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I didn't notice the last one ended and this one started.  Life has been rough in this castle.  Long story short, a husband's need for mental health support easily direct affects a wife's ability to lead her day to day life.  (ie, if he  won't go to bed out of some weird teenage-like mentality, I'm stuck waiting for who knows how long for him to get up and with an unreliable capacity to face the day)  With that being the case, I've not felt I've had a lot of control in my life to tackle my own growth lately and I think it finally hit a peak a few weeks ago.  But fingers are crossed that the winds are changing.   That's the minimalist backstory for this challenge. 

 

I'm going bare bones this time.

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1.  Do the exercise

  • run/walk 3 days per week, minimum 2 miles.  Try for more running than walking.
  • continue through GMB floor loco and integral strength.  Try to do it outside and despite that people might see me.

2. eat the food

  • use the fall back plan for breakfast, savory oats.  Try to resist bacon most of the week
  • plan and make ahead lunches.  Try to avoid the siren call of chips and munchies
  • avoid the alcohol.  just try

3.  enjoy things

  • got decent knitting needles so it is less challenging now.  try to make time
  • read for fun.  try to sit still
  • see what life brings.  try to be open to what is offered.

 

Sill playing with the daily dare and duolingo.  And my parents are back from snow-birding so its time to readjust meal planning and household expectations.  That shouldn't be to tough though.  We live well together.

 

I know nerds are awesome and I expect the thought to arise for some of you.  I'm very aware of my mental health state.  Things are very difficult right now, but I'm not depressed.  I'm angry and frustrated, but not depressed.  I also have some capacity to not let those feelings rule my actions while still acknowledging them. 

 

Off to try to do things!

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Trying to do things is going really well!  It is the perfect attitude right now.  I just have to try 5 minutes of exercise, or just try to talk to annoying in-laws, or 5 minutes of reading.  And surprising to no one, 5 minutes becomes the entire run, or and hour reading, etc.

 

I'm pretty pleased that my return to knitting project, a hat, is going well, especially since I upgraded my gear.  Going from the 'cheap as free' needles that the cord is constantly bending and kinking on to a good quality makes it so much more fun. 

 

MrC is putting in a lot of effort to mental health recovery and it is lovely to not feel anger bubbling just below his surface.  The road is going to be a long one, but he's on it now. 

 

Now, I have to make some time to check in with other nerds.

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On 5/14/2023 at 7:49 AM, Chesire said:

Long story short, a husband's need for mental health support easily direct affects a wife's ability to lead her day to day life.

Can confirm as a husband who sometimes struggles with mental health. Am eternally grateful for my wife's wisdom and patience during these times.

6 minutes ago, Chesire said:

I just have to try 5 minutes of exercise, or just try to talk to annoying in-laws, or 5 minutes of reading.

One of my favorite hacks. Glad it seems to be working!

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"When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it." -Henry Ford

"If you know the way broadly, you will see it in all things." -Miyamoto Musashi

"Oh, she says, well, you're not a poor man. You know, why don't you go online and buy a hundred envelopes and put them in the closet? And so I pretend not to hear her. And go out to get an envelope because I'm going to have a hell of a good time in the process of buying one envelope. I meet a lot of people. And, see some great looking babies. And a fire engine goes by. And I give them the thumbs up. And, and ask a woman what kind of dog that is. And, and I don't know. The moral of the story is, is we're here on Earth to fart around. And, of course, the computers will do us out of that. And, what the computer people don't realize, or they don't care, is we're dancing animals. You know, we love to move around. And, we're not supposed to dance at all anymore." -Kurt Vonnegut.

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I love the try!

I also love that you're not backing down from the "stuff happens to him so it happens to me, too" reality.

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"You're not in it to get Most [Recognized Rebel Ever]. You're not in it to be eligible for prizes. You're in this because you made a promise to yourself and you refuse to let you down. Walk the talk. And even when you don't talk much, make the walk so powerful that it leaves no room for questions - from inside or out." -note to self Str7.5 Dex6 Sta5.7 Con11.8 Wis10.4 Cha2 Intro post~Challenge 1~Challenge 2~Challenge 3~Challenge 4~Battle Log 1 Ranger Level 3

 

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it's been a hot minute since I dragged myself over here.  Let's see what's been happening.

