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Hey folks, I've got some feels I want to share.

 

My hometown is a war zone right now. Here is what I hear from my friends, not from the media.

 

The murder of George Floyd happened in my old neighborhood. Just 8 blocks from my house. A block from the funky new yarn store that is a social spot for the fiber arts community.

 

That is one more black mark on the already hideous record of the Minneapolis police. People are upset and protesting. That has been happening mostly peacefully around the government center downtown.

 

The rioting is a whole different thing. I don't know if protesters were involved in the burning of the third precinct police station a couple days ago. I do know that the vandalism and looting of other buildings in the area was led by white men who are not local. Certainly not local to the neighborhood. One caught on video might be an agent provocateur from another police jurisdiction.

 

Last night a science fiction/mystery bookstore was burned to the ground. My friend and former roommate works worked there. The owner posted that rioters broke the front windows and sprayed accelerant on the books before lighting it on fire. This was planned, not just some random thugs taking advantage of the chaos. He said there were no police or National Guard troops to be found, even though most of the buildings along that commercial area were on fire.

 

This morning the mayor of St. Paul said that all the people who were arrested for rioting last night were from out of town. The far right is taking advantage of a racist act by the police to cause massive destruction to homes and small businesses. Another friend and her family were working on putting out fires on her block last night so their house wouldn't burn down.

 

Yesterday local people went to the area of the Thursday night riots with brooms and trash bags to clean up. They left bag of groceries on the steps of a church for people who can't get food because all the groceries are closed. The community is together to support each other. People are scared and furious. Furious at the police, furious at the rioters.

 

Here is what a friend just posted on FB. He said it was okay to share.

 

This afternoon, I was going around trying to help with the cleanup, and deliver supplies where they might do some good, when I hit a place of mental and physical exhaustion. I found a place to sit down, and just let my mind race where it needed to.
I was startled out of my chaotic thoughts by a community elder who had walked over to ask if I was ok. I started to tell her that I was, when I realized I was crying...and I just broke down. She stood there, radiating calm as I ranted about how we'd tried so hard, for so long to protest peacefully, and to get the community to wake up and do something about the murderous thugs in uniform, and how all we got out of it was bitching and complaining about blocking traffic, or for making it hard for people to do their Christmas shopping. How those very same people who dismissed the whole thing, were now desperately trying to change the narrative, as if property destruction was somehow more important than human lives...and, and, and...
When I'd finally wound down, she put her hand on my shoulder, and said something I will never forget. "Oh sweet one, no wonder you're in so much pain! You've taken the weight of the whole world on shoulders...no one can handle a load like that! You've seen the pain, and tried to help stop it. You've identified the problem, and tried to address it. You've been beaten down by how few people can even see the problem...but you're still here trying to help. That's all any of us can do. Just keep helping, keep trying, and don't take on the weight for the evil that others do."
And then she hugged me while I cried some more and thanked her.
Take her as your example, and don't allow this insane situation make you lose hope, or to let it make you feel useless. Find the next constructive thing that you are capable of, and move on to that. Together, we can make it through this.
 
I look out at the sun on the grass in my quiet cul-de-sac and feel like it is a sham. All the comforts of civilized life are fragile. They depend on people working together and sharing values. If too many people opt out of that compact, they fall apart. The problem is not the working people opting out, it is the rich who think they can milk the system. Look at Flint Michigan, without drinkable water. Look at Amazon, not taking care of their employees as they profit from everyone needing essentials delivered.
 
Protesting is important, but it is not where lasting change happens. We need to hold our political leaders accountable. Under normal circumstances I would drive to the Twin Cities, stay with friends and help. With COVID-19, that is a bad idea. What I am going to do is write to my major and city council and ask what has happened to deal with police violence here. Like Minneapolis, we had non-violent protests about police killing a black man a couple years ago. I don't want our next stage to look like what is happening in my hometown. 😰
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Peace Mistr. I was just at Uncle Hugo’s and it’s just gone. It’s not just stuff, it doesn’t matter if it insured. Our whole community is diminished by its absence.

Right now there is an army of people with brooms and dustpans. That’s who the community is, not the rioters.

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55 minutes ago, Sloth the Enduring said:

Right now there is an army of people with brooms and dustpans. That’s who the community is, not the rioters.

 

I hope your community can heal from this, no matter how long that takes.

