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Ughhhh..the bad news is, I drank too much wine last night. I went out to eat and had a healthy salad with grassfed sirloin steak and 2 glasses of red wine, and a v. small serving of butterscotch pudding...that was all fine. But then I stopped at the liquor store, bought a bottle of wine and took it over to my brother's house and we split the bottle...it was fun, but I feel like crap today.

The good news is...I did my HIIT workout for 30 minutes outside today. After doing a full body workout with free weights the other day, I'm just too sore to do it again today....I remember the soreness from when I used to do weights a few years ago,and I know I can push past it, but today I'm just too queasy from all that wine...

Today, I've stuck to my Paleo eating. All except a v. small glass of Simply Orange juice. Packing my meals for work tomorrow and going to bed early....feeling like I know I will do well this challenge. Change really needs to happen in my world!

I am so impressed that you went to the gym even though you were feeling crappy from drinking!!!

 

BTW half a bottle of wine doesn't count as over drinking in my book - unless you do it at each meal.

 

Keep it up.

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Going back to modify my goals a bit. I just got a good scale (my husband got it for free :). So I will weigh myself today and post my weight and measurements. Maybe even take a before picture...ugh...but I know it's motivating and good to be able to SEE a difference. I've done it before....even though I am more after attaining health than being at a certain weight...I'm enough overweight that a goal of dropping 10 lbs is good for this first challenge.

I decided that I'm not good at holding myself to "make a list" or "do the shopping" on a certain day every week...too many variables...the main one being that right now I don't have good control of my finances....so, I don't have the money I need every Tuesday ..not yet anyway. I'm changing this goal to simply making one new Paleo recipe each week--trying to find recipes that I'll want to make on a somewhat regular basis. The 2nd part of my goal is to do one thing each week to make my kitchen more Paleo ready...like, adding a new spice, making a condiment to have on hand for the week (like Paleo mayo, or Primal hot cereal, or paleo crackers, etc). I'm pretty good at eating Paleo most of the time. Mostly when I slip up it's because I don't have pre-cooked meals and snacks ready. Gonna change that in these next 5 weeks.

I've been doing ok with my drinking. I haven't bought any wine to drink at home alone...though I did have one night where I went out with friends and stopped at my brother's on the way home and drank more wine...felt crappy the next day. On Sat nite I went out with my husband...had a delicious beet salad with 2 glasses of red wine...which is fine except for the expense of it....right now I think I'm good with how my current "drink less wine" goal is set up. Hopefully, I'll want it less and less. We'll see.....

My finances goal for the next 6 weeks is good. It's a scary subject for me, so I gotta tackle it at a rate I can handle. Already behind because I don't wanna deal....but vow to catch up and reach my goal. I need to feel strong in this area of my life. It's taken up WAY too much of my mental energy for like the last 30 years...and not my good mental energy....

Now I gotta figure out this whole point/grading thing. Might have to simplify it....kinda confused. Will look at it closer tomorrow when I don't have to work.....

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Money is such an emotionally charged thing to deal with.  You're right to take it at a pace you can handle.  Remember, you do have another five weeks!  Don't procrastinate, but you do have time to do it slowly with determination.  We're all rooting for you.

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Money is such an emotionally charged thing to deal with.  You're right to take it at a pace you can handle.  Remember, you do have another five weeks!  Don't procrastinate, but you do have time to do it slowly with determination.  We're all rooting for you.

This!

 

Its so true that we are rooting for you. 

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Hey Skiley. I know it can be tough to bring up touchy subjects with our spouses, but I find it better to do it early. That way, there isn't as much resentment built up. Either way, if I can offer some advice on the subject of finances and being a guy...

 

This can get pretty deep, but I'll be brief. Guys need "respect" more than they need "love".  Now, I know a lot of people have very BAD connotations of the word "respect" but I assure you I'm not talking about "Do everything he says" or "he's the man, so he's in charge" kind of meanings behind the word. I'm talking about knowing that our spouses respect us, regardless of our failures - that they're proud of us. I can give you more on the subject if you want, but for now, I would suggest taking an approach of making sure he knows you respect him even though you're both having financial issues. Sometimes, us guys hear "we need to talk about our budget" as "you don't make enough money" which can be devastating to a guy.

 

When my wife says "I love you", I say I love her too. When she says "I respect you and that you work hard for us", my heart melts. When I hear those words, I want to work even harder. Try it and see what happens.

 

Sorry if I've overstepped any bounds by offering advice, and feel free to ignore any and all of this, but I just felt compelled to share.

 

Anyway... hang in there! Life is awesome!!!

