shenanigains Posted May 2, 2012 Report Share Posted May 2, 2012 I need some help on this one. More specifically from the ladies, buy gentlemen feel free to bring it. My fiance is joining me on my wellness journey and I would like to reward her. She is currently in a size 12ish dress. Would it be a good idea for me to buy her a snazzy new dress in a size 8ish and a couple of gift cards to fancy restaurant and have an awesome date night as a reward. Or is this another idea that I think is awesome but will end biting me in the arse The only difference between a rut and a grave is depth. Link to comment
unicornassassin Posted May 2, 2012 Report Share Posted May 2, 2012 Hard to know without knowing her. Does she want to be a size 8, or do you want her to be a size 8? [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] “If we all did the things we are capable of, we would astound ourselves.†-Thomas Edison "I'm only at about 35-40%, and I'm surprised as eff." -unicornassssin Fitocracy! [thread=16121]My Challenge Thread[/thread] Link to comment
morethanjustamom Posted May 2, 2012 Report Share Posted May 2, 2012 Skip the dress and get a gift certificate to the store so she can shop for herself...sizes vary so much between stores and brands that even at her goal weight, it still might not fit, and that definitely won't be good for you. The old believe everything; the middle aged suspect everything: the young know everything. ~Oscar Wilde Link to comment
Fink Posted May 2, 2012 Report Share Posted May 2, 2012 Hard to know without knowing her. Does she want to be a size 8, or do you want her to be a size 8?Cant agree enough with this. Make sure you know what her goals are and then plan rewards Link to comment
Raikas Posted May 2, 2012 Report Share Posted May 2, 2012 I'd skip the dress part - even if that is the size she's aiming for (is it?) it still might not fit in the end (or just not flatter her). Too many ways for that to go wrong. Wood Elf Assassin -- Level 10 --STR 26 | DEX 13 | STA 19 | CON 7 | WIS 14 | CHA 14 Link to comment
shenanigains Posted May 2, 2012 Author Report Share Posted May 2, 2012 I think it would be a byproduct of her goals. I'm not trying to push anything on her, I'm just looking for ways to be supportive. The only difference between a rut and a grave is depth. Link to comment
morethanjustamom Posted May 2, 2012 Report Share Posted May 2, 2012 I'm just saying skip the dress because I wouldn't even buy myself a dress in a future goal size. There's just too many ways to go wrong with cut, color, and size differences in women's clothing. The old believe everything; the middle aged suspect everything: the young know everything. ~Oscar Wilde Link to comment
unicornassassin Posted May 2, 2012 Report Share Posted May 2, 2012 I think it would be a byproduct of her goals. I'm not trying to push anything on her, I'm just looking for ways to be supportive.I didn't mean that you were being this big bad meanie pushing that on her, just that if you picked the size arbitrary and that wasn't what she had in mind, potentially that could cause some hurt feelings for her.I agree with everyone else, the dinner and gift cards are great, but there's too many variables with the dress size. [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] “If we all did the things we are capable of, we would astound ourselves.†-Thomas Edison "I'm only at about 35-40%, and I'm surprised as eff." -unicornassssin Fitocracy! [thread=16121]My Challenge Thread[/thread] Link to comment
Unda Posted May 2, 2012 Report Share Posted May 2, 2012 bad idea. Let her set a goal and agree a reward for doing it that you both like. I still think you're a sweetie for treating her though. They/them please Link to comment
concretecavewoman Posted May 3, 2012 Report Share Posted May 3, 2012 Bad idea: dress that is too small to wear.Good idea: Spa gift cert so she can get a massage after all the weeks she will now be spending in the gym. My Current Challenge Link to comment
Rivanariko Posted May 3, 2012 Report Share Posted May 3, 2012 Good thought, bad idea. As others have said, there are so many weirdities with women's clothing, that as her body changes shape a style that looks fabulous on her now might look weird later. There are certain dress styles that I cannot wear because of my body type that have nothing to do with my weight or fitness (i.e. they don't fit me now at a size 8 and they didn't fit me when I was a size 3 either!). It's taken me a long time and a lot of frustration to figure that out for myself. The thought is really sweet though. I like the gift certificate idea so that when she reaches her goal weight she can go buy something that makes her look as fabulous as she feels and show off her new body! "I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that leads to total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain." -Frank Herbert, Dune Link to comment
WarriorAmy Posted May 3, 2012 Report Share Posted May 3, 2012 Skip the dress and get a gift certificate to the store so she can shop for herself...sizes vary so much between stores and brands that even at her goal weight, it still might not fit, and that definitely won't be good for you. This exactly. She might be an 8 in some stores, a 6 in others, and a 10 in some others. Nothing worse than a reward dress not fitting.As an extra hint, something from Tiffany NEVER goes wrong WarriorAmy{Insert motivational script here}STR - 4|DEX - 2|STA - 6|CON - 4 |WIS - 6|CHA- 5 Link to comment
lela gypsypunk Posted May 3, 2012 Report Share Posted May 3, 2012 I'd say a gift certificate for a store she thinks is fancy/ places she loves but doesn't shop at much when she's hit a goal. Like most of the women are saying bodies can change alot and a nice dress now, might look like crap in a few months. Q. Well, what kind of strength do you want? A. You mean I get to choose? Polar bear strength! I want polar bear strength! Link to comment
airen123 Posted May 3, 2012 Report Share Posted May 3, 2012 Gift cert to massage after certain number workouts. I'm a 4 at ann taylor loft, 6 most places, and a 8/10 in bridesmaid dresses. just keep on trucking... Link to comment
