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Barriers.  Obstacles.  Demons.  Call 'em what you want, we've all got 'em.  

 

My goals this challenge are primarily focused on some big emotional/psychological barriers that are keeping me from moving forward in life.  Now that I've got my diet and training program well-established, I feel like I have the personal resources to dig in and face some of the deeper issues that have been hovering like harpies over my life.  In discussing this on my prior challenge thread, I heard some comments from other Rebels with similar goals, so I decided to set up this accountabilibuddy group.  If you have goals this challenge that target anxiety, fear, stress-management, coping skills, personal demons, emotional obstacles, etc. etc. etc., and you want some support from your fellow Rebels, feel free to sign up.  This is a cross-guild group and we only have one rule.

 

 

 

 

 

(also, those were three separate tags: "cross-guild," "anxiety," and "fear" -- but for some reason when I hit publish, it combined them into one tag.  weird.)

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My Jabberwock: Fear

  • of rejection
  • of failure
  • of unhappiness
  • of discomfort
  • of pain
  • of fear

Avoiding the Fear beast and being uncomfortable with discomfort leads me to

  • sleep too much
  • be afraid to get out of bed
  • eat SUGAR
  • miss workouts
  • stay indoors
  • get over-stimulated by too much input into my grey matter
  • be grouchy/irritable
  • give up on dreams and fun experiences
  • not enjoy the stuff I love as much as I could
  • react too quickly
  • react irrationally
  • attempt to control everything, even stuff I can't
  • ...

So instead of dealing with this Beast, I cling to it, unwilling to let it go, unwilling to turn my back on it, and certainly unwilling to move forward in life without it.  The next 6 weeks will focus on doing the opposite -- letting go, unclenching, releasing, getting okay with discomfort, developing perseverance in the face of rejection/failure/pain, seeking out the positive things over and over again to rewire my brain, and relinquishing a little of my vice-grip on CONTROL.

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Hi Sambie

 

Thanks for creating this group, I think it's a fab idea!

 

It also seems like the perfect group for me to join, as my current challenge is all about 'Fighting Shadows'

 

Goal #4 from my last quest was 'removing the shadows from your heart' which turfed up a lot of things sabotaging me at a subconscious level.

 

This challenge I plan on dealing with them all one by one and becoming the person I know I can be!

 

*gets demon/shadow-slaying sword ready*

Eirlys - Long Time Wood Fairy Druid

Current Challenge: S4 (Sleep, Sugar, Spending, Son)

 

Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away.

-- Antoine de Saint-Exupery

 

Done is better than perfect

-- Facebook

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I'm joining this group too, because I know it's my fear that keeps holding me back from ultimate greatness!!  Oh and cos you guys rock and are so totally supportive. :love_heart:

 

I'll tell you my demons in a little bit - just need to welcome a few more newbies to the Adventurers

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"A positive attitude will not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort" - Herm Albright
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Yay!  So glad you guys joined.  :D  I know I am so grateful for the support I find throughout the NF community and I am really looking forward to encouraging you guys and being encouraged by you.  For the Rebellion!

 

I know the challenge hasn't started yet, but I will just say that I talked to my little bro yesterday, and whooo-eee, he's got some stuff going on for him that totally mirrors the stuff going on in my head.  He lives on the other side of the country, so I can't see him much.  Hearing his struggles yesterday really hit home for me how much I need to work on this stuff....and it also made me worry a little bit about him.  He's young and lonely, and on the one hand his life is awesome (like mine) and on the other hand he feels totally alone, worthless, and uninspired (like I do much of the time).  I now have a new motivation to see this challenge through: trying to set an example for him of persevering and conquering some of the personal demons we share.

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Woah Sambie I've read through your fears and wonder whether i'm crazy :)

 

My Supervillian

  • success
  • failure
  • sweat (kinda weird, huh)
  • disappointment
  • having to make new friends
  • getting hurt
  • the person i could be

I keep sabotaging my own freaking efforts and it's soooooo annoying, because i am so afraid. I need to start changing this.

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Half Faerie (Sidhe) Scout | Black Belt Kitchen Ninja
"A positive attitude will not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort" - Herm Albright
You're welcome to skype me (audriwolf) too but let me know who you are

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Woah Sambie I've read through your fears and wonder whether i'm crazy :)

 

My Supervillian

  • success
  • failure
  • sweat (kinda weird, huh)
  • disappointment
  • having to make new friends
  • getting hurt
  • the person i could be

I keep sabotaging my own freaking efforts and it's soooooo annoying, because i am so afraid. I need to start changing this.

