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[Rob Tenken]: Cycling, Cooking, and Thanking


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So, I've tried these forums a few times. Not to be at all critical, but they haven't tended to be worth the effort for me. Not a whole lot of people respond or give support -- which I can't blame them for, since I don't respond or give support to others, either. Kinda a conundrum, in't? But anywho, now that I'm working a grave shift, I find I have some time to kill -- and that I need to be doing something or I'm likely to start dozing on the job. So, I'm back, at least for now!

 

My Theory of Health: I want to improve my health and mental well-being in sustainable ways. Holistic health is vital to me; simply addressing the physical without looking to the root causes (including mental, emotional, and environmental causes) doesn't seem wise. Based on my research into motivational psychology, I've also come to adopt very strong anti-shame sentiments and a focus on "process-based goal theory" (where the focus is setting goals based on process rather than progress).

 

All that being said, I want to lose weight. I try to remind myself that weight and health aren't the same, that shaming myself about my current size won't do any good, and that focusing on my approach is the most effective leverage point -- while still moving toward a goal of a greater level of fitness and a more convenient body size.

 

The Main Quest: Lose 1 pound per week (13 pounds total) through September 30th.

 

Description: 285lb weight by September 30th.

Benchmarks: 265lbs = the ability to shop at a normal clothing store (anticipated March 2017), 240lbs = being able to travel by air without feeling uncomfortable about not getting a second seat (anticipated September 2017), 220lbs = where I was before the chaos of the last few years happened (anticipated March 2018), 200lbs = a weight I'm very happy at (anticipated September 2018).

QUEST ONE: Cycling Warm-Up

Description:  I just bought a bike meant for heavier people. I'm in rough enough shape that I can't use it for my commute just yet (based on my test rides of other bikes), but I'd like to get moving in that direction.

 

Quest Details: 

  • Put together and tune up the bike by Aug 20.
  • Ride the bike every day.
  • Start with a 5-minute bike ride on August 21st, then scale up the time by one minute each day.
  • Once a 30-minute bike ride feels reasonable, shift to using the bike for the work commute. (This should be right at the end of the four weeks.)

 

QUEST TWO: Lotsa Frittatas

Description:  During my last challenge period here, I did a quest where I made frittatas often enough to always have some in the fridge. This did a surprising amount to improve my eating habits. So I'm duplicating that here to try to get myself a healthy staple food.

 

Quest Details:

  • Any frittata will do. Make 'em to munch 'em!
  • Aim for 12+ during the challenge period.
  • Avoid dairy. (You know it ain't kind to you, man.)

 

QUEST THREE: Gratitudes

Description: I There are only a handful of things that have been scientifically proven to increase happiness, but expressing gratitude is one of them.

 

Quest Details:

  • I'm going to do a simple gratitude journal, listing five things I'm grateful for each day.
  • These gratitudes have to be new each time.
  • The gratitudes should be as specific as possible. (e.g., not just "the sun" but "the way the sun made the clouds look gilded during sunrise).
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"When you can't run, you crawl. And when you can't crawl anymore, you find someone to carry you."

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Five things I'm grateful for today:

  1. The fact that, thanks to my grave shift, I get to see a sunrise and a sunset every day.
  2. That Thai Spice has a good Massaman Curry. (Good in that it works as comfort food for me.)
  3. That my job offers me such a wide variety of activities to do each night.
  4. How good I feel about the "Erin comforting Jordan" scene I just wrote (in my book, which is my major project for my MFA).
  5. The fact that my girlfriend and I can communicate effectively about challenging issues, and resolve arguments and hurt feelings effectively.
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Druid | My Current Challenge | Past Challenges: 1st, 2nd, 3rd

"When you can't run, you crawl. And when you can't crawl anymore, you find someone to carry you."

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There is a very interesting 'discussion/fight' going on on the internets between those that think fat-shaming is a great idea, and those that (i belief rightfully) say that it is very counter productive and also ill informed. 

 

You seem like an intelligent dude! Your goals are great, smart.

I really like (probably because I recognise) the fifth point of gratitude you listed today. 