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Money is such an emotionally charged thing to deal with. You're right to take it at a pace you can handle. Remember, you do have another five weeks! Don't procrastinate, but you do have time to do it slowly with determination. We're all rooting for you.

I'm going to tackle the first step of talking to my husband tomorrow after I figure out what needs to be paid this week. It'll be a good time to broach the subject. It's definately an emotionally charged issue for us...and has been all 28 years we've been married. It's a loooong story....hard to turn the ship around, but we're not getting any younger so we must get a grip. Thanks for the encouragement!

Sara

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This!

Its so true that we are rooting for you.

Thanks for the support. I do appreciate it much!

Hey Skiley. I know it can be tough to bring up touchy subjects with our spouses, but I find it better to do it early. That way, there isn't as much resentment built up. Either way, if I can offer some advice on the subject of finances and being a guy...

This can get pretty deep, but I'll be brief. Guys need "respect" more than they need "love". Now, I know a lot of people have very BAD connotations of the word "respect" but I assure you I'm not talking about "Do everything he says" or "he's the man, so he's in charge" kind of meanings behind the word. I'm talking about knowing that our spouses respect us, regardless of our failures - that they're proud of us. I can give you more on the subject if you want, but for now, I would suggest taking an approach of making sure he knows you respect him even though you're both having financial issues. Sometimes, us guys hear "we need to talk about our budget" as "you don't make enough money" which can be devastating to a guy.

When my wife says "I love you", I say I love her too. When she says "I respect you and that you work hard for us", my heart melts. When I hear those words, I want to work even harder. Try it and see what happens.

Sorry if I've overstepped any bounds by offering advice, and feel free to ignore any and all of this, but I just felt compelled to share.

Anyway... hang in there! Life is awesome!!!

 

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So far so good today. Did my full body workout with free weights. Eating Paleo. Getting ready to post my starting point stats and point system. Wanted to upload pics from my ipad but it seems I can't do it without Flash player which the ipad doesn't have. (Unless there's a way I haven't figured out). I haven't been on a regular computer for a LONG time...except at work of course. I would like to post photos here sometimes, so I might have to dig out the old laptop. Grrrrr....

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Apple devices do not support Flash.  :(

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Doing great. Took my 8 yr old William to the school playground to shoot hoops yesterday....in the SNOW!

Crazy, but we had a blast playing HORSE and PIG. He was surprised at how good I was at shooting, and I was surprised at how good he was too. So it was fun and we played until our hands got too cold and then we walked home. Ate Primal..no cheats. Today, I did a 30 min Hiit walk/run outside. Going out to watch college basketball game with my husband and son...will drink responsibly which for me means no more than 3 drinks! Will make good food choices too, I promise.....

I did it. I talked to my husband about tracking our expenses in order to see where we're at so we can come up with a plan and he agreed we need to do it. Didn't resist at all. We are going to start tomorrow! :) :) :). I got all my accounts on mint.com! Yeah me, I'm winning at this challenge!

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I did it. I talked to my husband about tracking our expenses in order to see where we're at so we can come up with a plan and he agreed we need to do it. Didn't resist at all. We are going to start tomorrow! :) :) :). I got all my accounts on mint.com! Yeah me, I'm winning at this challenge!

AWESOME! :D I'm so proud of you! keep it up!

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and a specialist in self-kintsukuroi.

Current Challenge Accountability:  Health & Happiness Are Hard: Wherein the Cracked_Belle Un-Dies

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Spoiler

There is never a sudden revelation, a complete and tidy explanation for why it happened, or why it ends, or why or who you are. You want one and I want one, but there isn't one. It comes in bits and pieces, and you stitch them together wherever they fit, and when you are done you hold yourself up, and still there are holes and you are a rag doll, invented, imperfect. And yet you are all that you have, so you must be enough. There is no other way.
― Marya Hornbacher, Wasted: A Memoir of Anorexia and Bulimia

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First thing this morning I found out that my favorite uncle died. He was 84--which isn't young, but so far all we've been told is that he has been depressed and may have "over medicated" himself. This makes me so sad. Growing up, he was so great with us kids..took us to the community pool and Dairy Queen countless hot summer nights when he wasn't at the fire station. In recent years he's been super involved with his grandkids and even up on all the cool TV shows-- an active guy. I knew he was a recovering alcoholic, but didn't know he suffered from depression....RIP uncle Don...and thanks for the memories.

On a good note, I did my workout which was both upper and lower body with free weights.


 So, not an easy day, but a good one so far for my goals. And that's why I'm here-to be accountable and move forward!

I got even more done today. I made Paleo mayo...a double batch so I have enough to last about 10 days...I made crustless quiche with Brussels sprouts and chicken sausage in it. I made some bacon. I bought Larabars yestersday. Took my son and his friend to the park again to play basketball in the snow. Did all the laundry and dishes. I'm prepared to work my job for the next 4 10 hr. days...

