Milythael - Two Steps Backwards - Three Steps Ahead

[milythael]

http://youtu.be/K0adFYuNuns

 

"Well if the sky can crack, there must be some way back, to love and only love."

 

After seriously derailing my life for several months, I am back on track, if starting from a bit behind the starting line.  I will take starting and finishing photos.  I will not track weight.  I care about fitness.  I care about energy.  I care about movement.  I do not care about measurements, weight, or appearance.  I am what I am.  Take it or leave it.

 

 

Paleo on $50 a Week (Con - 2, Sta - 2, Wis - 1)

Purchase, prepare, and eat paleo food for less than $50 each week.

 

I will allow myself one cheat meal a week which will not count against the budget or against paleo.  Indian buffet, Taco Smells, whatever.  No one is perfect, and I don't have to be either.  The only restriction on the cheat meal is that I should expect to enjoy it.  No cramming a crappy burger in my face just because I don't feel like cooking.

 

Miles on Bike (Wis - 1, Con - 1, Sta - 1)

I bought a new bicycle that should arrive the day the challenge starts.  Accumulate 180 miles on said conveyance in 6 weeks.  This is intended to break my dependence on others for local transportation.

 

Gold Medal Mily (Str - 2, Dex - 2, Sta - 1)

Comply with the Gold Medal Bodies Foundation 7 program starting week 2 when the challenge starts.

 

Hug a Day (Cha - 2)

Hug someone every day.  This is part of becoming the person I want to be.  I cherish human contact, but I'm afraid to attempt it in the real world.  I have to conquer this fear.  Extra credit if the hug given to a stranger.

 

 

I neglected to mention how much impact Loren Wade and my other NF friends have had on me and on this set of goals.  Thank you so much for your support, your time, and your patience.  My life is better for knowing you. 

[Loren Wade]

I love it!!!

[chris_de_maas]

Your goals are wonderful! I love your hug challenge. I am a physical and tactile person. I touch people a lot but hugging somebody else than my husband or a close friend is way out of my comfort zone! Kuddos for that!

I look forward to reading about your progress

[Wolverine]

I really, really, really like your "enjoy it" rule for your first goal.  I'm gonna see if I can cram that one in my nutrition goal.

[wildross]

Should be interesting to watch, particularly the hugging part...

[Wolverine]

Should be interesting to watch, particularly the hugging part...

 

I think there needs to be video.

[chris_de_maas]

I think there needs to be video.

 

That can become quite awkward though:

"Hi Stranger, I'd like to hug you. Don't mind the camera"

[Wolverine]

That can become quite awkward though:

"Hi Stranger, I'd like to hug you. Don't mind the camera"

 

He's an Assassin.  He'll figure out how to be sneaky.

[chris_de_maas]

He's an Assassin.  He'll figure out how to be sneaky.

Fair enough... Although that now sounds creepy

*glances left* *glances right* *hugs stranger* *runs away* (all the while some other bloke is recording)

[Elastigirl]

You could do like that youtube video and stand on the street with a sign that says "free hugs"

 

So glad to see you back with the assassins. We missed you. Are you going to post some of your meals? One reason people say they can't do Paleo is it is too expensive, so it would be great to see how you eat healthy while staying in budget

[Haikoo]

You have fantastic goals Love the hugging goal. We don't do nearly enough hugging around here, either.

[milythael]

I love it!!!

Thanks, man.  I'm scared of how much ground I lost, but it is good to be back.

 

Your goals are wonderful! I love your hug challenge. I am a physical and tactile person. I touch people a lot but hugging somebody else than my husband or a close friend is way out of my comfort zone! Kuddos for that!

I look forward to reading about your progress

I want to touch and be touched, but I can go for years without any physical contact.  It is a problem for me.  Thanks for your support.

 

I really, really, really like your "enjoy it" rule for your first goal.  I'm gonna see if I can cram that one in my nutrition goal.

I think Steve had a post about this a while back.  If you are going to cheat, fine.  Don't do it with guilt.  Make it worth it.  Enjoy every second, every calorie, every extravagance.  Enjoy the best chocolate, your favorite pasta, or that sinfully delightful looking desert that just went by.  Why waste guilt on twinkies or chocotacos?

