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Hello!

I went to Camp 2015 and 2016, and now visions of 2021 are dancing in my head.... Time to get back to business.

 

Here's the thing.  I'm really good at Respawning, great at goal setting, and terrible at follow through.  I get distracted, anxious, and start procrastinating.  I'm working on the mental game, so hopefully the rest of the wellness will follow.

 

Goal 1:  Daily Movement!

The pandemic has just been hard.  So my goal is to do some sort of exercise daily, extra pride if I do two sessions.  I don't have any requirements for duration or exertion, just getting myself together to begin one of these things is a success.

  • Walking/running 
  • Yoga
  • Body weight exercises
  • Dancing
  • Etc?  

 

Measures of success:

  • 100 miles in 5 weeks would be a star-spangled success!
  • A for the day any time I do 2 of the above
  • B for the day when I do 1 of the above

 

Goal 2:  Nutrition Tracking!!

I'm returning to this old nutritional chestnut and declare myself a Level 2.  So for this challenge I will focus on Tracking (consistency struggle again!) and avoiding liquid calories (I'm fairly good about this!)

 

Measures of success:

  • A for the day if I do both things:  track my intake and avoid liquid calories.
  • B for the day if I only do one.

 

Goal 3:  Introspection Time

Daily time with a journal, sometimes with Tarot Card or other writing prompt assistance.  Just getting better at checking in with myself.

 

Measures of success:

  • A for the day if I write anything at all

 

 

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"I don't guarantee my voice - why would I?  But I promise to tell my story."

-- Johanna Gleason

 

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I forgot about rewards!!

 

Overall:

A for the 5 weeks....... a weekend in a hotel with my journal, some books, and some quality skin care products.

B for the 5 weeks....  spa day, however pandemic allows

C for the 5 weeks... spa day at home, foam rollers, salt scrub, the works

 

Exercise component:

100 miles.... new shoes

A for the 5 weeks: Begin a C25K to incorporate more running in my next 100 miles.

B for the 5 weeks: Update my Dance game

C for the 5 weeks: Yoga mat

 

Nutrition component:

B or higher: continue to Level 3

 

Mindset component:

B or higher: a Tarot reading class

 

 

 

"I don't guarantee my voice - why would I?  But I promise to tell my story."

-- Johanna Gleason

 

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On 9/8/2021 at 10:57 AM, CelebrateCeleste said:

Here's the thing.  I'm really good at Respawning, great at goal setting, and terrible at follow through.

 

So what I'm hearing is you've got the two most important skills down. Particularly the respawning, which is key.

 

On 9/8/2021 at 10:57 AM, CelebrateCeleste said:

  I get distracted, anxious, and start procrastinating.  I'm working on the mental game, so hopefully the rest of the wellness will follow.

 

Hrm. This, however, makes me think that maybe there's a disconnect between theoretically attractive goal-setting, and useful, pragmatic goal-setting. The goals may look amazing on paper. They may be all SMART-approved and everything, and have colors and charts and rewards. But if they contribute to making you anxious, they're not the right goals.

I felt like I could run forever, like I could smell the wind and feel the grass under my feet, and just run forever.

Current Challenge: #24 - Mrs. Cosmopolite Challenge

Past: #1, #2, #3, #4, #5, #6,  #7#8, #9#10, #11a & #11b, #12, #13, #14, #15, #16, #17, #18, #19, #20, #21, #22, #23

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On 9/9/2021 at 6:01 AM, annyshay said:

Hiya Camper! I went in 2016 and am super looking forward to 2022. Goals look great. We'll cheer you along! 

 

Tarot? Do you have a favorite card? 

 

Well, I use cards in a weird way.  I consider whether the drawn card is something that I want or don't want in my life.  Do I want more or less of it? What should I do to make that happen? And if I have the right amount, is there anything I can do to keep it that way?

 

I have several recurring cards that cause me to stop and evaluate whether I'm guarding too much and need to be more open-hearted (2 of swords) and to remember my blessings and how far I've come (10 of cups).  But if I had to choose a favorite,  it would be the Queen of Cups.  She's the one who you go to with a problem or a story, who always says "sit down at the kitchen counter and tell me all about it. I'll get you something to eat, and if you want advice I'll give it."

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23 hours ago, sarakingdom said:

 

So what I'm hearing is you've got the two most important skills down. Particularly the respawning, which is key.

 

Yep, I can pick myself up.  I just would rather stay on my feet and keep going!

 

 

23 hours ago, sarakingdom said:

Hrm. This, however, makes me think that maybe there's a disconnect between theoretically attractive goal-setting, and useful, pragmatic goal-setting. The goals may look amazing on paper. They may be all SMART-approved and everything, and have colors and charts and rewards. But if they contribute to making you anxious, they're not the right goals.

You're quite right here.  I can sketch out a dream, but the reality is tougher.  I can say that the goals don't make me anxious in themselves, it's the rest of my stressors that distract me toward "responsibilities" instead of self care.  I'm working hard on the mental game, because it's brutal.  