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4 hours ago, Mistr said:

The rioting is a whole different thing. I don't know if protesters were involved in the burning of the third precinct police station a couple days ago. I do know that the vandalism and looting of other buildings in the area was led by white men who are not local. Certainly not local to the neighborhood. One caught on video might be an agent provocateur from another police jurisdiction.

 

Last night a science fiction/mystery bookstore was burned to the ground. My friend and former roommate works worked there. The owner posted that rioters broke the front windows and sprayed accelerant on the books before lighting it on fire. This was planned, not just some random thugs taking advantage of the chaos. He said there were no police or National Guard troops to be found, even though most of the buildings along that commercial area were on fire.

 

I can't believe the cynicism of these people, sneaking in and committing crimes that they perhaps hope will be pinned on protesters. Are they hoping to discredit the protesters in order to change the narrative from getting justice and reforming the police force to some sort of 'look, bad people on both sides!' story ?

Anyway, I'm glad you and sloth and others are sharing these insights. The picture I get might be different if I just had to rely on official news sources.

 

4 hours ago, Mistr said:

I look out at the sun on the grass in my quiet cul-de-sac and feel like it is a sham. All the comforts of civilized life are fragile. They depend on people working together and sharing values. If too many people opt out of that compact, they fall apart. The problem is not the working people opting out, it is the rich who think they can milk the system. Look at Flint Michigan, without drinkable water. Look at Amazon, not taking care of their employees as they profit from everyone needing essentials delivered.

 
Protesting is important, but it is not where lasting change happens. We need to hold our political leaders accountable. Under normal circumstances I would drive to the Twin Cities, stay with friends and help. With COVID-19, that is a bad idea. What I am going to do is write to my major and city council and ask what has happened to deal with police violence here. Like Minneapolis, we had non-violent protests about police killing a black man a couple years ago. I don't want our next stage to look like what is happening in my hometown. 😰

 

Thanks for sharing these thoughts. I appreciate them. And I appreciate reading about how other people are exercising political influence, even if we don't have as much power as the rich people/corporations you mentioned. 

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Just now, Harriet said:

I can't believe the cynicism of these people, sneaking in and committing crimes that they perhaps hope will be pinned on protesters. Are they hoping to discredit the protesters in order to change the narrative from getting justice and reforming the police force to some sort of 'look, bad people on both sides!' story ?

 

Most likely, yes. If they can prove that there are bad people on both sides, that makes their side look a lot less bad, which seems to be the goal for a lot of them.

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Aside from eating too much ice cream, I was highly virtuous this weekend.

  • The vegetable garden is DONE. Tomatos transplanted and supported by cages, basil, cilantro, salad mix, beans and marigold seeds planted. I know it is late. It was still May, it counts.
  • Dumbledore and I cleaned out the chest freezer. It is defrosted, clean, inventoried and organized. Go us.
  • I got all my tax info together and made an appointment with our tax accountant. I know this should have been done months ago. It counts.
  • I went to the store and got a new electric sander when my old one exploded as Elf was sanding the deck stairs. I handed it to Elf and told them they could read the instructions and figure it out. It works fine. Yay for adulting all around.
  • I finished plying the dyed silk. Pictures to come later.
  • I cooked spinach/mushroom quiche and made green beans with almonds. Elf grilled chicken. We have food.
  • Friday night I did the grocery shopping instead of having an evening off. I used to shop on Fridays after aikido. Turns out that Friday is still a good time to shop. There were piles of boxes ready to be stocked in the aisles, but very few people. Good choice.
  • I tied up the raspberries. This lets people mow and will make harvesting them much easier. I also beat back some of the branches that attack unwary mowers.
  • I finished writing the training schedule for our new person and got it to my boss. Talk about 11th hour, but it counts.

There was no goofing off, no zen and no exercise. Dumbledore and I did go for a long walk to talk about the events in the Twin Cities and destress. Trees and water helped a LOT. I had a long talk with my mom. Her view of the protests watching TV from a suburban retirement community are different than what I'm hearing from friends in the city. I'm not surprised, but not happy about it either. On the plus side, my aunt is doing better and my uncle brought her over to visit my mom. My aunt was really sick in the hospital a few weeks ago and mom was worried she'd never get to see her again. The doctors still don't know what happened to her. It sounds kinda like a stroke. No one is making any long term plans, but at least the short term news is good.

