Lilith’s Epically Epic Quest (AND GOATZ)

[Lilith]

The foodie tour sounds brilliant even if it wasn't the best for your goal.

 

Yay for week 2 success!

Oh it was AMAZING and I actually don't really regret it. These days keep me sane, too  

 

Great week 2!

Yeahhhh, thanks! :D 

 

For the jump throughs, maybe focus more on pushing down with your shoulders to get your hips as high as possible off the ground as you pass between the parallettes?

 

You're being very consistent, good work Does your landlady know you do gymnastics? Or do you fear she might tell you that you should go play boules or rugby while you're in France and if you don't she'll ban you from the city?

Yes I will focus on that more! I do steadily keep getting more 'space' so I know it's going in the right direction, but my paralettes are kind of low so I need to be quite perfectly in the right shape. I love it so it's easy to be consistent yay! Landlady DEFINITELY doesn't know haha Indeed something like you say. Hey she MIGHT be okay with it. But she probably isn't since she's only just about okay with us breathing so I'm not taking that risk. It's not that hard to hide I do it first thing in the morning when she's asleep and hide the paralettes in a big bag with clothes.

[raptron]

Yayay, good work this week! Kickin' it strong with those parallettes!

[Lightning]

Your consistency seems to be paying off. Even if you are only getting little increases in the space when doing the jump throughs. I hope to work on pikes when my rings come in. I really want to do an l-sit someday. Someday far, far away.

[Lilith]

Yayay, good work this week! Kickin' it strong with those parallettes!

Thanks! *bounce bounce*

 

Your consistency seems to be paying off. Even if you are only getting little increases in the space when doing the jump throughs. I hope to work on pikes when my rings come in. I really want to do an l-sit someday. Someday far, far away.

Yes it is paying off for sure! I knew that my arms and abs are weak points. My legs are far stronger! I hope you can do an L-sit someday. That's a serious feat of strength!

[Mad Hatter]

Of course you'll be able to do an L-sit.

[raptron]

^^^

 

[shaar]

Your week 2 was AWESOME!!!!  I'm loving your hunger scale, I thought of you over this past weekend when I was STARVING and thought... I need to fix my hunger scale!  I'm about to hit a 2!! ><

 

[lucky fire dragon]

WOW, you are rocking it!!! And look at that progress on the parallettes from week 1 to week 2, that is amazing!

 

Love your cheerful consistency, very superhero mode in continuation!

How cool to have a fun new roommate.

 

How's the lab work going? Are you still walking as much? Am in total awe of that. And so intrigued by your hunger scale, that is a brilliant thing you are pulling through here 

 

Also 

[KB Girl]

Did you do fun things this weekend with your new roommate? 

[Lightning]

Did you do fun things this weekend with your new roommate?

Yes... Do tell.

[tinkerer]

Hello! I hope that all is well in Paris and that you've just been out adventuring!

[Lilith]

Too Long, Won’t Read: Landlady be crazy.  Got evicted. Found a new place quickly, for JUST ME. Everything is awesome for Paris adventure part 2!

 

Well so I guess it's time for a big update. I'm kind of not sure if this challenge is still running or not. Probably not. Life got a little crazy, but first things first: I'm fine.  

 

I got evicted.

 

So how did this happen. Well on Sunday morning I got up, sleepy and groggy, to immediately get some tea. Usually I spend some time waking up in my room before I even venture to outside my room. This time I didn’t. Of course. Before I even made it to the kettle, I encounter the landlady. She said “I need to talk to you, please come to my room it will only take a few minutesâ€. I already had this sort of sinking feeling, even though I didn’t know exactly what was up. Because I’ve never talked to her ‘in her room’. We just talk where we meet, be that kitchen, hallway, etc… Then she closed the door. So I did a mental sigh and said a silent goodbye to my dreams of waking up with a good cup of tea.