 

Should be interesting to watch, particularly the hugging part...

I don't know how much watching there will be, but I'll try to post often.

 

I think there needs to be video.

There will probably not be video of the hugging.  This is about me conquering my personal inhibitions and fear of rejection.  Staged scenes probably wouldn't help much with that.

 

That can become quite awkward though:

"Hi Stranger, I'd like to hug you. Don't mind the camera"

Yeah, probably won't happen.

 

He's an Assassin.  He'll figure out how to be sneaky.

I could, I just don't really want to be sneaky about it.

 

Fair enough... Although that now sounds creepy

*glances left* *glances right* *hugs stranger* *runs away* (all the while some other bloke is recording)

Yeah, kind of creepy.

 

You could do like that youtube video and stand on the street with a sign that says "free hugs"

 

So glad to see you back with the assassins. We missed you. Are you going to post some of your meals? One reason people say they can't do Paleo is it is too expensive, so it would be great to see how you eat healthy while staying in budget

I've actually been trying to buy a hug related shirt or sweatshirt all day.  I plan on doing something close to that.

 

I do plan to document what I buy, and to some degree what I cook.  I've been relying on crockpot meals to provide many meals so I probably won't do a meal by meal thing.

[milythael]

You have fantastic goals Love the hugging goal. We don't do nearly enough hugging around here, either.

Thanks.  I think it is my favorite goal.

[Wolverine]

There will probably not be video of the hugging.  This is about me conquering my personal inhibitions and fear of rejection.  Staged scenes probably wouldn't help much with that.

 

The video suggestion was just a joke meant in fun.  No video required.  Promise.

[milythael]

The video suggestion was just a joke meant in fun.  No video required.  Promise.

It wasn't taken seriously.  I did see videos of a guy doing rejection therapy and thought it might work.  If I do a day of wandering around in public with a free hugs shirt on, I might get my roommate to video some of it. :-)

[Elastigirl]

Thanks, man.  I'm scared of how much ground I lost, but it is good to be back.

 

I want to touch and be touched, but I can go for years without any physical contact.  It is a problem for me.  Thanks for your support.

 

I think Steve had a post about this a while back.  If you are going to cheat, fine.  Don't do it with guilt.  Make it worth it.  Enjoy every second, every calorie, every extravagance.  Enjoy the best chocolate, your favorite pasta, or that sinfully delightful looking desert that just went by.  Why waste guilt on twinkies or chocotacos?

 

I don't know how much watching there will be, but I'll try to post often.

 

There will probably not be video of the hugging.  This is about me conquering my personal inhibitions and fear of rejection.  Staged scenes probably wouldn't help much with that.

 

Yeah, probably won't happen.

 

I could, I just don't really want to be sneaky about it.

 

Yeah, kind of creepy.

 

I've actually been trying to buy a hug related shirt or sweatshirt all day.  I plan on doing something close to that.

 

I do plan to document what I buy, and to some degree what I cook.  I've been relying on crockpot meals to provide many meals so I probably won't do a meal by meal thing.

That'll be great

 

It wasn't taken seriously.  I did see videos of a guy doing rejection therapy and thought it might work.  If I do a day of wandering around in public with a free hugs shirt on, I might get my roommate to video some of it. :-)

Awesome. I hope you find a tshirt. The video would be epic. Hmmm, thoughts isn't that people are afraid of what others think is because of that fear of rejection. For me, getting more confident is realizing most people are loving and won't reject (thank goodness most people don't act like jr highers any more) you. Yea, there are obnoxious mean people in this world but most people really just have the same need to connect with other. Ok, sorry about the meanderiing thoughts. I can't wait to hear how the hug a day experiment works!

[milythael]

That'll be great

 

Awesome. I hope you find a tshirt. The video would be epic. Hmmm, thoughts isn't that people are afraid of what others think is because of that fear of rejection. For me, getting more confident is realizing most people are loving and won't reject (thank goodness most people don't act like jr highers any more) you. Yea, there are obnoxious mean people in this world but most people really just have the same need to connect with other. Ok, sorry about the meanderiing thoughts. I can't wait to hear how the hug a day experiment works!