 

Now I'm off to mow the lawn while Elf stains the deck. Dumbledore already did a big section of it. The joys of homeownership in summer.

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22 hours ago, Scalyfreak said:

Do you have a recipe for the green beans with almonds?

 

It's more of a method than a recipe.

 

Prep:

  • toast the almonds. You can use slivered or sliced, either are good. Keep an eye on them, they go from toasted to burnt quickly. Set aside.
  • Slice an onion into long strips. Like you are going to make dice, but skip the last step
  • Wash the beans and trim the ends and icky bits. I usually cut them in half, so the pieces are about 2 inches long.

Cooking:

  • In a large frying pan or Dutch oven, brown the onions in oil. Olive oil is good. Cooking them slowly allows them to caramelize more and have better flavor.
  • Add the green beans. Turn down the heat to low if it was higher.
  • Sprinkle with salt. If you are feeling fancy you can add thyme and oregano. Stir and cover the pan.
  • Check every now and then to make sure that there is enough moisture and nothing is sticking. Add more water if the beans are not tender and the pan is too dry.
  • Once the beans are nearly done, remove the lid. Add a lump of butter. Stir and let cook until done.
  • Add the almonds and mix.

Everyone in my family likes these. Including Elf, and they don't like onions.

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1 hour ago, Mistr said:

It's more of a method than a recipe.

 

 

All the best recipes are ;) 

 

Thank for sharing this one! I will save it for when I have access to fresh green beans again.

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I am proud of Elf. They got up early (before noon) twice this week to go to medical appointments. Plus they have taken on the deck project and it is looking really good. I was afraid we would have to replace the stairs they were so bad. Elf got them cleaned and sanded down to new-looking wood. Now freshly-stained wood.

 

Today's appointment was for an eye exam. That means my errand for tonight is to go with Elf to buy glasses. Elf just needs me along to pay for them. Hmmm, that said, I could just give Elf money and send them off. Options, options.

 

After we got home I realized I needed to make fruit salsa and guacamole because the produce I bought on Friday was rapidly heading past its prime. Elf did dishes while I chopped things. They could tell I was running out of steam and asked what they could do to make my evening better. I asked them to pack up the soup stock from the crock pot. My original plan had been to finish making soup tonight. I have the best kid ever.

 

As it turns out, it was a good thing I went along on the glasses expedition. Elf has a unusual prescription for a young person and their lenses were more expensive than they expected. Not bad in the general scheme of glasses, but not $95 glasses either.

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On 6/1/2020 at 6:32 PM, Mistr said:

when my old one exploded as Elf was sanding the deck stairs

I'm proud of Elf, not sure I would have touched a sander if one exploded on me...

 

17 hours ago, Mistr said:

I am proud of Elf. They got up early (before noon) twice this week to go to medical appointments. Plus they have taken on the deck project and it is looking really good. I was afraid we would have to replace the stairs they were so bad. Elf got them cleaned and sanded down to new-looking wood. Now freshly-stained wood.

 

Today's appointment was for an eye exam. That means my errand for tonight is to go with Elf to buy glasses. Elf just needs me along to pay for them. Hmmm, that said, I could just give Elf money and send them off. Options, options.

 

After we got home I realized I needed to make fruit salsa and guacamole because the produce I bought on Friday was rapidly heading past its prime. Elf did dishes while I chopped things. They could tell I was running out of steam and asked what they could do to make my evening better. I asked them to pack up the soup stock from the crock pot. My original plan had been to finish making soup tonight. I have the best kid ever.

 

As it turns out, it was a good thing I went along on the glasses expedition. Elf has a unusual prescription for a young person and their lenses were more expensive than they expected. Not bad in the general scheme of glasses, but not $95 glasses either.

This all sounds so awesome, I loved that they asked how to make your evening better!

I have a kid (my middle one actually) who has a 'unusual' prescription for glasses as well, since he was 4...basically at the distance he could see clearly it's too far away to see clearly...that was always fun when he was younger :o 

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23 hours ago, RES said:

I have a kid (my middle one actually) who has a 'unusual' prescription for glasses as well, since he was 4...basically at the distance he could see clearly it's too far away to see clearly...that was always fun when he was younger :o 

 

Apparently Elf made the optometrist's day. When he finished the exam, he said "let me tell you some things about you: you trip going up stairs, you can't draw a straight line and you are lousy at catching balls, right?" All spot on.

