[RES]

 

My main goal is weight loss, for health reasons as well as I want to look good (to me) naked. I'm in a struggle with this goal because it doesn't get easier when you get older. I don’t want this to be a focus for the rest of my life, I want to build some habits/routines so it becomes second nature and I don’t have to think about it. I also want to be around to watch my grandkids grow up and be able to do things with them, as well as things I enjoy as I get older, and I enjoy a lot of things!

I work from home as an accountant. I have a full time job and a few side gigs, making sure I have enough movement in my day is important because it's very easy to lose track of time and I feel better when I move more! The Struggle is real! 

I'm going to take the time to do what I need to do, also making sure I get enough off-time, put in the work and effort that hopefully will lead to lower numbers on the scale as well as other health markers that are important.

The Struggle...
( S )teps - Hitting my 7500 steps a day goal
( T )rack - using Cronometer
( R )est - Sleep (7 hours a night)
( U )nder - Stay under calorie goal
( G )o - Do things in life you enjoy, 5ks, ride motorcycles or bicycles, travel.
( G )uitar - practice 5 days a week
( L )ift - Lift some semi-heavy things (I have nerve damage in my neck, so some limitations)
( E )xercise - Exercise, on days I don’t lift things I do cardio
Checking in to hold myself accountable is key to this being successful, I don't want to have to post bad news here.

Update - Daily
Done - 🌈
Not Done - ❄️
 
I want to get my granddaughter's item I've been crocheting since before Xmas, finished. Yes, I’m still working on it.
I want to get my bicycle fixed (tires are flat, not a tough fix) and take advantage of the bike trails around this area when the heat isn’t so bad.

I want to take advantage of the fact I have a pool in my backyard.

I want to take advantage of a lake less than half a mile from my house and the paddleboard in my garage.

My personal life may be falling apart, I am doing my best to keep me from doing the same…therapy is a big part of this, journaling is another part. I'm going to continue doing this, as well as working on getting back to me and what I need in my life.
 

[RES]

Quick update for day one of the challenge, got in the pool and a bit of color on my face  

 

( S )teps - ❄️
( T )rack - 🌈
( R )est - 🌈
( U )nder - 🌈
( G )o - 🌈
( G )uitar - 😴
( L )ift - 😴
( E )xercise - 😴

[Heidi]

The struggle is so, so real as we age. I hear you!

Good for you for focusing on the foundation -- this can be everything. 

I'm struggling with movement as well, and (of course) when I do it, I feel great, but when I don't I feel so blah that I don't want to do it. (I'm a mess, generally.)

I have found that getting a bulk of steps in before I log in (I also work remotely) has been beneficial not only for the steps overall but also for my perspective.

Best of luck to you!

[RES]

11 minutes ago, Heidi said:

I have found that getting a bulk of steps in before I log in (I also work remotely) has been beneficial not only for the steps overall but also for my perspective.

 

So much this!! I generally do well with that except on days (like today) that my boss decides she must talk to me first thing in the morning

[Countess D'If]

14 minutes ago, RES said:

I want to get my granddaughter's item I've been crocheting since before Xmas, finished. Yes, I’m still working on it.

YES! DO IT!!

14 minutes ago, RES said:

I want to get my bicycle fixed (tires are flat, not a tough fix) and take advantage of the bike trails around this area when the heat isn’t so bad.

DO IT!!!

14 minutes ago, RES said:

I want to take advantage of the fact I have a pool in my backyard.

HELLS YES! Do this too!!!

14 minutes ago, RES said:

I want to take advantage of a lake less than half a mile from my house and the paddleboard in my garage.

I fucking LOVE paddle boarding! Do this one FIRST!!

14 minutes ago, RES said:

My personal life may be falling apart, I am doing my best to keep me from doing the same…therapy is a big part of this, journaling is another part. I'm going to continue doing this, as well as working on getting back to me and what I need in my life.

Hellllllls yes you are. You absolute rock star

[fleaball]

 

[Heidi]

1 hour ago, RES said:

t except on days (like today) that my boss decides she must talk to me first thing in the morning

I feel this. And wow, what is with that? Please can they just never?

Here to cheer you on.

[RES]

44 minutes ago, Countess D'If said:

I fucking LOVE paddle boarding! Do this one FIRST!!

