sicil - Ninja Finds Her Zen By Saying No To Strangers (And Friends)

[sicil]

I'm really, really lucky. Just wanted to get that out of the way, because what follows might sound a little bit like these first world problems.

 

I assure you madam (or gent), that is not the case.

 

I love being on the go. I can't stop thinking about that next hill, challenge, or awesome experience. Cliched enough as it is: life is short. The thought keeps me up at night and what compels me out of bed every morning. It's what drives me to say yes in fear of missing out. As awesome as that sounds, I've been feeling like this little guy as of late:

 

 

I've said yes to too many things at once. It used to be that personal health would be the first thing to go in times of stress, but now with three past challenges under my belt, I've fortified myself against slipping and losing all of that progress. Which is great - except I'm bloody tired most nights and don't become particularly refreshed after weekends or vacations.

 

Main Quest: Path To Greater Stamina, Everywhere

It's time to strike another balance between my newfound enjoyment for exercise and the other facets of my life. Time is our shortest and most precious commodity. I'm trying become more selective without giving offence - coming up with different strategies of saying 'no' that doesn't leave the other party in the gutter or without options.

 

Goal 1: Downsize Without Sacrificing Happiness (+5 CHA)
Get used to saying 'no' to something on a frequent basis. Come up with different strategies on how to say no without offending. Prioritize what matters to me, and work towards those goals. Write it down.

 

Goal 2: Find Better Efficiencies (+3 DEX, +2 WIS)
Stop procrastinating. Identify one new area of blockage on a weekly basis and come up with personal deadlines to get things done.

 

Goal 3: Bring On The Zen (+5 WIS)
Block out one weeknight for an appointment with myself, and do something meaningful to recharge during that time.

 

Motivation

To stop chewing my nails as a way of coping with stress.

To take time out for people who matter most to me.

To live in the moment instead of thinking about the next.

 

The challenges above sound deceptively simple, and I think that's the whole point. I'll be maintaining all of my previous challenges (cardio, BW, working with personal trainer, eating well, stretching), so this is one additional layer of mindfulness on top. Instead of measuring myself up to a certain standard, or against the achievements of others, it's time to go flow.

[JessFit]

You have really great goals and I love the way you've decided to look at this challenge

[sicil]

You have really great goals and I love the way you've decided to look at this challenge

Thanks Jess! Great to see you back for more!

[Reinfire]

Fantastic! I love the take you bring to this, finding ways to say no and work on what really matters. I'm trying to recall where I heard this, but I remember reading something about "Fuck yes or no"; only doing things if they're what you emphatically, really want. And if the things you have to do (i.e. work) don't fall under that, working to transition to something that you are passionate about. I probably need a refresher in prioritizing my life this way

[GingaNinja]

Sweet challenge Sicil, I think this a really good idea, sometimes like gets on top of us. Good job on planning to take time for yourself!

[peggysr]

What a GREAT set of goals!  Sooooo glad you're still here.

[sicil]

Fantastic! I love the take you bring to this, finding ways to say no and work on what really matters. I'm trying to recall where I heard this, but I remember reading something about "Fuck yes or no"; only doing things if they're what you emphatically, really want. And if the things you have to do (i.e. work) don't fall under that, working to transition to something that you are passionate about. I probably need a refresher in prioritizing my life this way

 

Haha, "fuck yes or no," love it. That's a good way of thinking about my choices in grey areas, instead of black and white. I think I just have to learn how to prioritize better.

 

Sweet challenge Sicil, I think this a really good idea, sometimes like gets on top of us. Good job on planning to take time for yourself!

 

Cheers, thank you! It's sad that in our modern society, we have to schedule things like time off!

 

What a GREAT set of goals!  Sooooo glad you're still here.

 

Thank you lady! Glad to see you back as well! Lookin' forward to reading more of your running adventures.

[thekatisalie]

Really liking this challenge for you! Subb'd!

[Ceasefire]

Self challenges are AWESOME. Better you emotionally means better you physically.

 

(My daughter can't stop watching the bunny gif. She's laughed every time he falls down so far. XD)

 

Might I suggest painting your nails as a deterrent from biting them? Not only will you not want to ruin your polish, but you'll look faaaaaabulous~

[sicil]

Really liking this challenge for you! Subb'd!

 

Thanks for checking in!

