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  2. Hello everyone! I'm looking at my character page and I wondering if there is a way to see a list of all the completed quests I've done? I'm working my way through the mindset ones and I thought it would be very motivating to see all the stuff I've already done. I tried to search on here but couldn't find an answer. thank you very much!
  3. Much like with cars and trucks, regular maintenance on your own body will help prevent those breakdowns. It's not unusual to start out lifting much less than the last time you were lifting regularly, but hopefully you've retained some of that muscle memory and should be able to build back up quickly. If you've gained weight, you probably haven't lost a ton of muscle. It's probably mostly all still there, just gotta wake it back up and get it moving again. Welcome to the forums!
  4. Manarelle

    The enjoyable and the necessary

    Solid goals, and yay for library availability. The siesta/ get up early thing is brilliant... it is just way too hot lately to do anything.
  5. Tanktimus the Encourager

    Wobbegong Gets Creative

    No diagnosis can be given over the internet by someone else's account of a persons behavior. Having said that, the coping skills in the book regardless of your mom's situation. Gaslighting and the emotional maturity of a toddler are signs your mom engages in toxic behavior, and you need skills to help you deal with that. What worked for you as a child to survive in that situation is not what is most helpful for you as an independent adult, yet all you know are the skills learned in childhood. A new set of skills is helpful. One thing I suspect about your mom is that what she craves above all else is interaction, good or bad isn't as important as the fact that you are PAYING ATTENTION TO HER. In fact, it's the intensity of the interaction that is far more important than the quality. Her inappropriate behaviors might stem from two different reasons. One is because of a lack of boundaries she is clueless about what is and is not appropriate. Another is because she does whatever you can to get you to interact with her. Sometimes both motivations may be in play at once. She doesn't think in terms of "this is ok or not ok" she thinks in terms of "This will get me attention or not."
  6. Tanktimus the Encourager

    Integration: The Protector Rises

    So did you really go to bed?
  7. Athaclena

    Athaclena - is BACK!

    Tuesday morning - and it's RAINING! So I didn't get my walk in this morning - DANG IT. It's supposed to "cool off" today - with a high of only 81 - so maybe I'll walk tonight. The cooler drier air means walking in the morning the rest of the week should be nice. I know 73 sounds cool - but when the humidity is 90%+ - it's still stifling!
  8. Tanktimus the Encourager

    Pack. Move. Unpack: Tanktimus Relocates Forum Headquarters

    I'm glad you are enjoying reading them. They are not dumb questions. Most people don't factor in the cost of giving birth. If they have insurance, they just pay co-pays and co-insurance payments as they come in. The problems with US healthcare are multifaceted, and therefore any "Solution" must be equally piecemeal. Part of what is so screwed up is the way medical billing works. Because the doctors are all inddependent contractors, they each bill at their own times, and the hospitals bill at their own times (sometimes multiple parts of the hospital submit their paperwork and different times). To further complicate things, there is the "price" the hospital charges, then the "negotiated fee" insurance companies talk them down to, then how much of that fee insurance will pay, and whether or not you have met your deductible. You can get bills for one hospital stay for months as different parts get billed. Then the insurance companies take forever to process their side of the paperwork. To make matters worse, you get paperwork from the insurance company that is NOT A BILL that shows what they think you owe, then you get a bill from the providers for what they say you owe. Sometimes you have to fight with everyone cause someone in a cube made a mistake. Now, hospitals are not allowed to refuse medical treatment (EMTALA laws), so they have to write off a lot of what they do as bad debt, which raises the costs for those who can actually pay or have insurance, and now you have another piece of the puzzle. Non-profit hospitals gave away "charity care" and still do, but the for-profit hospitals don't take it so well. Thus you have prices going up for the people who do pay to cover the cost of those who do not. Furthermore, as medical science has advanced, there is a lot more that can be done at hospitals than there used to be, most of which involves expensive meds and expensive equipment. We can keep people alive (or at least not dead yet) a lot longer than we used to, which also drives up costs, as family members in crisis often want "Everything done." Hospitals cannot refuse this, but often all that extra ICU care makes costs skyrocket. Now as to your second question, if something goes wrong, we'll have to pay hospital bills. The birth center is it's own thing, and we knew going in that if we have to go to the hospital that's a seperate cost. If you have to go straight to the hospital without spending time there at all they give you some of your money back, but some of the cost goes to the pre-natal care they provide. See my response to Deffy for the answer to your question about paying. For profit hospitals are awful. I'm in a unique situation; my hospital system is half owned by the charity group that started the first hospital, and half owned by a for-profit corporation. I like to say that the charity side keeps the system human and the for-profit side keeps the doors open. It's still an uneasy tension at times. Many non-profit hospitals had to sell out to for-profit corporations because as health care costs started to rise they couldn't keep up with either the rising costs or all the charity care they were giving away, the two combined were a death-knell. Now as to why we put up with this situation, the answer is as multifaceted as the problem. One, this all developed over time, no one reason is the cause, it's the confluence of a lot of independent variables. Two, each state has its own regulations, and the insurance companies are often national. Three, for-profit insurance companies have a lot of money, and use it to pay lobbyists to convince lawmakers to keep the system as is. What about fixing it? For one, if you nationalize health care, you will put lots of people out of work as the government takes over what was once the purview of private companies. For another, most of us see how poorly the government runs anything, so we are skeptical it would manage healthcare any better than anything else it does. Opponents of nationalized health care point to extended wait times and all the negatives of European or Canadian style systems without every looking at the positives. Proponents of such focus only on the positives of European or Canadian style systems without ever looking at the negatives. Government takeover of private industry also seems like communism, and the memory of the Red Scare is still very much alive in this country. Those who can't afford health care see government solutions as all benefit; I get my health care where I didn't have any before. Others see the increased tax burden required to pay for such a solution. For my part, those of us who work are paying for medical care one way or another, whether through higher costs and insurance premiums, or through taxes. Sadly, for many, they see only their own situation without considering how change, or the lack thereof, affects any but them. For myself, I see the question as which set of problems one prefers.
  9. Thom Stépan

