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ElizeElvinFoxRyder - Full Circle in five years

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This is the nostalgia challenge... I honestly thought it's been a lot more years than the threads make it out to be. I joined NF in January 2015, as a Recruit (obviously), then February 2015 I went over to the Assassins, and October 2015 joined the Rangers.

I made friends in Recruit and Assassins which I'm still friends with today! (or they are still friends with me, good, patient people they are ;) ). Along this epic 5 year journey I was blessed with many more friends, all of whom had a profound influence in my life. Thank you for making my life, my world, a better place! :love_heart:

 

I started off as an Amazon-Mom, wanting to loose weight and get fit and strong to enjoy life with my boys (then 5and 8yrs old respectively), and I'm back at wanting to loose weight, but still enjoying life with my husband and boys (now 10 and 13 years respectively). I am back at being mostly unfit and not as strong as I was, but I am much more fit and strong than I was then. This level of 'unfit' or 'not strong' is miles above 'that then there level, you see'.

 

Then I didn't know that I had very limited boundaries, some would say I was an open target. Over the years NF has meant more to me, has taught me more than just health and fitness. I think I'll take a chance and say that it has matured me some, definitely taught me safe, healthy boundaries, and has healed my spirit. I might take the odd challenge off, but there is no way I can live without NF in my life. And NF is synonymous with the people. It's the people that make it special.

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This is the one woman that I came back to, time and again. I've been adventurers in Lord of the Rings, in Hobbits, I've been Na'avi, I've been human, and I became a non-hero Elf-ranger, having to save humanity against grime, crime and crazy monkeys.

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I've ridden dinosaurs, brooms, foxes, gryphens (ok, it was a hippogriff)...

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You've inspired me to draw, to write, to try anything...

...and your encouragement is pushing me on to keep going, keep trying.

 

Thank you lovely people of Nerd Fitness.

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Running with Dinosaurs

For now I'll continue to ride my fox, running with dinosaurs. I don't have specific aims/goals in mind, in the sense of reach this weight by then, just a general, get this done, focus on this, mindset.

The Challenge:

🦖LIFE:

  • Immigration: We are planning to immigrate from South Africa to New Zealand. I spent most of 2019 getting 'document ready', otherwise known as 'visa ready'. My husband is now applying for positions, and we are praying for an offer to enable us to move. This is more an update of the process than really anything I can do, for now. If there is anything immigration specific, admin, documents, the like, I'll also update it here. It is said that immigration is one of the most stressful situations you can be in. I now understand what they mean, and we haven't even moved yet.
  • Sleep: Let's keep it at 22h00. That is the most sensible at the moment.
  • Weight: I weigh and take measurements every Monday. So far I've lost +-10kg since beginning of November 2019 (December was stagnant). I mostly focus on portion control, try to keep gluten to a minimum, but I bring in starches every now and again. If I crave something sweet, then I'll have something sweet, but a small portion. Also focus on not eating my emotions.
  • Other: In preparing to immigrate, there are certain things that will have to be done, like maintenance to our house, organising boxes of photos, washing all the curtains, etc. I'll mention them here.

🦖EXERCISE: Scheduled for Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Saturdays, but any day will work as long as I do it at least twice, preferably three times a week.

  • 10x Pushup jacks (half on knees)
  • 20x Band rows only (helps with my shoulder)
  • 10x Abs roll out
  • 10x Lunges
  • Mow the lawn - this only happens between Friday and Sunday (inclusive), and depends on weather conditions.

🦖Dear Diary: (mostly spoilered due to length of summary of what I've read)

 

The boys and I are leaving to visit my m.i.l. tomorrow (Thursday) morning. It is a 10 hour drive, and I'm a bit apprehensive about the drive, safety, and the situation at her home. We are returning home, at the latest, on Friday 21 Feb. Earlier if I can, to be honest.

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1 hour ago, Chris-Tien Jinn said:

Praying for a safe drive and uneventful visit!!!

It's always great to have you here.

50 minutes ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

Following along. Praying for you while you are up there.

*hugs* Thanks Tank. Thanks for always having my back.

 

Me and nostalgia doesn't agree. It makes me cry. Thanks guys for the wishes on the trip.

