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I was inspired by Seven's comment to do it, mainly because taking the PTO which I am fully in my rights to take seems like such a tiny rebellion. Particularly when at this stage, I'm not especially afraid of failing to meet my requirements for the month. So I've got tickets to the show and booked a hotel for a good rate through Priceline. Woo! 

 

As for this week's goals: 

 

Apply for 5 jobs - well, 4. Last week I applied for 6. So I guess it levels out.

Yoga 3 days - done!

Meditate daily - done!

Food journal daily - missed two days. Not too terrible.

 

I also went ahead and wrote a check for the shoemaking class I want to take at the end of June in North Carolina, which is me officially enrolling in it. Additionally, I contacted the spiritual retreat where I will be staying while I am there and booked a room. I'm thinking of going without social media during my entire stay at the retreat/shoemaking. At that point I will reach Peak Druid, probably. I'm not really sure what happens in that situation. Enlightenment? Ninja skills? Any thoughts? 

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Sorry I haven't been on much this week, guys. Normally I check in on the forum during down time at work, and this week has been free of down time at work, at home, anywhere. I've had to cram my week full of accomplishments early because I was out some this morning for a doctor's appointment, and I'm taking that half day Friday. 

 

But basically, things are good. I had a good visit with the doctor today. My blood pressure is down thanks to my medication. I need to do some yoga tonight because I haven't made time for it since Sunday.

 

Things are fine at work too, just busy. I've been responsible for training a new employee and transferring ALL of my old projects over to her for a month and a half now, and since this is a short week for me I've been cramming in training time for her. I'm also having to train on new projects myself, so I'm cramming in that training time as well. Just non-stop training. I haven't gotten my second interview yet with the company that I had a phone interview with last week. 

 

And yeah, I'm excited about scheduling all these things, especially the shoemaking class! As a few of you know, I went through a breakup from a very long relationship a few years ago (geez, I think it's four years now? I don't know. A while). When that happened, I went through a time where I had to rediscover things that I like to do, instead of being focused on what me and my partner liked doing together. The main thing is that I learned I like to travel alone. I'll travel with other people when I can, but when you and all your friends are in their 30's or older, it's hard to make that happen. I learned that if I didn't get comfortable traveling alone, I simply wouldn't travel as much. And I like to travel a lot. 

 

So yeah. I got really comfortable with it, really fast. I even went to New York City alone a couple of years ago. And I love road trips alone, because every single part of the trip is up to me - when I leave, when to make stops, how long those stops are, etc. This is mostly because my ex would want SO many stops on a road trip. Like, a somewhat long trip like a 6 hour drive would end up being 8 or 9 hours. Every bathroom break meant roaming around the quick mart for half an hour while she picked the right snack and drink. And she never liked leaving early, and I love leaving as soon as possible. Like this trip out of town on Friday; I'm going to have my bag packed Thursday night, run by my apartment to feed the cats and give Mike his afternoon pill after my half day at work, and then get on the road as fast as I can. Seriously, it will probably be about 45 minutes between the time I leave work that day and the time I hit the road.

 

 

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You sound like me...which is why most people can't stand to travel with me! LOL...except my kids, they turned out just like me in that regard...

Did you date my wife? Seriously, she does that...annoys the crap out of me!

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You sound like me...which is why most people can't stand to travel with me! LOL...except my kids, they turned out just like me in that regard...

Did you date my wife? Seriously, she does that...annoys the crap out of me!

 

Oh god, it's the worst. Birmingham is not far away from Atlanta, and it would take us forever to get there. 

 

We once took a trip to Savannah, GA together, which would normally be about 6 hours. At some point, when we were way into Georgia and still had a good ways to go thanks to all the unnecessary stops in the first part of the trip, we stopped at a rest stop, and I wanted to take a few minutes to walk around and stretch my legs. I always did the driving when we traveled together, and the car we had didn't have cruise control. By this time we'd probably been on the road for 6 hours and weren't even close yet. I think it took us 8 hours to get to Savannah. 

 

When I said I needed to walk around for a few minutes at the rest stop, she got cranky with me and said she wanted to keep going and started to get angry about me taking too long of a break. I just said "Really? You're mad at how long MY break is???"

 

To her credit, she did realize that I was always good to quietly tolerate her breaks and immediately apologized. 

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Hmm, not only that, but the non-driver criticizing the driver. I'm sorry; it sounds difficult.

 

I'm so glad you learned to love travel alone! I need to work on that. I almost always hike alone, because most of my friends just no longer do it. But traveling to a different city, that's wild. Good for you!

 

Fingers crossed for your 2nd interview!

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Hmm, not only that, but the non-driver criticizing the driver. I'm sorry; it sounds difficult.

 

I'm so glad you learned to love travel alone! I need to work on that. I almost always hike alone, because most of my friends just no longer do it. But traveling to a different city, that's wild. Good for you!