 

Self challenges are AWESOME. Better you emotionally means better you physically.

 

(My daughter can't stop watching the bunny gif. She's laughed every time he falls down so far. XD)

 

Might I suggest painting your nails as a deterrent from biting them? Not only will you not want to ruin your polish, but you'll look faaaaaabulous~

 

Thanks! How I feel matters most to me. I can do all of these amazing things in life, but if I'm not happy inside, then it won't really matter. Thanks for the suggestion on the nails, I find its easier to quash the biting if I maintain them well to begin with. I don't like colour, but I can do a clear. Also, I might look into a manicure every once in a while. That is a big step, lol.

 

Bunny = so much win.

[JessFit]

Thanks for checking in!

 

 

Thanks! How I feel matters most to me. I can do all of these amazing things in life, but if I'm not happy inside, then it won't really matter. Thanks for the suggestion on the nails, I find its easier to quash the biting if I maintain them well to begin with. I don't like colour, but I can do a clear. Also, I might look into a manicure every once in a while. That is a big step, lol.

 

Bunny = so much win.

You can get that spicy gross tasting stuff to put on/around your nails so when you go to bite it tastes gross. Problem is some people like spicy hahaha

[Eilyd]

Great challenge! I shall support you in your endeavors!

[Nephaisys]

Really like that you're pretty much working out your heart and soul on a different level. That's very cool. This will be a superb challenge for you, but you have to promise to stick to it, no getting bored, doing additional stuff and running yourself into the ground, mmmk? This is Sicil's chance to recharge and come back all recharged and refreshed.

 

If you need help building some of those 'no' strategies or prioritising what's important, shout. That's how I make my mega bucks.

[Kishi]

Time is definitely not on any of our sides. We need to use what we have to help others and ourselves to live the best lives we all can.

 

Of course, that life requires energy as well. I hope you find it. Look forward to seeing you do that.

[Reinfire]

Really like that you're pretty much working out your heart and soul on a different level. That's very cool. This will be a superb challenge for you, but you have to promise to stick to it, no getting bored, doing additional stuff and running yourself into the ground, mmmk? This is Sicil's chance to recharge and come back all recharged and refreshed.

If you need help building some of those 'no' strategies or prioritising what's important, shout. That's how I make my mega bucks.

Is that "give a shout" offer to others too?

[Nephaisys]

You betcha! Happy to help however I can :-)

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[sicil]

Great challenge! I shall support you in your endeavors!

 

*salutes*

 

Really like that you're pretty much working out your heart and soul on a different level. That's very cool. This will be a superb challenge for you, but you have to promise to stick to it, no getting bored, doing additional stuff and running yourself into the ground, mmmk? This is Sicil's chance to recharge and come back all recharged and refreshed.

 

If you need help building some of those 'no' strategies or prioritising what's important, shout. That's how I make my mega bucks.

 

No getting bored. Hahahahahaha, you know me too well. I agree, this is my way of rebooting my life... without going on vacation to do so!

 

Are you a coach?

 

Time is definitely not on any of our sides. We need to use what we have to help others and ourselves to live the best lives we all can.

 

Of course, that life requires energy as well. I hope you find it. Look forward to seeing you do that.

 

Thank you! Great to have you along for the support!

 

Is that "give a shout" offer to others too?

 

Neph, they're gonna be knocking down your door soon...

[rogaecia]

Yay Sicil! Glad to see you back. I love your goals and how centering they are. I have no doubt you will be successful because you're awesome!

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[Paradigm]

Sicil you left us *sob* lol. 

 

I love your challenge though it looks great and given what you've been up to the last several challenges, honestly it's needed! Though I hope you won't be saying no to our coffee date!

[The Borg Queen]

Looks like a great challenge. Relaxing is very important!

[CombatBoot]

If I may offer my unsolicited advice, what helped for me against procrastination was to find out why exactly I was procrastinating. There usually is a reason behind this kind of behavior.

 

And, of course, my wholehearted support for your challenge! Mens sana in corpore sano and all that. 

[Tateman]

great goals

[Nephaisys]

I'll help whoever needs it! My dream job is literally to be a life-coach

 

How's day one going?

[thekatisalie]

Happy day one! LET'S KICK SOME ASS!

[Reinfire]

I'll help whoever needs it! My dream job is literally to be a life-coach

How's day one going?

You would so be amazing at this