LGBTQA and Ally Safe Space

[Phytomancer]

There's an asexual porn. It's food porn...

 

Plumber: That will be twenty dollar.

Homeowner: But I have no money...

Plumber: Then how are you going to pay? I need to eat!

Homeowner: How about fire grilled ribs marinated in rosemary-pineapple sauce, sided with grilled asparagus and avocado puree. Served after sweet pea salad with Asian ginger-grapefruit fused dressing. With Creme Brule' for dessert?

Plumber: How can you afford to make this food?

Homeowner: Oops (Dropped the oven door and caught it, giggled)... Don't mind me. I'm so clumsy these days.

 

Much later

 

Plumber: *Moan*

Homeowner: Oh yeah, put it in your mouth. Yeah. You like that?

 

-Problem solved-

[The Tenth Doctor]

Hey, guys. My name is Nick, and I am an openly bisexual college student and a member of my university's Stonewall organization.

[Quinnicus]

Hey y'all. FTM here. Still presenting as female on Facebook, which is why you guys have seen a female posting in the men's only FB page. If anyone has any resources on nutrition and training while transitioning I'd appreciate it!!

[Hrunter]

TBH, Quinnicus, that's a really broad topic.  Didja have any specific questions?  I understand not wanting to publicly discuss what transition goals you have on a forum, but that can also affect the information you may need.

 

For the most part, the information is the same.  Social aspects of transition have a minimal effect on the info; at most, local laws affecting how you access health related services come in to play.

Binding, if a thing, can affect your breathing.  While not recommended while exercising, how you manage binding (if applicable) is up to you - some people find NOT binding prevents them from engaging and others the complete opposite.  On an emergency prevention level, if you are binding, be aware of your breathing, how it affects your activities and increases risk for rib injury and pneumonia (especially if you have chronic respiratory illnesses).  Your may find yourself winded more easily while exercising, or your reps initially limited, if your breathing is heavily affected.

 

If your transition involves medical interventions, that's where the majority of things change up.

Hormones play a big role in metabolism, so depending on if and how this is addressed, your energy expenditure and nutritional requiremental change.  How much and when depends on your serum hormone levels and uptake of said hormones.  The uptake depends on your individual body chemistry, the method of delivery (Transdermal patch or cream vs intramuscular injection vs other options I have yet to hear of) the dose and the timing.  To be clear, the protocols for starting hormones does not immediately boost your hormone levels to a certain point, this is not only dangerous, but completely dependant on your body's ability to absorb and process the hormones.

 

Fitness aspects right around the time of surgery is also highly dependent on your specific health and any reasonable surgeon will go over what you need to do, before and how long after to avoid activity and what types.  Keep in mind that weight can change rapidly after surgery, because of the effects of anesthetics and your body's response to significant physiological changes.  If you are on hormones and your surgeon requires you to stop, see if you can get some blood work done just before the surgery to test your serum hormone levels - while it is unlikely that you will dip out of steady state/safe hormone levels, having an idea of where you are benefits some folks.

[Tkal]

On 3/19/2016 at 9:56 PM, The Tenth Doctor said:

Hey, guys. My name is Nick, and I am an openly bisexual college student and a member of my university's Stonewall organization.

Welcome

On 3/19/2016 at 10:01 PM, Quinnicus said:

Hey y'all. FTM here. Still presenting as female on Facebook, which is why you guys have seen a female posting in the men's only FB page. If anyone has any resources on nutrition and training while transitioning I'd appreciate it!!

Welcome to you too. I quote completely Hrunter. There are several people at several degrees of transition here, and more or less each o us has a different story and different needs.

Whatever you do, just be safe

[Tkal]

On 3/19/2016 at 9:56 PM, The Tenth Doctor said:

Hey, guys. My name is Nick, and I am an openly bisexual college student and a member of my university's Stonewall organization.

Welcome

On 3/19/2016 at 10:01 PM, Quinnicus said:

Hey y'all. FTM here. Still presenting as female on Facebook, which is why you guys have seen a female posting in the men's only FB page. If anyone has any resources on nutrition and training while transitioning I'd appreciate it!!

Welcome to you too. I quote completely Hrunter. There are several people at several degrees of transition here, and more or less each o us has a different story and different needs.

Whatever you do, just be safe

[SolitaryOrchid]

http://www.newsobserver.com/news/politics-government/politics-columns-blogs/under-the-dome/article67731847.html

 

This saddens me. According to this law, a fully transitioned person who has had SRS and legally changed their gender marker on their ID still couldn't use the bathroom of their gender identity because most places it is impossible to change a birth certificate. Why do people care so much which bathroom we use?

