[sarakingdom]

2 hours ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

What about second flowy kilt?

 

I practice intuitive pleating.

[Tanktimus the Encourager]

3 hours ago, Sovalis said:

That is a big win, Tank. Good job. 

Thank you.

2 hours ago, Shello said:

Thank you.

1 hour ago, Wild Wolf said:

 

Sounds like you need these: 

 

Obsidian Wrist Wraps of the Master Assassin

 

Type: Legendary Wrist Wraps

 

*I'm glad you still decided to go and at least attempt to workout. Getting to the gym is half the battle.*

 

Wolf

I seriously considered getting a wrist brace today. 

1 hour ago, sarakingdom said:

 

I practice intuitive pleating.

This is wise.

 

Took some naproxen after I got home from the gym and lunch, it's helped. I just got grocery shopping done.

[shaar]

Glad the meds helped! I also liked your description of “pleasantly rainy”, I love a pleasant and rainy day.

[Tanktimus the Encourager]

2 hours ago, shaar said:

Glad the meds helped! I also liked your description of “pleasantly rainy”, I love a pleasant and rainy day.

It was a slow gentle rain, and I loved it.

 

 

We went out for dinner. I did not have the spoons for cooking. 

[darkfoxx]

Mmmmmm. Tank recipes. I’m in a slump - this should totally help 😄

[Wild Wolf]

15 hours ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

I seriously considered getting a wrist brace today. 

 

It may not be a bad idea to have one in your back pocket just in case.

 

12 hours ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

We went out for dinner. I did not have the spoons for cooking. 

 

Where'd ya go? Sometimes this is easiest (and best) option. But, never the cheapest. 

 

Wolf

[Tanktimus the Encourager]

16 hours ago, darkfoxx said:

Mmmmmm. Tank recipes. I’m in a slump - this should totally help 😄

Hopefully I'll have some good ones again soon.

14 hours ago, Wild Wolf said:

 

It may not be a bad idea to have one in your back pocket just in case.

 

 

Where'd ya go? Sometimes this is easiest (and best) option. But, never the cheapest. 

 

Wolf

We went to Bush's Chicken.

 

Today is a good day. The wrist and the knee seem ok, even after walking around all day. That is encouraging. I cooked tonight. I cooked some Italian sausage, and some cheese tortellini, then added some vodka sauce and topped it with Parmesan. We had a salad kit on the side. After that we went to my InLaws for MIL's birthday. We got her some cake and I had a tiny bit. My first sweets since Christmas, and incidentally the first time I had seen her since then. Her face has changed, she looks like someone suffering from Dementia. She still recognized everyone, but the changes are visible. It was sad. The hospice has come on board and her visits have begun. She'll get a once a week chaplain visit, once a week social worker, once a week RN, and once a week home health helper. My FiL is much happier to have the help. 

[Elastigirl]

Glad your FIL was able to get some support people for you mil.

[Rhovaniel]

8 hours ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

Today is a good day. The wrist and the knee seem ok, even after walking around all day. That is encouraging. I cooked tonight. I cooked some Italian sausage, and some cheese tortellini, then added some vodka sauce and topped it with Parmesan. We had a salad kit on the side. After that we went to my InLaws for MIL's birthday. We got her some cake and I had a tiny bit. My first sweets since Christmas, and incidentally the first time I had seen her since then. Her face has changed, she looks like someone suffering from Dementia. She still recognized everyone, but the changes are visible. It was sad. The hospice has come on board and her visits have begun. She'll get a once a week chaplain visit, once a week social worker, once a week RN, and once a week home health helper. My FiL is much happier to have the help. 

Really glad your in laws can get the help they need, Tank. Dinner sounds like it was incredible  

[Sepherina]

9 hours ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

Hopefully I'll have some good ones again soon.

We went to Bush's Chicken.

 

Today is a good day. The wrist and the knee seem ok, even after walking around all day. That is encouraging. I cooked tonight. I cooked some Italian sausage, and some cheese tortellini, then added some vodka sauce and topped it with Parmesan. We had a salad kit on the side. After that we went to my InLaws for MIL's birthday. We got her some cake and I had a tiny bit. My first sweets since Christmas, and incidentally the first time I had seen her since then. Her face has changed, she looks like someone suffering from Dementia. She still recognized everyone, but the changes are visible. It was sad. The hospice has come on board and her visits have begun. She'll get a once a week chaplain visit, once a week social worker, once a week RN, and once a week home health helper. My FiL is much happier to have the help. 

Sending lots of hugs and prayers.  We just went through this with my FIL.  Dementia in any form is horrible and exhausting.  Having help for those doing the caregiving is a god send.

[shaar]

I'm glad she has hospice care. ❤️ I hope everything goes as smoothly as it can, that is very hard.

[Tanktimus the Encourager]

9 hours ago, Elastigirl said:

Glad your FIL was able to get some support people for you mil.