Too late, I did the pool one first LOL

Maybe this weekend if the weather holds up  I'll post pics if it happens

 

27 minutes ago, fleaball said:

 

You know you can't hide from me, right?

 

19 minutes ago, Heidi said:

I feel this. And wow, what is with that? Please can they just never?

Here to cheer you on.

Exactly!! There is nothing that important when I'm only a half mile in to my 5k!

Of course, with the 💩storm that is my job right now I never did get to finish it 🤬

[Mistr]

Following!

[Tanktimus the Encourager]

Following, as always here to support you on the personal stuff.

[Sovalis]

Also following! Here for more rainbows!!

[Severine]

Here for your matchless enthusiasm and snappy acronym (that reflects an impressive array of well-balanced goals)  ❤️ 

 

Working from home can be such a gift, but it also comes with the added responsibility of structuring/organizing the day and defending the boundaries of personal time. I hope you're able to cordon off and defend from interlopers enough RES time in every day to keep your momentum rolling.

 

I'll be cheering for you to see some progress in your health/weight goals that hopefully helps lighten the load of everything else going on.

[RES]

12 hours ago, Mistr said:

Following!

So happy to have you here my friend!

 

8 hours ago, Tanktimus the Encourager said:

Following, as always here to support you on the personal stuff.

As always, very glad you're here and welcome your support

 

8 hours ago, Sovalis said:

Also following! Here for more rainbows!!

I will do my best to provide them  

 

4 hours ago, Severine said:

Here for your matchless enthusiasm and snappy acronym (that reflects an impressive array of well-balanced goals)  ❤️ 

 

Working from home can be such a gift, but it also comes with the added responsibility of structuring/organizing the day and defending the boundaries of personal time. I hope you're able to cordon off and defend from interlopers enough RES time in every day to keep your momentum rolling.

 

I'll be cheering for you to see some progress in your health/weight goals that hopefully helps lighten the load of everything else going on.

Thank you, and welcome! Finding that time is already proving to be the biggest part of this challenge.

 

So shocking, we're still not in the new system and everyone is stressed to the breaking point. I was one mile into my 5k when my boss called and I had to cut it short...talk about the workout you have time for 🙄 Then after working hours I get several emails and messages asking about items and if they have been done...when I'd already been on a call with my boss till almost 6pm and nothing had been mentioned. I'm only one person and can only do one thing at a time, when I'm lead to believe things will happen one way and you change it after the fact it's a lot more helpful if you update people on all the items they will now have to do instead of bitching after the fact about it, maybe quit scheduling all the meetings and let us do the extra work you keep piling on.

 

( S )teps - ❄️❄️
( T )rack - 🌈🌈
( R )est - 🌈🌈
( U )nder - 🌈🌈
( G )o - 🏊🏼‍♀️
( G )uitar - 😴❄️
( L )ift - 😴🏃🏼‍♀️
( E )xercise - 😴🌈🏋🏼‍♀️

[Heidi]

5 hours ago, RES said:

So shocking, we're still not in the new system and everyone is stressed to the breaking point. I was one mile into my 5k when my boss called and I had to cut it short...talk about the workout you have time for 🙄 Then after working hours I get several emails and messages asking about items and if they have been done...when I'd already been on a call with my boss till almost 6pm and nothing had been mentioned. I'm only one person and can only do one thing at a time, when I'm lead to believe things will happen one way and you change it after the fact it's a lot more helpful if you update people on all the items they will now have to do instead of bitching after the fact about it, maybe quit scheduling all the meetings and let us do the extra work you keep piling on.

Goodness, this could be ripped striaght from my journal last year. (and the job before this one, and the job before that, and so on, and so on . . )

I hope yo find a way towards balance. You deserve healthiness even if the rest of the professional universe doesn't join you there!

 

Love all those rainbows even in the midst of *~waves hand generally~* all this.

I did end up putting my phone in Do Not Disturb in the mornings before work. It made a difference, but honestly I knew I was in a toxic space when I was the one freaking out about me being unavailable. (facepalm) It was hard to break the always-on, work-is-my-first-priority response, especially becuase I like being a valuable member of the team, whatever team I'm on (even the toxic ones).  Also, I'm in a situation where my job security is non-existent (contractor) and so I was super anxious about being fired at the drop of a hat (toxic whisper campaigns weren't helping my sense of precarity *at all*.)

Many blessings today, friend.

