[RES]

 

Some may say I need to be committed, I say if it includes my own padded room that doesn't sound so bad!

I have reached challenge number 70...not all of these challenges went the way I planned, not all of these challenges resulted in me leveling up, All of those challenges have resulted in learning something, even if it's what doesn't work for me.

I'm a pretty typical type A, I prefer to do things myself, have a difficult time asking for help and sharing my feelings...the older I get the more I realize this is not always healthy.

 

I work from home, so making sure I have enough movement in my day as well as not eating "all the unhealthy things" is important. 

Checking in to hold myself accountable is key to this being successful, I don't want to have to post bad news here.

I struggle to get enough sleep so that shall remain on the list until it's no longer a struggle.

I've been a workaholic as long as I can remember, mostly because of past experience and not wanting to have to count on anyone for things I need.  D (my wife for those new here) and I have had many conversations about this. She understands my feelings because she's the same way, but we also know the importance to our relationship for us to be able to depend and count on each other. This is a very long winded way of saying that we need to remember to step away from work and have some fun, riding our motorcycles are a huge part of this for us  for right now our every 4 week trips to FL also count towards this.

 

The Plan...

Cardio - 8,000 steps a day (includes 30 min on treadmill), and one kettlebell workout a week

Update - Post in thread three times a week.

Track - Sleep (7 hours a night) and  Food (deficit per tracker)

Extra - Rides, 5k's, events, and life events go here

Done - 🌈

Not Done - ❄️

 

I have a Terrain Race planned in May that I do not want to embarrass myself at, I'd also like to get rid of the 35 lbs. that I put on since the last race I did in Feb 2020.

[Tanktimus the Encourager]

24 minutes ago, RES said:

I prefer to do things myself, have a difficult time asking for help

Totally not me at all, nope, I never do this, not a thing I struggle with at all, I specifically do not need to get better at this.

[RES]

49 minutes ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

Totally not me at all, nope, I never do this, not a thing I struggle with at all, I specifically do not need to get better at this.

And this is why we connect so well  

[fleaball]

[DaemonCorax]

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[Shello]

I'm amazed you can get 8000 steps and work from home.  Following! 

[RES]

18 hours ago, fleaball said:

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5 hours ago, DaemonCorax said:

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Welcome, feel free to emerge from the shadows if you want

3 hours ago, Shello said:

I'm amazed you can get 8000 steps and work from home.  Following! 

It's a goal, I get between 5000-6000 currently. I just need a few more trips away from the computer. Should be easier when it warms up some!

 

I have an interview for a remote, financial accounting, contractor position tomorrow, this would work well with what I already do...I've been a customer of theirs for a while so that would be pretty cool as well! 

 

[Mistr]

I hope your interview goes well!

 

Are you going to Florida once a month for fun, or do you still have loose ends to wrap up there?

[Shello]

Good luck! 

[RES]

4 hours ago, Mistr said:

I hope your interview goes well!

 

Are you going to Florida once a month for fun, or do you still have loose ends to wrap up there?

Thank you, it was postponed until Thursday, the CEO had a medical emergency (funny story, when I texted D about it my speech to text said magical emergency, my day was made!)

I'm not too upset about it though, last night I was running a fever and was experiencing UTI type pain, took some Azo and drank a ton of water, fever broke some time last night and the pain has subsided, but I'm wiped out today...and missed my workout  not that I had to, just thought it was the wiser choice given the last 24 hours.

Florida once a month is because my mother in law is still there, and because I'm very fond of the lady who does my waxing, and the one who does my nails...and I don't really want to change that (nor do I have to yet) so we go back for those things.

If we didn't, the mama's would probably want to move up here, and they would have to stay with us for a while, and I'm not ready to deal with all that nonsense...they have their friends and events there and I'm more than happy to let them stay. We're talking about purchasing a trailer/manufactured home in a 55+ community for them, and then when we're ready to retire we'll have some place to come back to.

[DarK_RaideR]

On 2/7/2022 at 7:19 AM, fleaball said:

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[RES]

44 minutes ago, DarK_RaideR said:

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Hiding is unnecessary but feel free to if needed  

 

Interview went really well, she want's to schedule a second one with her co-founder...if it works out this will go a long way towards the debt free goal

[RES]

So my second interview is Thursday  

Taking D out of town this weekend for a concert, her favorite group...on the day we met 12 years ago

 

The Plan...Week 0

Cardio - 8,000 steps a day ❄️❄️❄️❄️❄️❄️❄️ 3 treadmill, one kettlebell workout a week ❄️🌈🌈🌈

Update - Post in thread three times a week - 🌈🌈🌈

Track - Sleep (7 hours a night) 🌈❄️❄️❄️❄️❄️🌈 Food (deficit per tracker) 🌈🌈❄️🌈🌈🌈🌈

Extra - Rides, 5k's, events, and life events go here - Imagine Dragons concert tonight!

