  I couldn't have done the whole going to an event like that on my own!

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21 hours ago, Onorexis said:

Procrastination is pretty much my perpetual life state.  If I can put it off I absolutely will!

 

Good start yesterday, the social stuff is exciting!  I couldn't have done the whole going to an event like that on my own!

Thanks!  

 

I have no real issue going on my own. I’d happily go most places by myself.  I have the opposite problem.  At the end of the event a few people where talking to each other, discussing the album, what they thought etc.  It was clear that they had just met.  It should’ve been easy to engage in the conversation but I just grabbed my coat headed out the door and home!  Rubbish!

 

Ive been reading a little about a concept called “rejection theory” where people actively go out and ask questions which they are unlikely to get a positive answer to in order build up a tolerance to rejection.  Really interesting concept and one I think I might try to incorporate.  It will be miles outside my comfort zone but that’s how we grow! 

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Yesterday

 

Diet-

stuck to my rules, three square meals.  Friday night is curry night in our house, and since we couldn’t be bothered cooking as we are going away today we got take out.  I had Chilli Balti with Tandoori Chicken.  It was spectacular! 

 

Fitness-

didn’t go for my walk at work yesterday but did get out for a 5k. Did it in 34 and a half minutes which is a good marker for my get faster each time challenger.

 

Ive been thinking about “strength training” and what that means for me.  It will be body weight and I’ve decided to start at the beginning with some basic flexibility stuff.  I’m going to sit in a rested squat for 30 mins everyday (that’s what I’m doing right now) and once I’ve got a hang bar hang for 30 mins each day.  These two things should be a good start at getting me flexible enough to properly attempt a bodyweight program.  Let’s see! 

 

Social- as mentioned in my previous post, work to do here.  Did some reading and formulated ideas to help me attack this properly soon!

 

Work- yesterday was miles more productive.  I allowed myself to just get started.  Once I get started I tend to get on a roll, I think getting into a state of flow is really important for me.  Need to be mindful and stubborn about when I start and what I am going to accomplish in a given period.

 

 

 

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17 hours ago, Quirky Quinn said:

I have no real issue going on my own. I’d happily go most places by myself.  I have the opposite problem.  At the end of the event a few people where talking to each other, discussing the album, what they thought etc.  It was clear that they had just met.  It should’ve been easy to engage in the conversation but I just grabbed my coat headed out the door and home!  Rubbish!


Ugh, yeah. Socialising gets easier less dreadful with practice but it's never not anxiety-provoking and draining, for me at least. 
 

16 hours ago, Quirky Quinn said:

I’m going to sit in a rested squat for 30 mins everyday (that’s what I’m doing right now) and once I’ve got a hang bar hang for 30 mins each day.  These two things should be a good start at getting me flexible enough to properly attempt a bodyweight program.  Let’s see! 


Wait. You're not planning to hang from a bar for thirty minutes, are you???

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On 10/3/2019 at 2:51 PM, Quirky Quinn said:

Thanks, I am hoping that they are specific enough that they focus me but vague enough that they don’t stress me out!

 

That's the beauty of a first challenge. Try it out, and you can always try something different next time. It's fun to experiment.

 

On 10/4/2019 at 3:47 AM, Quirky Quinn said:
  • Work, I need a routine.  I'm currently slipping from non-task to non-task, half doing things, checking the internet.  I am not allowing myself to get into a state of flow with my work.  If I can motivate myself to get started I know I'll be able to find that state, but starting is not easy.

 

 

Your idea of checking in with your boss about priorities sounded really good. Is that something you can do soon, or do you need to think a bit more first?

 

21 hours ago, Harriet said:

Wait. You're not planning to hang from a bar for thirty minutes, are you???

 

I was wondering that too! Thought maybe Quinn meant something like squatting while using the bar for balance (??)

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On 10/6/2019 at 2:06 AM, Harriet said:

Wait. You're not planning to hang from a bar for thirty minutes, are you???