 

It will be hard to give a play by play of the conversation, because it took a long time. Anyway, the opening sentence I do definitely remember. The landlady said “Lilith my dear, you know how I always say that this is my house and that I need to feel comfortable. You are creating tension in the house, I’m sure you feel it too, and you make me uncomfortable. You are agressive. This does not work. You are going to have to leave.†Wow. Yeah. So that set the tone! Of course there’s emotions going through me right there and then, disbelief, a bit of fear, a bit of anger as well. But I’ve learned so much in the past year and I’m a strong person. Believe me when I say I stayed calm, I stayed polite. (at least at this point). I asked her: well actually I didn’t realise I was creating tension and I definitely don’t recall being agressive. Could you perhaps give me some examples so I can understand?

 

She started out by saying she had MANY examples. So I was all ready to hear these mysterious things I had been doing wrong. First example she gave, “remember yesterday when we made the bed?†And yes, I DO remember yesterday when we made the bed. Let me tell you how I remember it.

 

Landlady was talking about how busy she was, as she basically always does. This time it was quite specific, she said the cleaning lady could only come for <shorter amount of time than usual> and that she still had to make the beds too which she usually doesn’t do. It was a Saturday for me, and I didn’t have any pressing plans. I offered to help her make the beds. I said I could make mine, and if she wanted also those of my roommates. Landlady said no you can’t make the bed alone, but you can help me. So I said sure. Landlady asked when are you up for it? I replied: whenever you are, anywhere from now until the end of today is fine. So off we went. Now, I never made the bed in this house before. Because that’s something that the landlady/cleaning lady does for us. Offering to do it yourself doesn’t help, she doesn’t allow it. We made the bed together, all the while I tried to mimick what the landlady does. As she does not actually EXPLAIN what needs to be done. So I sortof lag behind so I can see what she does. This visibly annoys her, but I can’t help it. Then, when it’s done, my side is not as impeccable as hers so she makes a theatrical sigh and does my side again while saying “but you are so young and strong why can’t you do it properly I’m old and I can do itâ€. Then, we do the thing over the matress, and for that, we would pull the matress away from the walls so you have some space to work. When we were done, she asked IN ONE BREATH “Lilith could you please push the matress back I am old and not so strong Lilith WHY ARE YOU NOT PUSHING IT BACK please help me it won’t be much trouble for you don’t be lazyâ€. This was all said in about 5 seconds, and while she was bodyblocking me from the spot I needed to be to push the matress. By then she was angry. So I tried to explain “Landlady, I’m sorry, but if I’m not doing something, it’s not because I don’t WANT to do it, but because you are not explaining what you want, or aren’t done yet explaining like now you gave me no time to react even?†Then that escalated in a discussion where she said well you KNOW how to make a bed right?! And I said well YES but everyone does it differently. Landlady: “Well you SLEEP in this bed right? So you know how it’s made?†and I just let it go because there’s no winning in this situation. Landlady goes on to say how LUCKY I am that I apparently NEVER made a bed with her before. Even though when I rented it, she included it as part of the deal that SHE made the bed, and also she apparently forgot already that I VOLUNTEERED to help her and now she’s brushing me off as lazy.

 

Back to the story. So the landlady asked me if I remembered it. She used this example to say: well look at you, your attitude was agressive, and you were too proud to help out with the bed. I tried to argue. I said, well I don’t think I was agressive at all, I was genuinely trying to help and with your limited explanations on what you wanted me to do, did the best I could. But hey, you said you have more examples, can I hear more?

 

“Oh no my dear, I have many examples,I really do but don’t you see what I mean?†

“No, no I really don’t.â€

“Oh alright well you just always create so much tension in the house and you are agrsesive and this is not possible here!â€

“Yes you said that, but I don’t understand what you mean by that could you give me another example, because the first to me is not appropriate to agressive behavior or prideâ€

 â€œWell if you don’t see what you do there’s no way for me to make you see. You see, if you can fix this behavior in one week, then I won’t have to kick you out then you can stay. Oh I do have another example, you never say good morning to me. “

Now I might have forgotten at some point. I really might have. But I USUALLY say good morning. I think what she actually meant was that she was usually the first one to say good morning, and that I just replied good morning. Also, in a later incident after I had moved out, I greeted her at the market, and she proceeded to say to my (by then ex roommates) that I was so rude for not greeting her at the market. So she either makes things up in her head, or she just… forgets?