So is he, believe me  

1 hour ago, Rhovaniel said:

Really glad your in laws can get the help they need, Tank. Dinner sounds like it was incredible  

It was good, but I think I would have preferred a different sauce.

30 minutes ago, Sepherina said:

Sending lots of hugs and prayers.  We just went through this with my FIL.  Dementia in any form is horrible and exhausting.  Having help for those doing the caregiving is a god send.

It is. We don't know what the future holds but we have all started the grieving process.

23 minutes ago, shaar said:

I'm glad she has hospice care. ❤️ I hope everything goes as smoothly as it can, that is very hard.

It is hard, thanks.

 

Some thoughts. Little Bit is probably the only one who hasn't started the grieving process, because all she knows is "Grandma is confused." We haven't hid the situation from her, we've explained it in ways she understands. She has accepted the situation as she understands it. She has also experienced the death of a family member when my Grandfather died last summer. She liked him, but wasn't super close, so she was able to learn about death in a non-traumatic way. She asked questions about it like kids do, so at least she knows death is A Thing. Also, the last time she was with my parents, they went to his gravesite at the cemetery and planted flowers (planting season starts early down here). She also looked around at other gravestones as there is other family there and my parents pointed them out. I thought at the time and still think that was a good thing, as it's a non-scary way for her to have normalized that people die, and cemeteries don't have to be scary. It will be hard for her when the Dementia gets her grandmother in the end, but not as hard as if she didn't have these other experiences.

[Ranger Hal]

5 hours ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

Also, the last time she was with my parents, they went to his gravesite at the cemetery and planted flowers (planting season starts early down here). She also looked around at other gravestones as there is other family there and my parents pointed them out. I thought at the time and still think that was a good thing, as it's a non-scary way for her to have normalized that people die, and cemeteries don't have to be scary.

This brought back memories of visiting the cemetery with my great grandma. I didn't know any of the family buried there, but she and my mom did, and I think we would go most years to leave flowers. It was our (the kids) job to get water for the flowers from the nearby stream in the metal bucket we brought. They were good times. Solemn, but good. I should visit again sometime (it's a few hours away).

[KB Girl]

6 hours ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

We haven't hid the situation from her, we've explained it in ways she understands.

That’s very well done. She probably picks up more than you think anyway, she must sense some of your grief. 
When my grandfather died Emma brought him up all the time, I think it was processing what happened, but she also was very interested in my reaction to her bringing it up. 
 

16 hours ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

My first sweets since Christmas

This is very impressive!

[Shello]

7 hours ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

Some thoughts. Little Bit is probably the only one who hasn't started the grieving process, because all she knows is "Grandma is confused." We haven't hid the situation from her, we've explained it in ways she understands. She has accepted the situation as she understands it. She has also experienced the death of a family member when my Grandfather died last summer. She liked him, but wasn't super close, so she was able to learn about death in a non-traumatic way. She asked questions about it like kids do, so at least she knows death is A Thing. Also, the last time she was with my parents, they went to his gravesite at the cemetery and planted flowers (planting season starts early down here). She also looked around at other gravestones as there is other family there and my parents pointed them out. I thought at the time and still think that was a good thing, as it's a non-scary way for her to have normalized that people die, and cemeteries don't have to be scary. It will be hard for her when the Dementia gets her grandmother in the end, but not as hard as if she didn't have these other experiences.

This sounds very healthy.  I didn't really have any experiences with death until I was mid to early teens.  The first wasn't too traumatic for me (we weren't close) but I could pick up on the trauma for others.  My grandfather, whom I was very close to, was my next experience.  I still feel the trauma now and have lots of unresolved grief.    In my experiences as an adult I've come to understand death as A Part of Life and completely normal.  It's still not easy but less traumatic I suppose.  I hope Little Bit is able to take something away from this that helps her in life.  And I'm very sorry about MIL and family.  There is no easy way through it.  

[Scaly Freak]

11 hours ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

She liked him, but wasn't super close, so she was able to learn about death in a non-traumatic way. She asked questions about it like kids do, so at least she knows death is A Thing. Also, the last time she was with my parents, they went to his gravesite at the cemetery and planted flowers (planting season starts early down here). She also looked around at other gravestones as there is other family there and my parents pointed them out. I thought at the time and still think that was a good thing, as it's a non-scary way for her to have normalized that people die, and cemeteries don't have to be scary. 

 

This is far too rare, and in a way very fortunate both for Little Bit, and for you. Because now you don't have to worry about trying to explain death to her while you are dealing with your own grief, and that makes a difference.

[SkyGirl]

Hey friend - following, and also sending hugs and prayers. Dementia absolutely sucks and I wish you didn't have to walk this path.  ❤️  You guys are doing so great with Little Bit and I know she'll be okay. And I know you'll take care of yourselves and each other, too.