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Make sure you create a budget and make categories for things that you both like to do. My wife and I budget for date nights and we each get a little bit of money each month, called blow money. It's money that either of us can spend on whatever we want, no judgement from the other person. I like to buy cigars from time to time and she likes to get a new blouse or coffee from Starbucks every once in a while. This way, neither of us can say to the other person "we don't have the money to spend on that". It's just known that it's going to be spent. We each get $25 a month. Just like anything else, if you try to do too much all at once, it usually ends in failure.

 

God bless!

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Well done on the money goal - I'm really pleased you did it even though it was hard. 

 

How is the paleo going? Are you enjoying it?

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Class: Adventurer

Strength: 8.5 Dexterity: 4 Stamina: 16.5 Constitution: 14 Wisdom: 9 Charisma: 4.5

 
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Goal 1 Progress = 2/42
Goal 2 Progress = 3/24
Goal 3 Progress = 1/18
Goal 4 Progress =2 /42
 

 

 

 

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Well done on the money goal - I'm really pleased you did it even though it was hard. 

 

How is the paleo going? Are you enjoying it?

I love Paleo. Most days it goes really well. I'm getting into the planning part of it. I did a W30 back in July, and it really helped to clarify what exactly I should and shouldn't have. I sometimes have things I shouldn't, but it's a lot less frequent.. I decided I'm a horrible "tracker" and it doesn't really help me much anyway. So, I just try to eat clean most of the time. But if I have some fruit juice, or fruit snacks or a piece of candy...I don't stress over it. The more I learn to cook and have Paleo food and snacks at the ready, the easier it will be. Thanks for stopping by!

 

Sara

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I love Paleo. Most days it goes really well. I'm getting into the planning part of it. I did a W30 back in July, and it really helped to clarify what exactly I should and shouldn't have. I sometimes have things I shouldn't, but it's a lot less frequent.. I decided I'm a horrible "tracker" and it doesn't really help me much anyway. So, I just try to eat clean most of the time. But if I have some fruit juice, or fruit snacks or a piece of candy...I don't stress over it. The more I learn to cook and have Paleo food and snacks at the ready, the easier it will be. Thanks for stopping by!

 

Sara

I really want to try a Whole30 again.  I tried once, and my eating disorder kinda make it hell for a week, so I got scared and quit.  I need to try again.  maybe my next Challenge.

just another cracked southern belle,

and a specialist in self-kintsukuroi.

Current Challenge Accountability:  Health & Happiness Are Hard: Wherein the Cracked_Belle Un-Dies

Epic Quest:  Adventures in Badassery  [under construction]

Spoiler

There is never a sudden revelation, a complete and tidy explanation for why it happened, or why it ends, or why or who you are. You want one and I want one, but there isn't one. It comes in bits and pieces, and you stitch them together wherever they fit, and when you are done you hold yourself up, and still there are holes and you are a rag doll, invented, imperfect. And yet you are all that you have, so you must be enough. There is no other way.
― Marya Hornbacher, Wasted: A Memoir of Anorexia and Bulimia

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Overall, I did pretty well last week. I did 2 full body workouts and 1 30 min. Hiit cardio walk/run outside....hmm...I should be doing 3 of those..but, twice I took William to the park (walked) and played basketball in the snow. That was some exercise. For now, I'm kinda sticking to the Hiit cardio/weight training routine, because I'm an old Body-for-Life girl and I know the system works. I'm glad to get away from eating 6 freakin times a day. That was a pain--I like Paleo much better. After this challenge I'll look at doing more caveman style workouts. Too much to take on at once! The money goal is going ok. Got set up on mint.com. Now, need to get serious about tracking and spend less. Lots of random expenses coming up this month....ugh...my Paleo goal for the week went great. Made plenty of food to pack my lunches and a crust less quiche that's been great to have on hand for a quick breakfast.

Under the current grading system I'm working on, here's what I get....

Workouts-

C plus- 1 cardio

1 workout with free weights (full body)

The plus is for playing basketball (physical activities that are not official workouts, but are still exercise.)

Paleo-

B- cooked a Paleo meal (quiche)

made mayo

pre-cooked some meats and a vegetable to have on hand

Drinking habit-

A- went out one night this week. Drank one Cosmo, and 2 glasses of red wine, with water in between. I'm very happy with my progress here..not an easy one for me!

Money-

Working on my grading system for this goal. In order to feel positive and keep going with it I'm going to give myself an A cause I need to think positiveand move forward with it. No failing allowed on this one!