❤️ 

 

[Mistr]

I agree with Heidi, the problems should be falling on your boss, not you. Their failure to plan ahead is not a crisis for you. If they want you to work overtime, they need to ask and pay you extra.

 

This is a good opportunity to practice setting boundaries. Keep in mind that they would be even more desperate if you walked out and negotiate from that position of strength.

[Countess D'If]

One of the reasons I finally pulled the trigger on the lateral move was when I asked current boss how the hiring new people to relieve the burnt out current people was going, he said he'd worry about it when he got back on 7/31. Um, nope. You know what the issue is. You know how to fix it. FIXING it is not your priority rn? Helping ME do my job well is not your priority rn? Byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

 

it is not your responsibility to make sure your department is well run. That's on management. If management is not actively making moves or decisions to make it work right, they get what you can give and not an ounce more. Because you need to be OK, too.  

[Severine]

8 hours ago, RES said:

So shocking, we're still not in the new system and everyone is stressed to the breaking point. I was one mile into my 5k when my boss called and I had to cut it short...talk about the workout you have time for 🙄 Then after working hours I get several emails and messages asking about items and if they have been done...when I'd already been on a call with my boss till almost 6pm and nothing had been mentioned. I'm only one person and can only do one thing at a time, when I'm lead to believe things will happen one way and you change it after the fact it's a lot more helpful if you update people on all the items they will now have to do instead of bitching after the fact about it, maybe quit scheduling all the meetings and let us do the extra work you keep piling on.

 

Sounds like some serious issues with communication and prioritizing at this company. You can do 0% of the work nobody tells you about.

 

1 hour ago, Countess D'If said:

it is not your responsibility to make sure your department is well run. That's on management. If management is not actively making moves or decisions to make it work right, they get what you can give and not an ounce more. Because you need to be OK, too.  

 

So much this. You are not a manager. Nobody is paying you to manage or to worry about management problems. Any attempts to solve these problems would be a straight-up donation on your part, so unless you feel like your company is a worthy charitable cause (I doubt it!) just stick to what your responsibilities are and let go of worry about the rest as much as you can  ❤️ 

[RES]

21 hours ago, Heidi said:

Goodness, this could be ripped striaght from my journal last year. (and the job before this one, and the job before that, and so on, and so on . . )

I hope yo find a way towards balance. You deserve healthiness even if the rest of the professional universe doesn't join you there!

 

Love all those rainbows even in the midst of *~waves hand generally~* all this.

I did end up putting my phone in Do Not Disturb in the mornings before work. It made a difference, but honestly I knew I was in a toxic space when I was the one freaking out about me being unavailable. (facepalm) It was hard to break the always-on, work-is-my-first-priority response, especially becuase I like being a valuable member of the team, whatever team I'm on (even the toxic ones).  Also, I'm in a situation where my job security is non-existent (contractor) and so I was super anxious about being fired at the drop of a hat (toxic whisper campaigns weren't helping my sense of precarity *at all*.)

Many blessings today, friend.

❤️

 

+

20 hours ago, Mistr said:

I agree with Heidi, the problems should be falling on your boss, not you. Their failure to plan ahead is not a crisis for you. If they want you to work overtime, they need to ask and pay you extra.

 

This is a good opportunity to practice setting boundaries. Keep in mind that they would be even more desperate if you walked out and negotiate from that position of strength.

+

20 hours ago, Countess D'If said:

One of the reasons I finally pulled the trigger on the lateral move was when I asked current boss how the hiring new people to relieve the burnt out current people was going, he said he'd worry about it when he got back on 7/31. Um, nope. You know what the issue is. You know how to fix it. FIXING it is not your priority rn? Helping ME do my job well is not your priority rn? Byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

 

it is not your responsibility to make sure your department is well run. That's on management. If management is not actively making moves or decisions to make it work right, they get what you can give and not an ounce more. Because you need to be OK, too.  

+

18 hours ago, Severine said:

 

Sounds like some serious issues with communication and prioritizing at this company. You can do 0% of the work nobody tells you about.