 

Goals are really a mixed bag this week...warmer weather would help. Not sure what's up with my sleep, seems like I keep waking up in the middle of the night and that doesn't help matters, but I'm getting to bed and waking up on time 😕 

[RES]

So the week was going fairly decent...until I got a call no mother wants to get from her child last night from my oldest.

Backstory for those that are new here. I have three boys (and a granddaughter) that I love with all my heart, there is nothing any of them could do to change that...even if they killed someone I would still be there...visiting them in prison and putting money on their books, but you see my point. 

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My younger two I don't worry about, they make good decisions overall, have a good start on great careers, and take care of themselves rather well...my oldest, well, doesn't always make the best choices in life, dropped out his senior year, is a roadside peddler like his father, his wife also dropped out her sophomore year, with  no plans of doing much in life...they are the ones that have my perfect grandchild. My oldest is also been struggling with a drinking problem for a while, his father drinks daily, my father was a binge drinker, my son is the best of both of these...

He and his wife have been having some issues that he is not dealing with well at all, she's staying with her family (and unfortunately listening to them, but that's another matter) my son has been doing everything he can think of to try and 'fix' things...hard to fix it when you don't know everything that's wrong....they went out on V day, had a good time and he was in good spirits when he called me to let me know how it went....then he got in his head and decided to go out drinking...when he'd already had a few more than he should have. 

Long story short, friend of his was there, they got to talking, bartender cut him off, everyone told him to not drive, he insisted...took out a couple road signs on the way home, spent the night in the drunk tank....he's so lucky he didn't hurt anyone but himself.

He claims he's going to quit drinking for good, he knows he's not the type that can "slow down" I hope this is the wakeup call he needs to get his life together. I just hate that it took this for him to realize how bad it was.

 

[DaemonCorax]

Aww honey.  I know how hard that is to watch. Good luck to him turning a corner this time.

[Shello]

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So sorry to hear that.  It's so difficult when our kids need help but we aren't the ones that can help them; they have to do it themselves.  Sending positive vibes your way.  

 

[Mistr]

I hope your second interview went well!

 

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I'm so sorry that your oldest is struggling with drinking and making bad choices. That is painful to watch.

 

Maybe the accident will shake him out of his pattern. Sadly, I would not bet that way. My dad ended up in the hospital several times and never really admitted he had a problem. It might help to discuss what kind of dad he wants to be and what kind of life he wants for your grandchild. Having a motivation for someone he cares about might work better than simple self-interest.

 

[DarK_RaideR]

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Ain't a professional or the one to give any parenting advice, but afaik:

1) Addiction is a disease and should be treated as such, it's nothing to be judgemental about and most of the times not something that can be severed (and stay that way) without professional help because

2) Addiction usually grows on some other psychological background thing. Locating and treating that is the key to breaking free

Good luck to him and you, he sounds like a pretty headstrong one and the rest of the environment (father, wife's family etc) has him playing on hard mode.

 

P.S. I'm always available if you wanna reach out

 

[RES]

On 2/16/2022 at 5:28 PM, DaemonCorax said:

Aww honey.  I know how hard that is to watch. Good luck to him turning a corner this time.

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On 2/17/2022 at 1:46 PM, Shello said:

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So sorry to hear that.  It's so difficult when our kids need help but we aren't the ones that can help them; they have to do it themselves.  Sending positive vibes your way.  

 

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I'm so sorry that your oldest is struggling with drinking and making bad choices. That is painful to watch.

 

Maybe the accident will shake him out of his pattern. Sadly, I would not bet that way. My dad ended up in the hospital several times and never really admitted he had a problem. It might help to discuss what kind of dad he wants to be and what kind of life he wants for your grandchild. Having a motivation for someone he cares about might work better than simple self-interest.

 

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11 hours ago, DarK_RaideR said:

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Ain't a professional or the one to give any parenting advice, but afaik:

1) Addiction is a disease and should be treated as such, it's nothing to be judgemental about and most of the times not something that can be severed (and stay that way) without professional help because

2) Addiction usually grows on some other psychological background thing. Locating and treating that is the key to breaking free

Good luck to him and you, he sounds like a pretty headstrong one and the rest of the environment (father, wife's family etc) has him playing on hard mode.