I told my roommate it was one of my goals for the challenge and he stood up and hugged me.  It is working already.

[Aeryn]

Ooh, inexpensive Paleo - I'll be watching that goal with interest! I'm always looking for new recipes, and less-expensive ones are especially awesome.

Sneaky hugs sounds hilariously creepy, as well as totally counter to your purposes. I'm glad that goal's already working for you, though!

[milythael]

Ooh, inexpensive Paleo - I'll be watching that goal with interest! I'm always looking for new recipes, and less-expensive ones are especially awesome.

Sneaky hugs sounds hilariously creepy, as well as totally counter to your purposes. I'm glad that goal's already working for you, though!

I've been doing the paleo for $50 thing for a couple weeks now.  So far, it has been a lot of crock pot chicken and a chocolate pork chili recipe I made up.

 

Thanks for the support.

[chris_de_maas]

I told my roommate it was one of my goals for the challenge and he stood up and hugged me.  It is working already.

 

That's brilliant!! So happy you have such a great room mate!

 

Here are 2 sites with a bunch of Paleo recipes, I don't know how cheap/expensive they are, but at least there's a bit of inspiration there:

http://nomnompaleo.com/recipeindex

http://paleodietlifestyle.com/paleo-diet-recipes/

and here's a super quick and cheap breakfast recipe which tastes really nice

http://ohjoy.blogs.com/my_weblog/2013/02/rubys-currently-snacking-on.html

[Nuala]

Milythael! *hugs* Glad to have you there again

[milythael]

That's brilliant!! So happy you have such a great room mate!

 

Here are 2 sites with a bunch of Paleo recipes, I don't know how cheap/expensive they are, but at least there's a bit of inspiration there:

http://nomnompaleo.com/recipeindex

http://paleodietlifestyle.com/paleo-diet-recipes/

and here's a super quick and cheap breakfast recipe which tastes really nice

http://ohjoy.blogs.com/my_weblog/2013/02/rubys-currently-snacking-on.html

He is a really good friend.  This is actually the second time I've lived with him.

 

Thanks for the links.  I'll definitely check them out.  The main reason I use the crock pot so much is how it reduces the amount of cooking I have to do overall.  When I can use inexpensive ingredients and make them last a long time, it makes me happier on days when I don't feel much like cooking.

[milythael]

Milythael! *hugs* Glad to have you there again

Yay, hugs.  I'm glad to be here again.  Thanks.

[drsloomis]

Awesome. I hope you find a tshirt. The video would be epic. Hmmm, thoughts isn't that people are afraid of what others think is because of that fear of rejection. For me, getting more confident is realizing most people are loving and won't reject (thank goodness most people don't act like jr highers any more) you. Yea, there are obnoxious mean people in this world but most people really just have the same need to connect with other. Ok, sorry about the meanderiing thoughts. I can't wait to hear how the hug a day experiment works!

 

I agree with everything said here. I'd also take it a step further and add that learning to understand rejection is just as important as the realization that most people are generally kind-hearted and looking for opportunities to connect. It's a hard thing to internalize, that rejection is usually more about the rejector than the rejected, but it's also an incredibly liberating one.

 

Thanks for the links.  I'll definitely check them out.  The main reason I use the crock pot so much is how it reduces the amount of cooking I have to do overall.  When I can use inexpensive ingredients and make them last a long time, it makes me happier on days when I don't feel much like cooking.

 

I can definitely vouch for the cost-effectiveness of NomNomPaleo--my wife uses recipes from there regularly and we're feeding 6 on teachers' salaries!

[catspaw]

Paleo on $50 a Week (Con - 2, Sta - 2, Wis - 1)

Purchase, prepare, and eat paleo food for less than $50 each week.

 

"How do I eat paleo on a tight budget?" is one of the hardest questions, I've found.  Because the answer is often "if you want better results than eating McDonalds every day, sometimes you have to pay more than you would for McDonalds".

 

So I love watching people being successful with paleo and keeping to a strict budget.  Go be a role model!