 

I'm sorting out last stuff tonight. Have to write up Brandt's "housewife's lists" - reminder on how to operate the machines (dishwasher, washing, and tumble dryer). Write up the feeding schedule for the pets; how to handle Eric's food, money, etc., and when he comes in to work in the garden, where I've put what food containers in the freezer for him... In case you are wondering, he asked me to do that. And he is home early from work. We have a bit more time to spend together tonight.

 

Back to NF: I have only subscribed to a handful of people. I'm hoping to have proper internet at m.i.l.'s place, but if I don't, I don't want my email to blow up while I'm away.

 

Love you guys a lot.

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is always so cool to look back and when you have tried as consistently as you and I have there's seems like a lot of accomplishments.

 

you'll be on the road and coming back to a lot of messages, so I'll keep mine short.

 

I wish you as good of the journey and that you can do this challenge with passion and ofc with creativity.

Having chased off a lot of monsters with your dinosaurs last challenge, I think you'll have your chance to epic adventures and deeds this challenge.

 

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I'm glad we are friends. You always have encouraging things to say, and your persistence in spite of difficulties inspires me. Praying for your trip

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On 2/12/2020 at 4:26 PM, TGP said:

is always so cool to look back and when you have tried as consistently as you and I have there's seems like a lot of accomplishments.

 

you'll be on the road and coming back to a lot of messages, so I'll keep mine short.

 

I wish you as good of the journey and that you can do this challenge with passion and ofc with creativity.

Having chased off a lot of monsters with your dinosaurs last challenge, I think you'll have your chance to epic adventures and deeds this challenge.

 

following.

Drove 675km yesterday - 9 hours. We stopped a couple times to stretch our legs, buy extra water and cooldrink (because it was hot and aircon - again! - not working), and then just drove on.  Thanks for the beautiful words. We both can face whatever adventures and challenges come at us this coming challenge time.

On 2/12/2020 at 9:57 PM, PrincessMononoke said:

Hey friend!! YAY WONDER WOMAN!!
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Hi there! So nice to see you here!

On 2/13/2020 at 6:13 AM, Rurik Harrgath said:

Thank you for giving me an excuse to share Brooke Ence as an Amazon.

My pleasure. Great to see you around Rurik. LOL, I have to pop in on your challenge. I remember when I started off in Rangers, and you were writing stories. You actually inspired me to do my first pencil drawing. And Tank encouraged me to show it to NF friends.

On 2/13/2020 at 6:31 AM, Elastigirl said:

I'm glad we are friends. You always have encouraging things to say, and your persistence in spite of difficulties inspires me. Praying for your trip

Thanks E.G. Drove safely yesterday. Left Pietermaritzburg at 8am, and arrived in Sabie just before 5pm. Dropped m.i.l. off at the hospital in Nelspruit this morning (1hr drive away). Will fetch her around 13h00 if all works out.

 

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I prayed for maturity, guards before our mouths, and for me to understand her. This morning she was just an anxious, 75yr old lady who was unsure, and even though she said it was unnecessary, the boys and I stayed with her at the hospital until she was admitted and shown to her room. It is a quick operation to the palm of her hand, and the doctor hopes that she'll start regaining feeling in her fingers by tonight, or at least this weekend. There was a short bit there when the old mother-daughter-friends feeling came back when I had to explain to the hospital admin lady who I was. M.i.l. explained to her that I drove 9hrs to come up and help her after the operation.

 

Brandt sent me a Valentine's message this morning! I phoned him to update him on his mom, we chatted a bit, and rang off. Really not much else. I'm very tired today. Didn't sleep too well, due to night time disturbances, not being in my own home, etc. I'm going to try and get an hour's snooze in before having to fetch m.i.l. at the hospital this afternoon.

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20 hours ago, ElizeElvinFoxRyder said:

My pleasure. Great to see you around Rurik. LOL, I have to pop in on your challenge. I remember when I started off in Rangers, and you were writing stories. You actually inspired me to do my first pencil drawing. And Tank encouraged me to show it to NF friends.

 

Great to be hear, and happy to be of inspiration.  Honestly I do it solely to satisfy a muse, but inspiring others to chase their artistic passions is just... magnificent.  B)

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Thanks, Darlin' @annyshay - Hope you had a great birthday couple days back. ;)

 

5 hours ago, Rurik Harrgath said:

 

Great to be hear, and happy to be of inspiration.  Honestly I do it solely to satisfy a muse, but inspiring others to chase their artistic passions is just... magnificent.  B)

I think everyone who took part in your stories, etc. had great fun.