 

Anyway, the discussion went on, she said I could stay if I fixed my agressive and proud behavior. I tried to continue finding out what EXACTLY she meant by it, in order to have a chance to fix it. The conclusion to the discussion, IMO was “well Lilith I have no sensible examples I just don’t like you†and her conclusion was “well I’m not kicking you out I’m giving you the opportunity to grow and fix this behavior and then all will be wellâ€

 

I hope you agree with me, that when I left that room, I was basically evicted. There was no possibility in my head where I could fix whatever I didn’t even know I was doing wrong in a week time.

 

I went to my room. I wanted to cry, as in, my body wanted to cry. But I wanted to keep my head cool. I breathed. I literally just sat there, staring at my blank computer screen because it wasn’t turned on. Just breathing. Not sure how long it took. When I felt I had a grip on myself (only a few tears spilled and no actual sobbing) I turned on the pc. I told my love. I started looking for a place to live. I did that for about 3 hours or so. Found some candidates I would like to message. Decided it was time to venture out, get some tea and breakfast.

 

Found my roommates in the kitchen. They asked me how I was, they did notice that I was taken into her room and stayed there for a long while. We were not raising voices though, so they didn’t know what was up or what the vibe of the conversation was.

 

I told them I got evicted. They had disbelief. But then they believed me. They after all do know how crazy she is. I… Cried. I couldn’t help it. I was sobbing. They hugged me. They are the best. I regained myself quickly, because I knew at any point in time landlady could walk in. She was gone out to the market or something but she’d be back soon and I did NOT want her to see me crying or that I had cried.

 

They urged me to go out with them, explore the city as we had originally planned. I didn’t want to go. I wanted to obsessively look for a new place to stay. They convinced me. I came with them. It was fun, but at the same time I wasn’t completely “there†you know? At home I sent messages for housing, and told my parents.

 

The next week I visited appartments, and found my own place. I got super lucky, I found something in a manner of days. A super cute, tiny studio (ALONE) in Montparnasse, a super nice neighbourhood, arguably the best part of Paris, central and very close to the lab. I’m in love with this place.

 

Weekend after, my boyfriend came to visit. This was planned months in advance. So in a way I was again lucky. One of my roommates, boyfriend, and me moved all my stuff. Landlady was beyond shocked I moved out so fast, without even doing the ‘after one week talk’ that we had to do to see if I could stay. She would have kicked me out end of February to give me time to look for something new (but rather for her to find a new tenant) and she didn’t expect me to move out basically one week after the conversation, before February even started. Landlady said “well it’s your choice I think it could have worked outâ€. I think this is the way she deals with herself. She told me “I never evict people some just choose to leave†I understand what she means now. She deludes herself in thinking she is giving people a choice, but really, she’s just evicting them.

 

Still besties with my roommate, hear lots of crazy landlady stories still. Super happy in my own little place it’s cute and the best. Every day super happy that I am out of that toxic atmosphere. I’m SO much more relaxed.

 

So this was long. Yeah. 

[SymphonicDan]

Whoa, she's such a self-important moron. I think you were right to move out as soon as you could find somewhere nice, because it removes that extra stress from your life. Well done for being proactive about the situation and standing up for yourself She doesn't really think or care about what other people think but rather does whatever serves her interest at the time and then convinces herself that she was righteous all along And she insisted on making the beds as part of your contract? That's just strange - it's like she thinks she's your nanny lol. And when you have these arguments with her, is it all in French? If so that must be super difficult. It's fun to speak in a foreign language but not under pressure!

 

I don't know how you feel about her, but if you think it's fair, you could leave an accurate review on whatever service you used to find her accommodation, and you could report her for her tax evasion. For the latter point, remember that you probably don't want to screw over the current tenants if she gets shut down, and probably you don't have good evidence anyway.

 

Anyway, now you have your own place where you can be a lot more free right? You can come/go whenever, you can have your boyfriend over, you can stop hiding your gymnastics, you can stop fighting losing battles to appease insane people...

 

What's next? New challenge? New adventures? Until when is your internship?

[Terah]

What a story. I am so glad you found such a nice new place! 

[Mad Hatter]

Wow. She truly be crazy. But I'm so very happy you got out of there, even if it was the hard way. Just see it as 10000 life XP. You handled the situation really great, you should be proud of that. And now on to new adventures!