[Tanktimus the Encourager]

7 hours ago, Ranger Hal said:

This brought back memories of visiting the cemetery with my great grandma. I didn't know any of the family buried there, but she and my mom did, and I think we would go most years to leave flowers. It was our (the kids) job to get water for the flowers from the nearby stream in the metal bucket we brought. They were good times. Solemn, but good. I should visit again sometime (it's a few hours away).

I'm glad you got that experience. 

6 hours ago, KB Girl said:

That’s very well done. She probably picks up more than you think anyway, she must sense some of your grief. 
When my grandfather died Emma brought him up all the time, I think it was processing what happened, but she also was very interested in my reaction to her bringing it up. 
 

This is very impressive!

She picks up a lot, for sure. Thanks for the compliment.

4 hours ago, Shello said:

This sounds very healthy.  I didn't really have any experiences with death until I was mid to early teens.  The first wasn't too traumatic for me (we weren't close) but I could pick up on the trauma for others.  My grandfather, whom I was very close to, was my next experience.  I still feel the trauma now and have lots of unresolved grief.    In my experiences as an adult I've come to understand death as A Part of Life and completely normal.  It's still not easy but less traumatic I suppose.  I hope Little Bit is able to take something away from this that helps her in life.  And I'm very sorry about MIL and family.  There is no easy way through it.  

Unresolved grief is hard. I hope you get a chance to process it.

1 hour ago, Scaly Freak said:

 

This is far too rare, and in a way very fortunate both for Little Bit, and for you. Because now you don't have to worry about trying to explain death to her while you are dealing with your own grief, and that makes a difference.

I agree, grief is hard for kids, it's harder when they don't even know what death is. 

33 minutes ago, SkyGirl said:

Hey friend - following, and also sending hugs and prayers. Dementia absolutely sucks and I wish you didn't have to walk this path.  ❤️  You guys are doing so great with Little Bit and I know she'll be okay. And I know you'll take care of yourselves and each other, too.

Thank you, we are taking care of ourselves.

 

Today is a good day. Tired again, but it's going to bed to late. Not a good habit, but at least it's not some mystery. Sra. Tanque talked to a counselor at school about what she's been going through, then talked about it again with some colleagues. It helped her she said. Dinner was good. I grilled some fajitas and cooked some onion and bell pepper in a cast iron skillet on the side burner. We had them with guac, sour cream, shredded cheese, and corn/flour hybrid tortillas.

[Snarkyfishguts]

 

 

I saw this online and thought of you! #teamwaffle 

[Chris-Tien Jinn]

On 3/23/2023 at 9:29 PM, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

The hospice has come on board

 

Good to have the support and help.  Hospice was such a huge help with  my mother.   *HUGS*

[Tanktimus the Encourager]

11 hours ago, Snarkyfishguts said:

 

 

I saw this online and thought of you! #teamwaffle 

Waffle Power!

6 hours ago, Chris-Tien Jinn said:

 

Good to have the support and help.  Hospice was such a huge help with  my mother.   *HUGS*

I'm glad too, thanks for the hugs.

 

Today is a good day. We are doing laundry. Little Bit was with my parents, so we went over in the afternoon and hung out. We took them out to dinner and headed home from there. It was a chill day otherwise. Little Bit was wore out from so much play, she fell asleep fast after we said goodnight.

[Tanktimus the Encourager]

Grandma Tank sewed a doll for Little Bit. Today Little Bit named the doll "Bleeding" short for Bleeding Doll. When asked how the doll got that name it's because "She has her period."

[Tanktimus the Encourager]

Today is a good day. Church was good. I made chicken saag for lunch. I cooked chopped chicken thighs with diced onions, chopped baby spinach, salt, pepper, and curry powder till the chicken was done, then added ginger paste and minced garlic. After that cooked a couple minutes I added coconut milk and let it simmer. I made some rice with coconut oil, salt, and turmeric to go with it. It was good.

[SkyGirl]

3 hours ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

Grandma Tank sewed a doll for Little Bit. Today Little Bit named the doll "Bleeding" short for Bleeding Doll. When asked how the doll got that name it's because "She has her period."

 

Dude, I am so thankful that Little Bit is going to grow up knowing periods are normal and something that's okay to talk about. This is huge.  ❤️ 

[Tanktimus the Encourager]

18 hours ago, SkyGirl said:

 

Dude, I am so thankful that Little Bit is going to grow up knowing periods are normal and something that's okay to talk about. This is huge.  ❤️ 

I'm glad too. I was in my 20s when I figured that out.

 

Gym report

Spoiler

Warmup ✔️ 

Squat

1 x 5 @ 45

1 x 5 @ 50

3 x 5 @ 95

I was aware of my knee but super focused on form and was able to so it all

Kettle bell Halo 35lb bell 8 each direction 

Dumbells

I decided I like dumbells better for OHP, I have to use more stabilizers to balance the weight

OHP 2 x 10 @ 35 (each arm

1 x 3 @ 40 

Rows 

1 x 8 each arm @ 35

At this point I had to answer the call of nature and made it but didn't feel confident to continue the workout.

No stretching for the same reason