KB Girl - Story Time

[Renate]

4 hours ago, KB Girl said:

Or being happy with it, I tend to grumble in my head ‘should have gotten there ages ago’ or shit like that. 

 

I think the same thoughts. And the shitty voice tries to justify it with the fact we only have so many years on Earth so "taking so long" is wasting time. 

 

One of the most effective tools in my toolbox against that voice has been looking at what sort of (imo incompetent, badly mannered, egocentric) people are praised by many and also seem like they really feel good about themselves.

 

So I figure I should too, because I have more energy this way. And it's just UNACCEPTABLE to a stronger part of me than that voice, that I don't and they do.

[KB Girl]

3 hours ago, raptron said:

The masks are so cute! And helllll yes for your continued growth as an insightful, thoughtful, and caring coach who puts in a whole lot of work to continue to improve and help your athletes improve. ❤️ 

Thank you ❤️ 

 

2 hours ago, Aθena said:

 

I think the same thoughts. And the shitty voice tries to justify it with the fact we only have so many years on Earth so "taking so long" is wasting time. 

 

One of the most effective tools in my toolbox against that voice has been looking at what sort of (imo incompetent, badly mannered, egocentric) people are praised by many and also seem like they really feel good about themselves.

 

So I figure I should too, because I have more energy this way. And it's just UNACCEPTABLE to a stronger part of me than that voice, that I don't and they do.

Ah that has the opposite effect on me, that makes me doubt all praise... but I do 100% agree with the thought process that you should definitely feel good about you. 

[KB Girl]

Wednesday

Very little sleep again. Managed to get through the morning and then Jaap and Emma went gardening and I had a glorious 2 hour nap with the baby. Made me feel loads better. Did some laundry, tidied up lots of toy things and put away too small kids clothes, made dinner (mushroom soup and little goat cheese + fig tarts), helped put the kids in bed and then went to work. This used to be just couple hours of open gym for me so I could write programs and do my own training, but we added another ladies strength class. It was apparently a good idea because it was 100% filled (max 8). Also had two new ladies who signed up, which is good for the financial side of things. Didn't have much time for my own training though, only twenty minutes, but gotta make do. 

• (scaled) pushups 5x5
  I do these with my hands elevated on a bar in the squat rack (5.2), slowly getting back to the floor..
• step ups 5x3/3
  or maybe I should call 'em pistol progressions, it's just really controlled both ways, no momentum
• ring rows 3x5 
• paused goblet squats with 8kg 3x3
  3 sec pauses at 3 points up and down, dunno why I torture myself so, but it took less time than loading a bar 

I wasn't even going to update because it was quite late by the time I got back home.... but the baby was wide awake so I'm just sitting here with my laptop on her play mat. She's playing with her big sisters dinosaurs. Hopefully she'll get tired soon because I sure am. 

 

Story time

Bed time with the three year old was a struggle for a while. She would stall and be uncooperative. It wouldn't have been such an issue if we hadn't been really tired thanks to her new little sister and short on patience, but alas. We tried a natural consequence- if she didn't cooperate we would not have time to read a chapter from her book. This was very effective for about a week. Then she started pushing our buttons again and we would warn her and she'd do it again but quickly say sorry or 'one more chance please'! So we would go back to reading just 2 pages.. and one more warning or we'd only have time for one page.. 

This stopped when one evening she had been warned three time, she'd 'lost' even that last page and she started crying and begging. Jaap picked her up and hugged her and carried her to the bedroom. She asked again "will you read to me now?" and Jaap said no. Then she said "but I'm crying" - as if in her experience that meant she would get that story anyway. A big wake up call for us. 

We found our patience for bed time again. It helped to expect it to take more time than we would like. It helped to reframe it into a chance to spend one on one time with our eldest. It helped to talk about the day and what the next day would bring. When we found the patience to listen to that one thing she very urgently had to tell us instead of opening her mouth for tooth brushing - it actually ended up taking a lot less time and it is far more enjoyable for all involved. 

 

My best friend told me a similar story of her three year old who wanted to take a lego piece upstairs. My friend told her she wasn't allowed, but that cheeky little red head turned around on the stairs and said "well, if I whine long enough you will let me anyway". Oops

[Scaly Freak]

I honestly do not know how parents do it. You're super heroes.

[Tanktimus the Encourager]

32 minutes ago, Scaly Freak said:

I honestly do not know how parents do it. You're super heroes.