[Lilith]

 And when you have these arguments with her, is it all in French? If so that must be super difficult. It's fun to speak in a foreign language but not under pressure!

 

 

Anyway, now you have your own place where you can be a lot more free right? You can come/go whenever, you can have your boyfriend over, you can stop hiding your gymnastics, you can stop fighting losing battles to appease insane people...

 

What's next? New challenge? New adventures? Until when is your internship?

No luckily they were in English. In that regard she was kind of cool. She spoke English relatively fluently. 

 

Oh yes in my new place I hang around in my pyjamas or underwear, my paralettes have a place of honor in the middle of the room because I like to be reminded of the awesome workouts I do.. My boyfriend can come over, the landlord doesn't want people over like every weekend, but I asked him "if my boyfriend visits a few times" and he was fine with that! 

 

I definitely don't want to hurt my friends that still live there. I'm looking into online reviews, that would be great. 

 

Definitely lots of new adventures, this really feels like Paris part 2 you know, different neighbourhood to again explore, different house and things... Yeah it's going to be amazing! Still doing paralettes, still loving it.  

 

What a story. I am so glad you found such a nice new place! 

Pfew, yes I am also super glad! In fact, now I am happy she gave me no choice but to look for something else! 

 

Wow. She truly be crazy. But I'm so very happy you got out of there, even if it was the hard way. Just see it as 10000 life XP. You handled the situation really great, you should be proud of that. And now on to new adventures!

Yes, she's crazy. You made me so happy when you said I got 10000 life XP. Because that sounds AWESOME! Thanks! ONWARDS TO BETTER THINGS

[raptron]

I am so impressed with how you handled the situation, Lilith and I am sooooooooooooooooooo happy for you that you found a new place on your own that works even better! EE! We missed hearing of your adventures, so I am super super super glad everything has worked out.

[tinkerer]

$%^&* that is crazy!

 

It is fantastic that you found your own place so quickly! Rather than subjecting yourself to a week of walking on eggshells and much more stress you're off and running on something even cooler! Your new studio sounds wonderful as well...now you get an experience of living on your own in a foreign city while keeping the benefits of the friends you made at the crazy-house.

 

What is your apartment like? Is it an older building or cool in some other way? (I'm fascinated with European architecture which often seems to be old that my entire country).

 

Above all, I'm glad that you are OK!

[Lilith]

I am so impressed with how you handled the situation, Lilith and I am sooooooooooooooooooo happy for you that you found a new place on your own that works even better! EE! We missed hearing of your adventures, so I am super super super glad everything has worked out.

Awwww yay thanks so much! And I'm touched you missed hearing about my adventures! I will definitely do some more updates later because I also did so many AMAZING fun things it's not all just the eviction that happened of course!

 

$%^&* that is crazy!

 

It is fantastic that you found your own place so quickly! Rather than subjecting yourself to a week of walking on eggshells and much more stress you're off and running on something even cooler! Your new studio sounds wonderful as well...now you get an experience of living on your own in a foreign city while keeping the benefits of the friends you made at the crazy-house.

 

What is your apartment like? Is it an older building or cool in some other way? (I'm fascinated with European architecture which often seems to be old that my entire country).

 

Above all, I'm glad that you are OK!

It is an older building, quite a magnificent one actually. So magnificent, that it has like red walking carpets (like for hollywood!) in the entrance and on the stairs and such. And then on the first floor (so not street level but higher) there is a 'service' door, where in olden days the servants used to live. And then a part of the building the hallways look less fancy (but still very parisian and cute) and there are appartments there too, and I live in the very very top. So I have a great view. It's tiny, but quirky. The colors of the walls are red and white, I have a huge desk, beautiful big windows and a hardwooden floor. I love it. Oh and the bed is eh, high? So the desk is beneath. But I actually LOVE it because it makes it super cozy. It feels like a little hobbit hole (even though for it to be a hobbit hole it would need to be not so high up on a building haha) 

[annyshay]

Lilith, I agree with everyone above. Your poise deserves all the XP. Enjoy your new apartment (and maybe share some pictures?)!

