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hi! I’m KB Girl, 35, homeschooling mom of two (6&3), dietician, gym owner, national kettlebell sport coach, wannabe athlete and amateur food grower. Life is really good and I feel very lucky! At the same time some things have been rough and I've been struggling. Last year I put myself on a waiting list to get some mental health support and after jumping through some hoops and completing some testing I finally had my first real appointment with a specialised therapist today. With that in mind I'd like to keep it easy this challenge and just appreciate all the support I've got. 

 

1. Don't go it alone

- meet with therapist every wednesday

- let Jaap know how I'm doing and ask for help with things or just for hugs

- let other people help when it's offered and if you're feeling really bold, actually ask for it

- don't drop out of the forums! x) 

 

2. All or something

- do a whole workout OR just pick two exercises and do a couple of sets

- clean and organise the whole house OR just pick two small things for the day

- tackle my entire to do list OR just do at least one thing

- mail/app inbox zero OR just pick one hard one to reply to everyday

- eat perfectly OR just make sure to get enough veggies

- be the best mom in the world OR just make sure to have one good moment with both kids

- be the best partner in the world OR just do one thing to make his life a little easier

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11 minutes ago, Elastigirl said:

Love your all of something plan!

8 minutes ago, sylph said:

Here for this ❤️

7 minutes ago, Everstorm said:

Seconding love for the all or something 

 

That was fast guys! Thank you for being here! ❤️ 

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2023 goals tracker; cycling: 1047,7/5000km & reading to my kids: 58/365 days (updated may 1st)

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4 hours ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

All or something is awesome. 

It’s much better than nothing. You did a good something today too! 
 

4 hours ago, sylph said:

We know how to find you :)

I’m glad :) 

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2023 goals tracker; cycling: 1047,7/5000km & reading to my kids: 58/365 days (updated may 1st)

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Today I did the therapy thing, I did deadlifts and ring rows, I vacuumed, I ate tomatoes and broccoli, I took the 3yo to a gym class, hugged the 6yo for a good long time, listened to Jaap talk about his day (is there a ‘being listened to’ love language? ‘Cause that would definitely be his) and I replied to an email. 
 

ETA: typing that out definitely made me feel better about the day, lovely magic.

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KB Quest: becoming a decent kettlebell lifter and an excellent coach

2023 goals tracker; cycling: 1047,7/5000km & reading to my kids: 58/365 days (updated may 1st)

my instagram - my gym's instagram

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6 hours ago, KB Girl said:

2. All or something

- do a whole workout OR just pick two exercises and do a couple of sets

- clean and organise the whole house OR just pick two small things for the day

- tackle my entire to do list OR just do at least one thing

- mail/app inbox zero OR just pick one hard one to reply to everyday

- eat perfectly OR just make sure to get enough veggies

- be the best mom in the world OR just make sure to have one good moment with both kids

- be the best partner in the world OR just do one thing to make his life a little easier

Oh my gosh, I love this soooo much. It fits perfectly with the mentality of "anything worth doing is worth doing poorly." 

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Nice plan!

 

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1 hour ago, KB Girl said:

is there a ‘being listened to’ love language?

 

Yes. Ignore what the book says, it is absolutely a real thing.

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18 hours ago, KB Girl said:

listened to Jaap talk about his day (is there a ‘being listened to’ love language?

🙂 I think most of us feel loved  and cared for when our spouse (or others) listen to us. My husband is an introvert, and sometimes he needs to pause and think of what to say. I used to just break in during the silence, and start talking, I'm practicing being quiet and giving him talk to think about what he wants to say.   

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Wow, I can't believe all the good ideas here. All or something is excellent, as is asking for and allowing help. And I don't know about love languages, but listening is absolutely very important for the people we care about, and is a highly favoured skill.

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On 3/22/2023 at 10:50 AM, KB Girl said:

ask for help with things or just for hugs

 

If husbands (I'm assuming Jaap is your hubby) are good for one thing, it's hugs. My wife tells me she instantly feels better after a good hug. She says I smell like "sunshine and safety" lol.

 

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29 minutes ago, Wild Wolf said:

 

If husbands (I'm assuming Jaap is your hubby) are good for one thing, it's hugs. My wife tells me she instantly feels better after a good hug. She says I smell like "sunshine and safety" lol.

 

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Funny, to me you smell like brotherhood and shenanigans.

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Love your all or something. Hope the appointment went well. 

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24 minutes ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

Funny, to me you smell like brotherhood and shenanigans.

