Novaurora Posted December 29, 2021 Report Share Posted December 29, 2021 Hey guys, your favorite ADHD wannabe bard is back in the house. If we haven't met, I'm a married teacher/dog mom who dreams of being an author, and I am also diagnosed with Inattentive type ADHD and anxiety. Thanks to my mental health challenges, and a late diagnosis (28), I have struggled with general adulting for most of my adult life, including finishing most anything (including challenges, novels, to do lists, etc) and being consistent with just about anything, including taking my meds which does not help the situation in the least bit. I decided about mid last year that my creative soul needed to be a bard. but according to my therapist (new to me, but specializes in my specific issues), I need to multi-class, so while my creative spirit will remain a proud bard, but I'm going to be trying to gain some monk skills as well. So goals... I promised myself that I would create goals in under 10 minutes to keep things from getting too complicated. Goal #1: Mental Space Show up every day. Don't quit. Even if it feels like I'm failing and all I do is post a lame meme. Make a list of 3 priorities a day. Specific things you want to get done. If all else fails, get those done Goal #2: Baby Body Steps Practice SLOW eating at least one meal a day. Put the fork down between bites. Have a food journal Workout three times a week. 30 minutes of whatever, as long as it's movement. Goal #3: Therapy Homework (subject to evolution) Mediate x3 a week (2 minutes)/Grounding Activities for anxiety Write things on calendars and to do lists that are out in the open Take. my. fucking. meds. for. fucks. sake. Anyhoo, I have already started paving the way for some of this, unsure if I was going to come back to NF or not, but ADHD and intrinsic motivation don't mix, so I tried it my way, but I really want to start fresh and recapture the progress and success I had here in the past. I have created a space in my house for lists and other things (if you want to make your own, everything here cost me like 30 dollars (minus the metal thing I already owned) the hangers being the most expensive part). The papers are in plastic sleeves so they can be crossed off daily/weekly/whatever Spoiler I love break, but I am never as productive as I need to be. I'm a little annoyed with myself currently because my emotions have been all over the place and my focus and motivation are shot (no thanks to my terrible med habit). I struggle to relax in general, so hopefully the meditation will help with that. I dunno. I'm not great at being here, historically, but I'm worse on my own. 8 Quote “And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.” John Steinbeck “Do I dare disturb the universe?” – T.S. Eliot “You wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.” – Toni Morrison "All we have to do is decide what to do with the time given to us" JRR Tolkien Human Bard: CON 2, WIS 5, INT 1, CHA 2 Current Challenge: Nova Levels Up (and maybe doesn't abandon a challenge...) Link to comment
Jupiter Posted December 29, 2021 Report Share Posted December 29, 2021 Yay, you're back! Love your goals this challenge! Quote Battle Log, Current Challenge 2022 Challenges: Challenge 1 2021 Challenges: Challenge 1, Challenge 2, Challenge 3, Challenge 4, Challenge 5, Challenge 6 2020 Challenges: Challenge 1, Challenge 2, Challenge 3, Challenge 4, Challenge 5, Challenge 6, Challenge 7 Link to comment
Tanktimus the Encourager Posted December 29, 2021 Report Share Posted December 29, 2021 Welcome back! Quote Current Challenge "By the Most-Righteous-and-Blessed Beard of Sir Tanktimus the Encourager!" - Jarl Rurik Harrgath Link to comment
Salinger Posted December 29, 2021 Report Share Posted December 29, 2021 Nova, GREAT to see you back here try not to put so much pressure on yourself my love i also need to take my damn meds, every. Single. Day!!!!!!! thinking of you and wishing you the best xx Quote Link to comment
Elastigirl Posted December 29, 2021 Report Share Posted December 29, 2021 Welcome back! I love your to do wall. This is something I struggle with. I make lists and then forget what I put on the lists. I'm going to figure out how to make my own wall. I was thinking of starting a new journal, but I really need it in front of my face. 2 Quote Wisdom 22.5 Dexterity 13 Charisma 15 Strength 21 Constitution-13 "If more of us valued food and cheer and song, above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world" J.R.R.Tolkien Link to comment