Haha you're not crazy!  :)  Welllll....maybe we all are a little crazy.  I can relate to your fears a lot, especially the having to make new friends and the person I could be.  I am a big self-sabotager too!  It's like, I'm too scared to live without my current limitations that I just keep hanging onto them.  I hope this group is helpful for all of us to blast past those barriers.

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Hey everyone!  Day one of the challenge is upon us!  

 

Here is one of my favorite quotes; I have it hanging on my bulletin board in my office so I can see it every day.  

 

"If you are going to doubt something, doubt your limits."  (attributed to Don Ward)

 

Hope everyone has a great first day of the challenge!  :)

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Good start today. I was mostly fearless :)

I got to a point in my hiit session though where I was like I can't do this anymore but I had 4 minutes to go, so I pushed through and it was great (I was a little wobbly after though :)). I don't know why I thought I couldn't do it, I mean I used to do long distance road and off road cycling!! Stupid fear! Smashed you in your face today :)

How's everyone else doing?

Sammie, that's a great quote!

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Half Faerie (Sidhe) Scout | Black Belt Kitchen Ninja
"A positive attitude will not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort" - Herm Albright
You're welcome to skype me (audriwolf) too but let me know who you are

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Haha you're not crazy! :) Welllll....maybe we all are a little crazy. I can relate to your fears a lot, especially the having to make new friends and the person I could be. I am a big self-sabotager too! It's like, I'm too scared to live without my current limitations that I just keep hanging onto them. I hope this group is helpful for all of us to blast past those barriers.

I'm not sure why making friends scares me? I'm a people's person and love socialising and I was very popular when I was younger, but now I'd rather sit in a corner and be invisible, just observe. My bgf (best guy friend) worries abt me when I'm like this. He's not used to seeing me so pensive - his word.

Lets beat this self sabotaging this challenge, K? Even if its only a few days a week, we will do it!

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"A positive attitude will not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort" - Herm Albright
You're welcome to skype me (audriwolf) too but let me know who you are

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I watched that twice, its beautiful and adorable and just what I need :)

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Half Faerie (Sidhe) Scout | Black Belt Kitchen Ninja
"A positive attitude will not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort" - Herm Albright
You're welcome to skype me (audriwolf) too but let me know who you are

My challenge

 

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Good start today. I was mostly fearless :)

I got to a point in my hiit session though where I was like I can't do this anymore but I had 4 minutes to go, so I pushed through and it was great (I was a little wobbly after though :)). I don't know why I thought I couldn't do it, I mean I used to do long distance road and off road cycling!! Stupid fear! Smashed you in your face today :)

 

Way to go!!  AngelBlaidd 1, Stupid Fear 0.  Booyah!  :D

 

I'm not sure why making friends scares me? I'm a people's person and love socialising and I was very popular when I was younger, but now I'd rather sit in a corner and be invisible, just observe. My bgf (best guy friend) worries abt me when I'm like this. He's not used to seeing me so pensive - his word.

Lets beat this self sabotaging this challenge, K? Even if its only a few days a week, we will do it!

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Yesss, we will do it!!  :D

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Good morning, fellow demon slayers!  It's day 2 of our challenge....what will you take on today to make it epic?
 
I'm going to try to post something uplifting/inspirational every morning, just to put a little oomph in the day.   :)  Here's today's, another of my favorite quotes:
 
"Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it!  Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it."  ~ Goethe

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(Source: Mike Shaw)

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Well today I figured another approach to attacking my planks! It works too lol! Now if onl I could just get outta my own head during the plank. Maybe I should download an mp3 of the kid president just for planking!

I need to get over this freaking "fear" of sweat! Everyone around me is sweating, albeit to as much as me, so why does it bother me?

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Half Faerie (Sidhe) Scout | Black Belt Kitchen Ninja
"A positive attitude will not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort" - Herm Albright
You're welcome to skype me (audriwolf) too but let me know who you are

My challenge

 

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Well today I figured another approach to attacking my planks! It works too lol! Now if onl I could just get outta my own head during the plank. Maybe I should download an mp3 of the kid president just for planking!

I need to get over this freaking "fear" of sweat! Everyone around me is sweating, albeit to as much as me, so why does it bother me?