    Morag's unexpected journey.

    Crying is good. Let the sadness wash out of you through your tears. Good luck with the first day. Hugs. Sent from my CPH1725 using Tapatalk
  10. Mortimer

    Mortimer's battle logs.

    Dinner: 150g cauliflower 100g broccoli 120g chickpeas 90g sesame chicken Went running with local group, we were supposed to run in formation(that didn't quite work out that well since they combined the 7 min/km and 7 min 30s/km group together so there were people with different paces- not to mention those who easily run >7 min),stopping at designated intervals to do burpees, squat jumps, lunges etc.
  11. Mortimer

    My way towards OCR

    Urgh. Really sorry to hear about that =( Hopefully the CT scan will show it's something less horrible?
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  13. h3r0

    H3r0 Earns Some Skill Badges

    Running short on time today so had to squeeze in a quick short training session in. 4x10 goblet squats 4x10 KB press I haven't decided yet if I am doing mobility tomorrow or weights
  14. aramis

    Hip exercises

    You may try those (if not doing them yet). This helps me a lot. https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/undo-the-damage-of-sitting/
  15. h3r0

    H3r0 Earns Some Skill Badges

    Yep, have to go to Chicago for a week. The hotel I am staying at doesn't have a gym so I am going to have to find one I can guest pass at or do a bodyweight week. Plus my diet suffers when I go. I love the hotdogs!
  16. doctorake

    Doctorake, 3 simple things

    ughhh, tough weekend. Went home early from work yesterday sick. I need to step it up and get some workouts in. Sadly I am going to defer my goruck heavy to January.
  17. DarK_RaideR

    Starpuck: Journey through the Mire

    Was going to say something about Puck being Puck and doing the race/monster mash again, but insteead decided to contribute someting a tad more constructive so here's some artwork that feels relevant and might serve as inspiration.
  18. RedPandaOne

    Hip exercises

    Thank you! I'll try these too. I did stop wearing my heels and that has helped a lot. But anything to help with my hips I'll take!
  19. Trembriele

    Trembriele Battles the Free Magic

    Assisted squat (6, 6, 5) Flat knee raises (6, 6, 5) Leg assisted (very) pull-up (6, 6, 5) Incline pike push-up (6, 6, 5) Vertical pulls (6, 6, 5) Wall push-ups (5, 5, 4) or bent knee bench dips (5, 5, 4) Kneeling plank 55 seconds
  20. WhiteGhost

    WhiteGhost is Nephalem

    If you ever find it, I'll pay you double I know, right I have a feeling I am going to see that come back and slap me in the face, though, when I start wondering why I can't handstand anymore Today we drove out to the village where my FIL was born to see the place he lived as a little kid, and also where he went to elementary school. Both his old house and the school are gone now, but it was still interesting to visit the places. The village was super tiny (less than a dozen families) and was a long way from the nearest paved road. The place where he went to school was an hour drive away, but apparently as a kid walking cross country he could make the same trip in about an hour. It was really fascinating to see what very, VERY rural China looks like. There was some road construction on the way there so they just detoured us into the forest. There was no road there so it was an adventure trying to drive between the trees to get around the construction zone. We took a different road home but still too late for the dinner we had scheduled with a cousin, so we have a free night where we don't have to stuff ourselves to bursting. Good thing, because I am still full from lunch (and have been full for days now...)
  21. MrUgly72

