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I've noticed that many vets go through rough patches during their transition to civilian life. Personally, I was recently medically retired for PTSD related to MST, and have fought through a good amount of depression, eating disorders, and anxiety. I struggle with panic attacks when in unfamiliar environments, surrounded by unfamiliar people, etc. I hope that whatever issues we're working on currently (mil to mil relationships, seclusion, depression, general life stress) we can find common ground in our service. There's nothing quite like the military--it's a lifestyle, a language, and a huge chunk of our lives.

 

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I'm a vet also but I had a fairly easy time in the military.  I was a nuclear Weapons specialist and besides a little residual guilt over how well I did my job I got out with relatively easy duties and much less than average stress, but if you ever need to chat with someone who has been there and done that let me know.  Also please feel free to join up with the order of the stick for mostly silly monster fighting and adventures in fitness.

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Heilsa! fellow vet here as well. I'm in the same boat as Hardway. I was part of the 2 shop and didn't deploy. (was at a non deployable unit in the pacific for 3 years then was denied a deployment when I got back stateside because I only had ~14 months left on my contract). I did do over 2 years in AFG as a CTR though. If you want to chat hit me up

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I was in the military for 6.5 years 2.5 years ago and have come out with only minor issues.  I have a knee instability problem, more so in my right knee, and some depression issues.  I was a linguist and deployed once to Iraq, voluntarily.  And while I like to pretend that my time in the service was all sunshine and rainbows, it wasn't.  Being treated like a POS because I wasn't as fast or fit as my male squad mates even though I could almost max the female PT requirements was very hard on my self worth.  Regardless of how well I performed, I was still a POS because I couldn't meet the male minimum standard on all of my events (push ups killed me).  I struggled with my DLPT (annual language proficiency test) because I don't test well and was treated like a POS because I made the minimum requirement in listening (2) instead of the max (3) even though I maxed the reading portion.  I was openly hazed by the 1SG for 2 years, which really hit me in the self-esteem.  My civilian co-workers, however, loved me (go figure).  I had a hard time, especially after my knee injury, when I was unable to perform at PT.  Stupid me decided to do a ruck march from 04 to 2000 (on my own through hilly territory) and ended up damaging my knees. 

I am currently married to a soldier and we are facing a separation while he is sent to Korea (unaccompanied).  We have spent half of our 8 years married separated.  This is nothing new but it sucks since we have a toddler.  While he is gone, however, I hope to get back into shape and rejoin the civilian workforce.  :)

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Vet here, spent 4 years in the Marines from 99-03, came out relatively unscathed,  Spent 6 months in the big sand box across the pond, barely missed getting friendly fired by an arty shell by a few days, managed to avoid a massive ambush that my commander didn't see too worried about, that time period I have had issues with, between how the military acted, and how the politicians acted while I was over there. even more so as I get older and am able to look back on it with more experience and especially as this country changes.

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My husband is in the same boat as you. One does not simply talk politics with him; one sits down with a six pack and clears up their schedule. :-)

I just stopped talking about it completely, it seems only people who've been military understand where I come from, and saying I have a different opinion is an understatement, and Facebook.... oh man do I want to punch some people in the face... hard.

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I just stopped talking about it completely, it seems only people who've been military understand where I come from, and saying I have a different opinion is an understatement, and Facebook.... oh man do I want to punch some people in the face... hard.

 

I know how you feel....

 

Also if I had to describe myself I would say I am a right leaning democrat (who is also Pagan).... I have learned to just not say anything about politics or religion around anyone in the Marine Corps because I am instantly wrong and labeled as a satanic liberal hippy....

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I know how you feel....

 

Also if I had to describe myself I would say I am a right leaning democrat (who is also Pagan).... I have learned to just not say anything about politics or religion around anyone in the Marine Corps because I am instantly wrong and labeled as a satanic liberal hippy....

Never really tried to find where I fall on the spectrum. I just want to be left alone, and at the same time leave others alone, for some reason there's people and they seem to be everywhere, that want to control every aspect of my life, they're usually on Facebook too...

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Never really tried to find where I fall on the spectrum. I just want to be left alone, and at the same time leave others alone, for some reason there's people and they seem to be everywhere, that want to control every aspect of my life, they're usually on Facebook too...

 

Can't we all get along and leave each other alone so long as they are not hurting anyone else.... Which is why I only use facebook to track various groups/events and as a replacement for AIM.

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Can't we all get along and leave each other alone so long as they are not hurting anyone else.... Which is why I only use facebook to track various groups/events and as a replacement for AIM.

I use it for the Camp group, but occasionally I'll see something on there too... 300+ people are eventually gonna like something political. I just scroll past it...

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Just remembered.... if ever there was a time, and my mind would have literally exploded should that be possible, the following story is it.

 

I was debating with someone about giving money to poor people, he was of the mind that you should be forced too because it's right, and I was of the mind that I should be able to decide what I do with my money. I mentioned something about having no problem helping them, but taking money from someone who has very little to begin with to give it to someone on the street, could end up putting that family on the street and I'm going to make sure my family is taken care of first, then friends, then if there's some left over, sure I can throw some their way.

 

His response was something along the lines of "Well there's your problem, you're first responsibility is your fellow man and not your family"

 

My brain short circuited....

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I just stopped talking about it completely, it seems only people who've been military understand where I come from, and saying I have a different opinion is an understatement, and Facebook.... oh man do I want to punch some people in the face... hard.

 

I was originally from California, and I was exactly the stereotype. I'm somewhat moderate after my enlistment, because there's nothing like seeing the world to alter your viewpoint. I have a friend out of the country and she said she'd never been very patriotic before but the different environment was changing that.

 

I just deleted it. I lost one of my best friends over a misunderstanding of semantics, and I just couldn't handle seeing her in all these photos over the years; it literally made me sick. I have a phone, Skype, email; I'm easy to track down, so there's really no reason to keep torturing myself for logging in.

 

*Delete*

 

 

Just remembered.... if ever there was a time, and my mind would have literally exploded should that be possible, the following story is it.

 

I was debating with someone about giving money to poor people, he was of the mind that you should be forced too because it's right, and I was of the mind that I should be able to decide what I do with my money. I mentioned something about having no problem helping them, but taking money from someone who has very little to begin with to give it to someone on the street, could end up putting that family on the street and I'm going to make sure my family is taken care of first, then friends, then if there's some left over, sure I can throw some their way.

 

His response was something along the lines of "Well there's your problem, you're first responsibility is your fellow man and not your family"

 

My brain short circuited....

 

MINE, TOO. Zero logic in taking from the poor so they're in the same boat as the recipient. I'm all about tithing and charitable donations, but it's always an amount my family can work with.

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Heilsa! fellow vet here as well. I'm in the same boat as Hardway. I was part of the 2 shop and didn't deploy. (was at a non deployable unit in the pacific for 3 years then was denied a deployment when I got back stateside because I only had ~14 months left on my contract). I did do over 2 years in AFG as a CTR though. If you want to chat hit me up

You left me out JC.  Combat medic here

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Most people's favorite.  Because we show up on your worst day.  But we're also bad to piss off because then you get large gauge needles for your IV

Ya... Something along those lines. My unit loved our Devil Docs, as we called em.

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