 

 

So much this. You are not a manager. Nobody is paying you to manage or to worry about management problems. Any attempts to solve these problems would be a straight-up donation on your part, so unless you feel like your company is a worthy charitable cause (I doubt it!) just stick to what your responsibilities are and let go of worry about the rest as much as you can  ❤️ 

= thank you all, this has definitely been something I've struggled with since joining this company back in March. Working 'volunteer' hours has been an issue I've struggled with for a while and I'm trying to get better at enforcing those boundaries, to the point I generally only agree to after hours items if I've taken time during the work day for personal matters, such as if a Dr. visit goes 2 hours instead of the 1 I would take for lunch, then I would stay later or start earlier the next day to make up for it.

I was able to have a conversation with my boss about her boss yesterday to express my frustrations, and apparently it's not only me, my boss has even had thoughts of leaving if things don't get better after we get into the new system, and also the other person she brought on.  None of us enjoy the chaos that has become our regular workday and if it doesn't get better like we continue to be promised it will, then it's time to move on.

Right after that I got an email for a job to look at that is also fully remote and right up my alley, so we'll see what comes of it

 

Just shy of my sleep goal the last couple of nights, need to look at picking up that guitar sometime soon...like today!

( S )teps - ❄️❄️❄️
( T )rack - 🌈🌈🌈
( R )est - 🌈🌈❄️
( U )nder - 🌈🌈🌈
( G )o - 🏊🏼‍♀️
( G )uitar - 😴❄️❄️
( L )ift - 😴🏃🏼‍♀️🌈
( E )xercise - 😴🌈🏋🏼‍♀️

 

Had a bit of an issue yesterday that has got me feeling some kind of way. Back in December, about the time D and I started having issues again (yes, when the Ex popped up, unbeknownst to me) she asked me about a recipe box that she had and where was it, I had no idea since I was fairly certain that was part of things that she had packed up and after looking everywhere I would have put it, and a few places I wouldn't have, I told her I couldn't find it...she got an attitude about it, acted like it was my fault, then we all but forgot about it.

I was cleaning under the bed yesterday and saw a box that was shoved behind some others, mind you these are all her boxes because I don't store anything under the bed...guess what was in it? You guessed it! I texted and told her and I got a "you don't know how happy that makes me" response...

I'm glad she's happy, but I would at least like acknowledgement of how you treated me when you thought it was me that lost it, is that too much to ask?

Spoiler

Was also informed this weekend when we were out in the pool about how funny she thought it was when people she'd been with 'came out', guess who felt the need to tell her recently that she believes she's gay? Yes, the ex...and she wonders why I don't trust this person? I seriously don't trust her and I think she's trying to find cracks in our relationship, and I believe she's being encouraged in her efforts. I'm tired of being told how much she knows about our lives that really is none of her concern.

 

[Heidi]

41 minutes ago, RES said:

I got an email for a job to look at that is also fully remote and right up my alley,

The Universe loves you and wants you to be happy.

 

Re; the spoilered bits:
It sounds as though there is a different definition of the boundaries around "we" and that's problematic, if true. It's like trying to reset your magnetic north to be in alignement with the Eastern Pole (if there were such a thing).

The snottiness is likely not addressed now because it likley wasn't understood or seen at the time -- we frequently see ourselves as the protaginist in our stories no matter what, and I suspect this is the case here. I'm not letting her off the hook or making excuses for her behavior; far from it, I'm saying that basic awareness might be so constitutionally lacking that respectful communicaiton isn't possible. If this is the case, friend, many sympathies and compassion for you. This is a rough space, and the dismissal or disregard of the hurts is its own wound.

 

Sending you love.

[RES]

20 minutes ago, Heidi said:

The Universe loves you and wants you to be happy.

 

Re; the spoilered bits:
It sounds as though there is a different definition of the boundaries around "we" and that's problematic, if true. It's like trying to reset your magnetic north to be in alignement with the Eastern Pole (if there were such a thing).

The snottiness is likely not addressed now because it likley wasn't understood or seen at the time -- we frequently see ourselves as the protaginist in our stories no matter what, and I suspect this is the case here. I'm not letting her off the hook or making excuses for her behavior; far from it, I'm saying that basic awareness might be so constitutionally lacking that respectful communicaiton isn't possible. If this is the case, friend, many sympathies and compassion for you. This is a rough space, and the dismissal or disregard of the hurts is its own wound.

 

Sending you love.

That sounds very much like her...thank you for that perspective, I hadn't really looked at it like that before due to my own emotions surrounding situations of late.

Huggs to you my friend.

