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Tired and thoroughly fed up with trying to follow vague direction from a supposedly magical compass, Scalyfreak tucks the obnoxious thing into her backpack and activates the transportation artifact that will teleport her back home to her bunker.

 

The temple sages are confident they can lift the curse that has been plaguing the land for over six seasons now, but the bunker has become a comfortable home, and familiar. Since Scalyfreak moved into the bunker and sealed it off in order to hide from the curse that brought the plague, she has discovered that her demons can join her in there only if they are invited, and she can't think of a better reason to stay in the bunker after the curse is lifted. Especially now that Self Indulgence is no longer there, whining, demanding attention, and insisting on being entertained no matter how badly Scalyfreak needed to sleep.

 

After materializing inside the teleportation circle Scalyfreak takes great care to ensure the circle is not smudged or any candles or artifacts tapped out of place, and heads straight over to the corner that has been designated as The Armory. She removes every part of her road gear, from backpack to armor, to weapons and ammunition for them, and spends an inordinate amount of time cleaning and straightening them out and putting each item in its designated spot, before moving on to bathing, dinner, and eventually going to bed in peace and quiet.

 

It really is so much nicer in the bunker now that the annoying little imp is no longer around demanding to be entertained.

 

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Since the vaccination rates in my state remain below 50%, closer to 40% in my county, I am still not comfortable returning to the gym, so I'm not going to. Instead, I am going to re-learn how to go to bed at night.

 

In an effort to learn from what worked and what did not work in the Massive Cluster Fuckery more commonly known as “2020”, I've decided that I need to create a routine for my evenings. I have routines for my mornings, for preparing for work, and for leaving work, and they have really helped me adjust to working from home, while maintaining and even improving my overall mental health.

 

So we need an evening routine. We also presumably need a bed time, but because we're pretending to be adults we're going to call it something that sounds less toddlerish, like “routine end time”. Since the routine is supposed to end with me laying in my bed and ready to sleep, that should meet the need for a bed time quite nicely. (I'm also already considering the possibility that an end time will not work and that we may need a routine start time instead, so we'll see what happens with this.)

 

@Alanna, ready when you are!

 

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As for the socializing part... fully vaccinated members of the volunteer gang can now do in-person events again! I am looking forward to see everyone in person, especially the volunteers who joined during the pandemic and have only been to virtual events, so I have signed up for one event per weekend for the month of July. The first one was last weekend, on the 19th, and was a great deal of fun and awesome.

 

And that is that. :) 

 

EDIT:

Adding my routine draft here to make it easier for me to find and reference.

 

Updated evening routine draft:

  • Prepare the coffee pot for the next morning and set the brew timer for 15 minutes before alarm is set to go off
  • Set out clothes for next day (on weekends too!)
  • Brush teeth and apply sleep/night moisturizer and massage the jaw tension for a little while
  • Start the fan (for white noise) and the humidifier in the bedroom
  • Go to bed and read for a while
  • Get all cozy and comfortable in bed and actively relax. 
  • Hopefully sleep....
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Yay for sleep!! Let me know how I can be supportive :). I will be keeping an eye on your strategies and seeing if there is anything I can nab to try out for myself!

 

I'm glad you have some opportunities for socialising that have been screened for safety, too. 

 

43 minutes ago, Scaly Freak said:

We also presumably need a bed time, but because we're pretending to be adults we're going to call it something that sounds less toddlerish, like “routine end time”.

 

Maybe we can call it something neuroscience-y that sounds more high tech and important, like "commencement of neural recalibration" 😆 

 

45 minutes ago, Scaly Freak said:

(I'm also already considering the possibility that an end time will not work and that we may need a routine start time instead, so we'll see what happens with this.)

 

I am finding that a routine start time has been very helpful because even if I finish 10-20 minutes before my "in bed" target, I just... go to bed. And I don't feel rushed like I often did the last challenges when I just had a lights out goal. We'll see if that pattern continues for the rest of my challenge, though, and your mileage may vary!

 

 

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1 minute ago, Alanna said:

Maybe we can call it something neuroscience-y that sounds more high tech and important, like "commencement of neural recalibration" 😆 

 

..."in preparation for the nightly restorative hibernation period"?

 

2 minutes ago, Alanna said:

I am finding that a routine start time has been very helpful because even if I finish 10-20 minutes before my "in bed" target, I just... go to bed. And I don't feel rushed like I often did the last challenges when I just had a lights out goal. We'll see if that pattern continues for the rest of my challenge, though, and your mileage may vary!

 

That is an excellent point that I hadn't considered. If I feel rushed and stressed about running late for the routine end time, that would be very counter-productive. I will definitely keep this in mind.