 

P.S. I'm always available if you wanna reach out

 

= thank you all, I do  know it's nothing I can do for him except be supportive...DR, you're right on both points, and headstrong is an understatement (wonder where he got that from 🤔) a lot of his hard mode is due to choices he made for himself, because he was grown and knew it all, and no one could tell him any differently...I honestly believe his biggest battle is he wants to be just like his father, not that it's 100% bad if he is, fortunately he was too young to remember the parts that if he emulates I will personally turn him in. 

What he does have going for him is he wants to quit, he realizes that a lot of their issues come from that...he realizes if he quits that it will mean a lot of other items will work themselves out (like money to get their own place) because of the amount he spends on beer (that really is all he drinks, and just buying from the store he puts away around $150 a week) he also realizes that he does have a problem, that alone is over half the battle.

17 hours ago, Mistr said:

I hope your second interview went well!

It went SO GOOD! I likely won't know anything for another week or so, but I have a very good feeling about this  If I do end up getting it I think I'll be set as far as work related items go, two contracting and one full time with benefits is plenty, need to leave time to have some fun!

 

D comes home tonight after being out of town all week for her job...hopefully the weather holds and we can get a short ride in on Sunday!

 

[RES]

What a week...so glad my wife is home, taking the 'no news is good news' approach regarding my oldest, got to talk to my bestie last night...and aforementioned wife cooked breakfast this morning and it was amazing!

Finally got sleep last night with no alarm clock to wake me up this morning, which was very much needed.

 

The Plan...Week 1

Cardio - 8,000 steps a day ❄️❄️❄️❄️❄️❄️❄️ 3 treadmill, one kettlebell workout a week 🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈

Update - Post in thread three times a week - 🌈🌈🌈

Track - Sleep (7 hours a night) ❄️🌈❄️❄️❄️❄️🌈 Food (deficit per tracker) ❄️🌈❄️❄️🌈❄️🌈

Extra - Going to the pool store today to see about getting the items to get our pool up and running when it warms up, also going to the hardware store (Lowe's) to see about getting some doors to install on the dinning room, we want to convert that into my office and convert the office/workout room into just a workout room.

 

Food has been up and down, my biggest challenge is planning the day but being hungrier than expected so I eat what's easy and end up going over 😐 I have next weeks menu planned already and am trying to be more realistic about how I'm actually eating, as well as planning more protein to keep me full longer. 

 

[Jean]

On 2/12/2022 at 5:09 PM, RES said:

Not sure what's up with my sleep, seems like I keep waking up in the middle of the night and that doesn't help matters

 

Stress does that to me. I can't remember the time when I didn't wake up by 3 am, then roughly every 30 minutes to 1.5 hours afterwards, never needing an alarm to wake up on time. My choice has been to turn it into a friend and deal with it but maybe there's still hope for you.

[RES]

On 2/20/2022 at 8:07 AM, Jean said:

 

Stress does that to me. I can't remember the time when I didn't wake up by 3 am, then roughly every 30 minutes to 1.5 hours afterwards, never needing an alarm to wake up on time. My choice has been to turn it into a friend and deal with it but maybe there's still hope for you.

It's just tough that I was doing so well, and now I'm back to square one. I think it might be hormonal, they changed my script and ever since I keep waking up during the night  they're doing testing to fix that...getting older is not for the faint of heart for sure.

 

The position has asked for references...and said they would speak to me next week  

Heard from my oldest, he sounds good...working and working on getting the truck fixed. Said things have improved on the relationship side of things as well which I know he was very worried about. 

Plan seems to be working, I went down according to the scale this week.

[RES]

SUCH a beautiful day here today...got the pool fixed and getting it ready to go for when it's really warmer weather for longer than a day. I really wanted to go for a ride but adulting (aka work) had to be done....soon though!

 

[Mistr]

I am envious of your pool and your nice weather. I was out shoveling at lunchtime in what counts as nice weather here in late February. The sun was out and melting the remaining snow on the driveway.  

[RES]

On 2/25/2022 at 5:14 PM, Mistr said:

I am envious of your pool and your nice weather. I was out shoveling at lunchtime in what counts as nice weather here in late February. The sun was out and melting the remaining snow on the driveway.  

I hate that it's colder here than I'm used to, very happy that I don't have to deal with a lot of that nonsense that requires shoveling