 

Your intro-paragraph isn't very inviting honestly, it basically says "I don't think this community is great and i'm not really that interested in participating, but I seem to have nothing better to do" which isn't exactly a great prompt for getting that community support ;)

But I get it, I get the thoughts, and I get getting caught up into those thoughts and feeling like sharing them, even if the moment/place is a tad ill-considered. So i'll be here for support if you like, perhaps you'll find out how great the community can be this time around :)

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Main Quest: becoming a decent kettlebell lifter and a great coach

Current challenge: KB Girl fixes the batcaves

my instagram - my gym's instagram

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I would suggest that my opening paragraph is only ill-considered if my goal was to ingratiate myself with this community. I am not trying to win friends and offer praise. I'm expressing a concern with the nature of the community, and specifically the ways in which it has not been a sufficiently supportive tool for me to be worth investing in substantially. I leave it to others how to take that and what to do with it, but I don't see anything wrong or ill-considered with being honest about my concerns.

 

Today's gratitudes.

 

1. How tasty the pesto sauce was with dinner.

2. How absolutely adorable Emerson was when he was pretending to fall into the tiny trenches in the back yard. (He's a three-year old, and kept waving his arms around and saying, "I'm falling! Help me!" And I would run up and grab him, and he would laugh, and it was awesome, and I loved it.)

3. How Ellie lit up whenever I put a bowl on her head.

4. How little kids just make me feel hopeful about the world.

5. The first chapter of 100 Years of Solitude. I am seriously loving this book, and that opening chapter was just phenomenal.

Druid | My Current Challenge | Past Challenges: 1st, 2nd, 3rd

"When you can't run, you crawl. And when you can't crawl anymore, you find someone to carry you."

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Yes my bad, I sort of assumed that was your goal. Though I wouldn't use the word ingratiate, I'd just consider it making a good first impression. Which isn't a bad thing to want if you want to be part of a community. 

I guess I'm confused, do you want to be, or not? 

Main Quest: becoming a decent kettlebell lifter and a great coach

Current challenge: KB Girl fixes the batcaves

my instagram - my gym's instagram

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Well, that's the thing, right? It's not my first impression. It's my third. And, of course, making impressions is a mutual thing. My past experiences have made me skeptical on the value of this community, given how it seems to function and the fairly low level of support (which, as I acknowledged, is something that I'm no better at).

 

What I was trying to communicate was simply that I was in a place where it made sense to give it another go and see how things went. The jury's still out on whether this is worth my time or not.

Druid | My Current Challenge | Past Challenges: 1st, 2nd, 3rd

"When you can't run, you crawl. And when you can't crawl anymore, you find someone to carry you."

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Yes I simply assumed that "giving it another go" meant actually trying x) The first alinea of your thread is not an impression for you, but for those people you might want around to support you. But w/e you're obviously taking this as an attack or something, which it isn't. Just honestly wanted to "support" you in finding more value here. 

Main Quest: becoming a decent kettlebell lifter and a great coach

Current challenge: KB Girl fixes the batcaves

my instagram - my gym's instagram

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Oh, I wouldn't read so much into my comments. I just think your original response made certain assumptions that were worth correcting. The back and forth, and the continued assumptions being made, are starting to get frustrating, though, so I'm going to opt out of further participation in this particular line of discussion.

 

Gratitudes for today:

 

1) How much better my new bike is working when compared to my old one.

2) How bright Mars is in the sky right now.

3) That strawberry jalapeno margarita the other day.

4) The taste of Nutella.

5) How readily available alkaseltzer is.

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Druid | My Current Challenge | Past Challenges: 1st, 2nd, 3rd

"When you can't run, you crawl. And when you can't crawl anymore, you find someone to carry you."

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Hey Robbie!  That's great that you're giving it another go.  I like your goals - you've set the up nicely with increments, and I'm inspired to jump on my bike right after I finish this post!

 

I've been on the boards for years and I still find them huge.  It's awesome that there's so many Nerds now, but wow, there's so many Nerds now.  It's easy to get lost.  Honestly, I've felt ignored before, and I'm a little jealous of those who've met IRL and have done competitions and hikes with each other.  If you're open to a suggestion, I picked just a handful of challenges to follow with goals I liked, and liked a few times and posted a few times.  Pretty soon, I started recognizing names.  I'm bad with names, so I call that a win.  I usually just recognize profile pics!

 

So, I'm going to follow your challenge whether you like it or not :)  Now I"m gonna go ride my bike in the FL heat.

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