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Haha, I attack my planks by playing Glee's version of "Bust A Move" and playing it as loud as I can handle on my MP3 player....I try really hard to follow all the lyrics, and the song is fast enough that this distracts me immensely during planks. This is how I got through my 2-minute plank a few challenges back.  :D

 

This fear of sweat is interesting....do you mind if I ask you about it?  I am wondering, is it a fear of the actual sweat itself being on your skin/clothes, or is a fear of looking sweaty and what people will think of that, or something else altogether?  (if you don't want to go into details you don't have to, I'm just trying to understand your experience.  :) )

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I don't mind talking about it. The biggest way to conquer your enemy is to know them and their weaknesses right? Unfortunately its bedtime and I have a labour law seminar tmrw, so I can't elaborate now, but will do so in the morning (probably when I get bored at the seminar :))

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"A positive attitude will not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort" - Herm Albright
You're welcome to skype me (audriwolf) too but let me know who you are

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Hey there

 

Sorry I've been quiet... I've been ill.  I like your idea Sambie of posting an inspirational quote every morning!

 

I've got a couple of thought-provoking ones too... such as:

 

"if you are depressed, you are living in the past

if you are anxious, you are living in the future

if you are at peace, you are living in the present"

- lao tzu

Eirlys - Long Time Wood Fairy Druid

Current Challenge: S4 (Sleep, Sugar, Spending, Son)

 

Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away.

-- Antoine de Saint-Exupery

 

Done is better than perfect

-- Facebook

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Hey there

 

Sorry I've been quiet... I've been ill.  I like your idea Sambie of posting an inspirational quote every morning!

 

I've got a couple of thought-provoking ones too... such as:

 

"if you are depressed, you are living in the past

if you are anxious, you are living in the future

if you are at peace, you are living in the present"

- lao tzu

This is an amazing quote, as I frequently struggle with depression and anxiety.

 

If it's cool, I wanted to join this group because in my challenge I'm trying to slay some external demons. Although I have plenty of internal ones as well that block my success on a daily basis, which affect my progress in the challenge.

 

Villains (external):

Food -- grains, sugars, processed foods, and flat out just too much food

Alcohol

Chores

 

Parasites (internal):

Anxiety -- I get easily overwhelmed and give up

Perfection -- related to anxiety, everything has to be done perfectly or I get overwhelmed and give up

Laziness/Procrasination

Rationalization

Lvl. 2 Ranger Assassin Shapeshifter


 


STR - 3 | DEX - 3 | STA - 7 | CON - 4 | WIS - 4 | CHA - 4


 


Current Challenge: Breaking Chains


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This is an amazing quote, as I frequently struggle with depression and anxiety.

 

If it's cool, I wanted to join this group because in my challenge I'm trying to slay some external demons. Although I have plenty of internal ones as well that block my success on a daily basis, which affect my progress in the challenge.

 

Villains (external):

Food -- grains, sugars, processed foods, and flat out just too much food

Alcohol

Chores

 

Parasites (internal):

Anxiety -- I get easily overwhelmed and give up

Perfection -- related to anxiety, everything has to be done perfectly or I get overwhelmed and give up

Laziness/Procrasination

Rationalization

 

Sounds like your parasites fit the focus of this group perfectly!  :)  Welcome aboard.  

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Another day!  Day 4 to be exact.  How is everyone doing this week?  I've had a pretty great week so far.  I have been kicking my demons in the teeth (as my D&D friends know I so love to do! ;) ), and it's been paying off.  By following through on my sleep, no-sugar, journaling, and meditation goals this week, I have felt much more emotionally stable and less reactive this week than I have in a loooong time.  Had a small blip yesterday evening when I got a little grouchy and lost some of my self-awareness for a few minutes (which led to one lash-out at J), I think because I had spent too much time sitting in front of the computer; but, I realized it was happening and got up and did some deep breathing to get myself back closer to center.

 

Some thoughts for today:

 

"1.  The path is not straight.

2. Mistakes need not be fatal.

3. People are more important than achievements or possessions.

4. Be gentle with your parents.

5. Never stop doing what you care most about.

6. Learn to use a semi-colon.

7. You will find love."

~ Marion Winik

 

And here's you're daily dose of AWESOME:  let's get out there and break down some walls, people!  

 

For the Rebellion!  :biggrin-new:

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Number 6 is hilarious.

 

I've had a pretty good go so far this first week. Tonight is going to challenge me, as one of my goals restricts alcohol intake and I'm going out for my good friend's birthday, but I'm going to stick to it. I'm also counting that into my calories for the day so I can adjust otherwise and still try to get as close to my macros as possible. The biggest thing for me is to tell myself it's not okay to break my rules, because I'm an emotional rationalizer and will make excuses for anything. So that is my demon for the day.

Lvl. 2 Ranger Assassin Shapeshifter


 


STR - 3 | DEX - 3 | STA - 7 | CON - 4 | WIS - 4 | CHA - 4


 


Current Challenge: Breaking Chains


(Really) Old Challenges 1 | 2 | 3

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