 

So I've never wrote up my challenges like this.  It seems like a pretty basic start for habit forming, but if you have advice I'd love to hear it!

 

Thank you!

"I don't guarantee my voice - why would I?  But I promise to tell my story."

-- Johanna Gleason

 

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1 hour ago, CelebrateCeleste said:

 

Well, I use cards in a weird way.  I consider whether the drawn card is something that I want or don't want in my life.  Do I want more or less of it? What should I do to make that happen? And if I have the right amount, is there anything I can do to keep it that way?

 

I have several recurring cards that cause me to stop and evaluate whether I'm guarding too much and need to be more open-hearted (2 of swords) and to remember my blessings and how far I've come (10 of cups).  But if I had to choose a favorite,  it would be the Queen of Cups.  She's the one who you go to with a problem or a story, who always says "sit down at the kitchen counter and tell me all about it. I'll get you something to eat, and if you want advice I'll give it."

Love it!

Love as thou wilt.

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1 hour ago, CelebrateCeleste said:

So I've never wrote up my challenges like this.  It seems like a pretty basic start for habit forming, but if you have advice I'd love to hear it!

 

I'm no great challenge expert, because everyone reacts differently to different sorts of plans, and even the same person reacts differently challenge to challenge. It makes it a real exercise in determining what you, right now, today, need from   yourself, and not what you feel you should need from yourself, either because it's how others seem to succeed at it or because it's what worked for you last time. Which I guess is advice #1. :D

 

In general, I'd say trust simplicity more than complexity. It's not always the best approach, but it usually is, often enough that it's good to ask ourselves if we could simplify what we want to do, or are biting off too much.

 

The big thing I've been trying to work on is, as Terry Pratchett puts it, to do the job that's in front of you. Rather than, for instance, the job you want to be the one that's in front of you. And this can be a very individual difference. For some people, your exercise scoring system would be motivating structure, and would work best. For others, it'd be trying to take three steps at once instead of one.

 

If right now, the daily exercise is zero, the job in front of you is making it non-zero. Putting the core habit into place is the heavy lifting to be done, the key step that makes the next step possible. That's the thing to grade. People are tempted to make their desired end goal the job they're working on today. They want that to be where they are in the process, instead of where they actually are.

 

I think part of the thing that tripped my "doing the job that's in front of me" sensors was that you actually move your goalposts immediately in your very first goal. This:

 

On 9/8/2021 at 10:57 AM, CelebrateCeleste said:

my goal is to do some sort of exercise daily, extra pride if I do two sessions.  I don't have any requirements for duration or exertion, just getting myself together to begin one of these things is a success.

 

doesn't match this:

 

On 9/8/2021 at 10:57 AM, CelebrateCeleste said:

Measures of success:

  • 100 miles in 5 weeks would be a star-spangled success!
  • A for the day any time I do 2 of the above
  • B for the day when I do 1 of the above

 

In the first, you've said that doing anything daily is success, and anything more is bonus. But in your scoring system in the second, doing anything daily is not a success, it's only partial credit. Doing two things daily is a success, and reaching 100 miles (an average of twenty miles a week, three miles a day, every day for 45 days, from day one) is the bonus. That's a heck of a distance from the "even one pushup is a level-up, duration and intensity are not the key thing" goal you set out at first.

 

That shift suggests to me that you know what the next step to accomplished is (a daily movement habit, regardless of duration or effort), but you don't want that to be where you are, so you're grading on where you wish you were (established movement habit, known ability to meet mileage goals, known needs for rest/recovery days, and a reliable daily/weekly average mileage that's ready to be levelled up to 100 miles if you're really on top of your game).

 

For some people, that will work. They like the pressure of overcommiting to inspire them to meet their goals. But for a lot of people, overcommiting is a setup for feeling like a failure. Their scoring system is marking them down for successfully engaging today's problems, simply because they're not already prepared to engage the future problems they want to take on.

 

So I guess I'd ask, why isn't your scoring system this:

  • Weeks where I average more than 1.5 activities a day would be a star-spangled success!
  • A for the week when I do 1 of the above every day/90%+ of days (assuming one is some low-effort rest-day movement one day a week or the occasional day off or something)
  • B for the week when I do 1 of the above more than  80% of the days
  • C for the week when I do 1 of the above more than 70% of the days

Where the A is the 90th percentile and above of the goal you set yourself, the B is 80th percentile, and the extra credit is extra sessions above the one a day? Your current scoring is making you do twice as much as your stated goal every day, to get full credit for meeting your goal. It's taking away the "extra pride for two sessions" you initially laid out, and banking it all on never slipping up one day of a twenty-mile-a-week habit, which is one heck of a bait and switch.

 

Your scoring system isn't a bad set of goals, don't get me wrong. I'm just getting mixed messages about whether it's today's set of goals.

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I felt like I could run forever, like I could smell the wind and feel the grass under my feet, and just run forever.