    My way towards OCR

    Woah. Umm. I'm trying to think of positive affirmations or pithy motivational sayings, but I keep coming back to 'Holy fuck! Not cool!'
  22. annyshay

    Annyshay Resettles

    Hey snarky, thanks. I started out trying to think about goals and found myself hitting a big ole road block. I think that a lot of me has resistance to firm goals at the moment, and I'm not really sure what to do about it. That led me to shift to thinking about intentions. The words that came up for me were - satisfied, grounded, and capable. I'm not sure how to work things out further from there yet, but I'm going to keep marinating on these words and see if some daily actions can grow out of them. In terms of travel, I have a few work related trips coming up in the future but I'm having a hard time planning much further than that without knowing what my work schedule will be. The waiting is killing me. Anyways, I'm heading to Atlanta in the beginning of August for a board review course and then to Washington DC in the beginning of October for our international infectious diseases conference where I'm presenting a poster. So there are some fun things coming in the future.
  23. Thanks Lara Yeah, I think therapy is the only logical option for me. My years of self-help books and venting to friends have helped a lot, but I realize that I have a lot I haven't processed. I'm not suicidal at all, just to make sure, I just feel very tired and can't seem to find a way forwards. There are some moments when I feel fine, good even, and I try to hold onto those moments I ran into Kyle yesterday, which made my knees go weak and my mouth went dry, I was so nervous. I had a cry at home, and then I put on some Queen and painted a picture of Freddie Mercury. I find that it soothes me I just try to be very gentle with myself and do things that make me feel better. I'm gonna hit the gym again today, because the exercise really helps. And I know that you care, I've missed you all <3 The Manduka mat has a break in process that makes people either love it or hate it...! My mat felt slippery, so I took it to the park and let it sit in the direct sunlight with some salt sprinkled on it, then I washed it and let it dry in the sun. This makes the break-in process faster, and the mat is already a lot less slippery. Some hate it that this process has to exist, but it's like breaking in a pair of new shoes, and I don't mind that it might take some time - it'll just get better over time. Overall, the mat feels like it's very high quality, it's very dense and supportive, and it stays in place perfectly. Loving it, so far, it feels supportive under my knees. But yeah, you can't ask for a miracle at 40 degrees :'D try putting a towel on the mat during this time of the year to prevent slipping?
  24. annyshay

    Annyshay Resettles

    Monday w4d2 Cook - breakfast, lunch, dinner Walk - nope Reach Out - not really Grateful Wins - got some academic writing done - spent a lot of time trying to make plans for the week to motivate myself
  25. Lateral Planet

    Rebel Mini - Art Collaborative

    Lateral Planet, 2019 Triptych: LP is bored at work Sharpie on post-it Honestly, this took me five minutes just now but it was fun. I fell out of the habit of doodling when I moved out of home (we had a mini whiteboard on the fridge, such fun) so it was a nice way to use up the last of today's brain cells. For real, I don't get to finish work til 10pm and there's nothing left for me to do, so I may yet add to this piece. Also, this time I didn't trace; I relied on my own brain to remember what a stingray looks like, which is a major improvement in skills and confidence since the turtle I shared a few weeks ago.
  26. Bean Sidhe

    Juice Bar - Rebel Hang Out

    My brain went with Jyn Erso. She doesn't have a preferred anything other than "live" and sometimes that means working through the non-exercise/mental health stuff (Like why would Dad work for them, maybe he wasn't all bad) stuff. I would also say River from Serenity (Follow my logic here). If we are okay with the fact that while the rebels are doing health and fitness, but we also have other things to work on or do (Mental health, clutter, art, ect), River is constantly working on it. Look how far she comes from the first few episodes to the end of Serenity where she worked through some of the "they were messing in her head" and ended up being what they needed and saving them all. I did like the definition, but again, I think the rebels are also the place where you come when A) you don't fit in anywhere else, and/or You have other things to work on BESIDES just the exercise/health/Food thing. We are more a "get your feet under you so you work on heading to the healthy lifestyle" than a "Okay, so all i gotta do is eat and exercise and be healthy" But maybe I am focusing too much on one aspect.
  27. RES

    Run Thom Run 2

    I love that tree...that just looks incredible! I know I'm way late to the party, not going to say the 'work on yourself and someone will come along when they're supposed to'...you already know that You're an awesome individual and anyone would be fortunate to to have you my friend!
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