 

No!  30 mins of restied squatting and 7 minutes of hanging per day!

 

In the past I got really into the idea of functional movement and started following the philosophy of a guy called Ido Portal.  The first stages of his program are rested squat and hang.  I'm going to start at the beggining and see how I progress!

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8 hours ago, Xena said:

 

Your idea of checking in with your boss about priorities sounded really good. Is that something you can do soon, or do you need to think a bit more first?

 

 

Hey Xena, thanks for dropping by!

 

I have been doing some real soul searching about work over the last few months.  But I've realised that really all the introspection in the world means very little if you're not prepared to get out there and have converstaions!  I have talked to my boss, quite vaugely and with no real direct challenges, just planting seeds that I'm ready for some more responsibility and to help him achieve his goals.  I think its been a good start.

 

I also have been trying to give myself the agency to go out and solve interesting problems I see at work.  If I don't have too much guidance, that has to be a good thing right?  Lot's of people have issues around micro managers and having no say in what they turn up to work to do or HOW they do it.  I'm quite lucky in having that space, so I'm going to user that to my advantage!

 

 

 

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The Weekend!

 

Saturday

 

We travelled across country to see my sister in law and her family over the weekend.  I was a little disapointed as that meant I missed football on Saturday.  I always feel a little aprehensive when I miss football.  When I agree to play at the start of each season I make a commitment to myself and my teammates that I will treat it as a priority.  It feels like I'm letting the team down when I'm not there. 

 

It doesn't help that they ended up getting beat, I get this feeling that I could've impacted the result or changed things, which in reality is probably not the case.  But the feelings are still there.

 

Anyway, we had a good day Saturday once we got there.  The kids love spending time together and it was good to catch up.  We played a few games and watched a film.  We had pizza for dinner but I stuck to my three square meals rule so I'll let it go!

 

Becuase we were in the car for 3+ hours I didn't really get much exercise done.  I managed 26.04 minutes of squatting but I don't seem to have the ankle flexibility to go flat footed during the squat.  This means I am putting extra strain on my knees and hip joints so this weeks task is to research some progressions here.

 

Socially had a lovely time with the inlaws so all good!

 

Weekend work time was a little bit of reading and thinking about the week ahead.

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Sunday

 

Sunday moring I was up early with the kids as other grown ups recovered from hangovers (I didn't drink Saturday) and I took the opportunity to introduce some classic films to the little ones - First on the agenda was Flight of the Navigator which is one of my favourite kids films of all time!  I loved the idea that this kid had been abducted by aliens, given vast amounts of information and got to fly in the coolest spaceship with all these other weird little aliens!  Not sure if the kids loved watching it but I did!

 

Then as the other adults rose from their pits I got the chance to head out for a walk, I took the inlaws dog out.  We found a park and walked, the weather was great and I enjoyed having the dog with me, it was incredibly well behaved.

 

I had planned to just walk but Birimingham is much flatter than Yorkshire!  When I got to a point about half way around the trail we were doing I decided we would jog back, slowly but jogging all the same.  We took it easy but made it back to the house about 12.30, just intime for lunch!  When I looked at my tracker we had been about 10k in total and jogged the second half so 5.3km in 38.35 which was lower than Fridays run but I'm going to count as my walk for this week!

 

I squatted for only 16mins but with  all the travelling home I was alright with that again!

 

Overall a nice weekend with family.  I'm looking forward to outting things right on the football pitch next week though!

 

Here's to a good week everybody!

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You'll be ready for a bodyweight program long before you manage to sit in a squat 30 min in a row! :) it's a great thing to do, but don't let it hold you back from starting. 

(and isn't Ido Portal amazingly inspiring?!) 

 

Sounds like a great weekend btw! 

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9 hours ago, Quirky Quinn said:

I managed 26.04 minutes of squatting but I don't seem to have the ankle flexibility to go flat footed during the squat.  This means I am putting extra strain on my knees and hip joints so this weeks task is to research some progressions here.