 

1.  Do the exercise

  • run/walk 3 days per week, minimum 2 miles.  Try for more running than walking.  Going well.   I forgot I need to account for golf with dad day every week.  So I will either adapt and accept I'm not doing something else on a hot day, like yesterday (didn't run) or work around it on the days I have energy, with grace for myself.  I'm still doing stuff!
  • continue through GMB floor loco and integral strength.  Try to do it outside and despite that people might see me. I've done several in the front yard and people saw me!  I'm still alive to report on it.  It felt weird rolling around on the ground while someone saw me behaving like a small child, but I got through it!   Also, using Elements as warm up and cool down for Floor Loco some days.  I need to set a specific plan for which program which day.

2. eat the food

  • use the fall back plan for breakfast, savory oats.  Try to resist bacon most of the week  Except for the day I forgot to bring it with me....
  • plan and make ahead lunches.  Try to avoid the siren call of chips and munchies  Full check mark.  Even refused take out when the boss was buying because I knew I had a big junk food day the next day! 
  • avoid the alcohol.  just try  I made it a whole week and only had the planned amount on the planned day!  Even bigger...  I picked up the bottle on a non-day and put it back down!  Sleep is so much better

3.  enjoy things

  • got decent knitting needles so it is less challenging now.  try to make time  I pick this up and put it down and progress slowly.  Making a hat. 
  • read for fun.  try to sit still  I've had several successes, but my new-to-me Zelda keeps getting in the way.  I'm ok with this
  • see what life brings.  try to be open to what is offered.  Went to a welcome the new neighbors block party and talked to people.  And I did it without alcohol to ease me into it. 

Other not specifically on the list things;

  • started trying to fit a pattern for pants/shorts.  First was too big, so back to make a smaller size.  And I didn't get frustrated by having to start over.  Probably because the plan is that this will be a go-to pattern and will hopefully be made many times, so what is one more?
  • helped an overwhelmed friend come on with a plan to lose some weight.  *  It helped me reinvigorate myself too. 

 

generally more ups than downs.

 

 

*She was stuck because there are so many moving parts to the whole thing and couldn't find a starting place.  I used all my NF training and we went through exercise, especially a strength plan, diet for weight loss, especially how much protein and how to work it all in while she still tries to figure out what she can and can't eat (FODMAP), and future goals/ why she is doing this.

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3 hours ago, Chesire said:

Even bigger...  I picked up the bottle on a non-day and put it back down!  Sleep is so much better

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I did it without alcohol to ease me into it. 

 I am so impressed by this. Am encouraged to research actions to help me put my phone down more. Sleep improvement is a big incentive.

 

3 hours ago, Chesire said:

helped an overwhelmed friend come on with a plan to lose some weight.  *  It helped me reinvigorate myself too. 

A favorite hack - share knowledge with someone else, re-teach and encourage self as a side effect.

 

From the outside looking in - you're doing great.

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"You're not in it to get Most [Recognized Rebel Ever]. You're not in it to be eligible for prizes. You're in this because you made a promise to yourself and you refuse to let you down. Walk the talk. And even when you don't talk much, make the walk so powerful that it leaves no room for questions - from inside or out." -note to self Str7.5 Dex6 Sta5.7 Con11.8 Wis10.4 Cha2 Intro post~Challenge 1~Challenge 2~Challenge 3~Challenge 4~Battle Log 1 Ranger Level 3

 

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I got distracted over the weekend and forgot to do a wrap up.

 

I am calling this one a success.  I stuck to my goals pretty darn well.  I didn't check in here as much as I would have liked, but that was because I did stuff, so a nice trade-off.  I think I even reverse the creeping of the scale a bit.   Still too early to commit to that one, but I am encouraged. 

 

See you in the next one

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Woohoo! Definitely an acceptable trade-off.

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"You're not in it to get Most [Recognized Rebel Ever]. You're not in it to be eligible for prizes. You're in this because you made a promise to yourself and you refuse to let you down. Walk the talk. And even when you don't talk much, make the walk so powerful that it leaves no room for questions - from inside or out." -note to self Str7.5 Dex6 Sta5.7 Con11.8 Wis10.4 Cha2 Intro post~Challenge 1~Challenge 2~Challenge 3~Challenge 4~Battle Log 1 Ranger Level 3

 

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