Current Challenge: #24 - Mrs. Cosmopolite Challenge

Past: #1, #2, #3, #4, #5, #6,  #7#8, #9#10, #11a & #11b, #12, #13, #14, #15, #16, #17, #18, #19, #20, #21, #22, #23

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3 minutes ago, sarakingdom said:

 

 

I think part of the thing that tripped my "doing the job that's in front of me" sensors was that you actually move your goalposts immediately in your very first goal. This:

 

 

doesn't match this:

 

 

In the first, you've said that doing anything daily is success, and anything more is bonus. But in your scoring system in the second, doing anything daily is not a success, it's only partial credit. Doing two things daily is a success, and reaching 100 miles (an average of twenty miles a week, three miles a day, every day for 45 days, from day one) is the bonus. That's a heck of a distance from the "even one pushup is a level-up, duration and intensity are not the key thing" goal you set out at first.

 

That shift suggests to me that you know what the next step to accomplished is (a daily movement habit, regardless of duration or effort), but you don't want that to be where you are, so you're grading on where you wish you were (established movement habit, known ability to meet mileage goals, known needs for rest/recovery days, and a reliable daily/weekly average mileage that's ready to be levelled up to 100 miles if you're really on top of your game).

 

For some people, that will work. They like the pressure of overcommiting to inspire them to meet their goals. But for a lot of people, overcommiting is a setup for feeling like a failure. Their scoring system is marking them down for successfully engaging today's problems, simply because they're not already prepared to engage the future problems they want to take on.

 

So I guess I'd ask, why isn't your scoring system this:

  • Weeks where I average more than 1.5 activities a day would be a star-spangled success!
  • A for the week when I do 1 of the above every day/90%+ of days (assuming one is some low-effort rest-day movement one day a week or the occasional day off or something)
  • B for the week when I do 1 of the above more than  80% of the days
  • C for the week when I do 1 of the above more than 70% of the days

Where the A is the 90th percentile and above of the goal you set yourself, the B is 80th percentile, and the extra credit is extra sessions above the one a day? Your current scoring is making you do twice as much as your stated goal every day, to get full credit for meeting your goal. It's taking away the "extra pride for two sessions" you initially laid out, and banking it all on never slipping up one day of a twenty-mile-a-week habit, which is one heck of a bait and switch.

 

Your scoring system isn't a bad set of goals, don't get me wrong. I'm just getting mixed messages about whether it's today's set of goals.

These are amazing insights!  Thank you!  

"I don't guarantee my voice - why would I?  But I promise to tell my story."

-- Johanna Gleason

 

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With excellent call outs from @sarakingdom, I'm changing up the goal measurements.

 

Goal 1:  Daily Movement!

The pandemic has just been hard.  So my goal is to do some sort of exercise daily, extra points if I do two sessions.  I don't have any requirements for duration or exertion, just getting myself together to begin one of these things is a success.

  • Walking/running 
  • Yoga
  • Body weight exercises
  • Dancing
  • Etc?  

 

Measures of success:

There are 35 days in this challenge, so I will divide my number of activities by 35 to find a percentage.  I will grade myself on the typical scale 90% or higher is an A, etc.

 

 

Goal 2:  Nutrition Tracking!!

I'm returning to this old nutritional chestnut and declare myself a Level 2.  So for this challenge I will focus on Tracking (consistency struggle again!) and avoiding liquid calories (I'm fairly good about this!)

 

Measures of success:

35 days in this challenge, and 2 things to do here.  So I will divide my number of positive actions by 70 to find a percentage.  90% or higher is an A, etc.

 

Goal 3:  Introspection Time

Daily time with a journal, sometimes with Tarot Card or other writing prompt assistance.  Just getting better at checking in with myself.

 

Measures of success:

Same as goal 1, number of days journaled over 35.

 

Rewards:

Overall:

A for the 5 weeks....... a weekend in a hotel with my journal, some books, and some quality skin care products.

B for the 5 weeks....  spa day, however pandemic allows

C for the 5 weeks... spa day at home, foam rollers, salt scrub, the works

 

Exercise component:

Extra stretch goal of 100 miles.... new shoes

A for the 5 weeks: Begin a C25K to incorporate more running in my next challenge.

B for the 5 weeks: Update my JustDance game

C for the 5 weeks: Yoga mat

 

Nutrition component:

B or higher: continue to Level 3

 

Mindset component:

B or higher: a Tarot reading class

 

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11 hours ago, CelebrateCeleste said:

Day 1 in the books!!

 

 

Exercise: 1/35 Yoga!

Nutrition:1/70 (I tracked, and had a glass of port.  Ah well)

Reflection: 1/35 (a long journal entry reflecting on some recent vivid dreams)

Grand total: 3/140

 

 


Looks like you got movement, tracking, and introspection in, so full points or an A grade or a rewarding "ping" noise!

Let cheese and oxen and mead crowd out our secret desires for power and domination - Harriet the viking

Just be bold, fluid and unapologetic, not small, hairy and indecisive - Harriet the artist

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