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2 hours ago, Scaly Freak said:

As for the socializing part... fully vaccinated members of the volunteer gang can now do in-person events again! I am looking forward to see everyone in person, especially the volunteers who joined during the pandemic and have only been to virtual events, so I have signed up for one event per weekend for the month of July. The first one was last weekend, on the 19th, and was a great deal of fun and awesome.

 

This sounds great! what are you working on at the moment?

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2 hours ago, Scaly Freak said:

Since the vaccination rates in my state remain below 50%, closer to 40% in my county, I am still not comfortable returning to the gym, so I'm not going to. Instead, I am going to re-learn how to go to bed at night.

 

This is not so great.. is it because people don't want it?

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9 minutes ago, KB Girl said:

This sounds great! what are you working on at the moment?

 

We do canvassing. This time of year it means volunteers go door to door in neighborhoods and talk to people about political issues and the bills that were passed in the most recent legislative session, in an attempt to draw attention to the really bad ones, and to try and hold the legislators who sponsored them accountable to their constituents.

 

9 minutes ago, KB Girl said:

This is not so great.. is it because people don't want it?

 

Pretty much, yes. I live in what is known as a "red state", with a large rural population that mistrusts anything that has to do with academia, science, or the government in general. They also don't want masks, and have held demonstrations against Covid restrictions, arguing that both restrictions and face coverings are a violation of various individual rights, and in addition to that, the anti-vaxx movement is very strong in this state. Combine all these factors and I will consider it a miracle if we reach a 60% vaccination rate state wide. If we do, it'll be several months from now.

 

Due to lack of understanding how these things work, and the media and various agencies doing a piss-poor job of educating the population on hoe vaccines and medical science actually works, many who are not anti-vaxx are reluctant to receive doses of a Covid vaccine, because they believe that "emergency authorization" means that vaccines are an experimental and untested technology that isn't safe yet, and they are worried that unknown side-effects will kill them a year or so from now. That's not the case, but it can't be disproven, and thanks to social media and the misinformation it is spreading, trying to educate the general population this late in the game is a bit of a lost cause as well.

 

Ah well. I am vaccinated, and everyone in my family is, and we are still being careful so we are safe. I've reached the stage where I don't care about other who don't. Let them make their choices, let them face the consequences, and as long as they leave the rest of us alone we can all go back to what we were doing. :) 

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1 hour ago, sarakingdom said:

I want the most childish bedtime ever.

 

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All that did was to make me remember that awesome bed time story about going the fuck to sleep, narrated by Samuel L Jackson, that I found on YouTube the other year.

 

I have now sent that YouTube video to all my siblings who all have kids. :D 

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7 hours ago, Scaly Freak said:

All that did was to make me remember that awesome bed time story about going the fuck to sleep, narrated by Samuel L Jackson, that I found on YouTube the other year.

 

 

Hmm, does it have a gif...

 

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Yep :D

 

On that note, how did the getting-ready-to-go-to-sleep experiments go last night? 

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23 hours ago, Scaly Freak said:

"in preparation for the nightly restorative hibernation period"?

 

Sounds like a great idea. I hope it works well. And it's always okay tell other adults it's your bedtime and then say goodbye and leave. (They're probably all standing around thinking "how much longer is this event?" and "when can I go to sleep?" and "I wish I were in my pajamas right now." Only you can save them.)

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15 hours ago, Alanna said:

On that note, how did the getting-ready-to-go-to-sleep experiments go last night? 

 

They didn't. I had my monthly video call with the therapist earlier today and we talked about sleep routines and why and how they might help, so now I have a couple of ideas on how to start. Toothbrushing will be involved, somehow.

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7 hours ago, Harriet said:

And it's always okay tell other adults it's your bedtime and then say goodbye and leave. (They're probably all standing around thinking "how much longer is this event?" and "when can I go to sleep?" and "I wish I were in my pajamas right now." Only you can save them.)

 

2022 goals: All my adult social events happen in pajamas, with blankets and a teddy bear. Including the cocktail parties.

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6 hours ago, Scaly Freak said:

They didn't. I had my monthly video call with the therapist earlier today and we talked about sleep routines and why and how they might help, so now I have a couple of ideas on how to start. Toothbrushing will be involved, somehow.

 

Good shout getting your therapist's advice and support - I hope her suggestions help you troubleshoot.

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11 hours ago, Scaly Freak said:

 

 I have a couple of ideas on how to start. Toothbrushing will be involved, somehow.

 

I hope for your success! 