 

 

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Took m.i.l. to hospital yesterday morning - 120km one way. Drove back home, and left the boys at home with Julius (trusted person) when I had to fetch m.i.l. again just after lunch time. So all travel time together, on Friday was half that on Thursday - 480km, around 4.5hrs driving again. So in total, in two days I've driven over 1000km (621miles). I'm tired of driving and sitting in the car. *moan start* My back hurts, my butt hurts, my shoulder hurts then went all stiff and burny...*end of moan*

 

Had a good night's sleep though. Only woke up once due to unknown noises. Checked people taking shortcut through the grassland (veld) next to her property. They had a torch (flashlight), so we knew they didn't have nefarious intentions. She also belongs to a community security group, and because her property is at the end of this road, and surrounded by veld, they check on her every night.

 

Otherwise I'm helping her to dress, cook, clean, do whatever is necessary around the house. The boys and I helped her clean her ringneck parrot cages this morning. The one can talk and is so happy to have people talking and entertaining him again. He makes these funny kissing sounds, whistles at us, and says "hello birdy" (just in Afrikaans) every now and again. We are teaching him to say "pretty bird" and "head scratches" too. M.i.l.s hand is already much better. She already has feeling back in her fingers which were numb the last couple weeks. Of course we also have load shedding (rolling blackouts), just had another two hour session.

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13 hours ago, lucky fire dragon said:

glad to still find you here and rocking amazingly as ever 😍

☺️ Thanks. So glad to see you here! I was actually thinking of you just yesterday. I wanted to post a link with your name to see if you are still around. *hugs*

 

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Looks like the guards in front of our mouths-prayer is working. So far so good. We've had a lot of talks, but nothing truly personal, nothing sensitive, nothing nasty from her. We actually had a lot of good laughs, yesterday and today. It is almost like when I lodged with her before Brandt and I got married and we were good friends first, before I became the daughter-in-law. Curious.

 

I'm not really keeping to my NF schedule so I'm officially saying that I'll follow that once I'm back home. It's a bit difficult to set up any kind of routine here, at the moment.

 

The Challenge: Week 0 (?) Saturday

🦖LIFE:

  • Immigration: Some emails came through. Brandt and I discussed little things via telephone, but it is difficult/sensitive. I don't want to talk too loud/much because m.i.l. will be upset about it. The one time that the boys mentioned it, she totally closed up and turned away, like last time.
  • Sleep: Late Saturday - watched End Game on m.i.l.'s movie channel.
  • Weight: Monday (tomorrow)
  • Other: What I'm doing here at m.i.l.'s: a bit of everything! M.i.l. can do a lot with her hand bandaged up as it is, but I take the heavy stuff, or things that you need two hands to carry. Also did some finance data capture work for her, as she can't lift and page over slips and printouts.

🦖EXERCISE:

  • Carry a couple 10kg bags of bird seed from the car to the stoep (+-100m).
  • Someone bought m.i.l.'s old tumble dryer and the man and I had to carry it out of the house to his car. It wasn't heavy, but took some maneuvering around corners and through tight door spaces.

🦖Dear Diary:

  • Don't have much time to read, to be honest.

We had three 2hour sessions of blackouts today, that is why I'm trying to catch up by reading and typing late at night (it's around 23:34 now). There are some serious crime sprees going on around here. Armed house robberies. Last night a man about 5km from here was shot in the arm trying to defend himself (and his family) from a bunch of armed robbers who broke into their house.

 

We took the boys to a friend of m.i.l.'s house to have a swim in her plunge pool, this afternoon. Came back home to more black outs, luckily after we had dinner done and ready.

Tomorrow morning I'm driving m.i.l. through to the avian veterinarian in the neighbouring town. I've convinced her to have the bird looked after because something is not right. That is one problem with living in a small town like this, you have to travel if you want to see specialised professionals.

 

Things seem to be going well at home. Brandt has even been feeding Breeze, our bearded dragon, her worms! He's put her in her outside cage and everything! He asked about buying groceries today, as well as contact details for the vet to buy dog and cat food.

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I'm glad things are going well so far - you are a good person and I'm sure she's so grateful for the help. 

 

Take care, my friend! I hope the rest of your stay is as uneventful!

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On 2/16/2020 at 3:50 PM, ElizeElvinFoxRyder said:

It is almost like when I lodged with her before Brandt and I got married and we were good friends first, before I became the daughter-in-law. Curious.