 

I knew it!! I could of swore the last time we embraced for a hug that you were sniffing me. Heather assured me it was because you were sad we were leaving and fighting to hold back tears. Now I know you wanted a good ole fashion Wolfie Whiff™

 

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A wolf rises in my heart; against my darkness; against my demons; against my despair. I DECLARE WAR!

 

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On 3/22/2023 at 11:13 PM, MaeradCase said:

Oh my gosh, I love this soooo much. It fits perfectly with the mentality of "anything worth doing is worth doing poorly." 

I hadn’t heard that one in a while! That’s so true, like with vacuuming, my mom would say you gotta do it perfectly but if I do a quick open area 3min vacuum then that’s much better than not vacuuming because i don’t have the time, right?! 
 

On 3/22/2023 at 11:17 PM, TimovieMan said:

Nice plan!

 

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Ohhh that gif triggers politics aggression xD so angry about our recent elections. 
 

23 hours ago, Scaly Freak said:

 

Yes. Ignore what the book says, it is absolutely a real thing.

Has to be!

 

22 hours ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

I think it falls under quality time.

Oh I suppose that makes some sense.. it feels very specific though, like it could use its own category. I can’t think of any other quality time type things that would feel the same for Jaap. 

 

9 hours ago, sylph said:

If there is, my husband has it, too.

I think it’s kinda cute :) 
 

5 hours ago, Elastigirl said:

🙂 I think most of us feel loved  and cared for when our spouse (or others) listen to us. My husband is an introvert, and sometimes he needs to pause and think of what to say. I used to just break in during the silence, and start talking, I'm practicing being quiet and giving him talk to think about what he wants to say.   

absolutely! A very good thing to practice. Jaap is a little hit or miss with making me feel listened to, but he makes up for it with the best hugs in the world ;) 
 

5 hours ago, Harriet said:

Wow, I can't believe all the good ideas here. All or something is excellent, as is asking for and allowing help. And I don't know about love languages, but listening is absolutely very important for the people we care about, and is a highly favoured skill.

I think I’m pretty good at it :D 
 

3 hours ago, Wild Wolf said:

 

If husbands (I'm assuming Jaap is your hubby) are good for one thing, it's hugs. My wife tells me she instantly feels better after a good hug. She says I smell like "sunshine and safety" lol.

 

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He might as well be, marriage isn’t really a thing in the Netherlands anymore though. 
Sunshine and safety is pretty accurate :) I definitely feel instantly better too. And I suspect Jaap counts in his head to make sure he makes em nice and long 😂
 

2 hours ago, Sovalis said:

Love your all or something. Hope the appointment went well. 

Thank you! It was ok, I’m giving it a chance.

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Today I emptied the dishwasher, sorted out my seed collection, sowed a bunch of them, ran an errand with my 6yo, read a book and went for a walk with my 3yo, asked for a lot of hugs, cried a bunch and didn’t eat enough veggies because the kids ate most of them (bestest reason). 

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KB Quest: becoming a decent kettlebell lifter and an excellent coach

2023 goals tracker; cycling: 1047,7/5000km & reading to my kids: 58/365 days (updated may 1st)

my instagram - my gym's instagram

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1 hour ago, KB Girl said:

Today I emptied the dishwasher, sorted out my seed collection, sowed a bunch of them, ran an errand with my 6yo, read a book and went for a walk with my 3yo, asked for a lot of hugs, cried a bunch and didn’t eat enough veggies because the kids ate most of them (bestest reason). 

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Following and I too love the all or something. Writes it down for future reference

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15 hours ago, KB Girl said:

He might as well be, marriage isn’t really a thing in the Netherlands anymore though. 
Sunshine and safety is pretty accurate :) I definitely feel instantly better too. And I suspect Jaap counts in his head to make sure he makes em nice and long 😂

 

The longer the hug, the better :) . There's a lvl of squeezing too that I think helps alleviate the stress factors we all deal with. No wimpy side hugs here! 

 

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Know, O prince, that once the sun burns out and the earth's core becomes solid and cold, there will come a man to provide the endless energy needed to sustain life and for the planets to keep moving. He is the source of light and the warmth of hope back into the hearts of humanity...." - Dark_Raider

 

A wolf rises in my heart; against my darkness; against my demons; against my despair. I DECLARE WAR!

 

Romans 8:28 (CSB) We know that all things work together for the good of those who love God, who are called according to His purpose.

 

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