You Keep throwing spaghetti on the wall till something sticks.

[Stronkey Kong]

13 minutes ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

You Keep throwing spaghetti on the wall till something sticks.

 

Well that's one way to entertain the kids. 

[Scaly Freak]

43 minutes ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

You Keep throwing spaghetti on the wall till something sticks.

 

And that keeps you from exploding in frustration? Interesting, I would not have expected that.

[Tanktimus the Encourager]

59 minutes ago, Scaly Freak said:

 

And that keeps you from exploding in frustration? Interesting, I would not have expected that.

It's from an old urban legend that says to tell if spaghetti is done you take a strand out of the pot and throw it on the wall. If it sticks to the wall, it's done. (In fact, it may have been from Golden Girls, one of Sophia's stories from Sicily). Throwing spaghetti on the wall to see what sticks means you kind of make it up as you go along, and when you find something that works, you stick with it till it doesn't.

[Ann of Owlshire]

9 hours ago, KB Girl said:

My best friend told me a similar story of her three year old who wanted to take a lego piece upstairs. My friend told her she wasn't allowed, but that cheeky little red head turned around on the stairs and said "well, if I whine long enough you will let me anyway". Oops

 

Can totally commiserate on difficult bedtimes with our 2.5 year old.

 

We try to have some firm family boundaries, but otherwise pick our battles. Enting wanted to bring with 6 toy cars and 2 rubber boats with him to bed last night, and I couldn’t see any good reason why not, so I shrugged and helped him get his fleet to his room.

 

ETA: Of course, I know every family needs to have their own unique boundaries. 

[@mu]

Love the KB mask

And mhm what a bed time story! boundaries are a tough thing to manage at times.... adults included...

[Elastigirl]

Adventures in parenting, I love your stories!

[KB Girl]

20 hours ago, Scaly Freak said:

I honestly do not know how parents do it. You're super heroes.

It's not so different* from being a pet parent, sometimes you may want to strangle them, but they're cute and cuddly and loveable and mostly pleasant to be around. 

*just a tad more intense

 

20 hours ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

You Keep throwing spaghetti on the wall till something sticks.

Apt. 

 

15 hours ago, Ann of Vries said:

 

Can totally commiserate on difficult bedtimes with our 2.5 year old.

 

We try to have some firm family boundaries, but otherwise pick our battles. Enting wanted to bring with 6 toy cars and 2 rubber boats with him to bed last night, and I couldn’t see any good reason why not, so I shrugged and helped him get his fleet to his room.

 

ETA: Of course, I know every family needs to have their own unique boundaries. 

Oh absolutely, it's not so much about which boundaries you have, it's more about sticking to them. Being consistent has seemed the most crucial to me- in all of our responses. 

6 toy cars and 2 rubber boats seem reasonable  

 

5 hours ago, @mu said:

Love the KB mask

And mhm what a bed time story! boundaries are a tough thing to manage at times.... adults included...

Absolutely! Someone had this great analogy- that not having consistent boundaries is like driving in the dark without rails.. it's much more pleasant to have rails x) 

 

4 hours ago, Elastigirl said:

Adventures in parenting, I love your stories!

Thank you  that's good, because I can use all the motivation to keep on writing. 

[KB Girl]

Thursday 

Unfortunately I woke up sick.. had kind of felt it coming, but attributed it to other things and I just didn't want to believe that I would be sick again. I feel feverish but I don't have a fever because I don't get fevers. Jaap let me stay in bed until he had to go to work and later in the afternoon my mom picked up my eldest daughter to stay with her for the evening and night. I feel very lucky with these people around me. I'm getting a test tomorrow, just to be sure. 

 

Story time? 

Jaap made me rhyme, ye have been warned.

all the warriors are kind of miffed

because they are not able to lift

lockdown is cramping our style

we must go the extra mile

and see kettlebells as a wondrous gift

[Scaly Freak]

14 minutes ago, KB Girl said:

It's not so different* from being a pet parent, sometimes you may want to strangle them, but they're cute and cuddly and loveable and mostly pleasant to be around. 

*just a tad more intense

 

I'm skeptical about this. I've got the distinct impression pets are a lot easier to train than toddlers.

[KB Girl]

Just now, Scaly Freak said:

 

I'm skeptical about this. I've got the distinct impression pets are a lot easier to train than toddlers.

Noooo, my dog was definitely harder to train. And train a cat? HAH!