A- accounts are on mint.com

Talked to husband about tracking spending (now it's the doing that needs to happen)

Payed some monthly bills-some a little over what I need to in order to catch up and get current. The rest will be paid today

or tommorrow.

So, all in all a good week. Room for improvement for sure, but I'm pleased with my effort so far.

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did you post the quiche recipe and I missed it?

just another cracked southern belle,

and a specialist in self-kintsukuroi.

Current Challenge Accountability:  Health & Happiness Are Hard: Wherein the Cracked_Belle Un-Dies

Epic Quest:  Adventures in Badassery  [under construction]

Spoiler

There is never a sudden revelation, a complete and tidy explanation for why it happened, or why it ends, or why or who you are. You want one and I want one, but there isn't one. It comes in bits and pieces, and you stitch them together wherever they fit, and when you are done you hold yourself up, and still there are holes and you are a rag doll, invented, imperfect. And yet you are all that you have, so you must be enough. There is no other way.
― Marya Hornbacher, Wasted: A Memoir of Anorexia and Bulimia

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Ugh...drank a bottle of wine last night at home...I'm not supposed to be doing that. It's been a stressful week and I found myself pulling into the liquor store on my way home from work--of course, I wish I wouldn't have done it...oh well. Live and learn...again. Went to my uncle's funeral on Tues.-- found out he committed suicide...he was a great guy-always smiling and fun to be around. So sad. Called my brother to talk about some stuff, and the conversation turned kinda ugly toward me for no apparent reason...I wasn't expecting that, and it's got me feeling really down today. The last few years have been tough for our family. We lost our mom in 2011 and our "favorite" sister in Aug 2012--both to cancer. Family dynamics are shifting and it's uncomfortable. My sister was the safe haven I could talk with about whoever or whatever was bothering me. I feel fearful and vulnerable without her. I'm doing this challenge because I need to keep myself going and am trying to move forward in a positive direction.  Life just is so different for me now. Gotta work this weekend. I did make some Paleo food, so I'm eating pretty well and I've gotten some workouts in...all is not lost!

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my phone number is 1-337-349-3009.  text or call next time you're in that parking lot.  I'll help talk you out of it.

 

<3

 

you're stronger than your drinking habits are.  just remember that.

just another cracked southern belle,

and a specialist in self-kintsukuroi.

Current Challenge Accountability:  Health & Happiness Are Hard: Wherein the Cracked_Belle Un-Dies

Epic Quest:  Adventures in Badassery  [under construction]

Spoiler

There is never a sudden revelation, a complete and tidy explanation for why it happened, or why it ends, or why or who you are. You want one and I want one, but there isn't one. It comes in bits and pieces, and you stitch them together wherever they fit, and when you are done you hold yourself up, and still there are holes and you are a rag doll, invented, imperfect. And yet you are all that you have, so you must be enough. There is no other way.
― Marya Hornbacher, Wasted: A Memoir of Anorexia and Bulimia

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my phone number is 1-337-349-3009.  text or call next time you're in that parking lot.  I'll help talk you out of it.

 

<3

 

you're stronger than your drinking habits are.  just remember that.

Thanks. I will take you up on that if the need arises...I almost talked myself out of it-- I am doing this challenge after all. But what's done is done. Won't do it this week.

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don't let one day blow a whole week.  it's easier said than done, BELIEVE ME, I know.  but just look at yesterday as a fuck up and an easy place to move forward from.

just another cracked southern belle,

and a specialist in self-kintsukuroi.

Current Challenge Accountability:  Health & Happiness Are Hard: Wherein the Cracked_Belle Un-Dies

Epic Quest:  Adventures in Badassery  [under construction]

Spoiler

There is never a sudden revelation, a complete and tidy explanation for why it happened, or why it ends, or why or who you are. You want one and I want one, but there isn't one. It comes in bits and pieces, and you stitch them together wherever they fit, and when you are done you hold yourself up, and still there are holes and you are a rag doll, invented, imperfect. And yet you are all that you have, so you must be enough. There is no other way.
― Marya Hornbacher, Wasted: A Memoir of Anorexia and Bulimia

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wow- I'm impressed with your wine goal. I also LOVE my wine (and champagne and liquor...) and while I know I could give it up for a good reason, I REALLY don't want to yet. I know I'll have to face this eventually if I want to get to my long term goal, but I'm not gonna be happy about it, lol. I give you mad props for just being ready to tackle this particular habit!

Don't worry about your slip-ups- from what I've read, it seems everyone is fighting the "mid-challenge slump" (myself included!). Own your mistakes, and get right back to leveling. As a wise old baboon once said: "It doesn't matter; it's in the past!" lol

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