[ColoQ]

2 minutes ago, SolitaryOrchid said:

http://www.newsobserver.com/news/politics-government/politics-columns-blogs/under-the-dome/article67731847.html

 

This saddens me. According to this law, a fully transitioned person who has had SRS and legally changed their gender marker on their ID still couldn't use the bathroom of their gender identity because most places it is impossible to change a birth certificate. Why do people care so much which bathroom we use?

 

Because a trans person is obviously in there to endanger children or weak defenceless women: exploiting the "lessened guard" that necessarily comes with being in the restroom.

</SarcasticBitterness>

 

...In other words bigots feel free to be bigoted at all times during their private and personal moments: and see public restrooms as their last bastion of being allowed to be bigoted in public without the possibility of being criticised, since it is an intersection of public life and personal moment at the same time.

 

[Frost of the Gloaming]

So they are worried about men dressing up like women in order to attack women in women's bathrooms. How exactly is that a LGBTQA problem and not a mental health one? Instead of actually trying to address the problem lets just ignore it instead.

[Guzzi]

Why do people care so much which bathroom we use?

It's pathetic isn't it.

[Vella]

Hey, all! Long time no see ....

 

RA - you look amazing! I love your haircut. 

 

Re: Bathrooms - The whole thing has just so many holes in it, I'm just so sick of the whole thing.

Cute story, though - I used to work in an after school care centre where I was out to the kids (we taught them about grammar and pronouns! It was fun!). One little girl in first year had more questions than just about anyone else I have ever met. Every day she'd come up and ask "So you're not a boy or a girl, right?" which usually meant there was going to be a lead-in to a whole other line of questioning ...

One day, she asked the bathroom question. "Which bathroom do you use?"
I said either, depending on how I felt on the day and whether there was a line at one of them.
She said "Oh." She looked down, over at the bathrooms, and back at me. "But you should never use the boy's bathrooms."
This will be good, I thought. "Why not?"
"Because they always smell terrible. You shouldn't go into the smelly bathrooms if you can choose."
Well, she wasn't wrong - the boys' bathrooms at that place were pretty putrid.

I would love it if that was the only reason people could ever think of for me not going in whichever bathroom will make me most comfortable. One of them is cleaner than the other one.

Grump.
Cute kid, though.

[Artinum]

51 minutes ago, Vella said:

RA - you look amazing! I love your haircut. 

 

Given that was from 4th March, I suspect Amazon's haircut may have changed. Hair has an irritating tendency to keep growing.

 

[Vella]

6 minutes ago, Artinum said:

 

Given that was from 4th March, I suspect Amazon's haircut may have changed. Hair has an irritating tendency to keep growing.

 

 

Argh! Curse my inability to look at dates on posts.

 

I'm sure that RA's haircut is still amazing, however.

[Frost of the Gloaming]

16 minutes ago, Artinum said:

 

Given that was from 4th March, I suspect Amazon's haircut may have changed. Hair has an irritating tendency to keep growing.

 

Yes but not necessarily on your head

[Guzzi]

3 hours ago, Vella said:

Hey, all! Long time no see ....

 

RA - you look amazing! I love your haircut. 

 

Re: Bathrooms - The whole thing has just so many holes in it, I'm just so sick of the whole thing.

Cute story, though - I used to work in an after school care centre where I was out to the kids (we taught them about grammar and pronouns! It was fun!).....

 

This^^ is fantastic, I really don't understand why we try to hide things from children when they are at an age where they simply accept what they are told about the world around them, then try and teach them about it when they're at an age when they find the whole thing either funny or embarrassing. 

 

My bf got a letter from the school yesterday saying that his 8 year old would be learning about where babies come from next school year. He was horrified. "He's FAR too young!" he cried.

 

Personally, I suspect that if we taught our children where babies come from the first time they ask, or about how some men love other men and some ladies love other ladies then there would be no issue. Why wouldn't they accept it just the way they accept that when their they put their teeth under the pillow, the Tooth Fairy comes???

[Princessstabity]

Hi everyone! I'm Kaitlyn, I'm an asexual grad student, and I'm new to NF, and I'm loving how supportive the community is so far! Really just wanted to say hi! 

[Vella]

7 hours ago, Guzzi said:

 

This^^ is fantastic, I really don't understand why we try to hide things from children when they are at an age where they simply accept what they are told about the world around them, then try and teach them about it when they're at an age when they find the whole thing either funny or embarrassing. 