Tiny humans do have a lot more to learn I suppose.. but.. yea I wouldn't even really call it training  

[Stronkey Kong]

For a good comparison, you need to compare and rate them on the same tasks.

 

How long did it take your toddler to learn to shake or rollover? How long did it take to teach your dog to read?

 

Science!

[Mirrodin]

23 minutes ago, KB Girl said:

 

Story time? 

Jaap made me rhyme, ye have been warned.

 

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all the warriors are kind of miffed

because they are not able to lift

lockdown is cramping our style

we must go the extra mile

and see kettlebells as a wondrous gift
 

 

 

 

 

all the warriors are kind of miffed

because they are not able to lift

So here is a poem

We stay in our home

and see kettlebells as a wondrous gift

 

[Scaly Freak]

28 minutes ago, KB Girl said:

Noooo, my dog was definitely harder to train. And train a cat? HAH!

 

I respectfully beg to differ. Every cat I've ever had (four in total) has been trained, to a greater or lesser extent. They are completely trainable, as long as you are willing to redefine "training" into, "look how much you benefit from doing this other thing instead". Regal Sidekick (may she rest in peace, until something entertaining comes along), was great at "stop that!", "come" and "let me get up now", for example.

 

I will concede that trying to train a cat the way one trains a dog, is an entirely lost cause.  

 

 

[Waanie]

Get better soon!

 

7 hours ago, Scaly Freak said:

I respectfully beg to differ. Every cat I've ever had (four in total) has been trained, to a greater or lesser extent. They are completely trainable, as long as you are willing to redefine "training" into, "look how much you benefit from doing this other thing instead". Regal Sidekick (may she rest in peace, until something entertaining comes along), was great at "stop that!", "come" and "let me get up now", for example.

*Grabs the vacuum cleaner* *Cats disappearing from sight*. I do agree that you can teach cats to a certain extent. We have learned our cat that she's not allowed to sit on the keyboard, is not allowed on the countertop when we're in the same room, and she's not allowed to clean out my oatmeal bowl when I'm within touching distance. Our other cat is easier to train that she's not allowed certain things. I can also call one of them for yogatime together, and the other for cuddling on the couch in the morning .

 

8 hours ago, KB Girl said:

 

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all the warriors are kind of miffed

because they are not able to lift

lockdown is cramping our style

we must go the extra mile

and see kettlebells as a wondrous gift
 

 

 

 

8 hours ago, Mirrodin said:

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all the warriors are kind of miffed

because they are not able to lift

So here is a poem

We stay in our home

and see kettlebells as a wondrous gift

 

It's so cute that you guys are writing poems for each other over here . Especially now that we'll probably still be in lockdown with Sinterklaas.

[Renate]

On 10/21/2020 at 11:35 PM, KB Girl said:

Ah that has the opposite effect on me, that makes me doubt all praise...

 

I only dount praise if it indeed comes from someone that has a tendency to blindly follow whatever seems to be in their current perceived interest Such as the compliment from a fellow student for my reasoning skills when I agree with her/him or so.

 

On 10/21/2020 at 11:35 PM, KB Girl said:

but I do 100% agree with the thought process that you should definitely feel good about you. 

 

Yesss. I think I already mentioned the above once to you maybe... Sorry if I am repeating myself.

 

I just cannot accept the weirdness that confidence is so often proportionate to ignorance.

 

You have subjected yourself to so many hoops that others don't, you are clearly making others get better at something that is tough, don't see yourself as The Best Trainer Ever because that might make you relax, but I learnt a lot just from the few videos you posted about KB swings. And I am really bad at learning weird movements (no offense 😇) from video.

 

And you are generally someone I would totally root for if it was a series or book or film sooo, recognise yourself please! (okay I know that is so easy to say and tough to do and you are doing a great job at learning how to so. I know but this was a better conclusing to my motivational speech.) Getting off my soapbox nowwww.

[WhiteGhost]

Here and following along for these great story times.  They better keep coming or I am going to cry and whine until you give in  

[Ann of Owlshire]

On 10/22/2020 at 10:32 PM, KB Girl said:

6 toy cars and 2 rubber boats seem reasonable  

 

He played with them for a few minutes, and then turned them all wheels/bottom up saying “night night daddy car, night night mommy car, night night daddy boat....etc.” and then covered them with his blanket and then snuggled with me for storytime. It was pretty adorable.