 

I'm glad I got Elf to go to the optometrist this year. The optician at Costco did not identify their issues for their previous glasses.

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This is another example of the things that burn me about Elf's birth family. Growing up, Elf just thought they were clumsy and bad at drawing. No one ever suggested they might need glasses.

 

Elf didn't know that left-handed scissors existed until two weeks ago. I offered to help them open a package and they mentioned that scissors never work for them and hurt their hands. All through school, no one ever gave my left-handed kid a pair of scissors they could use. They just left Elf to struggle.

 

We bought them two good pairs of left-handed scissors.

 

On the challenge side of things, I've done zen three days in a row after skipping almost a week. Exercise is the next thing I need to figure out.

 

My main problem is time management. Nothing new there, but the constraints have changed a lot. After two months of no commuting time and no aikido time, I am just starting to feel like I am making headway on some projects. I don't feel like I've had extra spare time at all. I have made a point to take time to do fun things on a more regular basis, but that is not the same as feeling like I have free time.

 

You would think that having to get in my car, drive, find somewhere to park, walk to the gym, change clothes, work out and rewind to go back to work would make it harder to work out at lunch than being at home. Here I just have to walk down the hall to change clothes. My work computer set up is taking up a good chunk of the space I would normally use for exercise. That is annoying on its own, and I don't feel like I'm getting away from work.  Item shift up on the to-do list: Go through the boxes that are stacked in front of the bookshelf so I can move my computer table over and have more space.

 

Also on the to-do list: sort the pile of papers that has been on the couch for weeks. I moved them there from the floor. Now they are not in my peripheral vision to bug me while I'm working. They are behind me where I can't see them. The real answer is to deal with them. No one else is going to clean up my space but me.

 

So the question is what will make me happier: check off items on my to-do list or do fun things?

I seem to get this one wrong a lot. I think I will take turns between them this weekend and see how it goes.

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I threw up the horns because I think your compassion and understanding are metal.

 

Also glad to hear that Elf appears to have taken a turn for the better.

 

6 hours ago, Mistr said:

You would think that having to get in my car, drive, find somewhere to park, walk to the gym, change clothes, work out and rewind to go back to work would make it harder to work out at lunch than being at home. Here I just have to walk down the hall to change clothes. My work computer set up is taking up a good chunk of the space I would normally use for exercise. That is annoying on its own, and I don't feel like I'm getting away from work.  Item shift up on the to-do list: Go through the boxes that are stacked in front of the bookshelf so I can move my computer table over and have more space.

 

Actually, I think I get it. Having a clear space for each and every thing makes doing those things easier. But if you have a work space in a living space, those activities start to blend together and I would imagine it'd be pretty difficult to be peaceful with, especially given that you had a lot of pressure on in the first place to Do Things.

 

I hope you find your way to a restful place. You take care of yourself, now.

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10 hours ago, Kishi said:

Actually, I think I get it. Having a clear space for each and every thing makes doing those things easier. But if you have a work space in a living space, those activities start to blend together and I would imagine it'd be pretty difficult to be peaceful with, especially given that you had a lot of pressure on in the first place to Do Things.

 

This is actually A Thing.  A lot of people who work from home regularly say to have clearly delineated spaces for working and living, for the exact reason you mention.  Because when lines blur, it gets really fuzzy.  It's the exact reason why I just can't get into bodyweight workouts most of the time - I'd have to do them in my house, in no clear workout space, and my brain fries.  But get me to a gym and I'll workout just fine.

 

Anyway, just dropping to say hi instead of my usual stalking. >.> <.<

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5 hours ago, RisenPhoenix said:

It's the exact reason why I just can't get into bodyweight workouts most of the time - I'd have to do them in my house, in no clear workout space, and my brain fries.  But get me to a gym and I'll workout just fine.

 

I struggle to get my home workouts done for just this reason.

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I am so damn glad Elf has you in his life now (and I work with a bunch of lefties, amazing how many there are in MiLB)

I'm also struggling with workouts, probably need to go back to the gym instead of trying to do them at home (but getting to sleep is a plus of home workouts as well)

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I'm glad to see that we have another week to go on this challenge. I feel like I'm making progress, but need more time to get to my goals.

