[Nina-Rose]

Hail!

 

I haven't been active on this board since September 2017,. Better late than never, right?  but those weekly challenges really made a difference, and I'm finally refocusing on myself - seemed as good a time to come back to the den and reconnect. So Haii.

 

Respawn Loading - Nina-Rose - Assassin/Ranger/Monk Cross - Joined NFA June 2016, fell off Forum September 2017

Historically worked on skills including: bouldering, unicycling, jugging while unicycling, gymnastics, bodyweight workouts, pull-ups, karate (GKR), poi, and staff spinning. 

Currently Playing: Witcher 3, but I’m early game so not familiar with aspects to name this challenge after…

Quest Game for January:“Darksiders II” – using my favourite quotes as sections ^^

 

Absolving War’s Crime - Relationships

"My brother, War, stands falsely accused of unleashing Armageddon upon the human race. His fate concerns me. Yours.. does not."

Goals: Read ‘Codependent No More’ weekly. (1)

Complete a CNM chapter journal prompt weekly. (1)

Listen to ‘We Can Do Hard Things’ podcast weekly (1)

Stick to boundaries (& set new ones as needed) while living with my ex. (7)

/10

Trainer’s New Moves - Strength Building

“To bring humanity back from existence? Madness.”

Goals: Daily Movement = 10 squats + press ups / plank for 1min (combined sides) / yoga / staff practise / walk / dance (7 points)

One main workout a week. (1 points)

/8

 

Possessed Weapons - Healthy Attributes
"How many times would you have me kill him!?"

Goals: Eat 5 fruit/veggies 3x a week. (3 points)

Intermittent Fast 15 hours. (7 points)

/10
 

Combo Moves - Write Weekly
"And what is your use, as a door-stop?"

Goals: Write weekly (1 point)

/1

 

Despair & Dust - Family & Home
“This is no place for a horse.”
Goals: Move items out of shared space / declutter to move (1)

/1

 

Total XP: /30 per week

[Nina-Rose]

Week 0, Day 1:

 

Absolving War’s Crime - 2/10

-Read CNM (0/1)

-Complete prompt (1/1)

-Listen to ‘WCDHT (0/1)

-Stick to boundaries (& set new ones as needed) while living with my ex. (1/7)

Trainer’s New Moves - Strength Building - 1/8

Daily Movement (1/7)

Workout (0/1)

 

Possessed Weapons - Healthy Attributes - 1/10
Eat 5 fruit/veggies x3 (0/3)

Intermittent Fast 15 hours. (1/7)

 

Combo Moves - Write Weekly - 0/1
Write (0/1)

 

Despair & Dust - Family & Home - 1/1
Move items out of shared space (1/1)

 

Total XP: 5/30

[Alanna]

Welcome back - looks like a great plan for respawning!

 

Boundaries are so important in relationships - if you learn any great boundary-setting tips from your reading and don't mind sharing, I'd be interested to hear them

[Kishi]

Neat, another karate-ka! I hope the journey serves you well.

[Pyralis]

pretty cool how you worded your challenge. Living with the ex sounds hard. Good luck with meeting your goals and welcome back!

[Nina-Rose]

14 hours ago, Alanna said:

Welcome back - looks like a great plan for respawning!

 

Boundaries are so important in relationships - if you learn any great boundary-setting tips from your reading and don't mind sharing, I'd be interested to hear them

 

Thanks. This is less about general boundary-setting and more about undoing 7 years of my self-esteem being squashed and feeling I am responsible for his wellbeing and ensuring his needs are met while mine are not.

 

10 hours ago, Kishi said:

Neat, another karate-ka! I hope the journey serves you well.

I haven't done karate in years but I would love to get back to it - once I've got a basic level of fitness to not collapse in line with the other green belts  

1 hour ago, Pyralis said:

pretty cool how you worded your challenge. Living with the ex sounds hard. Good luck with meeting your goals and welcome back!