Novaurora Posted December 29, 2021 Author Report Share Posted December 29, 2021 9 hours ago, Jupiter said: Yay, you're back! Love your goals this challenge! Thanks! I'm looking forward to being here and hoping it sticks 9 hours ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said: Welcome back! Thanks! I can't ever stay away too long. 9 hours ago, Salinger said: try not to put so much pressure on yourself my love this is also something I need to work on.....lol 9 hours ago, Elastigirl said: Welcome back! I love your to do wall. This is something I struggle with. I make lists and then forget what I put on the lists. I'm going to figure out how to make my own wall. I was thinking of starting a new journal, but I really need it in front of my face. The majority of my wall in clip boards hung up with ribbon. That was the easiest way I saw to do it. Let's go challenge! STARTING ON MY BIRTHDAY!! Anyhoo, it's going to be a pretty normal day around here...nothing special except going out for Mexican tonight. Priorities Clean up the office Do my grading minimums Fold the Laundry that's been done since Sunday 5 Quote “And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.” John Steinbeck “Do I dare disturb the universe?” – T.S. Eliot “You wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.” – Toni Morrison "All we have to do is decide what to do with the time given to us" JRR Tolkien Human Bard: CON 2, WIS 5, INT 1, CHA 2 Current Challenge: Nova Levels Up (and maybe doesn't abandon a challenge...) Link to comment
Salinger Posted December 29, 2021 Report Share Posted December 29, 2021 Happy birthday to the coolest teacher in the world have an amazing day - you deserve it xx 1 Quote Link to comment
Tanktimus the Encourager Posted December 29, 2021 Report Share Posted December 29, 2021 Happy Birthday 1 Quote Current Challenge "By the Most-Righteous-and-Blessed Beard of Sir Tanktimus the Encourager!" - Jarl Rurik Harrgath Link to comment
shaar Posted December 29, 2021 Report Share Posted December 29, 2021 Here it is my favorite birthday meme EVER: I hope you have an AMAZING day and dinner (there are so many amazing mexican places down there i miss!!) and ENJOY! 4 Quote i am not waiting for a hero. i saved myself long ago. Level 50 Bardic Time-Mage; of the Furious Heart STR.55 DEX.43 STA.48 CON.51 WIS.53 CHA.65 "Well...in the end, it boils down to two simple choices. Either you do or you don't. You'd think with all the problems in this world, there'd be more answers. It's not fair... ...But that's the way things are. The choice is yours." Link to comment
Novaurora Posted December 29, 2021 Author Report Share Posted December 29, 2021 Thanks for the birthday love. It's a gorgeous day here, so got all my inside chores done and I have moved my grading operation outside. December birthdays aren't so bad here. Hope everyone else is having a great day 7 Quote “And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.” John Steinbeck “Do I dare disturb the universe?” – T.S. Eliot “You wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.” – Toni Morrison "All we have to do is decide what to do with the time given to us" JRR Tolkien Human Bard: CON 2, WIS 5, INT 1, CHA 2 Current Challenge: Nova Levels Up (and maybe doesn't abandon a challenge...) Link to comment
Salinger Posted December 29, 2021 Report Share Posted December 29, 2021 you look great!!! Adore your hair xx Quote Link to comment
Tanktimus the Encourager Posted December 29, 2021 Report Share Posted December 29, 2021 1 hour ago, Novaurora said: December birthdays aren't so bad here. 2 Quote Current Challenge "By the Most-Righteous-and-Blessed Beard of Sir Tanktimus the Encourager!" - Jarl Rurik Harrgath Link to comment
Novaurora Posted December 29, 2021 Author Report Share Posted December 29, 2021 1 minute ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said: I got really smart after a while and started asking for really nice joint presents from my family if they were truly "for both". Friends I didn't care so much because we were broke high school kids. As long as they showed up to my party if they weren't on vacation (or let me hijack their New Years Party) I was fine. 3 Quote “And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.” John Steinbeck “Do I dare disturb the universe?” – T.S. Eliot “You wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.” – Toni Morrison "All we have to do is decide what to do with the time given to us" JRR Tolkien Human Bard: CON 2, WIS 5, INT 1, CHA 2 Current Challenge: Nova Levels Up (and maybe doesn't abandon a challenge...) Link to comment