 

My bf got a letter from the school yesterday saying that his 8 year old would be learning about where babies come from next school year. He was horrified. "He's FAR too young!" he cried.

 

Personally, I suspect that if we taught our children where babies come from the first time they ask, or about how some men love other men and some ladies love other ladies then there would be no issue. Why wouldn't they accept it just the way they accept that when their they put their teeth under the pillow, the Tooth Fairy comes???

 

Exactly! The problems mostly came from the kids who were older than about seven - although they were pretty fine with it, they had a harder time fitting it into their world view. I got the most questions from the 4-year-olds with no filter and the nine-year-olds who knew enough about biology to start asking the technical questions. Kids in the middle of those ages just kinda ran with it.

[SevenofSeven]

We never hid anything from our kids, with each new baby, the older ones versed the younger ones about where babies come from! It wasn't always the best coming from a 10 year old! But my Lads knew babies come from wombs and vaginas not belly buttons or cabbage patches.

 

We were always open about my brother and my best friend. They have watch my besties partner transition FTM and took it all in their stride and the great thing, they asked honest questions and were given honest answers by the adults in their world.

 

Honesty is not hard with kids, when people tell lies and have to build on those lies, shit get fucked up.

 

As far as kids being too young to be taught about where do babies come from.........farm kids know, they can't be sanitised from life on a farm.

[Guzzi]

I thought I would share this.

https://www.knotch.it/survey/56eb4ca59399e8047fc6592d?tti=3546&renderid=56faf29aebe48b5418715b8d

It's about a lady who helps trans women to feel more comfortable in their own skin, or as the article presents it - be more "feminine".

I found it interesting.

[Quinnicus]

TBH, Quinnicus, that's a really broad topic.  Didja have any specific questions?

Hey Hrunter;

I guess my questions focus mostly on what to expect, with regards to metabolism and working out. I am on hormones and have already seen a change in muscle and fat distribution. Will it be easier to lose with with Second Puberty ™? Put on muscle? Things like that.

[Hrunter]

I am not a doctor, but as far as I understand:

If said hormones are Testosterone, then compare to before, to a degree, yes.

If you're on Testosterone blockers and Estrogen/Progesterone, potentially comparatively harder.

 

When your Testosterone levels are in the healthy male range, your metabolism goes up.  Healthy serum levels for the Estrogen, Progesterone & Testosterone levels for a female lowers (Comparatively) metabolism.

 

Once you blood work is within the target healthy ranges, it is safe to use the matching number set in nutritional calculations (nutrition requirements, daily minimum intake, base metabolic rate).

 

Obviously, eating well and exercise is necessary for putting on muscle.  Appetite, immune system and onset of digestive illnesses changes, if you experience any, can affect these. For example, people taking Testosterone can develop diabetes. (though that apparently depends on genetics and one's pancreatic health before starting.) I am not familiar enough with changes towards an Estrogen dominant profile to point out any examples here, tbh.

 

You mentioned redistribution of body fat & muscle as well.  This can work in or against one's favour, depending on your fitness goals.  Upper body strength *can* become easier to build when switching to Testosterone dominance.  Changes in muscle and fat distribution around the hips when switching to Estrogen dominance also affects some people; I've been told that a portion of people get pain at first, lose some muscle but have little trouble building it back after their body adjusts.

[Hrunter]

(Mandatory Expression of frustration towards hormone profiles being labelled Male and Female)

[Ahyar Dreamspark]

On 2016-03-25 at 6:30 PM, Princessstabity said:

Hi everyone! I'm Kaitlyn, I'm an asexual grad student, and I'm new to NF, and I'm loving how supportive the community is so far! Really just wanted to say hi! 

 

Hi there!

 

Aaaahhh, I remember my days as an asexual grad student. Now I'm done grad school ;P

 

23 hours ago, Quinnicus said:

Hey Hrunter;

I guess my questions focus mostly on what to expect, with regards to metabolism and working out. I am on hormones and have already seen a change in muscle and fat distribution. Will it be easier to lose with with Second Puberty ? Put on muscle? Things like that.

 

I've only been taking T for about 10 months but...wow. It feels like I'm cheating at the gym. Dem gainz!

 

Fat loss also seems to be happening faster. My ass is less jiggly, anyway

[Ravis]

New Rebel....Gay Rebel....Grebel?.... Rebmo?....here.  New to this forum, not being gay. Anyways, just poppin in to say 
 

Lots of catching up to do on this thread, but I love most of the stuff I've seen so far!

[Artinum]

Hey Ravis. I love those claws!