 

Thank you - it's the format I used in 2017 and I found it had the right level of story/game and my specific goals, so fingers crossed. 

[Kishi]

4 hours ago, Nina-Rose said:

I haven't done karate in years but I would love to get back to it - once I've got a basic level of fitness to not collapse in line with the other green belts  

 

Oh, cool! Well, if you want any tips or tricks or pointers about that kind of thing, feel free to ping me as a resource. I don't have a particularly traditional background, but I know a thing or two and I'm happy to help.

[Nina-Rose]

Week 0, Day 2:

 

Had a crying heart-to-heart with the ex who still thinks I'm going to come back to him. Felt I stuck to my convictions more than I have previously. Counting some stretches and push ups as movement, and did not eat healthily, but I feel okay about that. Emotionally hard days can be physically lighter, IMO.  
I'm reading the last scene I edited on my fiction work in progress and have added a few words before planning the next scene's edits  

 

Absolving War’s Crime - 3/10

-Read CNM (0/1)

-Complete prompt (1/1)

-Listen to ‘WCDHT (0/1)

-Stick to boundaries (& set new ones as needed) while living with my ex. (2/7)

Trainer’s New Moves - Strength Building - 2/8

Daily Movement (2/7)

Workout (0/1)

 

Possessed Weapons - Healthy Attributes - 2/10
Eat 5 fruit/veggies x3 (0/3)

Intermittent Fast 15 hours. (2/7)

 

Combo Moves - Write Weekly - 1/1
Write (1/1)

 

Despair & Dust - Family & Home - 1/1
Move items out of shared space (1/1)

 

Total XP: 9/30

[Nina-Rose]

Week 0, Day 3

 

Absolving War’s Crime - 4/10

-Read CNM (0/1)

-Complete prompt (1/1)

-Listen to ‘WCDHT (0/1)

-Stick to boundaries (& set new ones as needed) while living with my ex. (3/7)

Trainer’s New Moves - Strength Building - 3/8

Daily Movement (3/7)

Workout (0/1)

 

Possessed Weapons - Healthy Attributes - 4/10
Eat 5 fruit/veggies x3 (1/3)

Intermittent Fast 15 hours. (3/7)

 

Combo Moves - Write Weekly - 1/1
Write (1/1)

 

Despair & Dust - Family & Home - 1/1
Move items out of shared space (1/1)

 

Total XP: 13/30

[Nina-Rose]

Week 0, Day 4

 

Took ex to lunch for his birthday, and he put his arm around my waist as we waited for our table and I froze the hell up and said nothing. Trying to be kind to myself and unpack that after 15 years together. Adding up the vegetables though, I hit my 5-a-day.  

 

Absolving War’s Crime - 5/10

-Read CNM (0/1)

-Complete prompt (1/1)

-Listen to ‘WCDHT (1/1)

-Stick to boundaries (& set new ones as needed) while living with my ex. (3/7)

Trainer’s New Moves - Strength Building - 4/8

-Daily Movement (4/7)

-Workout (0/1)

 

Possessed Weapons - Healthy Attributes - 6/10
-Eat 5 fruit/veggies x3 (2/3)

-Intermittent Fast 15 hours. (4/7)

 

Combo Moves - Write Weekly - 1/1
-Write (1/1)

 

Despair & Dust - Family & Home - 1/1
-Move items out of shared space (1/1)

 

Total XP: 17/30

[Nina-Rose]

Week 0, Day 7

 

Trying to remember the last 3 days - I hit my 5-a-day and I've read chapter 9 of Codependent No More. I think I might miss my workout goal which feels both 'fine' and disappointing. 

In my head, I felt 25/30 was acceptable and yet I end this week with 24... Not sure how to really think about that. 