drsloomis Posted May 3, 2012 Report Share Posted May 3, 2012 I'm a guy, but I'll throw in my $0.02 (ladies, feel free to correct me if needed).You absolutely will not go wrong with a spa certificate. If she has a favorite clothing store, get to know the managers & clerks (I've found they love helping clueless men surprise their regular customers) and surprise her with a "VIP" shopping trip to jump start her new wardrobe--she gets new clothes (and a romantic gesture), you get to do something special for her that doesn't potentially end up with lots of 'splainin to do. drsloomis: level 5 human assassin STR: 15 | DEX: 17 | CON: 12 | STA: 12 | WIS: 14 | CHA: 8 Current Challenge Link to comment
Killabyte Posted May 3, 2012 Report Share Posted May 3, 2012 bad idea bro, i second going with the spa instead [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] My Fitness and Motivation Youtube Channel Link to comment
humanperson832 Posted May 3, 2012 Report Share Posted May 3, 2012 I'd say skip the clothes- go for something where fit doesn't necessarily matter. A nice handbag, sunglasses, shoes, or jewelry. Can never go wrong with jewelry.Or even an experience, like a spa day or really nice mani/pedi. Link to comment
scarletleavy Posted May 3, 2012 Report Share Posted May 3, 2012 I say you gotta know your fiance. Some women aren't into clothes or jewelry or spas. If she really like clothes, get her a certificate to her favorite store or make an appointment at a place like Neiman Marcus, hire a personal shopper and let her pick out something really nice. If you guys are both committed to a healthier lifestyle, maybe suggest some sort of experience or activity based date, rather than just a fancy restaurant? "In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me lies an invincible summer." - Albert Camus"Moving on and Moving up" Challenge Link to comment
Guest Snake McClain Posted May 3, 2012 Report Share Posted May 3, 2012 Although i see why you would WANT to buy her that dress (or a dress) i don't think it's a good idea. just me going to buy a shirt at a store is a pain in the ass. Is the medium too small? The large too big? that's just me. I'm just a dude and no one can shop for me. I'd go the other way. I would NOT buy a gift card to her favorite store (as that seems really impersonal) but as was mentioned maybe a certificate for a SPA TREATMENT! and you can pitch it as, "Baby girrrrl, yous been workin so hard and lookin so so fine, and i know yo azz be stressin, cuz lookin good be hard. So i got you this. Go relax for the day. WORD!" then throw up some *rap hands* and call it a day. Pro tip: Do NOT talk to your lady (or anyone) the way I illustrated above. Link to comment
Guest Gemeaux Posted May 3, 2012 Report Share Posted May 3, 2012 Romance her , even if it's at home . Run her a bath , with candles around it . Soft music playing , get some nice lotions and bath salts etc . Before that you can give her a gift certificate to her favorite clothing store and she can choose an outfit for your date . Some places even have pamper days at home for women and their friends , giving her a girls night in would be nice , and her friends would think you are awesome !After her bath she gets dressed and you pick her up ( even if you live together ) and treat it as a first date . Maybe I'm over thinking this . Link to comment
scarletleavy Posted May 3, 2012 Report Share Posted May 3, 2012 Romance her , even if it's at home . Run her a bath , with candles around it . Soft music playing , get some nice lotions and bath salts etc . Before that you can give her a gift certificate to her favorite clothing store and she can choose an outfit for your date . Some places even have pamper days at home for women and their friends , giving her a girls night in would be nice , and her friends would think you are awesome !After her bath she gets dressed and you pick her up ( even if you live together ) and treat it as a first date . Maybe I'm over thinking this .Haha I must be a terrible woman. I would not be interested in any of this. But I think it comes down to knowing the person you are in a relationship with, what they like, what they don't like, etc. "In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me lies an invincible summer." - Albert Camus"Moving on and Moving up" Challenge Link to comment
ZenGwen Posted May 3, 2012 Report Share Posted May 3, 2012 I would definitely not buy the dress. There are a lot of good suggestions in here, but I would not buy her a dress in a size other than what she is now. While I think most people (at least most women) have a "skinny" garment in the back of their closet they want to fit into... buying clothes at a smaller size so they will fit into them just doesn't go down well. Heck, buying clothes for yourself planning to lose weight is a bad idea. Pain is the feeling of weakness leaving the body. Blog | Pinterest | Fitocracy Link to comment
Guest Gemeaux Posted May 3, 2012 Report Share Posted May 3, 2012 Haha I must be a terrible woman. I would not be interested in any of this. But I think it comes down to knowing the person you are in a relationship with, what they like, what they don't like, etc.I'm basically just writing what I would want Link to comment
ZenGwen Posted May 3, 2012 Report Share Posted May 3, 2012 Haha I must be a terrible woman. I would not be interested in any of this. Nah, I wouldn't either.But then, I'm seriously considering paying someone to teach me how to apply makeup. At 23. So I'm not the mostly feminine lady either. Pain is the feeling of weakness leaving the body. Blog | Pinterest | Fitocracy Link to comment
Librarian of Doom Posted May 3, 2012 Report Share Posted May 3, 2012 Pretty much agreeing with all of the above. You know her better than we do, so you know what she likes most. But buying clothes in a goal size is a baaaad idea. You wanting to show how proud you are? Great idea. Hobbit Ranger seeking balance (and cookies) Current Challenge Link to comment
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