 

This weekend I made a long list of things that I could work on. I started off strong with cleaning both the upstairs and downstairs toilets. I also scrubbed the laundry room washtubs and the kitchen sink. I goofed off for a while in the afternoon on Saturday and felt guilty about it. Doing fun projects is different than goofing off. I got back to my list by balancing the checking accounts and updating the financial program with the last three years of mortgage data. I feel like I have a much better idea of where we are at financially. That makes it less scary, even though Dumbledore is now officially self-employed.

 

Sunday I spent most of the day working on the back porch. Elf finished the staining on Friday and it was dry enough to move furniture back on Sunday. Before we did that, I put up rope lights around the door and LED fairy lights around the top of the walls. I had to go to the hardware store to get wire carriers. I even remembered to get a couple other necessary items at the hardware store. That's better than the usual only thinking of things when I get home. I still have a list - that's okay. I've come to terms with always having a list. There will always be something else to get at the grocery store and the home improvement store.

 

Putting the lights up went smoothly. I had a step ladder and a drill and confidence that no one was going to criticize my decisions. When I got done, Elf helped me move furniture back. The porch looks great. It gives me a space where I can sit and be warm and listen to the birds when the A/C in the house is too much. I did yoga there on Monday morning. The newly stained floor is clean and I didn't have to worry about kicking anything. One big home project done!

 

Aside from that, I swept the kitchen and vacuumed the front entry. All good things to do, but not on the list I wrote on Friday. I think the take-home message is that I don't always anticipate the task to do next. I wrote down some of the things I did after the fact so that I could feel like I had been productive.

 

The other thing I realized is that work is not exercise. Walking really isn't exercise either, at least not at the pace Dumbledore sets. Good for me - yes. Exercise - no. I was awfully stiff and sore at the end of the weekend. The yoga I did on Monday was NF Star A, which I've done many times before. I could feel how out of shape I am. Today I did core yoga. That felt pretty good. Clearly I need cardio, mobility and strength training. I'll see if I can get myself to pick up kettlebells again. I may do yoga a couple more times first.

 

I skipped zen on Friday and Saturday but got back on track on Sunday. Monday I accidentally sat for 48 minute because my timer did not go off. Not so good for getting to work on time, but encouraging that I could sit that long and not be in pain. Today I stuck to my resolution and sat zen at lunchtime, after going for a walk with Dumbledore. We knew it was going to rain so we got our walk in early. :)

 

Tonight I will do cooking and fun stuff. I started making soup a week ago and would like to get it finished. It will be cool enough this week that soup for breakfast sounds good.

 

 

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3 minutes ago, Mistr said:

Putting the lights up went smoothly. I had a step ladder and a drill and confidence that no one was going to criticize my decisions. When I got done, Elf helped me move furniture back. The porch looks great. It gives me a space where I can sit and be warm and listen to the birds when the A/C in the house is too much. I did yoga there on Monday morning. The newly stained floor is clean and I didn't have to worry about kicking anything. One big home project done!

 

This sounds wonderful. I have mental images of relaxing with a glass of wine and a book on your porch now. :) 

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I did yoga last night after work (NF Star A) and this morning (core power wake-up).

 

Thanks to @Scalyfreak for the motivation. I strongly doubt that I would have done the session last night left to my own devices. I was glad I did it. I felt much more stable and stronger than when I did it Monday. I plan on doing the same session again on Friday to see if I notice any progression. The difficult move in the Star A session is Half Moon. At least at my level that is. The harder variation is Candycane, which I'm not trying yet. I assess my progress by how well I can keep my balance in Half Moon. If it feels pretty good tomorrow, I may do Star B next week. That one has the Crow progression as the challenging move.

 

On the alternate days I'm doing three different core yoga videos from Yoga with Adriene. They are about 20 minutes and a good core work out. I've been pretty consistent with these over the last few months.

 

My hips and knees are feeling better. I need to remind myself of that and keep up the yoga on the weekends.

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Yay, I helped! :)

 

My yoga is focused almost entirely on stretching, due to the issues created by the Anti-Ergonomic Desk Setup of Torture. The fact that issues that took less than a week to develop and a little less than two weeks to make it impossible for me to move without pain unless i limited myself to a fraction of my full range of motion are only halfway healed after a month of working on them is a stark reminder of the importance of taking good care of my body. Those two weeks of "nah, it will be fine, I think" are going to take at least a couple of months to recover from.

 

That will not stop me from checking out YwA's core videos. My core muscles are neglected and I might as well work on them while I recover. :) 

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