 

Absolving War’s Crime - 8/10

-Read CNM (1/1)

-Complete prompt (1/1)

-Listen to ‘WCDHT (1/1)

-Stick to boundaries (& set new ones as needed) while living with my ex. (5/7)

Trainer’s New Moves - Strength Building - 5/8

-Daily Movement (5/7)

-Workout (0/1)

 

Possessed Weapons - Healthy Attributes - 9/10
-Eat 5 fruit/veggies x3 (3/3)

-Intermittent Fast 15 hours. (6/7)

 

Combo Moves - Write Weekly - 1/1
-Write (1/1)

 

Despair & Dust - Family & Home - 1/1
-Move items out of shared space (1/1)

 

Total XP: 24/30

[Alanna]

4 hours ago, Nina-Rose said:

Trying to remember the last 3 days - I hit my 5-a-day and I've read chapter 9 of Codependent No More. I think I might miss my workout goal which feels both 'fine' and disappointing. 

In my head, I felt 25/30 was acceptable and yet I end this week with 24... Not sure how to really think about that. 

 

I would say 24/30 is a great Zero Week and you're setting yourself up for a great challenge! 

[Kishi]

On 1/22/2022 at 10:25 AM, Nina-Rose said:

Trying to remember the last 3 days - I hit my 5-a-day and I've read chapter 9 of Codependent No More. I think I might miss my workout goal which feels both 'fine' and disappointing. 

In my head, I felt 25/30 was acceptable and yet I end this week with 24... Not sure how to really think about that. 

 

Sometimes, workout goals are like that. Your body will still react to what workouts have been done, and if you're getting rest signals, that's a sign that your body's trying to adapt. It may be wiser to honor it for now so you can train harder later, and if it becomes a consistent issue, then you may have hit a limit of some kind and you could tweak the goals to reflect that until that limit adjusts.

[Nina-Rose]

Week 1, Day 1:

Week Zero was a good baseline, but I reviewed my progress and recognised some issues with how ticking a task off once meant I didn’t have any motivation to do more, despite wanting to encourage recurrent action. Had roast dinner today so hit my 5 fruit/veggies goal.

So here’s the slightly tweaked word and declutter tasks xD

Absolving War’s Crime - 1/10

-Read CNM (0/1)

-Complete prompt (0/1)

-Listen to ‘WCDHT (0/1)

-Stick to boundaries (& set new ones as needed) while living with my ex. (1/7)

Trainer’s New Moves - Strength Building - 1/8

Daily Movement (1/7)

Workout (0/1)

 

Possessed Weapons - Healthy Attributes - 2/10
Eat 5 fruit/veggies x3 (1/3)

Intermittent Fast for 15 hours. (1/7)

 

Combo Moves - Write Weekly - 0/1
Write at least 350 words (0/1)

 

Despair & Dust - Family & Home - 0/1
Move 15 items out of shared space (0/1)

 

Total XP: 4/30

[Nina-Rose]

 

Week 1, Day 3:

 

 

 

Absolving War’s Crime - 2/10

-Read CNM (0/1)

-Complete prompt (0/1)

-Listen to ‘WCDHT (0/1)

-Stick to boundaries (& set new ones as needed) while living with my ex. (2/7)

Trainer’s New Moves - Strength Building - 2/8

Daily Movement (2/7)

Workout (0/1)

 

Possessed Weapons - Healthy Attributes - 4/10
Eat 5 fruit/veggies x3 (2/3)

Intermittent Fast for 15 hours. (2/7)

 

Combo Moves - Write Weekly - 0/1
Write at least 350 words (28/350)

 

Despair & Dust - Family & Home - 0/1
Move 15 items out of shared space (0/1)

 

Total XP: 8/30

[Nina-Rose]

Week 1, Day 6:

I’m tired. I’m struggling with my mental health.

