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HUUUUUUUUUGSSSSS. Hospital and surgery is so stressful! Do what you need to do to get yourself through the stressful time and worry don't worry about the challenge stuff until later. Totally allowed. Self care is important! Love and good thoughts to you and your dad! <3 <3 <3

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Echoing everyone else, you need to focus on what's most important, I'll be sending prayers to you and yours

 

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thanks darlings. I got here last night at 930 and popped up for a visit with Daddy, who is in good spirits but has really declined since I saw him last in November. He's lost a lot of weight and is the congestive heart failure seems to be accelerating. he is definitely in the right place at the right time. my stepmom and I didn't sleep well at all - we are too anxious! we went over at 530 this morning for a visit and they came to pick him up for surgery at 7, and we are now sitting around the hotel being super brave. AAAAAAH.

 

it means a lot to have your good wishes and support, I really appreciate it. I don't want to post about this on a place like facebook but knowing that you all know that this is happening makes me feel so much less isolated in my worry. I sincerely mean it, thank you all so very much.

 

so, in self care news, I went to whole foods after the hospital this morning and bought a wide variety of very weird yet healthy foods: avocados, nectarines, yogurt, lovely loaf of bread and sun butter, and quark. you know. breakfast. I'm trying to get my timesheet done for work and I might do, like, one more thing, and then I'll just self-medicate with regency romance novels or YA post apocalyptic fiction. The surgery is supposed to take 6-8 hours so I am kind of planning to head over there around lunch time.

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Update. Surgeon came by, surgery a success and dad is in ICU. I haven't knit at all. As per my norm.

 

 

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2 minutes ago, karinajean said:

Update. Surgeon came by, surgery a success and dad is in ICU. I haven't knit at all. As per my norm.

 

So happy to hear it, dear. All the best wishes for your dad's recovery.

 

A friend told me this recently. Her mom was going into some kind of rehab facility for recovery after heart surgery. My friend's brother told their mother, "Mom, I have one piece of advice for you when you get to the rehab clinic. Pick the toughest, meanest old lady there and pick a fight and just BEAT THE LIVING SHIT out of her. Then nobody else there will fuck with you."

 

Maybe your dad will appreciate some version of this advice when he's awake.

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GREAT NEWS!!! 

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So glad to hear the surgery was a success!     I am rooting for you, your pops and your whole family girl!       You're doing  just fine with all this.   Being that tough KJ we all know and love.   You continue to amaze.

 

And in other news, I love how down to earth you are when you talk about your body.   So I will share my TMI moment of the day to make you grin.    I was not feeling my workout today, but after some pep talk by (surprise surprise) the awesome NF Nerds, I went and did it anyway.  Ended up being a great workout too!  When I got back to my office to change back into work clothes, I realized I did not have one last pair of fresh undies.   (I am a sweater.  Like... a serious sweater.)    Panicked that I did not want to go commando for the rest of the work day and straight out to my friends house for an all night anime binge... I concocted a brilliant plan.   I took my sweaty undies and put them on my small space heater like a luchador mask, and cranked it up to high.   Cooked it 5 minutes, turned, cooked another 5 minutes and I had totally dry underoos!!!  

 

Gotta do, what ya gotta do!

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I'm so glad the surgery went well. :) 

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I'm glad to hear that the surgery was a success!

 

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  • Learn how to do a Handstand
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  • Clean up the Christmas Decorations and finish setting up my apartment (hang things up, plus some other few things that need to be organized)
  • Re-introduce Pull-ups into my routine
  • Build a shelving unit next to my Desk

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Hi from Boston!

Dad had to have a 2nd surgery yesterday to clean out his chest, there was a lot of fluids accumulated there after the surgery (so much that they took a photo, the nurse told me). It was really hard to not see this as a set back - I had been counting on him being awake so much earlier emotionally, you know? I went over last night at 830 to say good night to him, and he looked really good, and I just need to set aside my expectations and wait.

 

we are heading over to the hospital shortly to say good morning. They hopeful will wake him today. We are staying though tomorrow morning and then have to leave. I'm glad we could be here to help my stepmom.