 

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21 hours ago, Alanna said:

 

Good shout getting your therapist's advice and support - I hope her suggestions help you troubleshoot.

 

They seem helpful so far, but I need a much larger number of days to test and figure out the details. And if not... I have another appointment a month from now. :) 

 

16 hours ago, h3r0 said:

 

I hope for your success! 

 

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the toothbrushing seems to have helped, but it's obvious it is not enough on its own. I am attempting to figure out things to combine it with.

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4 hours ago, Scaly Freak said:

the toothbrushing seems to have helped, but it's obvious it is not enough on its own. I am attempting to figure out things to combine it with.

 

I found that after reading parts of the book Atomic Habits,  printing out an easy to follow Habit Scorecard and sticking it next to the bathroom mirror has helped a lot. 

 

Funnily enough the only entry for evenings on mine is brush teeth as well, but my main challenge was getting out of bed, so focus is on the mornings. 

 

My advice would be to make it as simple as possible, and only add more bullet points once you've established a habit. 

 

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5 hours ago, Scaly Freak said:

the toothbrushing seems to have helped, but it's obvious it is not enough on its own. I am attempting to figure out things to combine it with.

 

I'm glad it's helping - that's a step forward even if you need to refine it. I wonder if engaging other senses, like smell, would be helpful for teaching your body "it's time to sleep" (if you know of any research on this aspect, I'd be really interested to hear!). Before bed, I've recently been making sure to put on a facial moisturiser that has rose hip, chamomile, and vanilla extract, and I'm starting to associate its scent with bed time. 

 

I also realised that I think I just assumed your therapist was a woman - whoops! I was tired yesterday and all my past therapists have been women, so I think I just switched to my default personal experience of therapists. Sorry! 

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Following!  "Go to bed" is my number one goal for this challenge, too, and I know that sleep routines are key,  but am still not sure how to set them up. Or rather . ..  I have sleep routines.  They're just bad ones.  So, I need to figure out how to REPLACE them with new routines. 

 

I think for me, because I'm someone who always wants to be working through more, doing more, reading more, I have to think of this not just as a cessation of activity, but there needs to be some element of the go-to-bed routine that I actually look forward to.  Not sure what that would be.  Listening to music once I'm actually in bed?  Some relaxing stretching that feels good?  An end-of-day, non-caffeinated cup of tea?  No clue, but I'm rooting for you and looking forward to your journey.

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7 hours ago, Hangrybear said:

My advice would be to make it as simple as possible, and only add more bullet points once you've established a habit. 

 

That's the plan! I don't think I'll bother printing it though, but i may scribble in a journal at one point or another. 

 

6 hours ago, Alanna said:

 

I'm glad it's helping - that's a step forward even if you need to refine it. I wonder if engaging other senses, like smell, would be helpful for teaching your body "it's time to sleep" (if you know of any research on this aspect, I'd be really interested to hear!). Before bed, I've recently been making sure to put on a facial moisturiser that has rose hip, chamomile, and vanilla extract, and I'm starting to associate its scent with bed time. 

 

 Scents are very powerful triggers, and we humans tend to forget about that a lot of the time, because of how visual we are. All my skin care is without fragrance (sensitive skin), but that's not the only way to add fragrance to a routine. Maybe lavender. My brain already associates that scent with relaxation and calm.

 

Actually, why haven't I tried lavender already? What was I thinking? Sheesh, this is why I need help with this challenge!

 

6 hours ago, Alanna said:

I also realised that I think I just assumed your therapist was a woman - whoops! I was tired yesterday and all my past therapists have been women, so I think I just switched to my default personal experience of therapists. Sorry! 

 

She is, which probably is why I just nodded and went along with it. I assumed I had mentioned her gender identity at some point in a past challenge. :D 

 

3 hours ago, Jules Andromeda said:

I think for me, because I'm someone who always wants to be working through more, doing more, reading more, I have to think of this not just as a cessation of activity, but there needs to be some element of the go-to-bed routine that I actually look forward to.  

 

This is my problem. I see sleep as time spent being completely unproductive, as a net negative. I could be playing my game, reading my book, et cetera, instead of wasting valuable hours laying like a sedate lump on a piece of furniture like this.

 

I have come to realize that attempting to get more sleep, and better sleep, is going to continue to fail as long as I keep thinking of sleeping in this negative way.  One of my goals with this challenge needs to be to change my attitude towards sleeping.

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Is the sleep problem that you don't feel ready to go to bed and thus don't do it when you need to, or that you aren't tired when you do get into bed and can't fall asleep while lying there? I think there are different problems involved with can't and don't, and I'm not sure which you're working on.

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