It’s Friday. The new Pokemon game comes out today. I met my 5-a-day yesterday and did my daily movement of some squats while I brushed my teeth.  I’m very behind on my tasks, but tomorrow I may manage to bump a couple of those single-use tasks up to completed 😃

 

Absolving War’s Crime - 6/10

-Read CNM (0/1)

-Complete prompt (1/1)

-Listen to ‘WCDHT (0/1)

-Stick to boundaries (& set new ones as needed) while living with my ex. (5/7)

Trainer’s New Moves - Strength Building - 3/8

Daily Movement (3/7)

Workout (0/1)

 

Possessed Weapons - Healthy Attributes - 8/10
Eat 5 fruit/veggies x3 (3/3)

Intermittent Fast for 15 hours. (5/7)

 

Combo Moves - Write Weekly - 0/1
Write at least 350 words (28/350)

 

Despair & Dust - Family & Home - 0/1
Move 15 items out of shared space (0/1)

 

Total XP: 17/30

 

[Alanna]

31 minutes ago, Nina-Rose said:

I’m tired. I’m struggling with my mental health.

 

 

Hope you can get a chance to rest and recover. You're doing great with your goals! 

[Nina-Rose]

I forgot there's a week between these 5 week challenges so i made some goals on FEB 6th. This is my trial I guess.

 

So, I did a couple of things this week for the last challenge but I can’t be bothered to make sense of it all now. I learned I need a very clear numeric goal for my words to actually make the level of progress I want in my fiction, and I need to expect less of myself at the moment.

 

Foundational Health

-Avoid unhealthy food choices (sweets/chocolate) for a whole day (1).

-Eat 5 fruit/veggies at least 2 days. (2)

-Intermittent Fast 15 hours. (7)

 

Strength Building

-Daily Movement / Stretching / Yoga (7)

 

Scholarly Tasks

-Read ‘Codependent No More’ (2)

-Complete a CNM chapter journal prompt (2)

-Attend my GUGY coaching call (2)

-Complete the GUGY journal prompt (1)

-Write fiction (350 words / 2)

-Write nonfiction article (2)

-Listen to ‘We Can Do Hard Things’ podcast weekly (2)

 

Total XP: /30 per week

 

And as it's Feb 9th now, I can confirm the following stats so far:

 

-Avoid unhealthy food choices (sweets/chocolate) for a whole day (1/1).

-Eat 5 fruit/veggies at least 2 days. (1/2)

-Intermittent Fast 15 hours. (2/7)

-Daily Movement / Stretching / Yoga (2/7)

-Complete a CNM chapter journal prompt (1/2)

-Attend my GUGY coaching call (1/2)

-Listen to ‘We Can Do Hard Things’ podcast weekly (1/2)

 

Which puts me at 9/30 XP so far  

[Kishi]

Hey, as strange or back-handed as it might sound, I'm all about lowering expectations. Life, in my observation, isn't really about any one thing, and a bunch of very little changes can have pretty profound impacts, particularly if carried out over a long enough period of time. That's basically the kind of habit/life change we try to encourage around here, I think. Maybe.

 

Anyway, looks like the challenge wrapped up well! Thanks for joining us this round.  I'm purposefully avoiding the next challenge thread while I catch up on things back here, so, hope to see you next time!

[Nina-Rose]

Ending my Trial week before the next challenge with some more information.

 

Foundational Health

-Avoid unhealthy food choices (sweets/chocolate) for a whole day (1/1).

-Eat 5 fruit/veggies at least 2 days. (2/2)

-Intermittent Fast 15 hours. (3/7)

 

Strength Building

-Daily Movement / Stretching / Yoga (4/7)

 

Scholarly Tasks

-Read ‘Codependent No More’ (0/2)

-Complete a CNM chapter journal prompt (1/2)

-Attend my GUGY coaching call (2/2)

-Complete the GUGY journal prompt (1/1)

-Write fiction (350 words 2 / 2)

-Write nonfiction article (2/2)

-Listen to ‘We Can Do Hard Things’ podcast weekly (2/2)

 

Total XP: 20/30

 

Which tells me I need to recommit to food and movement, and not expect too many self-development items (which I will prioritise over exercise, which is interesting).

I did walk 8,800 steps on Tuesday on a team day at work, and did an extra walk on Friday in my lunch break, which brought my total for the week to 20,560... Not great but the week before I only managed 11,000 so it's an improvement.