Aquarii Posted December 29, 2021 Report Share Posted December 29, 2021 Welcome back! And happy birthday Also, your hair is so epic! 1 Quote Chaotic-Neutral, Elven Bladesinger (Apprentice): Level 1 Current Stats: STR 11 || DEX 11 || CON 12 || INT 15 || WIS 15 || CHA 12 Goal Stats: STR 14 || DEX 17+ || CON 14 || INT 18+ || WIS 18+ || CHA 14 "To dare is to lose one's footing momentarily; to not dare is to lose one's self". - Søren Kierkegaard Link to comment
Alanna Posted December 29, 2021 Report Share Posted December 29, 2021 I love your chalkboard + to do lists wall (not to mention your kitchen cabinets - they are my favourite colour). I might steal the tracking wall idea for a future home gym. Hanging the clipboards is really smart, too, so the lists are easy to take down and modify. I will also be following for dog photos - your selfie with your dog is lovely And happy birthday!! 1 Quote -:- THE LIONESS -:- Challenge 2.1, 2.2, 2.3, 2.4, 2.5, 2.6, 2.7, 2.8 Link to comment
Jupiter Posted December 29, 2021 Report Share Posted December 29, 2021 Happy Birthday! I love your hair! Quote Battle Log, Current Challenge 2022 Challenges: Challenge 1 2021 Challenges: Challenge 1, Challenge 2, Challenge 3, Challenge 4, Challenge 5, Challenge 6 2020 Challenges: Challenge 1, Challenge 2, Challenge 3, Challenge 4, Challenge 5, Challenge 6, Challenge 7 Link to comment
Salinger Posted December 30, 2021 Report Share Posted December 30, 2021 Morning Nova! How was the mexican food? Hope it was yummy!!!! xx Quote Link to comment
Rebel Pilot Gar Posted December 30, 2021 Report Share Posted December 30, 2021 Great goals! I love your to do wall, it looks so great. The closest thing we have is a whiteboard where I track my dog’s meds each week. Maybe I’ll expand it to other things because that looks so useful. Quote Dry January | 2022 Reading Challenge "Always remember, your focus determines your reality." - Qui-Gon Jinn, The Phantom Menace "I Find That Answer Vague And Unconvincing." - K-2SO, Rogue One ”Persistence without insight will lead to the same outcome.” [spoilers], The Book of Boba Fett Link to comment
Novaurora Posted December 30, 2021 Author Report Share Posted December 30, 2021 19 hours ago, Salinger said: you look great!!! Adore your hair xx Thank you! I'm really enjoying this color!! 17 hours ago, Aquarii said: Welcome back! And happy birthday Also, your hair is so epic! 16 hours ago, Alanna said: I love your chalkboard + to do lists wall (not to mention your kitchen cabinets - they are my favourite colour). I might steal the tracking wall idea for a future home gym. Hanging the clipboards is really smart, too, so the lists are easy to take down and modify. I will also be following for dog photos - your selfie with your dog is lovely And happy birthday!! Thank you! The clip boards were a dollar store find (I promised my husband I would keep construction cheap) and I'm really happy I went that direction. I love the pantry shelves too! Hubs let me pick most of the colors in the house when we firest bought in anbd I am very proud of that one. And there are always more dog pics (I have 3) Spoiler Those are the other 2 15 hours ago, Jupiter said: Happy Birthday! I love your hair! 5 hours ago, Salinger said: Morning Nova! How was the mexican food? Hope it was yummy!!!! xx Mexican was AMAZING!!! It's my favorite!! (literal representation of me) 2 hours ago, Rebel Pilot Gar said: Great goals! I love your to do wall, it looks so great. The closest thing we have is a whiteboard where I track my dog’s meds each week. Maybe I’ll expand it to other things because that looks so useful. I have had it for 2 days and already love it. Crossing things of lists is the dopamine hit that my scattered little ADHD brain just fucking loves, so it's nice. Recap: Well, I didn't get everything done yesterday that I wanted to... Priorities: 12/29 Clean up the office Do my grading minimums Got a small bit done, but not what I needed to Fold the Laundry that's been done since Sunday I started off super productive, but everything I'm grading right now is long form, so it takes a lot of focus, and I have been trying to be smart and do like 6 a day of the 4 things I have left, BUT my brain is more of a "we only get out of bed for close terrifying deadlines type" but I'm trying to train it to be better because grading 70 something assignments on Sunday makes me want to hurl. Today will be better. I'll redo the math and actually do the minimums today. Goal #1: Mental Space Show up every day. Don't quit. Even if it feels like I'm failing and all I do is post a lame meme. Make a list of 3 priorities a day. Specific things you want to get done. If all else fails, get those done (2/3) Goal #2: Baby Body Steps Practice SLOW eating at least one meal a day. Put the fork down between bites. oops, sure didn't. Dove into that Mexican food like I hadn't eaten in a week and absentmindedly ate a bagel on video chat with my sister. Nothing mindful about that Have a food journal Workout three times a week. 30 minutes of whatever, as long as it's movement. n/a Goal #3: Therapy Homework (subject to evolution) Mediate x3 a week (2 minutes)/Grounding Activities for anxiety n/a Write things on calendars and to do lists that are out in the open Take. my. fucking. meds. for. fucks. sake. oops. Got distracted @Tanktimus the Encourager, what happened to all the other emoticons?? Anyhoo, TODAY WILL BE BETTER Priorities: Grading minimums Vacuum the couches Dust all flat surfaces 5 Quote “And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.” John Steinbeck “Do I dare disturb the universe?” – T.S. Eliot “You wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.” – Toni Morrison "All we have to do is decide what to do with the time given to us" JRR Tolkien Human Bard: CON 2, WIS 5, INT 1, CHA 2 Current Challenge: Nova Levels Up (and maybe doesn't abandon a challenge...) Link to comment
Tanktimus the Encourager Posted December 30, 2021 Report Share Posted December 30, 2021 1 hour ago, Novaurora said: @Tanktimus the Encourager, what happened to all the other emoticons?? That's a @spezzy question, but the extra emoticons were a custom add in done before a software update. Those updates often nuke customizations like that. 1 Quote Current Challenge "By the Most-Righteous-and-Blessed Beard of Sir Tanktimus the Encourager!" - Jarl Rurik Harrgath Link to comment
spezzy Posted December 30, 2021 Report Share Posted December 30, 2021 18 minutes ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said: That's a @spezzy question, but the extra emoticons were a custom add in done before a software update. Those updates often nuke customizations like that. All of the custom emoji that we put in are still there (under Emoticons) and did not get overwritten, as far as I'm aware. I've double checked and that's all still there - we have almost 2k available before we consider the skin tone variations: Are there specific ones that are missing? 1 Quote Current Challenge - Instagram “There's only one rule that I know of, babies—God damn it, you've got to be kind.” Link to comment
Novaurora Posted December 30, 2021 Author Report Share Posted December 30, 2021 @spezzy it may be an issue on my end then, because these are the only categories I get...not sure why... but I only see the smilies Quote “And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.” John Steinbeck “Do I dare disturb the universe?” – T.S. Eliot “You wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.” – Toni Morrison "All we have to do is decide what to do with the time given to us" JRR Tolkien Human Bard: CON 2, WIS 5, INT 1, CHA 2 Current Challenge: Nova Levels Up (and maybe doesn't abandon a challenge...) Link to comment
spezzy Posted December 30, 2021 Report Share Posted December 30, 2021 43 minutes ago, Novaurora said: @spezzy it may be an issue on my end then, because these are the only categories I get...not sure why... but I only see the smilies Thank you - this is insanely helpful. There are no permissions around emojis that I can find, but I'll keep looking and if I can't figure it out I'll put in a support ticket with our forum software company! Will keep you updated 1 Quote Current Challenge - Instagram “There's only one rule that I know of, babies—God damn it, you've got to be kind.” Link to comment
spezzy Posted December 30, 2021 Report Share Posted December 30, 2021 Actually - can you try now? This setting says that depending on your device, if we have the standard emoji's enabled, they might not work for everyone, so I just switched it to "Twitter Style" to see if that works: 1 Quote Current Challenge - Instagram “There's only one rule that I know of, babies—God damn it, you've got to be kind.” Link to comment
Novaurora Posted December 30, 2021 Author Report Share Posted December 30, 2021 @spezzy They are BACK!!!! Thank you!! Quote “And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.” John Steinbeck “Do I dare disturb the universe?” – T.S. Eliot “You wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.” – Toni Morrison "All we have to do is decide what to do with the time given to us" JRR Tolkien Human Bard: CON 2, WIS 5, INT 1, CHA 2 Current Challenge: Nova Levels Up (and maybe doesn't abandon a challenge...) Link to comment
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