[Mistr]

I am glad to hear that your boss agrees the problems are real and her boss knows it is an issue. Now to get it fixed...

 

1 hour ago, RES said:

Had a bit of an issue yesterday that has got me feeling some kind of way. Back in December, about the time D and I started having issues again (yes, when the Ex popped up, unbeknownst to me) she asked me about a recipe box that she had and where was it, I had no idea since I was fairly certain that was part of things that she had packed up and after looking everywhere I would have put it, and a few places I wouldn't have, I told her I couldn't find it...she got an attitude about it, acted like it was my fault, then we all but forgot about it.

I was cleaning under the bed yesterday and saw a box that was shoved behind some others, mind you these are all her boxes because I don't store anything under the bed...guess what was in it? You guessed it! I texted and told her and I got a "you don't know how happy that makes me" response...

I'm glad she's happy, but I would at least like acknowledgement of how you treated me when you thought it was me that lost it, is that too much to ask?

 

I had a similar issue with Dumbledore last week. He was looking for the bag with his gym shoes. I had noticed it fallen down behind the pile of clothes next to his dresser. I was able to retrieve it and give it to him right away. Instead of being happy, he was mad at me for not picking it up when I noticed it. There is a whole host of issues about what stuff is his and should not be touched and what is general and should be tidied when needed. A while later he came and apologized. He explained that he was frustrated about not being able to find several things and felt like it was all out of control. He blames us "cleaning up for parties" as why he can't find his stuff. In fact, no one but him moved any of his stuff. If he put something in a box to get it out of the way, it is still right where he put it. The next morning we were going somewhere in his car. He had not been able to find his car key for days, and was using my copy. I picked up a key off our key rack, then realized it was his. He put it away where it belongs and could not find it. 🙄

[RES]

6 hours ago, Mistr said:

where it belongs and could not find it.

This happens all the time in my house...I even mentioned to her that she may have put it somewhere because I was certain she packed it up when we moved, and she did not even bother to look.

 

and I just have to state that the GIF button is working for me again now, off topic, I realize  

[Severine]

Fantastic news about your boss/coworker being on the same page as you (strength in numbers might help put pressure on the higher-ups!) and about that other job opportunity. I like Heidi's response so put me as a +1 for this: 

 

7 hours ago, Heidi said:

The Universe loves you and wants you to be happy.

 

My sympathies about the relationship stuff. I am also the "knower of where stuff is" in my relationship, and even if there's nothing but gratitude from the person who loses their stuff, it can feel like a burden/responsibility to be the one who is keeping track, willingly or not, of other people's things. As for the rest of it,  I think Heidi is wise. People can't feel bad for things they never noticed/catalogued as a problem, which is why self-awareness and attentiveness to one's impacts on others are such important qualities in a partner.

[Shello]

I feel behind on your last challenge but I'm here and trying again.   

[RES]

18 hours ago, Severine said:

I think Heidi is wise

I cannot agree with this statement more than I do  

But yes, being the person who knows where everything is, is exhausting 

15 hours ago, Shello said:

I feel behind on your last challenge but I'm here and trying again.   

I'm very glad you're here, I know a lot of times all I can do is 'like' on peoples posts in their challenges and hope they understand that's all I have the ability for that day...I understand when they do the same ❤️Never feel like you're behind here 🫂

Okay, so guitar didn't happen yesterday, steps didn't happen due to even though I did my treadmill workout, I only went 2 miles because I was feeling a bit...idk, off? so I cut it short. I did get a massage yesterday in preparation for my chiropractor appointment today, sleep has been off since we haven't been going to bed as early...can I say it's zero week?  

I did finish the first 6 weeks of the weight program I've been doing, that means next week starts phase two, which is pretty similar just adding more weight (where I can) I extended the first part two additional weeks because I didn't feel I was ready to progress yet, but I think I might be now.

 

( S )teps - ❄️❄️❄️❄️
( T )rack - 🌈🌈🌈🌈
( R )est - 🌈🌈❄️❄️
( U )nder - 🌈🌈🌈🌈
( G )o - 🏊🏼‍♀️💆🏼‍♀️
( G )uitar - 😴❄️❄️❄️
( L )ift - 😴🏃🏼‍♀️🌈🏃🏼‍♀️
( E )xercise - 😴🌈🏋🏼‍♀️🌈

 

Caught up with what I need to at work, finally...for now 🙄