 

Fingers crossed for your 2nd interview!

 

Oh man, I love traveling alone. For some reason, when I am alone, I tend to meet people, and when I'm with someone I don't. Maybe I'm just more open to it when I'm alone. 

 

So on that note, on Friday night after the Night Vale live show, I went to the pub next to my hotel for dinner. The hotel I was staying at was the Westin, which is also where I stay for DragonCon. I know the area really well, and I knew the pub next door had good food. So I went and sat at the bar, and right away when getting a bar seat I asked a woman if the seat next to her was taken, and in a British accent she said her husband was sitting there, but "I'm sure we can fit you in!" and then grabbed a bar stool from one of the bar tables nearby and made everyone move over for me. So right away, I knew I was going to enjoy sitting next to her - she was immediately welcoming me into their space and didn't seem to feel like there was anything wrong with doing that. She and her husband were wonderful and hilarious to talk with. Turns out they are visiting this part of the country for a week, and will be in Birmingham later this week. They asked me what Birmingham had that nowhere else has, and I told them that we have a haunted steel mill and a naked god on a mountain. They thought that was hilarious and she told me it was adorable the way I say "Birmingham" (we pronounce the H. She informed me that the British Birmingham is pronounced "Birmingum"). They really wanted me to spend more time with them and kept trying to buy me a second drink, but I was tired, and my new blood pressure has me on a one drink minimum. For some reason, if I have two drinks, I get red like I'm sunburned and it lasts for an entire day. As I was leaving, she told me I should visit England and stay with them because they had spare rooms, and she gave me her phone number. I'm not really sure that she would have offered to let a random American stay with her if she were sober. But for some reason, this is the kind of thing that happens when I travel alone. I meet people and end up having a really great time, and they offer to let me stay with them. ;) 

 

The live show was great, by the way. If you're a fan of Night Vale, go see it. It's the best one I've seen. 

 

Other than that, my weekend was pretty full. Came home on Saturday and went to dinner with my sister that night, which was great. We haven't caught up with each other for a while. I went out to a local big art show downtown the next day, and ended up buying art from Skullgarden. This was the first time I'd ever seen it, and I fell in love with this guy's work.

 

Monday I had to go to a funeral, and I had the day off for that. My step-grandmother passed away last week. We knew it was coming. She's been on hospice for over a month. It was still sad. She was a really great lady. It was kind of an emotional roller-coaster of a weekend. 

 

And as I write that, I think it may be that all this, combined with last week just being incredibly busy, contributed to the kind of week I was having. 

 

I meditated 4 days only. I basically forgot to all weekend. 

 

I skipped my food journal or didn't complete it basically every day last week. 

 

I only did yoga once. 

 

I did still get my 5 job applications in, though. 

 

I also heard back from the job I applied with. They decided to go with someone else. I'm kind of not surprised. One of the many things that made me feel wary about this company is that the woman who interviewed me said she would definitely call me in for a second interview while we were talking, and then the very next day she had an excuse as to why that probably wouldn't happen very soon. Honestly, at the time it felt like a polite lie. Like the kind of lie you tell when you realize that you shouldn't have promised something that you may not be able to do. I also got the feeling that they couldn't afford me. When we discussed salary during the phone interview, it was pretty clear that what I currently make (and I would expect AT LEAST that much) was pushing the upper range of what she can offer. And honestly, they expect a tech writer to come in there and do an awful lot considering the amount that they seem willing (and unwilling) to pay. 

 

Anyway. It resolves the ongoing dilemma I was having about whether this job was right for me. As it is, I was already concerned that they don't have an equal opportunity employer statement anywhere on their website, and I was also concerned about overwork and also requiring employees to take on duties way outside of the job description.

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Hmm, not only that, but the non-driver criticizing the driver. I'm sorry; it sounds difficult.

 

 

I meant to say something about this before: 

 

Well, yes. It was difficult. That was an issue I had in that relationship - she tended to expect me to accept and never criticize her own problems (like in the case of travel; she could never leave on time, and she needed to stop repeatedly, but it wasn't worth it to me to complain because she would react by yelling at me for criticizing her). A thing I frequently said in the last few years of that relationship is that when we argued, I was always the bad guy no matter what was actually happening. Because no matter what she did and how wrong it might be, her reaction was something along the lines of "I can't handle being criticized". There was no good way to address things she did that annoyed me or hurt me or whatever, because regardless of my approach, she would get very defensive. She also couldn't handle anger very well. It freaked her out if someone got angry. So I was basically asked not to have one entire human emotion, and if I got angry at absolutely anything, she felt personally hurt by it.

 

She had a lot of problems, and I know they all relate to her being raised by alcoholics. Which, of course, is awful. But also, none of that is my fault. 