[lucky fire dragon]

Lilith, I agree with everyone above. Your poise deserves all the XP. Enjoy your new apartment (and maybe share some pictures?)!

 

same here. 10000 life XP well earned and super proud of you!

 

Looks like a blessing in disguise to me, as it was tangible how much she stressed you out before already and now you will be able to enjoy the rest of your time in Paris in a whole new way, whoooohooooo

 

And Montparnasse, how awesome!!!!! Squeaky excited for you

I was there once, many years ago, and got myself a portrait done by one of the street artists, they are amazing. My older brother who had been along sponsored it for me for my birthday. As much of a pain older brothers can be, sometimes they can be quite sweet....

Anyway: tell us about all your adventures again!! What are you currently on with the paralettes? How's your bicycling and/or walking going? Are you still using your genius hunger scale??

 

Basically where is your new challenge

 

 

 

 

no pressure, of course, we're patient

[obax]

I'm sooooooo happy to hear you're out of that place with the crazy landlady, I know how stressful it was for you. She sounds a bit like my old boss, and a bit like my old roommate, neither of which were nice people. The way you describe your new place, it sounds so awesome, and it's great you got into it so fast.

 

I have the same question as lucky fire dragon re: your new challenge, but no pressure, just enjoy your new, stress-free digs!!

[Lilith]

Lilith, I agree with everyone above. Your poise deserves all the XP. Enjoy your new apartment (and maybe share some pictures?)!

Awww thank you! I should definitely get around to posting some pics in the weekend at the latest! Will be fun! 

 

same here. 10000 life XP well earned and super proud of you!

 

Looks like a blessing in disguise to me, as it was tangible how much she stressed you out before already and now you will be able to enjoy the rest of your time in Paris in a whole new way, whoooohooooo

 

And Montparnasse, how awesome!!!!! Squeaky excited for you

I was there once, many years ago, and got myself a portrait done by one of the street artists, they are amazing. My older brother who had been along sponsored it for me for my birthday. As much of a pain older brothers can be, sometimes they can be quite sweet....

Anyway: tell us about all your adventures again!! What are you currently on with the paralettes? How's your bicycling and/or walking going? Are you still using your genius hunger scale??

 

Basically where is your new challenge

 

 

 

 

no pressure, of course, we're patient

When did the new challenge start? If it already did I think I will wait this challenge out and continue either here or on my battlelog, and then start fresh with a new challenge since they are not super long now anyway! But I do want to get back in the flow of reporting back here. You guys are the most amazing support group!

 

So paralettes, I'm picking it up again. I had a week+ break, I can't say exactly how long it was but from the moment I heard about the eviction my priorities just changed. Anyway, the day before yesterday I did the first day of week 3 (because of the break I decided to back up one week, so I'm doing week 3 again) and today I'm going to do workout 2(out of 3) of week 3, and soon I'll also be adding leg workouts to my paralettes rest days (as the program suggests) thus far I have kept the rest days as rest days. I'm still using the hunger scale, and it's a miracle. It makes me so much more aware of my body, but also of how being hungry and 'wanting food' can be two different things. Like when I'm super busy I'm hungry but I don't want food. And other times I want food but I KNOW I'm not hungry. Also it is better than any portion control I've ever tried.  

 

I'm sooooooo happy to hear you're out of that place with the crazy landlady, I know how stressful it was for you. She sounds a bit like my old boss, and a bit like my old roommate, neither of which were nice people. The way you describe your new place, it sounds so awesome, and it's great you got into it so fast.

 

I have the same question as lucky fire dragon re: your new challenge, but no pressure, just enjoy your new, stress-free digs!!

Read the above for the same question! I do plan to do challenges, but I don't want to step in halfway. In that case I will just continue in the battle log! 

[lucky fire dragon]

we'll be following wherever

 

that hunger scale is so awesome in teaching you inner guidance instead of "rules", love it!

[obax]

we'll be following wherever

 

^^ This.

 

I've been thinking about your hunger scale since you first mentioned it, I'm generally fairly mindful about that sort of thing and am not bad at only eating when I'm hungry, but thinking about your scale has helped me stop even though there's still some food in my container, and to not have a snack before bed (which is actually a big one for me, I'm good at justifying a few crackers with peanut butter).