Hey, are you saying you have limited dorsiflexion (foot bending back toward the shin)? If so, can you put something stable under your heels to help a bit? At the gym people often put little 2.5lb plates under their heels to raise them up. Or they wear squat shoes which have a built in heel of about .75" It limits how far the foot has to dorsiflex, which can help prevent compensations such as your knees caving in.


Your commitment to your football team is great. It's nice to have something you're really motivated to stick to, it feels great, right? Um, except when you can't go :) 

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17 hours ago, Quirky Quinn said:

We travelled across country...

Becuase we were in the car for 3+ hours

 

I was initially perplexed, and then realized I was assuming you were in the same country I am!

 

 

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21 hours ago, KB Girl said:

You'll be ready for a bodyweight program long before you manage to sit in a squat 30 min in a row! :) it's a great thing to do, but don't let it hold you back from starting. 

(and isn't Ido Portal amazingly inspiring?!) 

 

Sounds like a great weekend btw! 

Thanks KB!

 

I've been doing bits and pieces, but I wanted to really concentrate on gaining a modicome flexibility in this first challenge before adding to it for the next one.

 

Ido Portal is awesome!  So impressive in his movement and skills.  But the thing I like most about him is his drive!  He seems to be totally uncomprimising in his approach and journey towards ultimate movement!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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18 hours ago, Harriet said:


Hey, are you saying you have limited dorsiflexion (foot bending back toward the shin)? If so, can you put something stable under your heels to help a bit? At the gym people often put little 2.5lb plates under their heels to raise them up. Or they wear squat shoes which have a built in heel of about .75" It limits how far the foot has to dorsiflex, which can help prevent compensations such as your knees caving in.


Your commitment to your football team is great. It's nice to have something you're really motivated to stick to, it feels great, right? Um, except when you can't go :) 

 

That is exactly what I am saying!  I could put something under my heel but that will not solve the underlying problem but is better than knees caving in I guess.  After I finished my squatting yesterday I spent some time streching the back of my legs by touching toes and I think that is making a small difference.  I think consistantly performing the movement will make a difference also.  I got some funny looks when I was sat in a squat at my desk yesterday but oh well!

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10 hours ago, Xena said:

 

I was initially perplexed, and then realized I was assuming you were in the same country I am!

 

 

 

Yes across country in the UK is significantly shorter than pretty much anywhere else!

 

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07/10/19

 

Diet- really solid day yesterday, back into normal portions and healthly choices after a questionalble weekend!

 

Fitness - Back at work yesterday and a slower day excericse wise.  I did do all of my squatting.  For clarification, the aim is not to do it in one go but spread out over a number of different sitting sessions!  At the moment anything over 2 minutes gets uncomfortable.

 

I didn't run but I did knock out a few pressups push ups etc at the end of the day.  I'm going to head out for a run tonight and see how I get on.

 

Social -  We've aranged for my parents to have the little one on Saturday noght so we are goiing to have some dinner out and go see the new Joker film.  Looking forward to it and another item ticked off the list

 

Work - Busy few days, yesterday I spent a lot of time strategising and thinking about plans for the future.  I'm starting to get some clairty now into how to move forward so happy to be progressing in this area..

 

 

 

 

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Isn't it nice when you get into a flow and things start to happen without too much effort or conscious thought?

 

I'm really starting to enjoy all the things at the moment!  Yesterday was a good day. 

 

I ate a large lunch at work as we had a meeting that included food, so I had more than a usual lunch portion.  I felt overly full afterwards and regretted that my gluttony only ever seems to be a table of available food away!  However, I didn't let it get to me.  I went out for a walk in the afternoon at work, came home had an excellent tea of homemade beef & mushroom casserole (with a pastry lid!) and skipped desert.  By the time the end of the day came round when I reviewed my choices I was happy that I had not let one overindulgence ruin the rest of the day and that I got straight back on the horse!