 

Being in-laws is always different and a challenge.  I keep reminding myself to try to understand my son-in-law and the rules he sets.  After you move, will anyone be around to help your mil??

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On 2/17/2020 at 1:13 PM, annyshay said:

Glad to hear things are going well in Sabie and home. Blackouts like that must be so frustrating!

We are having a lot of blackouts here in Sabie. And they don't have a schedule so it hits unexpectedly. The municipality had two longs ones (2.5hrs min.) yesterday, and another two of at least that long supposedly planned for today. We are getting by, but it is frustrating.

On 2/17/2020 at 2:06 PM, The Hero of Time said:

Wow that's a lot of driving. I don't envy you.

 

Here's hoping that things remain friendly at MIL's.

Another trip to the neighbouring town coming up this coming Monday, to take the bird back to the vet for second check up, and to have m.i.l.'s stitches removed. And every other day I drive her to town to get financial papers from the people she does bookkeeping for. The long drives are a bit hard, but the short ones are like driving the boys to extra-murals. I'm used to those.

On 2/18/2020 at 5:40 AM, Fonzico said:

I'm glad things are going well so far - you are a good person and I'm sure she's so grateful for the help. 

 

Take care, my friend! I hope the rest of your stay is as uneventful!

Thanks, I'm trying. She definitely is grateful, and I've realised that she was very unsure and I think a bit scared of the whole situation with the op and what she could, or couldn't do. She needed someone to lean on, and that is what I'm trying to give her. She is already getting her old spunk back, and doing a lot of things for herself, but... we'll see what the dr. says on Monday.

6 hours ago, Chris-Tien Jinn said:

 

Being in-laws is always different and a challenge.  I keep reminding myself to try to understand my son-in-law and the rules he sets.  After you move, will anyone be around to help your mil??

She actually has a lot of friends of various ages in town who came by or phoned who have offered to help, drive her around, etc. but I've realised again that she is in that regard, very much like Brandt. Won't accept help from outside unless absolutely necessary. We don't live close enough to help her with everyday things anyway, and for that she has her trusty gardener who comes in every day of the week, and she has the cleaning lady who comes in twice a week. There is another lady on the property who rents a flat from her, who is also available to help, and has offered, and as I mentioned a lot of friends. A lot of her other friends (aged 75+) has actually sold up and moved to a retirement home in Nelspruit, the closest city. I think she is contemplating that as well, as she's mentioned it.

 

What was sort of funny to me, but made m.i.l. blush, was two of her friends who outright said even though m.i.l. is a difficult person, and talks straight, to the point that it hurts at times, they love her and would help if she asked. I knew exactly what they meant. I realised that in my growing, building up my boundaries, I might have become a tad too defensive, taking things maybe a bit too personal. She made some comments yesterday with regards to us being too negative and that's why we want to immigrate. She has made comments about Rocco's eating habits, but I took a deep breath. With regards to the first topic, I didn't answer, I ignored the comments. With regards to the second, I tried to softly point out that she was the one pushing sweets and all kinds of treats at them, throughout the day, and then complaining that they don't want to eat their food, because they are eating in between. I told her that I know he has an eating problem, but I'm trying to handle it by being strict, talking to him about it, and trying to stay on a schedule. I allowed the treats the first couple days because she insisted she wanted to treat them, and they were visiting with her, their granny, and they don't see her often, only saying not to have too much sweet stuff. But it can't continue on like that for two weeks, so I need her help, her to be strict too, to help them. And she agreed, and all of a sudden she also set rules and that was that. These last two days (I think) we had no problem. (The days are a bit of a blur, one moving fast into another).

 

With regards to her comments about us immigrating: At least this time she said "Brandt and you" and didn't point 'blame' just at me. That very evening we watched some recorded TV political short broadcasts (her TV is on a separate battery) while loadshedding was on, where a lot of the experts mentioned that if you were a white male, and had the opportunity to emigrate out of South Africa, you should take it, because nothing that the president said, or did (especially after his parliamentary speech last week) is pointing at changing anything to equalise the racial division he has started up again (continually). I could see that she wasn't happy to hear that. I was shocked that it was being said on national television; well one of the pay-for-channels of satelite TV available here in South Africa.