 

Breakfast has been delicious at least! Avocado on bread and sometimes additional yogurt. Lunch at the hospital cafeteria, last night we had Mexican and I had a delicious torta. I went for a run this morning in the hotel and because we are missing a 5k we'd signed up for I did that - managed in 29:48. It was BORING.

 

I'm not sure what today will bring so I'm packing my knitting and hobobujo. Have a great Sunday, dears -

 

 

 

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Hugs, girl. <3 They're taking good care of him, I'm sure! 

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I'm really sorry to hear about the second surgery, but it sounds like they're taking good care of him.  I hope the day went well.

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Thoughts and prayers, KJ.    You sound like you're doing really well all things considered.   Man you are such an inspiration!!!   Make sure to take care of yourself too amidst all the stress and hustle.    

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hi there - I'm back to work. we had to leave daddy-o yesterday afternoon. they finally removed the breathing tube but he is taking a REALLY LONG TIME to come back out of the sedation. I mean, he was pretty much drugged up from friday morning through monday morning, to some extent. they started to bring him up awake on sunday but it was taking so long that they resedated him overnight so they could manage the extubation during the day shift. On monday he was hallucinating a little, but was so much more comfortable after his breathing tube was removed. my stepmom is still out there and I know she's really counting on him being lucid and himself this morning, so I hope that it works out for her. I'm worried he's got a little more time to detox (not a doctor, but this is taking SO long). I'm eager to hear how her visit goes!

 

my insides continue to make the most horrible smells. I didn't exercise yesterday or tomorrow, but am flying to nashville for work and planning morning exercising on wednesday, thursday, and friday. feeling slightly overwhelmed but yo, that's pretty normal. it'll be ok.

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It sounds like they are keeping a good eye on him, but I am sure having to have the second surgery and then it taking so long for them to be able to remove the tube and let him wake up must be so stressful! Allll the hugs!!

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Just got caught up on the situation. Sorry for all the stress you and the family are going through, but as many people have said, sounds like he's in good hands. Best wishes to you and him! 

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KJ! You're amazing. Not my professional opinion blah blah disclaimers, but everything I hear in your updates sounds positive. Recovery will be a process and not always linear, but I am glad to hear your daddy is doing so well. Hope your crazy business stuff is slightly less crazy than usual. Do you have any really nice body relaxation plans in the near future? Cause you so deserve them! Running on a treadmill while your dad is in the cardiovascular ICU... I mean, you ma'dam are the baddest of asses. ;)

 

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You guys. I have been trying to find a time to update but have been so busy. Nashville was great and productive but it was tough being away from my dad. My stepmom had been so disappointed several times during the week (when he didn't wake up on Sunday, when the delirium didn't pass quickly) that her updates are pretty guarded and conservative. He was sedated for 3 days and then had delirium for another 3 days where he was really not himself, paranoid and delusional. Apparently postoperative delirium is a pretty common complication in patients over 65, who knew? It was so scary. Thursday and Friday he was more himself and today he sound mostly very tired. Which, yeah. He had open heart surgery 2x in 2 days. That makes sense.

 

 

I'm going to see him tomorrow, I can't wait. I was thinking of going today but it's a 3 1/2 hour drive and I got home from the Nashville at 1:30am, and am so tired. My aunt is there with my stepmom today so I'm taking the chance to rest a little.

 

 

While in Nashville I ran every morning on the treadmill. I aimed for at least 20 minutes of hard work. Friday I was NOT into it! But yeah, like annyshay alluded to - there's something about watching your daddy go through this that makes you want to have the healthiest heart possible. I'm not sure that he could have avoided this with crazy exercise because the genetic hand dealt to him is not the best - high cholesterol, blood pressure, diabetes (adult onset that is really more like type 1), a couple of weird immunodisorders, and heart disease. Maybe it wouldn't be happening so severely now, at 68, though. His first heart attack was at 49. But I'm feeling like the only thing I can control right now is me and my heart - all of his stuff is in the good hands at Mass General - so that's what I'm doing.

 

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Lolz you guys. A tree fell on our house just now. Everything is fine, but wow. At this point why not add another thing?

 

 

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24 minutes ago, karinajean said:

Lolz you guys. A tree fell on our house just now. Everything is fine, but wow. At this point why not add another thing?

 

What the damn hell ass. I'm glad everything's all right.

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