[Ann of Owlshire]

I hope you’re feeling better! I’m so glad you have a support network around you to help.

 

I mostly compare toddlers to young dogs. They may listen to their training, unless they get too excited, and they need to be taken out and ran several times a day to burn off their energy or they’ll tear your house apart XD 

[KB Girl]

On 10/23/2020 at 12:24 AM, Scaly Freak said:

 

I respectfully beg to differ. Every cat I've ever had (four in total) has been trained, to a greater or lesser extent. They are completely trainable, as long as you are willing to redefine "training" into, "look how much you benefit from doing this other thing instead". Regal Sidekick (may she rest in peace, until something entertaining comes along), was great at "stop that!", "come" and "let me get up now", for example.

 

I will concede that trying to train a cat the way one trains a dog, is an entirely lost cause.  

 

Regal Sidekick must have been a very smart cat too. Jaap had a cat, Can’t say I ever noticed any training. But she was already 18 years old when we moved in together so I didn’t know her very long. When she passed away it was the first time I saw Jaap cry, he was completely heartbroken. (Dunno if this is an awkward place to ask how you’re doing?) 
 

On 10/23/2020 at 8:24 AM, Waanie said:

Get better soon!

 

It's so cute that you guys are writing poems for each other over here . Especially now that we'll probably still be in lockdown with Sinterklaas.

we’ve never really celebrated Sinterklaas, my mom is not dutch so it wasn’t a big deal for us anyway and my baby sisters birthday is December 5th.. but Jaap had some good memories of it I think. Maybe we should try this year. Emma might enjoy. Maar dan zonder zwarte piet he. 
 

On 10/23/2020 at 1:27 PM, Aθena said:

 

I only dount praise if it indeed comes from someone that has a tendency to blindly follow whatever seems to be in their current perceived interest Such as the compliment from a fellow student for my reasoning skills when I agree with her/him or so.

 

Yesss. I think I already mentioned the above once to you maybe... Sorry if I am repeating myself.

 

I just cannot accept the weirdness that confidence is so often proportionate to ignorance.

 

You have subjected yourself to so many hoops that others don't, you are clearly making others get better at something that is tough, don't see yourself as The Best Trainer Ever because that might make you relax, but I learnt a lot just from the few videos you posted about KB swings. And I am really bad at learning weird movements (no offense 😇) from video.

 

And you are generally someone I would totally root for if it was a series or book or film sooo, recognise yourself please! (okay I know that is so easy to say and tough to do and you are doing a great job at learning how to so. I know but this was a better conclusing to my motivational speech.) Getting off my soapbox nowwww.

Some things are worth repeating. You can climb on a soapbox anytime! Thank you. 
 

15 hours ago, WhiteGhost said:

Here and following along for these great story times.  They better keep coming or I am going to cry and whine until you give in  

that would be nice, thank you! 

 

14 hours ago, Ann of Vries said:

 

He played with them for a few minutes, and then turned them all wheels/bottom up saying “night night daddy car, night night mommy car, night night daddy boat....etc.” and then covered them with his blanket and then snuggled with me for storytime. It was pretty adorable.

Very adorable ❤️ 

14 hours ago, Ann of Vries said:

I hope you’re feeling better! I’m so glad you have a support network around you to help.

 

I mostly compare toddlers to young dogs. They may listen to their training, unless they get too excited, and they need to be taken out and ran several times a day to burn off their energy or they’ll tear your house apart XD 

[KB Girl]

Friday I had a little bit of energy, folded quite a bit of laundry, dusted the big bedroom and tackled the mess in Emma’s room. Vacuumed the entire house, we have a cordless vacuum, it’s brilliant.
Crashed after that, had a nap with the baby, Jaap made dinner, it was good. Fell down a rabbit hole of watching houses on the market, couldn’t sleep after.. by the time I could the baby was awake.. so...

 

Saturday was an awful day, luckily my work appointments were all cancelled anyway due to being sick/ awaiting text results. And the 3yo was at my moms as she is every Saturday. So I kept the baby alive. She bit me with her brand new set of front teeth, which hurt really bad and then she wouldn’t drink (probably because of the stuffed nose) and I was ugly hysterical crying when Jaap got home from work. Poor Jaap. He took the baby to my moms for dinner and I had a two hour nap. That made me feel like I could probably handle another night of waking every hour or so. Pray for me  

 

Its a good thing I said 5 days of story time, so I can skip today also.. tomorrow will hopefully be a better day.