 

In terms of excercise I did my squatting and some streching.  I had a commitee meeting for the football club in the evening, I live fairly close (about 1k away) so I ran there, I mean really ran not jogged.  Usually I would walk or even get in the car (the weather was not good!) So was happy that I saw an opportunity to take some excercise and took it.  Then after the meeting the same on the way back.

 

I am really feeling the benefit at the moment of some good progress over the last month or so, as I've stated elsewhere the key will be continuing past that feeling of elation into a routine.  In the past I've settled back into an unhealthly routine after a striong period.  I need to avoid that.  I feel like being aware that this may happen and understanding the longer term goals I have whilst keeping myself accountable will hopefully help to keep it going this time!

 

Social - Football committee meetings are about as fun as they sound.  But they are really important to try and ensure the club goes in the right direction, ensuring the future of the club for years to come.  It's nice to get out the house in the evening and to contribute to something that plays a big part in our local community.

 

Work - Continues to improve, yesterdays meeting was a very productive one!

 

 

 

 

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17 hours ago, Quirky Quinn said:

I am really feeling the benefit at the moment of some good progress over the last month or so, as I've stated elsewhere the key will be continuing past that feeling of elation into a routine.  In the past I've settled back into an unhealthly routine after a striong period.  I need to avoid that.  I feel like being aware that this may happen and understanding the longer term goals I have whilst keeping myself accountable will hopefully help to keep it going this time!


Nerdfitness has really helped me with this element. If nothing else, I can look back on a year's worth of challenges, see what I was dealing with a year ago, and see what positive changes stuck and which ones I tried again and again with no success. Some of them are highly slippery. Plus there's always a new challenge to help one reflect and regroup. You can't go six months without even noticing that you did no exercise :D

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Training last night!

 

It was fun to get back on the pitch and play after missing the weekend.  I felt good and had an alright training session, fitness work I was pleased with.  Some of the technical stuff was a bit 6/10.  I listen, now and again, to a Podcast by a sports physchologist called Dan Abrahams which I would definately recommend to anyone playing sports.  A lot of the ideas he shares are more about focusing on your own performance and being accountable to yourself rather than letting the external factors around you influence your play.  I find this a really useful idea and it allows me to forgive myself for an error or drop in performance as long as I pick myself up the next time and go at 100% effort & focus. 

 

Everybody has 6/10's, hell, everybody has 2/10's!  It's about being able to put those behind you and focus on the next time.

 

Diet was on track again yesterday.  Social was good, chatting with the guys at football about the weekend and results etc.  Work is good too.

 

I am starting to feel a little anxiety around the coming weekend.  As my parents have agreed to have our Daughter this weekend My Wife & I had planned to head out catch a movie and get some dinner.  But because it's quite rare that we have a Saturday free we've decided it would be nice to head out with some friends instead.  I'm looking forward to seeing our friends and spending some time childfree.  However the night will involve heading out to a few bars and having drinks and stuff. 

 

I haven't drunk alcohol since August. 

 

I have felt really good since abstaining from Alcohol.  More productive, happier, more active.  Not that I ever drink often but I do drink lots when I'm out.

 

The way I see it I have three options

1.  Don't drink at all.  This will lead to questions and comments, I'm sure well meaning ones but I don't particularly have to spend all night justifying myself to everyone.  

2.  Drink normally, go out, have a good time, drink as I would've done in the past, overinduldge, take a few days to recover and try to get over it as soon as possible.

3.  Have a couple of drinks and try to relax but don't go overboard.  This option has in the past invariably become option 2 despite best intentions.

 

I'm not sure what I'll do yet and I'm not sure what the best option is for future, I've considered completely giving up but I don't want to put a label on it.  If I went out this weekend and said "I've stopped drinking" the questions if I decided to in the future would come and again I don't fancy justifying my decisions everytime I go out!  Why put that extra pressure on?

 

Anyway, today will be another good day!

 

 

 

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