 

I had to clear up some financial expenses with her (she does our bookkeeping), which were big payments for emigration related things, and she clearly closed up, pinched face. So I'm definitely not talking about that, and I'm not going to discuss it without Brandt close by.

 

Otherwise things have been quite calm. I'm praying every day for guards in front of our mouths, and for me to understand and know what to say, or not say, or how to act.

 

I'm missing Brandt like crazy. We either talk or message each other a couple times through the day. I'm rather busy with the boys' school work, and then looking after everything in the house. At least I don't have to clean it (general cleaning), but I do a lot of cleaning and related stuff for the birds, giving the one ringneck his medicine twice a day as well, helping with almost everything else in the house. I'm genuinely tired every night when going to bed. At least I'm sleeping well too.

 

At the moment the plan is to take m.i.l. to see the dr. on Monday, when her stitches will be removed. If everything checks out, and she can continue her things, we'll be driving back to Pmb on Wednesday, latest Thursday morning.

 

Chances are we'll have a blackout again in 30min. time (11h00-13h30), and then again from 17h00-ish? Last night also had one during the night, around midnight till 2am. She has spray lights (those big bright lights) outside all around her house at night. I woke up when they went out.

 

Between this ^^^ and when we do have electricity, looking things (jobs, info) up for Brandt, I'm a bit short on time on the computer. I'll check up on your threads when I can manage it.

Hope you have a good weekend.

Chat again later.

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so good to see you rocking as always and peaceful times with relations are always such a blessing. With close family, in-laws or home family it's very easy to take things personally - how helpful to hear your mil's friends describe her like that :D and them loving her dearly.

 

Hope the blackouts are manageable and you get enough rest. My hubby says btw that he was invited to a Facebook group called "I'm staying" or something along those lines - he isn't living in South Africa even but here in Germany with me, but got invited anyway and he says they share all kinds of positive news that keep the spirits up. Even after immigration it could be an emotional boost for your family and you - just wanted to let you know.

Have a good weekend, too, Amazon Elize! 

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10 hours ago, ElizeElvinFoxRyder said:

if you were a white male, and had the opportunity to emigrate out of South Africa, you should take it,

 

Honestly, from your stories, I can't imagine anyone wanting to stay.  Blackouts and crime .... ugh.  You are amazingly strong to raise a family there.  But I'll be glad when you're somewhere safer!!

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On 2/21/2020 at 8:34 AM, ElizeElvinFoxRyder said:

What was sort of funny to me, but made m.i.l. blush, was two of her friends who outright said even though m.i.l. is a difficult person, and talks straight, to the point that it hurts at times, they love her and would help if she asked. I knew exactly what they meant. I realised that in my growing, building up my boundaries, I might have become a tad too defensive, taking things maybe a bit too personal.

 

If you've got to the stage of making finer adjustments to how you react, that's probably a good indication of just how far you've come. Perhaps those comments from her friends may make your MIL think.

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Sounds like your prayers for a guard around your mouth and wisdom about speaking are working very well!  That is very kind of you to be there and help your m. I. l. When do you head home?

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Hi guys,

Thanks for the support while I was away. I really appreciate it.

Last Saturday there was a HUGE storm in Sabie and m.i.l.'s landline was hit, thus no telephone or adsl (internet) service. She had some more things blown by the storm and the many blackouts. We came home today (Wednesday). Traveling was uneventful, and we missed a riot in one town with (I think) less than an hour. Brandt tried frantically to phone me when one of his colleagues got a message that there were rioting going on in the one town we were going to drive through. Luckily I stopped on the outskirts of said town to buy cooldrinks and water (another scorching day), got his messages, phoned, and could take evasive action. But the police had already been dispersing people trying to get together and riot from early that morning, and the last was apparently about an hour before we drove into town, so the street I drove down had a couple police vans with flashing lights patrolling up and down, but nothing else.

 

We are very glad to be home, and I missed Brandt terribly. The last couple days were really hard away from him, and my home. The dogs went crazy when we got home. Stampy Cat isn't leaving me alone. I've made our bed up with clean linen, unpacked, and we are eating whatever is here. I had a HUGE mug of coffee as well (Brandt made it). I'll use the next two days to clean the house. Another good outcome: Brandt will never ask me again what I do to keep busy (ok, he won't ask again soon). He saw the results of me not being here for himself these past two weeks :D :(

 

It's good to be home.

I'll reply to your questions/answers soon, just not tonight.

Love you lots.

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