 

So yeah. It's been quite a while since the breakup. I'm past being angry about any of this stuff anymore. I still loved her very much when she left, and that was hard. But looking back on the problems we had, it's pretty clear she needs to be with the kind of person who pretty much never gets angry, and with someone who is patient without feeling like it takes an effort. I pretty clearly need to be with someone who is able to talk things out better, and who doesn't have a knee-jerk reaction to blame everyone else for their issues. I actually talked to her recently (we usually see each other at DragonCon, but always in the presence of mutual friends, so it's not like we are able to talk about anything deep at all), and it was nice to just acknowledge that I miss her, and that I know why things ended now. When it comes down to it, I didn't just love her, I LIKED her. Clearly we had some fights and some problems, but we also just really enjoyed each others' company, and made each other laugh a lot. Had things gone differently, we'd probably have been perfectly happy to just be friends. 

 

You know. Assuming we never went on road trips together. ;)

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Wow, so much going on. I'm sorry about your step-grandmother. Very sad. My job possibility didn't work out either. Just going to keep at it for the long term. 

 

Thanks for sharing your traveling stories. We actually did take home a random German one day. We met him on the bus and he had nowhere to stay, so we took him home. He kept saying, "Wow, people normally never take in strangers!" But we'd just got back from South America, where it's bad manners, for example, not to offer someone a ride, so our default actions were reset. He was nice, and scooted along the next day. Kind of fun. We learned all about Octoberfest. 

 

Hang in there. I'm sorry again for all your trials. Best wishes. 

 


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It's all good, Harihead. Things have just been insanely busy, is all. My days at work are kind of non-stop now, because I'm training an employee on my old products and getting trained on products I've never written for before (part of my punishment is being forced to leave my old products behind and acquire new ones. Ugh. It's a lot to do in the space of 3 months). 

 

And clearly, last weekend was kind of all over the place. So yeah. I'm on the roller coaster right now - both emotionally, and with my schedule as well.

 

I saw that things seemed to not be working out with the job you were being interviewed for. I have high hopes that these are just the first-comers that just don't appreciate the value of the work that you and I can do. The better offers are on the horizon. 

 

Sorry to all, by the way, if I'm not on the forums as much this week. This week and last, I had time off scheduled and that makes my week a little crazier while trying to accomplish all these things. Added to that, the forums are so messed up that earlier today I couldn't even comment on anything. Rawr. Getting impatient with the broken forum. 

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I'm still getting used to these 4 week challenges. The end always sneaks up on me!

 

Well, overall I guess I did a little better than average on this one. I applied for more than 20 jobs this month. That was my main accomplishment. I meditated almost every day. That was my second most successful goal. 

 

I was mostly consistent with the food journal, with a few skipped days here and there, and yoga was the biggest fail. Doing yoga even only 3 days a week proved difficult. 

 

I think in May, I'm skipping the monthly challenge. I'll probably take up my battle log again for a bit. Right now I've just got so many things going on, and at times during April, I questioned my goals. Specifically with yoga, I questioned whether it was the best goal for me. There were times I felt like going for a walk was a better choice for moving my body while also letting go of stress, so I did. There were times I felt like setting aside time at night to read, or time in the morning to leatherwork were the best ways to relax, so I did. This is an issue I have with goals - I am doing something measurable (yoga, 3 times a week) in order to accomplish something somewhat less measurable (relax; move body). I also sometimes have the problem that with goals, the purpose of the goal gets lost in place of simply being able to check off the accomplishment of that goal for the day. I had that issue with my food journal. I kept failing to record my feelings about what I was eating. And if I was happy, I would forget to food journal all day. 

 

So I need to think about this and how I should manage future goals. It's rare that the point of what I do is just to make a check mark next to an accomplishment. 

 

Other than that, things are going fairly well. A friend was recommending a job to me this weekend and at some point I asked her to look at my resume, and she gave me some really great advice on changes to make. That was helpful especially because she's been in a position to review resumes of applicants in the tech industry. She's the first person I've talked to that had advice very specific to my needs with resumes. 

 

I've also started using a time clock app so I can track my time when starting a new leatherworking project. Since I sell my stuff (currently, I'm actually in the early stages of making a few journal covers to put up in my Etsy store), it's useful to me to know how long it takes me to complete a project, because that informs my pricing. Also, sometimes I get custom orders and people ask how long it will take. It will be nice to have a good tool for estimating that. 

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I applied for more than 20 jobs this month. That was my main accomplishment. I meditated almost every day. That was my second most successful goal.

 

Wow, that's excellent! I've only applied to 7 jobs so far. Some are still in limbo.

 

Very wise reflections on the purpose of goals. I give myself permission to switch a goal if it isn't serving the need, like a couple months ago when I switched to "renew" mode. I don't like to get too picky about dotting the i's. I want to look and feel better!

 

Hang in there. Good luck, and share the news when you get some! :)

 


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